| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 4/2/2008 5:07:56 AM | This is going to happen as long as there are dishonest or unrealistic people; the medium is simply another way to lie... I’ve got several horror stories, but this one is before the internet and demonstrates it’s nothing new….
About 18 years ago I had a blind date set up by a friend... during our first phone conversation she described herself as looking like a young Liza Minnelli. Not exactly my type (too thin and not a fan of short hair on women), but since we were both freshly divorced it seemed like a good idea. When she showed up at the restaurant where we met, she said "you look exactly as you described yourself" sadly I could not return the compliment. Aside from short dyed dark brown hair, she looked absolutely nothing like she described;
She was very short and dumpy, not tall and thin
She looked closer to 50 than to 30 (when I called my friend that evening I described her as "Old Lady Minnelli")
She picked an Applebee's and showed up for happy hour wearing an evening gown
It's almost as though she was looking in a funhouse mirror when she was describing herself to me over the phone... As a matter of fact, at the time, I think I looked more like Liza Minnelli than she did!
I'm not sure if most don't realize they're being misleading or if they are intentionally doing it, but there are several things that are clear to me: owning a set of Golf Clubs does not mean I look like Tiger Woods, wearing a football Jersey does not mean I look like Tom Brady, and having dreadlocks does not mean I look like Jason Castro (for you non sports fans I thought an American Idol comparison was necessary).
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 4/2/2008 5:26:48 AM | I'd say simply put this guy on your Loser list and move on.
Forget him. He's a freakin' idiot.
He's not worth your getting upset and feeling hurt.
Chalk it up to learning. I guess the lesson is you just never know what people will do.
The thing that struck me is that you were concerned about not hurting his feelings even after you realized that he had tricked you into meeting him.
To hell with that! All too often we women worry so much about others' feelings that we neglect our own.
I think we need to be on guard for when that happens and nip it in the bud.
My two cents.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 4/2/2008 5:49:14 AM | | I don't care who you are, everything starts with physical attraction, it's human nature. If you see someone across the street who catches your eye, it can't be their personality that attracted you can it? Subconsciously you imagine yourself in 'situations' with this person (and you're not likely to do that with someone you're not remotely attracted to are you?). However that said, there are occasions when for instance, if you've worked with someone that you weren't initially physically attracted to, you get to like or even fancy as perhaps they have personality traits that far outweigh the lack of physical attraction. But ask yourself this (and be honest in your answer); if you're in a room full of strangers and you have to chose one to go on a date with, what are you going to look at first? So, CityKitty isn't shallow, she's human like the rest of us! Simple! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 4/2/2008 6:38:41 AM | | Had the same experience, Crazy!! This Lady sends a pic. I think OK, We chat on the phone could work, set up a meet, Ohhh My, This Lady was older than my grandmother Now I figure hell where down at the water might as well make the best of it, Wrong we take a walk and as soon as we get some what out of site she throws her leg around me and "tries" to get her tongue down my throat!!!! I think we should be able to flag profiles on here like the craigslist? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 4/6/2008 5:35:21 AM | | I met another lady who's pic was at least 20 yrs old. Worse yet, I think she lied about how old she was. This lady didn't even bother to "clean up". She showed up in scroungey jeans and an old pocket t-shirt. I've seen homeless people who dressed bettter. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/20/2008 7:33:59 PM | I also met a guy who looked NOTHING like his picture. When I walked into the place we were to meet, I didn't see anyone who even slightly resembled the guy in the picture! This guy came up to me, with a big smile on his face and said "hello...I'm blah blah". I'm not normally rude BUT there are exceptions... this being one of those times!
There was NOTHING even remotely attractive about this guy! Who cares what was written between us in the emails... they are just words at this point! I told him that he's just an ***hole...."bu-bye"! He tried to tell me that he's really a very nice guy and I should give him a chance to prove it..... HA... right! As I was walking away he yelled at me that I'm just another shallow ****. I readily agreed with him, added a few obsenities (wow...what a vulgar mouth I can have at times..haha) and I left!
Lesson learned: Make sure to keep up with CURRENT rude words or phrases ...so people will think you are NOT just another old hag :)) | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:01:38 PM | Maybe the competition is getting more intense and this strategy is becoming more common...I've had a string of dates since the start of the year with men who were either heavier than or older than their pictures (or both). It appears (from what I've heard) that the boys do it as much as the girls do. It's really sad.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:35:43 PM | | My goodness, the comments calling the Op shallow, because she didnt go along with his lying tale. Who has the problem here? At this stage of my life, Im not covering for anyone, you lie to me about anything, and I catch you at it, you are a liar. Forever. if you are shorter than you say, heavier, balder or older, married, and you lie to me about it, and trick me into meeting you under false pretenses, YOU are a liar, no trust, no respect, zilch-- what else can you expect? At least I am honest about it. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:56:10 AM | | CK- You are not alone. You have every right to feel a bit betrayed, when a person misrepresents themself in any way upon trying to get aquainted, it says alot about the type of person they are. There has to be that intitial attraction too. That is not shallow , not wrong to think so, so If some one has old blury pics, or they have gained 75 pounds or in my experinces they have selected a random picture of the internet and stated it was them. I actually had made some wise comments to one young woman that had posted pics of Brttney Spears and swore up and down that they were here. I dont get it LOL | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:12:56 AM | | Hi CityKitty, I have had similar, but not as drastic experiences as you. Mostly just pics of someone when they were 25 yrs old, and they are not in their 50's. At first I was like you nice, and worked my way through the dinner, or whatever was planned. To be honest it hasnt happened often, and I have had good luck on dating sites unless you count not finding Ms Right permantly, but maybe thats my fault. In either case I finally decided a relationship that isnt based on honesty cant work, and when it is so blantent that they misrepresented themselves, I simply tell them there is no reason to continue with this, the picture posted was not representative of you, and I feel you did so because you didnt think I would be interested had you posted one that looked like you. As such I am not interested in pursuing this further. May sound cruel, but it has only happened twice, and I make no apologies for it. It is better to post a current pic, and if looks are that important then better be dismissed on here, then in person. And you are right, if he lied about the looks, then one can assume he read your profile, and gave you the answers he felt would make you interested in him, even if they dont come close to being representative of him. Good Luck dont get soured on this site because of one bum. I am sure with patience you will find some really nice friends on here, if not your special friend. Lou | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:17:02 AM | This goes on all around. Women do it too.
I tend to think it happens alot.
also there are those who are using older or non current pics.
Why? I think that answer would depend upon the individual, theres too many reasons why some people do it. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:35:33 AM | | CityKitty you from Minnesota? I had the same thing happen to me. His pic was very cute and when he showed up he was Indian also. I never did talk to him on the phone, just on the computer and then we decided to meet up. I pretty much ditched him about an hour in tho. Was in shock that he looked NOTHING like his pic. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:45:30 AM | ummm Ryan?
Does it matter how OLD the thread is ?
The point is... the same crap is happening with fake pics now , as it was back 2 yrs ago....
LOL welcome to On line dating..... "It's all a masquerade"
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:51:02 AM | | I have had the same problem with women. Especially with women who post down angle shots of their breasts and assume its a good representation of their physical form. I've gotten to the point where I've pissed a few women off because there is a disclaimer on my profile that says I require full body shots of whoever wants to meet me before I will see them in public. Cameras lie, its common curtsy to be truthful about yourself in this variety of situation. If your picture says you weigh 135 and are 5'4" when someone gets out of their car to meet you, you shouldn't be 5'2" and 175. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:06:01 AM | | well all the ones i have met did look like their picture. so no i cant say it has ever happend to me thank goodness. not in a meeting anyway. but a guy i use to talk with all the time had a picture of a very hadnsome white guy. and one day he signed on iwtha differnet pic and it was of a black man and i siad to him hey who is that. wehre is ur picture and he replied well that is my pic. and i siad well why did u lie and put a pic of white man. he said becuae i like you and he felt that if i knew he was black i would not talk to him. I simply siad well you know what .. you should be proud of who u are and not worry with ohters think ahead of time. I am not gonna talk to you anymore but not becuase u are black but because u lied to me since the day i began talking to you. and i hate liars. to this day i have never spoke to him again. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:34:21 AM | | obviously there were no sparks or when you met him you would have overlooked that.i guarantee 80% of the people on pof are not secure in the way they look. it may have been wrong for what he did but he wanted you to like him for him. you liked the inner him but not his looks a little shallow. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:42:31 AM | Aaaahhh... the perils and pitfalls of internet dating. The sad truth is that this happens more times than not. I think it is absolutely hilarious when it happens to me. I mean... what do these people think is going to occur when you meet face to face? You lied. You are a LIAR. We haven't even begun a relationship (of any kind) yet, and all I know about you for a fact is that you are a LIAR. Ha! Open season on those folks when I show up, lemme tell ya. I let 'em have it. Goes a little like this, " Hi! Excuse me but do you have a daughter named _____? No? Granddaughter? No? Omigosh that's SO weird! You see, I'm here to meet this 38 yr old woman named ______ but we've never actually met and all I have is this picture of her (pull out computer printed photo) and I swear you two could practically be related!" Then its time for them to start buying me****ails. Stiff ones. Lots of them. Sometimes, after several drinks, these people actually start to look like the person in the picture! Yay!
Seriously, I don't get it. What a waste of time to represent yourself any other way than how you really are. YOU ARE GOING TO MEET. Get it? That's why I try to put it ALL out there in my profile. The good, obviously, and the maybe-not-for-everyone stuff too. Its the INTERNET. Be honest and it can be an amazing filtering tool. For example: if you smoke pot, let it be known. A- Only people who are okay with that will contact you and B- They're bound to find out eventually anyway. If you are completely honest from the get-go you have an infinitely better chance to meet your "type of fish" or "match". Got that? Be HONEST. Be FORTHCOMING. Put it ALL out there. You will thank me later. Happy fishing!  | |
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