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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/16/2005 10:31:38 PM | Hey I'm an overweight woman and I do have a pic on my profile several actually. If someones not interested no problem plenty are, its just personal preferance, myself I prefer taller men. I may not be crazy about the pics I have and will take new ones eventually but at least I'm up there and honest about it. How do you expect to start out a relationship with someone (which is why most of us claim to be here) if your not going to be upfront and honest from the begining. Why go through all the initial talking and phone possibly and really feel you have become attracted to that other person only to have it backfire on you when the opurtunity comes up to finally meet. You have shot yourself in the foot right there. I feel that is why so many people also mention in the forums that there are no shows on dates you can only figure they lied about somthing. This site is ment to be fun and does serve a purpose so if you are serious about meeting someone to share your life with, date, friends whatever the reason be honest its the only way....
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 5:35:32 AM | Wow!! I can't believe someone just said made that nasty comment to her.
Sounds pretty personal.
Is the "lol" at the beginning of the comment supposed to minimize the sting?
I read your profile, dc, and you wrote you are Looking for Friends....
Really? Is this how you go about doing that?
Just shows you how people burn their opportunities by being rude on the Forums.
lol.... and im sure those thunder thighs of yours couldnt use a little treadmill also? So what... he lied about his weight...you should be thankful another man was talking to you! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:40:24 AM | Similar thing, but didn't meet him. Was chatting, etc.. liked the pic, so the one day he invited me to view web cam. Glad he did! Zero similarities to pic!
Same deal as "city kitty", minus hair & tonnage to spare! Yikes!
Glad I didn't waste my time meeting him. I agree with her that if a person will blatently try to decieve like that, what else is up the sleeve?  | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:52:48 AM | <----------- This would be me. I mean why would anyone put a pic like this one up if they looked different?
Maybe I'll get one of those muscle pics tht doesn't show my head, LOL. Then if I meet someone I'll say, well I hurt my back in a car accident and the Dr said I can never do weight training again. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:54:00 AM | I actually killed and ate the person who's profile pic i'm using to pick up chicks. Before I ate him I took a picture of his mutilated carcass in the backseat of my car.
I personally didnt think he was an attractive fellow but damn he sure tasted good with some fava beans a nice chianti.  | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:04:13 AM | @dc1969: I wonder what you look like? George Costanza perhaps? Ever wonder why you are seperated witha mouth like that? We are none of us perfect, and I never lied about who I am or what I look like.
At least I have the balls to put my picture up, with so many mean and nasty ppl out there, like you! I think you and Jeffry32 should start a little club for ppl who have nothing better to do with their time but put down other ppl to make themselves feel like big men.
Oh, and FYI- I have no shortage of men talking to me, but if you're indicative of what the male species has to offer, what should I be "thankful" about? Really.... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 9:26:08 AM | to 40 & Fine....the fact that he invited you to view web cam shows one thing that I suspect may be true in some cases....the person wasn't aware of how much he has changed since that pic was taken. If he was actually trying to decieve you, why would he invite you to web cam?
When we were younger, we could show the same picture for a few years and get away with it, because we really didn't change that much from year to year...but as we get older, we change yearly, (like it or not), and some of us are slower to catch on to this. WE may not notice it in ourselves or close friends, but when we see someone around our age for the first time in a year or so and notice the difference, we shouldn't be so quick to think it isn't also happening to US.
After the age of 40 maybe, but certainly after 50, the picture needs to be changed yearly...at least ONE should be recent. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 9:29:04 AM | | This whole thread is bull sh*t. yeah, the guy shouldnt have lied about what he looks like, buit dont pretend that's the most important issue. Consider a hypothetical: what if the guy was WAAAAAY better looking then his picture? Wouldnt he still be an incredibly bold liar? of course. Would his lying bother you at all? No way. You have the luxury of complaining about strictly looks, and then hiding behind an argument disguised as some noble discussion of truth. It's crap. If the guy is ugly then why don't you just admit that and move on? In my humble opinion, a woman who just speaks her mind flat out is way better then someone who sugar coats everything or tries to pretend to be like some uber noble, unrealistically high-minded person. I also find it amusing when someone who is 50 lbs overweight has the nerve to criticize someone elses weight problem. All I'm saying is if you are going to be critical of that regardless of whether you are a man or a woman how about getting your fat ass on the treadmill once in a while? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 9:31:18 AM | I don't think she is shallow at all. The fact the man lied has EVERYTHING to do with her not liking him much anymore. I don't blame her at all.
My very first off the internet date lied to me. We hit it off real good on the phone.. couldn't wait to meet etc.
I never seen a picture but the man described himself as being tall, blonde, in his 30's. The fact I went out without seeing his picture proved I wasn't shallow. This man lied about his height, he was only like 5'4". Lied about his hair color.. it was greasy black curls with grey in them. He lied about his age.. I don't know how old he was, but he sure the hell didn't look like in his 30's, maybe 50s.
I went to a local resturant for lunch and looked for anyone that was tall and blonde, didn't see anyone that didn't already have someone there. So, I went to leave, then I heard a voice from the parking lot calling my name. I turned and looked, didnt see anyone there. He came up to me and introduced himself.
I was polite and bit my tongue, he offered to pay for lunch so I sat down and ate with him, the whole time asking him why? His reason is, because he assumed I would be as shallow, and he didn't think I would like him if I knew. HELLO!!! He didnt give me a chance. One thing I hate is a liar.
I ate lunch, and desert... and when the check came, I walked out and didn't look back. He came running out asking why. All I could do is look at that pathetic lil man and tell him if he didn't understand why, he was in need of serious help. He called me shallow... I called him a liar and left. Ended up having to block him on my phone.. didn't want to hear his excuses.
Once someone lies like that, it makes you question everything else about that person. If you can't trust, you can't have a relationship. There is NO excuse and extremely unfair to the other person when people lie like that. Can't have someone like you for who you are, when you are not showing them who you are. It is selfish and unfair to think anyone would like you after a lie like that.
Anyone here think that it was ok for that man to do that ... then I seriously question your integrity as well. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 9:33:59 AM | mtldude Sorry for off topic, your profile is hysterical!! Thanks for the laughs!!
On topic: This has happened to me more than once...however last time I met a guy who didn't look like his picture, he ended up looking much better and I'm still dating him. BTW he said I didn't look like any one particular picture, but I looked like a composite of all my pictures together. Noone has ever told me I don't look like my pic and I've asked them all... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 9:57:26 AM | this blows me away... I dont care if the persons picture was the ugliest person in the world... if they showed up looking like the best looking person in the world afterwards (with things not as they SAID they were... I would tell them they were a f**king moron and walk away... to the person who suggested that it would be okay if the reality was better than the picture... thats a perfect example of shallowness...
This isnt about a person not looking like their picture anymore... this about the picture not being of them... this is why people should read whole threads instead of just a couple here and there... the OP said that the guy was completely different than his picture... including his race... what happened... he pull a micheal jackson and get redone?? oh hey theres a good example...
THis would be like michael jackson using a picture from before the 983 surgeries and such and saying that that was him... dont you think it might upset you a bit if you went to a date expecting a black guy and instead got there and found out he was now a white woman??? lol I know I would....
This issue is about honesty... if you dont feel comfortable putting a current picture of yourself up (or can't) for whatever reason, then dont put a picture of somebody else up... and that goes for if your a drastically different than your only available picture...
as for those that will argue with this.... save it.... I'm not interested in listening to people defend dishonesty.... Of course if you wish to try to defend such dishonest acts... at least you will be showing everybody else that you dont have problems with dishonesty... I'll take it to mean that you are not an honest person yourself... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 11:23:11 AM | @theresnoplace...: you are clearly missing the point. I never said he was ugly- he wasn't that bad looking, but the fact of the matter is he said he was one thing, and was something else. The lying made him ugly to me.
I have dated big guys b4, and I have dated guys who weren't all that gorgeous,so me being "shallow" is not the issue. If a woman you were talking to had a picture of an athletic white woman, and she showed up and was an overweight indian woman, wouldn't you be pissed off?!?
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 11:31:16 AM | | as I likely already said before... you are absolutely right in being upset with him for being dishonest... that would be the same type of guy who would likely sleep around on you and tell you he was lying for your own good when you found out that he was cheating on you... after all it would have just hurt you to know the truth... When you see definate signs that someone has lied to you, there is no chance of ever having complete faith in them again and that is one of the cornerstones of a good relationship.... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 12:13:33 PM | @theresnoplace...: I am only defending myself against ppl who keep insulting me about my weight, when it has nothing to do with the thread whatsoever! I do not lie about who or what I am, I am chubby, oh well, get over it. At least I have my REAL pics up!!!
PPL who put others down are only trying to compensate themselves for their own insecurities.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 12:15:38 PM | PS, when did I ever use the words "you are ugly"?
I asked a simple question, where are your pics, since you have the gall to make statements about my looks. I wonder what those ppl look like...hmm.... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 12:21:54 PM | My pics are real at least 8 there and all done with my own camera except one taken for the holidays this past year.....
Most will tell me that I look like my pics but better in real life or on cam....I hope that they mean it....but either way.....what you see is what you get.....  | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 12:40:08 PM | " I am only defending myself against ppl who keep insulting me about my weight, when it has nothing to do with the thread whatsoever! I do not lie about who or what I am, I am chubby, oh well, get over it."
I think you're absolutely gorgeous! You are filled out very nicely, very sexy posture you have in the one with the white pants. I happen to be one of those guys that are into your kind of builds (Lane Bryant Model fan here) *Drooool* Citykitty. Filled out very nicely. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 12:40:19 PM | | It's got nothing to do with her guilt (why should she have any?????) or being shallow. Obviously, it wasn't a picture of him at all, or it was 10 years old, not 3 and it's happened to me before as well and I did not appreciate it. Why would you even consider doing such a thing? I have heard many, many times that that is what people do. They post very outdated pictures, or they describe themselves as average build, when in fact they're not. If you're seriously wanting to meet people, you better tell it like it is. I know you have to be compatible in many ways, but let's face it.....the thing that attracts us to others is appearance. I met someone once who said he was 44 and sent me pictures. I think they were pre World War II. I was so disappointed. Leaves a bad taste in your mouth, makes you leery about meeting others and is nothing but a waste of time. | |
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