| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 1:26:52 PM | THANK YOU chronictom!!! At least you get it!! 
and I never said there was anything wrong with being heavy, what I said was that he told me he was ATHLETIC and he was at least a hunred pounds heavier than what he said!!
geez, how many times do I have to keep repeating myself. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 1:48:16 PM | Pics don't tell the whole story, but a recent pic is nice, so you have an idea of what someone looks like, I've never had it happen to me though. If looks are that important to you, ask for a recent pic, or webcam with them so you get a clear 3d image of who you're talking to.
Personally if they look remotely like their pic, but I really like who they are, that's what really matters.
Lying to get a date, is not cool, that I will agree with 100%. If you have to lie to me about that stuff, then you really don't know me very well. Applies to guys and gals.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 2:02:04 PM | and I never said there was anything wrong with being heavy, what I said was that he told me he was ATHLETIC and he was at least a hundred pounds heavier than what he said!!
geez, how many times do I have to keep repeating myself?!?
You were saying that PPL who are 50lbs overweight shouldn't go around criticizing other PPLs weight problems, and to "put my fat ass on a treadmill", however, I don't go around saying I am ATHLETIC, now do I? It's not the weight that is the main issue here, and everyone seems to be making it all about that!!
Also just curious as to whether you missed the part about him being a different race altogether... Come on now, you can't tell me that if you were put in the same situation, you would still go out with them?
Had he been completely honest with me from the start, showed me his real pic, I could have decided to go out with him or not, but I wasn't given a choice! So you can sit there and judge me all you want, and decide that it's all about whether I was attracted to him or not, but the fact remains, HE LIED TO ME, therefore, I didn't even get to know the real person.
And who is going to start a relationship with someone that they are not attracted to anyway? Of course I wasn't attracted to him! It doesn't matter! The point is STILL that HE LIED TO ME!! I was tricked into meeting someone and wasting my time.
Stop making this about the weight. The pic wasn't even of him! Do you get that? Even if he turned out better looking than the pic, the point is it wasn't of him. If he lied about something as important as that, who knows what else he was lying about. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 3:01:03 PM | Ah yes, the pearls of wisdom roll gently off the fur of this homeless, majestic polar bear. Diplomacy and tact are a by-gone commodity it would seem. I believe far too many posters decided to "focus" solely on the overweight issue, which by far is out-weighed, in my opinion, by other misrepresentations.
However, rather than take an easy pot shot, a little clarification from the OP. on what aspect really decided it for her... it's far easier to point and scold. Indeed, she made it sound like a big factor, but we all sometimes say things without appreciating how they may sound initially, giving her the benefit of the doubt, different race, overall lying, not worthy of a second date.
Just my lil op.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 3:17:48 PM | | ditto. the point is that the guy misrepresented himself. (on two things) at this point the op is right to be angry. what else is he capable of lying about from this point on? i think that is the point of the op's story!!! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 3:18:25 PM | The point was
HE LIED AND MISREPRESENTED WHO HE WAS!!!
I just can't get over all the insults the OP has recieved!! To my mind, the ONLY people who have an issue with her being upset about this guy's behaviour are the people who have lies and misrepresentation in their OWN profiles.
There is NO excuse for lying. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 4:02:16 PM | @ff7wasbest: Does anything else besides vile garbage spew forth from that mouth, or are you just angry at women in general?
Lay off.
I've said it before and I'll say it again, ppl with no pic of themselves shouldn't comment on what other ppl look like. You are only insulting me to feel better about your own insecurities.
PS- you didn't have to quote my ENTIRE post. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 4:26:06 PM | I think we can all agree that yes, there are people out their who lie on their profiles. I can't believe the petty personal attacks on the OP.
I have encountered several men who have been very deceitful in their profiles. On the same note, there are just as many women out there who are guilty also. People who lie to others are guilty of lying to themselves as well. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 5:00:33 PM | | That is so incredibly sad that people still post fakes pics or their friends pictures and tell others thats their picture. I mean really. Sure the media pressures us to look a certain way, but really GET SOME SELF ESTEEM. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:15:31 PM | | POF needs a feedback system like the one ebay has. You meet the person, then report back as a positive, neutral, or negative. On the person's profile, it would have a feedback score so others could have some idea of what they could expect. Also, you could leave comments about your date, like they leave comments on ebay. You could say "Negative. The guy did not match his pic in any way, he was heavier, his hair was different, and he was a different race than his profile said". | |
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elle j
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:08:33 PM | He has a pic up on his profile and I was very attracted.
Read above, please. That's all you readers need to know! She only liked her because of his picture. If there wasn't one, she probably wouldn't even take the time to know a guy. A lot of women are like this.
I am not putting up my picture! Uh-uh. No freakinnnn way! I'm not going to be (i.e. my appearance) dissected like some lab rat. I know some women will find me attractive but these ratings and sh** are like the bloody reality shows out there. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:28:21 PM | I guess some people didn`t take their `nice` pills....There is no excuse for someone putting up a false picture to deceive!!!! That`s just wrong....The OP is entitled to her anger.... I would be angry also!!! It`s hard enough to find someone to spend time with and care about without deception....If a person lies to me about something so basic as their appearance....I would have to wonder if anything else they said was true...Liars do not rate high in my world...This is just my opinion....We all have opinions and don`t need to sling the insults around just because someone doesn`t agree with you...What ever happened to `I may not agree with what you say...but I`ll defend to the end, your right to say it`??? OP...goodluck with your search...Don`t let one bad apple turn you off searching... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:49:28 PM | @Jester
I assume then that you do not ever look at a woman's pic and that you only reply to the profiles that have interesting content and that demonstrate the woman has qualities you admire and value??
Get a freaking grip! HUMANS are all visual. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/18/2005 12:29:01 AM | but this was blatant LYING on his part. I really don't think the pic is even of him ... who wants to be with someone that lies so outrageously?
If he deceives you once he'll do it again. Bye-byes.
Also, I don't know if I can (or should) warn others about him?
If you post Names of anyone on the Forums, you will get 'banned', no ifs, buts, or else. Inform the Admin or the Moderators by E-Mail. We do want to know when someone crosses the line. We don't want Date Deceivers here at POF.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/18/2005 11:41:05 AM | Nope, I've said it before and I'll say it again : You post a pic of yourself that is no longer "you" then you are lying. Did you think I wouldn't notice the extra hundred pounds? Did you think I wouldn't pick out that you have decided to put basic hygiene on the "to do" list ?
I'm with citykitty all the way here. I know what I like and if some people consider it shallow (although generally speaking they shouldn't because it's fairly open) then that's not my problem. What was she supposed to do? I wouldn't have blamed her one bit for simply stalking out of there. He lied to her. And if he's hurt, who's fault is that? He set himself up for it and to boot SHE'S supposed to feel bad about it ? She's the one who has the right to feel angry. She was deceived. As if he didn't know that he wasn't that guy in the pic anymore (assuming he ever was) It happens to all of us though. The "average" listing when she's a hell of lot more than average. The "athletic" beer belly he's developed. The mustache she doesn't want shave anymore or the hairstyle he used to have back when he could still grow one.
If I start to develop a rapport with someone over the internet and after a while they send me a pic that is , um, less than flattering, I'm still okay with it because they were honest about it. I can accept that sort of thing and get past it no problem. It's just like when you go out and buy exactly what it is that you were looking for, get it home and take it out of the box to find that it's nothing at all like what you paid for then you have the right to be angry. Same applies here IMO. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/18/2005 11:54:00 AM | Nah....If someone uses a false picture thats bullshit (pardon the langauge) because obviously if they lie about they look like they defiantly have some issues with themselfs, theres no shame in being over weight im husky myself but im not going to hide , he wasn't being honest with this lady or even himself, for that matter so who knows how he actually felt about her, He was probably just looking for a quick lay Ive heard alot of horror stories about men/women like that on the net.
You should have just told him that he lied. | |
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