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Posted: 11/6/2004 8:14:09 AM | I dont think it was hateful, it was tainted's opinion, she just said she personaly wouldnt date someone who had a relationship with a black person. My husband did, I obviously didnt let that stop me, she taught him quite alot  and Ive reaped the benefits.
Rap chick we unfortunatly have many who view interacial dating as offensive. I never really thought of myself dating someone outside my race when I was young, because of preference not because of prejudice against it. But I never limited myself to who I would date because of color. I still wish I had dated this guy Dorian who was mixed black/white, I had a boyfriend already but knew he wanted to go out with me, he had a voice that could melt the polar icecaps from the inside out. WOO! He used to sing to me over the phone and if I didnt have high morals about being with only one person I woulda crawled thru the phone to get too him and rocked his world.
I have 3 kids and Im glad to see that they are growing up with open views no matter what race or lifestyle someone chooses. They have good morals, they are sure of themselves and the only reason I would not approve of anyone they chose too date/marry would be because that person was a controlling, untrustworthy #*@&$($@@($. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2004 4:29:46 PM | ticket, I really like your style ...see you here and there in forums... | |
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Posted: 11/22/2004 7:53:33 AM | | HERE I AM IT S OK LOOK MY SISTER YOU CAN DATE WHOM EVER YOU WISH I DO | |
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Posted: 11/22/2004 10:42:12 AM | | now that's the whole bottom right there! "do whatcha like"...anyone remeber that song? Probably 80's....vaguely remembering it... | |
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Posted: 11/24/2004 11:58:31 AM | if I were younger, and closer-you'd be in trouble...cuz I would net you straight out of this pond! Hey Catch...who luvs ya? lol...great day, everyone!!     | |
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Posted: 11/24/2004 12:12:36 PM | | I really enjoy seeing two people of different cultures together. In my eyes there is nothing wrong with interracial dating. Additionally, I've never heard a good argument against it either. Instead of taking a poll on what other people think when there is nothing wrong with it, go with what your heart and mind tell you and if you run into problems or worry, start a poll on thoughts on how to deal with it. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2004 7:22:41 AM | | Date them all, if you don't like it don't do it, simple as that!!! and don't start discouraging others | |
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Posted: 11/25/2004 7:24:30 AM | | greenie, bite 'em, show them what your teeht are made of, lol | |
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Posted: 11/25/2004 1:30:17 PM | | hoo haa!! u want me to chomp off their----? (lol) inside joke....the thing I enjoy, is people refusing to let others take away their freedom of choice. No matter how the couple gets together, and what the diversity is, color, money, religion,politics,appearance....wow the list goes on...people have a knack of trying to butt in and bust people up. God, why? Top reasons might be territorial... in which sex and money play a huge part in...which further indicates the selfishness of humanity as a whole. When you focus on YOU, YOURSELF, and YOU, ....you just don't have the need to put someone else down, or try to rip people apart. Whether they are a couple, or an entire nation!! Every big picture can be equally compared to a relatively small one. Love breeds Love...that simple. (and you thought this post would just be about skin--fooled ya) grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr......chomp!!! | |
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Posted: 3/9/2005 4:59:01 PM | I see absolutly nothing in the world wrong with it! What difference does the color of one's skin make? Hey, we are all human and we all have the capability to love and be loved.  | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 7:23:56 PM | All this mixed dating talk! Can anyone say they are truely a pure race. Cause I know,my gran pappy did his far share mixed dating. Even though my skin is white, I LOVE ALL WOMEN! as long as they can cook.And I stick by that. I love food. I don't care where its from,as long as it is tasty or even eddible.LOL
Seriously though, Can't we all just start lovin the fat guy? Ladies? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2005 5:17:45 PM | | There is nothing wrong with it!!! People are people and it doesn't matter what colour they are. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 6:21:58 PM | | It is nice to read what you have to say. I am white was married to a Jamacian (red skinned) he was mixed aswell.Our daughter is now 6 and just as beautiful as yourself. I hope she grows up to be as strong about her parents and background as you are. She spends alot of time with her father as do I. We get along great now that we are divorsed. Everywere we go now everyone tells me how beautiful our daughter is and they all want to touch her hair especially. she looks alot like you but younger. I wish you the best in your future. And thank you again for your words they were nice to read. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 6:37:09 PM | I am interested in dating men from all races and ethnicities. Dated American Indian, East Indian and Latino. They all had something interesting and sexy about them.
I was raised in a pretty racist family. But I am a big girl now. I date who I want.
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Posted: 6/12/2005 7:02:08 PM | OT: The picture is not all rosy like everyone seems to be describing. Some groups are losing out. For example: Asian women (more than 50% of them) cohabitate with/marry White men; a significant percentage of white women cohabitate with /marry black men. Asian men and Black women are losing out.
BTW, Life is far more than black and white. There are other peoples (1.3 billion Chinese and 1 billion Indian just to name a few) here on earth as well; and some of us even managed to live in North America! :) | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 7:17:38 PM | BTW, I think "Asian" is way too broad of a catagory.
Technically there are at least five civilizations in the continent of Asia.
Sinic - Chinese who populated North and South east Asia
Japanese - A spin out of the Sinic culture accordingly to Samuel Huntington
Indian - Indians mainly reside in Inida (south Asia)
Orthodox - Russians in the far North (tecnically Russia is an Asian country if you count its geography!)
Muslim - In South Asia such as Pakistan/Indonesia
We all live in the continent of Asia. We look very different; we have very different culture/history/economics. Yet we all all classified into Asian?????? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 9:47:00 PM | Hey MIT - I see you're posting your concern about How Asian guys don't get any love again- but, I don't think that's so true. I think your experience might have to do where you live right now OR you might be too analytical. different parts of the country have different degrees of acceptance. When I lived in Chicago I knew an Asian guy (who even had a slight accent) but, was still one of the bigger pimps I knew - I don't think he dated Asian women that often.
As far as black girls go, in my opinion - they get all the white guys they want if they're attractive and/or intelligent/educated enough. I've had my fair share of rejection from black girls who come from the same type of background (suburbia) and will only date white guys because they have a preconceived notion of how a black guy will treat them.
I think if we didn't rely on stereotypes and the media thinking for us in this country - this wouldn't be that much of an issue. I don't think Canadians have that much of an issue with mixed couples at all. I mean correct me if I'm wrong (Canadians) but, If you sit on a street corner In Toronto for an hour - you will see every type of Couple combination or mixed person you can imagine.
But, what I'd really like to know is what all these people who don't approve of interracial dating really think. I mean I think Asian/White, Black/Hispanic, Indian/White, Other/White is acceptable in this country. BUT Black/White is a big taboo, Black/Asian is kind of taboo. I mean have people had only negative experiences with black people, or do Asians learn that black people are 'dangerous' when they're growing up just like white people do.
Or have many people actually had real life experiences with black people attacking them (sadly, we tend to attack ourselves) ? Or is it just too hard socially (people staring, parents wouldn't approve, friends wouldn't accept it) ??? - Just wondering.... | |
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Posted: 6/13/2005 12:35:16 AM |
my son was in 6th grade... my son was sitting at the lunch bench waiting for his lunch to be served and this little white kid walked up to him and tried to bully him out of his seat. my son simply sat there and told the kid he could have the seat when he was done with it. when the boy spit in his face and called him a stupid "N" word, my son calmly wiped his face and stayed in the seat, ate his lunch and got up when he was done. because he didn't react the way the kid thought he would..
This incident has NOTHING to do with interracial dating nor the result of "procreating",this happens to other AfricanAmerican kids regardless of their parents racial makeup. If you are saying your child would not have been a victim of racism if he were not AfricanAmerican but white,you are correct,but he would not be your son.My point is that the issues you faced are not as a result of interracial marriage,but as a result of institutionalized racism. There is only 1 way to deal with it;educate,elevate and live. I've worked with children for over 20yrs. Before that I studied various issues concerning race in the US,including adoption. The biggest keys are always within the home,is the child loved,does the child have positive imagery,does the child have perspective and grasp on cultural heritage,does the child know what an AfricanAmerican is(mixed race person of African descent)in the case of mulitracial,biracial AfricanAmerican kids.Sometimes,parents allow their own negativity enter into the minds of children.This is most often true in the case of intolerence.
Is raising African American kids more difficult than raising white kids?....Only when the parents don't know the history(well BEFORE and BEYOND school) and culture to teach them. Those are things relatively easy to aquire if parents love their children(libraries are full of info).Outside of these issues,there is NO difference in experience of raising products of 2 white parents and an AfricanAmerican kid(mixed race of an African descent) | |
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Posted: 6/13/2005 12:51:23 AM |
Asian men and Black women are losing out.
I think that perspective is WAAY off but perhaps you can elaborate.
Yes,life is more than black and white,in fact that system of racial classification itself is based upon a racist eurocentric idea.
Yes, people do over and misuse the term Asian...what the heck do Asians look like? Indian? and which Indian group as there is variety in India.Chinese?variety there,Iranian?Japanese? Tai?Bornean? Phillipino?
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Posted: 6/13/2005 6:36:59 AM | if you hadn't noticed marathonman... I'M WHITE. my son's father is american indian and black. which would mean my son is bi-racial, not "african american". and the story i shared has everything to do with interacial dating because my son is the product of my choice in partners. i didn't have to teach my son about "black" history to teach him about what he was experiencing in life. i obviously taught him something correct by the age that incident occurred or he would have hopped off that bench and beat the crap out of that kid like i would have had he spit in my face. it's my opinion that that was the best display of tolerance a young child could exhibit given what he was taught at home.
and what in god's name is "insitutionalized racism"? is this a new buzz word we're going to have to deal with? save it. kids are cruel, it's plain and simple and they only do what they are taught at home, there's nothing "institutionalized" about it. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2005 1:23:35 PM |
... I'M WHITE. my son's father is american indian and black. which would mean my son is bi-racial, not "african american".
You are white...ok....your son's dad is a mixed race man of African descent,your son is a mixed race man of African descent,the term African American means mixed race person of African descent.There are many types of "racial" mixtures.Eurasian is 1 of them,euroasians are mixed race people.African Americans are a mixed race people of an African descent. Not sure what part of that is not understandable.
what in god's name is "insitutionalized racism"? is this a new buzz word we're going to have to deal with?
If you don't understand it RESEARCH IT. It appears you've made a judgement without knowing what it means simply because you've not heard of it. The term has been used for decades.
i didn't have to teach my son about "black" history
Pity that you chose not to teach him and learn for your self about AfricanAmerican culture and history.Its a mistake made and the reason I made the post.I feel a Chinese family raising a white American child in should make the effort to teach that child about American culture/heritage, the Chinese culture/heritage will naturally be learned by nature of being in China. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2005 9:26:10 PM | don't ever take what i say out of context when it comes to such a serious subject marathon. what i said was this.... "i didn't have to teach my son about "black" history to teach him about what he was experiencing in life. i obviously taught him something correct by the age that incident occurred or he would have hopped off that bench and beat the crap out of that kid like i would have had he spit in my face. it's my opinion that that was the best display of tolerance a young child could exhibit given what he was taught at home."
what that means is i didn't teach my son "colors", i chose to teach my son tolerance. see, in my family, we've all been raised color blind in order to instill a strong respect for people for who they are, not what color they are... more people should adopt the concept.
and my son's father is not of "african" decent. being black does not mean you are of "african" decent but of course you being a black man wouldn't have known that huh? what part of africa are your decendants from?
until children are old enough to understand the concept of history and how it relates to different cultures, it makes no sense to pump their heads full of information that doesn't help them understand and cope with what they are experiencing at a current moment in time... i.e. white kid spitting in my kids face has nothing to do with teaching my son about "black" history but teaching him tolerance kept my son from hurting that kid.
here's a little ditty for you marathon...
I have particular problems with the term African-American, a misnomer which would lead me to believe these people somehow hold dual citizenship with another country, or even worse, lead everyone to believe all those who use that term to describe themselves are of African origin and are exclusively black in color. As we all know, there are white Africans, too. Should they choose to come to the U.S., they too, would be eligible for the label African-American, which would further confuse the issue. Enter the U.S. Census Bureau. Rather than help clear up the mess, they perpetuate it by requesting racial information and make-up of families that does nothing more than perpetuate the lies we tell one another. At least with the Census Bureau, their are Asians, Blacks, Hispanics, Native Americans, Other, and Whites. I don't know about you folks but, I was born here in the U.S., so logically, I'm as native an American as one can get. Why do we continue to confound ourselves with inaccurate and self-serving terms? Why perpetuate lies? Either we are Americans first and foremost, or we aren't. There really is an easy solution to this whole problem, those of us born within the boundaries of the United States are Americans, period. Should we choose to identify ourselves as being Americans of a given ancestry, wouldn't that serve the purpose? Those who have emigrated from other countries should continue to refer to themselves as natives of that country until such time they choose to become naturalized citizens of the U.S. Then, they too, are Americans. Separating ourselves into groups and isolated pockets of society will only serve one purpose, it will allow others to divide and conquer us all that much easier. There was a time that we were all considered American, we had a common goal and destiny to fulfill. We had a message to share with the rest of the world ? that of hope for a tomorrow that would be better for all of us if we would just put aside our differences and work toward a common goal: Peace in our time ? for all time. Have we achieved that goal? No, not by a long shot. But we have made significant steps in the right direction. For every step of progress we make toward that end, I think we slide further back by accentuating our differences rather than focusing on our similarities.
I'M AN AMERICAN FIRST... italian only by bloodline. never even set foot in italy just as most "african-americans" have probably never set foot in africa. | |
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