| For money or love???
Posted: 12/15/2007 4:51:42 PM | | OP, my experiences match yours. I work in a technical profession, and I've heard quite a few women discuss this question at work. Their answers were exactly the same. They repeatedly emphasized marrying a rich guy; love is mentioned occasionally, but it's always subservient to money. The women who expressed this opinion were a variety of political and religious affiliations. Not one thought that love was primary. Not one. Needless to say, I don't share my feelings on the subject, nor do I discuss my relationships. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/15/2007 7:06:23 PM | I don't think so, when you don't love a man it's owful, to kiss him, to have sex with him, come on, I can tell you this women have not been on this situation or are something like prostitutes, no honest and good hearted woman will be with a man without loving him, if the fun of it is when you like his lips, his cloth, his smile you know, if you don't love a man even his perfume will bather you, no I think you're right on earth is just that there are a lot of woman that have the guts to do that, and we're on the other side, but still exist ok. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/16/2007 7:59:41 PM | | I sure hope I meet women like yourself more often. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 6:15:32 AM | I actually belive women do go for money. I am quite wealthy and I admit, women have used me and also used me in love (that hurts)
Do men have more feelings these days than women towards love and relationships? | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/17/2007 10:55:02 AM | | I feel sorry for you kent, you will never know if they want or love you for your money or you. I am sure it has crossed your mind to maybe play the unknown man incognito, and lose the flashy car , house , etc. and just play a beach bum or regular guy to get a woman. If you haven't , I would suggest, you start off where no one knows you. and just play a regular joe. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/18/2007 7:56:36 AM | | Further to my last comment, I wouldn't get involved with anyone who was broke and I wouldn't be with someone I didn't love (I wouldn't get involved with anyone who is short either :) Probably why I'm 34 and single :) | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/18/2007 8:00:14 AM |
Every single woman said MONEY.....they said you can fall in love later......
How can you NOT love a man who would give you everything you asked for??? I mean you would love a man who always took away from you? A man who would not share a ham sandwich with you?? I dont get it. Can I love a man who would give me everything??? Hell yes. Love him to death!!!!  | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/20/2007 7:02:30 PM | Iknow I would certainly prefer to be at home with my children and not have to return to work three months after the baby is born, or spend all my days getting by...
You wanted equal rights? You got 'em. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/24/2007 8:58:15 PM | | you were obviously working with a biased sample...try going out in the "real world" (instead of the gym) and ask that same question. totally different conclusion | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/24/2007 9:02:54 PM | but on a more serious note: my mother married for money and led a miserable, lonely life....which is why she encouraged all her girls to make their own money...and lots of it.
therefore I think love is IMPERATIVE no matter how much he earns | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:20:59 AM | Absolutely, women should make their own money. How else are we going to buy him personal cool presents?
I've dated incredibly well off men (his family is listed as one of the top 100 in North America) as well as dirt poor PhD student. The only thing they had in common is they were great guys. Money is a nice side bonus but it comes and goes (just look at Trump, lol). Character and integrity; however stay forever.
I expect to be treated VERYl, but that does not necessarily parlay to monetary presents. A personal note/poem, romance, affection, etc. can outweigh a flawless carat diamond (this is actually a reason I recently broke up with someone - he kept buying outrageous presents rather than personal momentos).
Before all you men jump on me, yes, I appreciate jewelry and clothes as much as the next gal, but it can't be at the expense of a lack of thoughtfulness.
Love, passion/chemistry and compatibility are what matters to me. Money is great, and I hope he has a lot of it but it wouldn't have any bearing on my decision to be with him.
To the gym person: Perhaps you were asking all the barbie dolls that use personal trainers? Just a thought. Oh wait, I use a personal trainer - never mind! :) | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:01:34 PM | Makes me wonder sometimes what some women on the personals are looking for. A partner or someone to take care of them? If a woman already has a good career or job and are self sufficient why the big deal about what the guy makes?  | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 1/10/2008 5:36:47 AM | The question being asked is simply wrong. Money I think is less the issue than the ability to take care of oneself and be independent. Money is involved of course, but it is not the dominant factor in this sort of perspective. Imagine what it would be like living with a guy who just worked all the time. Life would be a bore. Unless the guy agreed to just work and make money for his wife and expect nothing more. Then I suppose that the wife would at least be free to have as much fun as she wants. That's not very likely though.
I know a lot of people and among them are guys with money. Trust me, they are not always the most pleasant and stimulating people to be around.
Love? As a guy who has been in love a few times and to varying degrees, I can confidently say that love, a deep and consuming one, is more rare than money. However, the trials and tribulations and burdens of life can choke the love right out of any relationship, even one involving a deep love. To me, love does not necessarily mean forever (I am assuming that we're referring to romantic love). It may or may not last and that's fine by me. That's just the nature of love. If it lasts, then that's great. If it dies, then that sucks but is not wholly unexpected; You mourn a little, cry a little, gain a little weight, then move on. I can appreciate the desire for some to imagine that love is eternal. Thinking that way takes a little uncertainty out of life. It becomes one thing that can be depended upon.
Besides, anyone can make money if he or she puts his or her mind to it. He or she may not end up making millions but one will likely find a comfortable income. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 5/25/2008 11:29:38 AM | | Wow, that doesn't give me a whole lot of hope of finding a woman who likes me for me and not how fat my wallet is. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/5/2008 12:43:07 PM | They must not have much. Money is great don't get me wrong, but it can't buy happiness. As long as a man and woman have a want to get ahead in life and they are willing to work for it they will always have money.
I look at some of the profiles on here where the guys say I am building a new house and it has this and that and I am looking for the special woman for that house or they talk about how much money they make. They only do this because that is how they feel they will get and keep a woman when if that is all the woman is looking fo rthe relationship will never last anyway. Furthermore, the guys who do this should be more secure about themselves because why would u want a woman who doesn't want u for u, when she only wants u for ur money. Bad mistake from the start! | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/5/2008 8:05:13 PM | hmmmmm so the secret is money that's just shallow and it degrades women if you are one of them women.
as for the guys same goes for you if your hear just trying to get laid or telling them what you can do for them, or just take advantage of nice ladies with big heart.
I'm still trying to find out what happen to love and romance. hmmmmmm    | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:30:01 AM | | that's why all the divorced people out there, they seem to fall for the wrong people for the wrong reasons..love does not always come later..money cant buy you love, just a hugely false sense of happiness. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:41:33 PM | I guess it just depends on what they want out of life. I like toys and pretty things too, but they are pretty low on my list of priorities. So while money is definitely a plus, it is far from the end all and be all.
But love isn't enough either sadly. I was madly in love but our differing goals made it such that it was impossible for us to be together long term. Ugh, that was the hardest breakup I've ever experienced. So I guess what I look for is a partner, someone that I can enjoy spending the rest of my days (and nights!) with.
That said, a guy who is financially irresponsible is immediately off my list. If you are poor because your dream job pays peanuts because it is at a non-profit organization that you passionately believe in, that's fine. If you are missing rent payments because you are spending all your money on video games and going out to eat and drink with your friends all the time, see you later. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:42:16 AM | I get it if he his crap with money but lack of excess funds should not deter a woman . would it deter me from dating a gal that didnt have any money >>>>> i dont think so  | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:37:50 AM | | Love wins hands down for me. I dont care for anyones money and it cant buy love! | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:13:15 AM |
Can I have an order of the 'wonderful loving man, with a nice side of good job/secure financial future'?
No such things these days, anyone can lose their job...pow like that. How can you know if your future is secure finanically? Maybe you will get sued by someone. Maybe someone will steal your ID!
A newspaper did a survey here in Toronto, 8 out of 10 women choose money as number one reason to marry a man, they choose money even over looks or love. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:05:48 AM | | You must work at a brothel. If the first thing they look for it something that really has no value-you will wind up with nothing. You should be able to take care of yourself-not look for someone else to do it-there's no such things as Prince Charming (most royals were/are real **stards) . I'll take my money and buy a place for myself-if I need a escort I can hire her for the night/weekend-at least they're honest about it. | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/12/2008 4:11:43 AM | | Oh Honey ! You could move in with me and help me with my bills, No thanks dear, I am comfortable in my own home , Thank you very much... | |
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| For money or love???
Posted: 7/12/2008 9:00:00 AM | | For me, love has nothing to do with money & if most of those women said money , they are just gold diggers!! | |
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