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Posted: 11/26/2007 8:54:59 PM | | heres a question...... what if you only suspected her of cheating over nine years 7 married. to end up finding the truth after it was over and called crazy to the point of going to a therapist becouse you thought you were insane!!! | |
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Posted: 11/26/2007 9:16:24 PM | bye bye....
trust is everything... my ex cheated... and is with the girl he cheated with... which cracks me up... she is always looking over her shoulder paranoid about what he is doing... can't live like that... | |
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Posted: 11/26/2007 9:19:37 PM | | I've been in this situation without the second cheating. She cheated on me 6 months in. It took me a long time to get over it and forgive her, but the difference was made by the effort she put in. The guy involved was a close friend, however showed no desire to apologize or salvage a long friendship. Her and I stayed together for another 3 1/2 years after all that. So I guess my point is I think you did the right thing. We are all human and make mistakes. Yes thats a mistake most of us find unforgiveable. But if it's a sincere effort on their behalf to better the situation, I'm curious enough to hear them out, and see what their capable of. Do it again, there's no excuses. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2007 9:28:52 PM | Cheaters are Cheaters are Cheaters are Cheaters
IF I was with someone and it was not working out, I would get out of the relationship then move on....
I have had married men contact me on here.. (I am not downing men, I just happen to be a woman), I know woman are cheaters also...
and my response to them is " You need to fix your problems at home" and or "How would you feel if your wife was trying to contact someone"
I actually get apologies...
Me personally, I would not have time for an affair, and I could not look someone in the eye...
If it is bad get out, if you are looking for the "grass is greener" affect... it is for a short period of time......
People get use to each other and they fall into that everyday is exactly the same ...... dull drums.... we take each other for granted...
Best soultion, if you don't want that person anymore... do both you a favor and well, end it... then move on... | |
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Posted: 11/27/2007 5:22:29 AM | Well said sweetsweetsherry above [ Mssg 81 ]
I couldn't agree more with what sherry [prev post] said and would echo her sentiments. Obviously every situation is different so there can't be a right or wrong anwser. Its not I would imagine that clear cut in most cases.
I'm not one for cheating and never have done.Not because I'm morally superior but because It's just not me. I would finish the relationship I was in if it could'nt be saved.
I couldn't look somebody in the eye if I was cheating on them.
Nor would I be able to look myself in the face of a morning either.
I think your only susceptible to cheat if your unhappy with your partner . It doesn't, I would suggest, happen when two people are in love and happy in their relationship.
I've probably been very lucky in that I've never been cheated on as far as I'm aware.
So can only speak from conjecture. I would find it very difficult if not impossible to forgive my partner having an affair over a period of time. A drunken one night stand possibly depending on the circumstances surrounding it.
If we did patch things up and carried on the relationship but I was constantly looking over my shoulder or grilling her as to where she'd been and who with etc then I would end it. I couldn't live my life like that, it would send me and everyone else around me berserk.
If your partner has cheated on you regularly and you stay in the relationship then you deserve everything you get in my opinion.
If your going to put up with that treatment then you will end up being crushed and self confidence and self esteem eroded.
If that applies to anyone reading this then please find it within you to throw him/her out of your life or leave if you have to. Otherwise what sort of life are you settling for ? | |
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Posted: 11/27/2007 5:34:50 AM | Absolutely, leave!!!!!! Leave running....... Once a cheater always a cheater! I know I couldn't be in a relationship where there is no trust and cheating destroys trust.......
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Posted: 11/27/2007 5:57:43 AM | | My general opinion is this. In any kind of relationship there has to be trust. If you are cheated on, can you trust her? There has to be faithfulness. If your cheated on is she faithful? The way I see it is, its one thing to look ( just because your on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the desert menu. ) Everybody looks, but honest and faithful people don't touch. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2007 8:37:50 PM | Yea, if you're a glutton for punishment,and have no self respect, and think you're making somekind of turn the other cheek statement.By all means stay with a cheater.
If none of those apply kich 'em to the curb! | |
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Posted: 11/27/2007 10:35:25 PM | | Look...in this day and age, if they cheat on you...they aren't marriage material, kick em to the curb and get the hell away from them before they drag you down with them. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 2:15:36 AM | well... i have been cheated on. butmy caring ex didnt tell me he just left one day saying he wasnt happy with me and the fact that i wasnt super girly...... after a month of being in and out of my life (which we had shared for 5 yrs) he tells me! i was horrified and hurt beyond explanation! he continued to tell me sorry and we got together again..
but i found out not very long later that hes "other girl" was still around and heavily pregnant to the guy who sed he was sorry and wanted to be with me forever! HE SCREWD ME OVER TWICE AND I AM ASHAMED AT MYSELF FOR THIS! i say never EVER take a cheater bak these types of ppl are self centred and horrid! | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:30:53 AM | Would you.............. ? if it happen to you? Really coming down to it would you trust that person again? Would you be able to trust her/him while you're away on a trip ? Trust is one the most important step in a relationship  | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:46:11 AM | Do u really need us to tell what you should have done 1.5 yrs ago.......
Well if you do, lets keep it simple......once someone crosses that line there can never be trust in that relationship again....not complete..100 % trust...there will be always a
little voice in your head saying I wonder.........if............etc...........
bottom line....never never go backwards..this applies to both boys and girls...... | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 1:12:57 PM | | I agree with the consensus on this one. It's not like you never gave her a second chance. She obviously has her own issues to deal with, which she seem she to believe can be solved by cheating on you. Don't shed too many tears over her, because she obviously isn't worth it. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 1:14:41 PM | I've been there.Some people just cheat because its fun to them.I'll advise any Guy.Once you catch you girl cheating its best you end the relationship,the probability she is going to do it again is very high.So why take the chance.
My girl friend cheated on me and apologised and I made the mistake of accepting her back.After apologising she got smarter and kept on till I caught her again.After trying to find out what made her cheat.I discovered there was no reason.She had a man who loved her and so decided to explore the world.
So if a Lady cheats,end the relationship.She definitely does not care ,love or deserve you. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 1:25:02 PM | Aha! The case of the dirty egg sucking dog!
Can't get them to stop this destructive behavior!
yet you like the dog. ~ uhmmm~ ?
If it were me ~ and I really , really loved her ~ I'd tell her so~
No crying this time ~ and then start some lighthearted shopping for a
suitable replacment. If she ask you about it ~~ I ask her, " How do we
put the Gennie back in the bottle then?" Cause living with you, void of pride
in the union and you being my unfaithful mate is killing me slowly.
It's fight fire with fire approach ~ a last ditch effort to put Humpty Dumpty
back together again. ~ She thinks she got you figured out ~ maybe she does.
~dar | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 1:31:50 PM | NO NO NO and NO if they cheat they had their agenda, let them keep to that agenda and leave you out of it.
I let someone cheat on me and ended up no happier and no wiser why he kept coming back to me?? He has gone now for good, but strangely remains in touch, maybe I am the one he lost.
NO NO NO if they cheat cut them loose and give them time to think about what they done and see how unhappy it made them, when its not your problem anymore. | |
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