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Joined: 6/29/2005
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:13:14 PM | {I agree with you Jeffery! Talk about shallow. I think she is just using the fact that he "lied" to her as an excuse. If you really care about someone on the inside. then looks honestly shouldn't matter! } justswell
ok well now im on a roll and im sure you'll correct me if im wrong.
do you not think that lying about what race you are is a bit weird????
how can you care about someone on the inside when you dont know who you are talking to??
if he had been honest with her from the start and she had then met him and left him due to his weight and race..THATS shallow..but your saying she should turn a blind eye to his "little white lies"?
hmmm that i find slightly alarming.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:20:02 PM | | I know what he did was wrong Sass,I'll never condone a scumbag.My point is she said sparks were flyin' he's great wonderful-and she liked him.So either she lied and said she liked him for him......OR......she only liked a pretty picture.Either way she is guilty and just as shallow.Pretty people are a dime a dozen-wake up people.In case you were wondering with my views and all-I am neither fat,bald,or ugly.I come from the old school.Yep,I really am a moron. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:26:51 PM | I would venture to say there is not a single man on any dating site that this hasn't happened to at least once. It doesn't seem to happen that often to women, so I'm not sure if that means women aren't as shallow as men and overlook those sorts of things, or if it means that most men are honest about their appearance. Or, perhaps there is a third option... people I like to call "upgraders". Ones who want something better for themselves, but rather than work to obtain it, they hope to find some schmuck who will overlook their deceptions.
I've met a woman who was 100 pounds heavier than her photo, when I looked at her she immediately said "I've been sick". I guess she had the dreaded "myfeetgotstuckinthetrough-itis".
Met another who said she had a "swimmers body", upon first glance I suddenly remembered that Shamu was also a swimmer.
Another I met had posted a picture of her daughter because "People say we look like sisters". Didn't Cinderella have sisters?
Met another one who had several front teeth missing, apparently they had been knocked out the night before in a freak accident. She was a fast healer though, no swelling or soreness or bruising from being hit in the mouth by a flying ashtray.
Of course this stuff is discouraging, but you have to look at it on an individual basis. I have met some great people over the years, and the few that I have met that misrepresented themselves in one way or another are the ones that missed out, not me. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:53:14 PM | Wow.... I feel like I'm back in 19th century English Lit...
What an "interesting"..... comment
(archaic and slanting ever so slightly to the questionable side!).
Any "Indian" I've ever spoken to has an accent that sounds nothing like a "white" guy.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:59:59 PM |
I know what he did was wrong Sass,I'll never condone a scumbag.My point is she said sparks were flyin' he's great wonderful-and she liked him.So either she lied and said she liked him for him......OR......she only liked a pretty picture.
What you seem to be overlooking (for some strange reason) is that he was not honest with her right from the beginning... how would she know if anything else he said was honest? Even if it all was honest other than his looks... from that point on it would always cross her mind of wether or not he was telling her the truth.... its natural once a person lies to you and you know it.
She is guilty and just as shallow becasue she expected him to be honest with her??? come on... just what is it your trying to say jeffery??? I'm sure this isnt the case, but it almost seems like you are trying to say that its okay for someone to lie to their possible partner and that it should be ignored.... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:03:08 PM | citykitty, maybe you shouldn't have agreed to meet with him after only one (!) week. That's way too short of a time to get to know someone. Who is he? Inquiring minds want to know, so we can steer clear of him.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:14:49 PM | Sorry guys I Agree with the majority here for one reason.
He lied to her. Any relationship be it freindship, romantic or whatever it must begin on the basis that the person is representing theirselves as exactly what they show to the person before hand. If I post a picture that represented me as a Brad Pitt look a like and i show up looking like Shrek I have already shown myself to be a liar and anything I had said before hand is now suspect to say the least.
Some of you sound like your real sensitive on this subject. like it has hit real close to home for
some reason.
anyway I dont think she is was dishonest in any manner he tried to pull a fast one and got caught. He set himself up for disapointment by not being up front with her to begin with so tough luck for him.
Its real easy to call people shallow for not looking past something like this. Its not its looking out for yourself " Im not what some women would call hot or cute but thats my problem not theirs."
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:17:25 PM | Welcome to online dating.. :) I would also be very mad,and YES he was very much a liar,how could U even believe anything he had to say from then on... Next time, do not settle for just 1 photo but several,or better yet.. A webcam... The same thing happened to me.. And I dont meet anyone unless I see them live 1st... I am sorry that happened to U...
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Joined: 12/15/2004
Msg: 37 | |
| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:20:22 PM | O.k. everyone who is defending this guy liar wake the freg up. If any of you were in this girls' situation you would react the same way; it's human nature we are a visual species. And morally starting off on a HUGE lie is not a good impression for anyone. So you freaks who are giving this poor girl a hard time obviously are bitter about not meeting someone good looking yourselves. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:24:41 PM | | The point is HE LIED to her. He blatantly MISREPRESENTED who he was!!! Why the hell should she overlook this "little flaw"?? Who cares if she thought he was a nice guy and liked his personality before she met him? Obviously, she misjudged his character. No one who will purposely lie about their appearance, weight or race is a "nice person" or worth spending time with. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 7:44:06 PM | | n kay i havr to agree with the majority of ppl on here, it was plain wrong for this guy to lie, call it what ya will Jeffey, he purposely led her on to get to know her, we are all guilty of being attracted to someone, ( physically) first, that is what MAKES us attracted to other ppl, is the way they LOOK, you arent attracted to someone from the start because they had a nice personality, its like lookin at a flat white wall, and sayin: i saw you from across the room n thought that you had a nice personality" Everyone in the world has a specific TYPE of person whom they are "attracted to", everheard the saying " opposites attract"? n why do you think that is? common sense says the guy posted a pic designed to lure ppl to his profile, then instead of being honest, which from the sounds of it, had many opportunities to EXPLAIN that the pic was not of him, that it was SOMEONE ELSE , she probly would have let him explain, i assume HE asked her personal get - to know you questions, but in the same breath did not relate pertanant info that would lead him to tell the truth about himself, so how is that her fault? what b/c she is honest and straight with someone about herself, that makes HER shallow? he is the shallow one, b/c of the simple reason that he wanted to trick ppl in beleiving that he was something he wasnt. common sense. although i dont condone meeting after onw week, but hey, if the guy was that good at bullshit, then he knew what to say to her to get her to feel comfortable enough to trust him, and that s b/c she was being honest with him. so he suckered her. purposely. i also think that its pretty highschool to go and make degrating, smart ass comments about the way she may/may not look when she was only asking for advice on what to do about a situation that upset her. we all need advice from time to time about events that happen to us, and jerks that make comments about a persons weight, in order to try and embarass them.................she is right, grow up! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 8:35:15 PM | Whoa Nembatha...
The point isn't looks here. The writer of this thread did not misrepresent herself... The issue is he lied. And if he lied about his looks then what trust could be built in a relationship when the first contact is an untruth. She's not being shallow at all. Do you think its okay to build relationships on lies and deceits? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/16/2005 7:32:35 PM | | Been there, Twice actually, the first guy's pic was at least 15 yrs. old, he had hair then. The ravages of alcohol wasn't pretty along with the hair loss not to mention the weight gain. The second dude was just weird and hadn't aged well. Ha! and they say women are vain. It's more on the line if they're dishonest about that then how can u trust them on any level? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/16/2005 7:55:03 PM | | i know beuty is in the eye of the beholder but if you can tell me that you could date someone you are not attracted to physically, you are a fool and full of shit. Anyone that tries to trap someone with false pictures or occupation is a loser and pathetic. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 48 | |
| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/16/2005 9:42:44 PM | Citykitty,
Bummer it happened, but with OLD that stuff goes on all the time. He misrepresented himself to you, which for future references will make it difficult to trust him. He's lost credibility on this one and it is not a good thing. No need to warn others about him, when he gets enough rejections that will be good enough.
Remember, OLD, folks can say anything they want, post pics of anyone, and yet in face to face be totally different. Moral of the story, take OLD with a grain of salt. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/16/2005 9:50:29 PM |
I guess this woman was also lying then that she truly liked this guy for him. Again, looks fade but inner substance is forever.
jeffrey - OK, say it happened to you. You'd been talking with a lady you thought was just great. Then you got to the date and everything on the profile was true except one LITTLE thing - SHE is actually a HE! Would you still think you were made for each other and "overlook the white lie" because you "truly liked the person's inner substance"? Or would you change your mind about liking them at that point? 
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