Kee2
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 201 | |
| Interracial Dating....
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:43:54 PM | Hello PerpetualSeeker. First mistake... You're interested in knowing what people think. That's the trouble with relationships, marriage and divorce as a whole. Date who you like. Marry who you love. Other people and material things should not matter when considering who we love to be with. It's always this person doesn't have enough money, this person doesn't drive a nice enough car, this person doesn't dress well enough, my friends don't think this person is cute, my friends like a different type of person for me, he or she isn't the same race that you are, what will your children look like, it's just not right and my all time favorite, "I am worried about how you or the child would be treated by other people in society" That's a crock. It's called "I want you to like what I like syndrome." The people who say that are just as bad as any racial supremicist of any racial group. It's about control. If they can't control what you like or what you do, then they want to have issue with it. I say tell them all to take a flyin' leap, family included if they don't like or love who you do. They can be there for you but keep their distance from the person they don't like or they can disappear. I know either way, my life will not stop. I've run into some of the most racist people on the face of the planet when dating someone of their race. Be strong, love the one that makes you happy and be happy. That's all that counts. As soon as some of these nose pickers to catch up, they will realize that a human being is a human being, regardless of the color of his or her skin or culture that they were born in. Why can't people think for themselves instead of wallowing in traditions that make no sense and have no bearing on human nature?
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Kee2
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 202 | |
| Interracial Dating....
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:57:10 PM | Lorsada, I once dated a Japanese woman. She was great. She was spoiled, but great. We didn't go out to many social events together because she was uncomfortable with the way her race looked at her and acted toward her because she was dating an African-American. When we got home, it was nothin' but love. Eventually, we broke up because I was very angry and felt that she was ashamed of me due to my race and that we would never be able to get married or anything because she wasn't strong enough to handle it. That was about 7 years ago. If I had her back today, I wouldn't care that her friends or people didn't like me. I knew that she loved me and I should have stood by her side when everyone else was down on her and although she didn't want to lose her friends, she didn't willingly leave my side. She still wanted me in her life. Be patient. If he doesn't leave you, don't worry about his mom. Eventually, he will tell his mom how he feels after it gets on his nerves enough and you are still there. | |
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Kee2
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 203 | |
| Interracial Dating....
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:57:48 PM | | Lorsada, I once dated a Japanese woman. She was great. She was spoiled, but great. We didn't go out to many social events together because she was uncomfortable with the way her race looked at her and acted toward her because she was dating an African-American. When we got home, it was nothin' but love. Eventually, we broke up because I was very angry and felt that she was ashamed of me due to my race and that we would never be able to get married or anything because she wasn't strong enough to handle it. That was about 7 years ago. If I had her back today, I wouldn't care that her friends or people didn't like me. I knew that she loved me and I should have stood by her side when everyone else was down on her and although she didn't want to lose her friends, she didn't willingly leave my side. She still wanted me in her life. Be patient. If he doesn't leave you, don't worry about his mom. Eventually, he will tell his mom how he feels after it gets on his nerves enough and you are still there. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 10:28:02 AM | I think it's just fine,you can't help who you are attracted to.So act on it and good luck,I do  | |
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Tamalo
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Joined: 3/9/2006
Msg: 206 | |
| Interracial Dating....
Posted: 1/8/2007 11:05:17 AM | I do agree that this topic does happen upon us quite often. Inevitably, some mean person comes along and says some really mean things about......let's be honest, black people--and it goes away. I can understand how it continues to resonate.
We all have our likes/dislikes and sometimes they gear us, quite naturally, to a specific race. For instance, I LOVE Tupac a.k.a Makavelli. I can't seem to find a white guy (not to say one doesn't exist) who can hold a conversation on this topic. On the other hand, many black guys are well versed in matters that concern him. Since all things Tupac is one of my favorite passtimes, it's almost a requirement for me that my mate and I have that in common to some degree. Otherwise, a large part of me wouldn't make any sense to him. It goes without saying that I find myself with black guys more........even though I don't mind dating any other ethnicity.
Everyone is so dead set on trying to convince others that he/she is not a racist or prejudiced. I think we are all conditioned to have a bit of it in us......that's cool with me. Personally, I have to fight everyday to keep it on the backburner--I only have a problem when a person gives in to it. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 3:31:29 PM | I date interracially, have for years.Im latino and black, but visually a black woman..Take a look, you would agree..Who cares, what other people think, who cares what they say, who cares how they feel..All that matters is what you think and feel..if you feel the need to hide it, then you are ashamed of it..If you feel the need to express it to the world, then do so without inhibitions..
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Posted: 7/11/2007 12:32:14 PM | Wayne,
By looking at your profile, you seem to have searched out all the interracial threads that you can find to say that you disapprove of interracial dating. What is your specific issue with it? Don't just say something is wrong because YOU say so... speak up dude... do you have a reason or do you just not like people of other races and get worked up at the sight of the races intermingling? You are from Ga. I would venture to say that you have more interracial blood flowing through your veins than you think. | |
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Jooly
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Joined: 6/15/2007
Msg: 209 | |
| Interracial Dating....
Posted: 7/11/2007 12:37:13 PM | Well... either you've taken ten years off your real age or you really as inbred as you seem to approve of.
Ouch, b1tchy! | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 12:47:58 PM | 1st it seems that many completely misunderstand or are ignorant of the concept of "race" and the system of "racial classification" that is most widely used. It seems to me that before one can intelligently examine "interracial dating" one 1st needs to examine and have a full understanding of the concept of "race" and racial classification. Its funny how many people THINK they know due to the overuse of the word and the fact that it is craddle to grave and generational in its scope. Yet, few actually KNOW and understand the concept of "race" and the system of racial classification. Once, more know and understand these 2 basic things more fully, the "issue" of interracial dating becomes moot.
I have a 4 part blog on the subject for those who may wish to be enlightened.
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog&friendID=35221545
Fact; you cannot date a race  Its unwise to try,or to make it a basis for dating
Fact; you CAN date a PERSON/individual.....and its wisest to do so.  | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 12:55:23 PM |
as for your comment saying I have differant blood than white blood i know my full ancestry and its 100 percent white pal.
I do suspect you have full knowledge as your forebears were already related to each other?
it's a shame when first cousins or siblings reproduce..
how does someone like you feel about all the black, Hispanic & Jewish people in the aremd forces defending your rights? (when you yourself would be no doubt rejected as medically unfit for service )? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 1:08:36 PM | Wayne,
Again, please state reasons for your assumptions that a particular "race" causes more crime, AIDS, and trouble in this country than any other. Spit it out dude, what race are you talking about? Stand up and be a man!!! Don't hide your ignorance behind statements that you don't back up with fact. 100 Percent white huh? How boring to say that about yourself... I bet you can't stand to color outside the lines either. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 1:20:58 PM | | My aunt is white and my uncle is chinese and they get plenty of racism in Michigan for their interracial marriage. There is nothing wrong with it but personally I don't find most black or asian women attractive enough to date. Some latinas are very attractive though but I usually stick to white girls. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 2:29:21 PM | | Personally I'm tickled to live in a day-and-age where race seems to make no difference whatsoever, at least in terms of social stigma. I'm at a point in life where it's much more important to me that the woman across the table from me be smart, funny, a Democrat, and cute (in THAT order), than that her skin be of a certain color, etc. Common interests and values, and mutual respect are what keep people together. Everything else is noise. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 3:14:11 PM | | Being bi-racial myself, I really have no choice. So it's all good. I like women of all color. | |
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Mz_P
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Joined: 2/14/2007
Msg: 216 | |
| Interracial Dating....
Posted: 7/11/2007 3:26:39 PM | I think you've all got some valid points. Interracial dating and creating a family can be challenging. But then again so is dating period. I have dated men from most cultures and colours for that matter and the bottom line is DOES HE MAKE YOU HAPPY??? after that who cares.
On thing I draw the line at is being anyones 'Secret'. If you're not proud of who I am then why are we together? So, to the lady with the Muslim boyfriend you should be thinking why and don't buy the garbage about his mom unless you're dating a child. | |
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Jooly
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Joined: 6/15/2007
Msg: 217 | |
| Interracial Dating....
Posted: 7/11/2007 5:34:36 PM |
Thats right Miss England
hum, since when am I english? I'm Irish/Indian, love.
go date the race that causes more crime , AIDS cases, and trouble in this country than any other race
Which country?
quote]and as for your comment saying I have differant blood than white blood i know my full ancestry and its 100 percent white pal. [/quote/
D'uh. Why else would I call you inbred? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 7:44:15 PM | Mr. Wayne -
Like most folks who have been reading this thread, I'm pleased that you are courageous and honest enough to express your true feelings. However, I think you could go even further and include your stance in your profile. As it is, it now states:
"I am looking for some girls who want to date and have a good time.I am a happy person and I am looking for a good relationship."
It would clarify things and relieve you of possible future discomfort/embarrassment if you would be more forthcoming and add to your profile:
"I don't date n*ggers, k*kes, ch*nks, etc."
That way, you'll have a better chance of finding someone with common interests, while sparing others the indignity of answering your call for love. You might also want to limit your search to women who don't have a high school education, depending on your interests.
Sincerely,
An American of another color | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 7:58:30 PM | This is the 21st century, so such question should not be asked because racism shouldn't still be existing.
Interracial dating and marriages is and should be the same as relationships and marriages between people of the same race or cultural background. It is not t he colour of the skin or culture that matters; it's the personality, attributes, and values that matter. Yes, people of different races have different attributes, personalities, values, and ways of thinking, but it depends on how one wants to accept another culture. I have friends (Caucasian or Asian) that date people of different race and they're happy together for the most part. I myself like Caucasians and I'm Asian. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 8:16:06 PM | | Slim, I'd like you to meet Wayne. Wayne would love to have you as a brother-in-law. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 8:19:35 PM | I'm with superserial.....I thought maybe I must be a little racist as I dont find black women attractive (not even the celebs) but now I know it aint just me 
Personally I dont think it is fair on the children of mixed relationships being brought into such a racist world...........but who knows.....things might change in a couple of hundred years time ;) but if that special person comes along (regardless of colour) GRAB EM! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 4:06:09 AM |
Thats right Miss England go date the race that causes more crime ,AIDS cases, and trouble in this country than any other race and as for your comment saying I have differant blood than white blood i know my full ancestry and its 100 percent white pal. If you wish to keep that belief then what ever you do never take a DNA test. You may end up getting yourself commited.
You come of as a very fearful person hiding behind angry poor beliefs. If feel sorry for you because your beliefs create the world that you live in. What a waste. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 4:16:24 AM | | Well I dated a guy not too long ago that I was told his mother would not accept me not only because I wasn't black but because I wasn't a part of the tribe. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 4:29:30 AM | i am half wog half aussie - and I look white, so does that mean I am off your dating list too wayne or does you hatred of other races just happen in the back blocks of hicksville in the southern states of america, where you dance around a fire with your hoods on!  
ok - i am so attracted to darker guys i dont care where you were born or what language you speak if you look like caramel or chocolate or any other variation i am yours........  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 8:10:37 AM |
This is the 21st century, so such question should not be asked because racism shouldn't still be existing.
You live in a small small bubble, my friend. Most of the world is still racist. Goto Europe and you will find more racism than the US has, but even in the US racism still exists. As long as people look different there will always be racism. | |
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