| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 4:51:51 PM | | My favourite experience was meeting a guy who said he was my height but ended up being probably 4 inches shorter than me (when he said that he was my height). Probably was a nice guy but I was soooo put off by him lying about something that is sooo obvious that I didn't even give him the benefit of the doubt in getting to know him. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:33:13 PM | OK is it just me, or can you find someone's picture attractive and not have chemistry with them in person? Can you meet a really attractive person, and the more you talk with them, you just know they don't do it for you. The same can be for someone with whom you find common interests, and enjoy talking to them. Just because you get along and have wonderful conversations, with no awkward silences, might mean you have no chemistry in person. If we were attracted to every person we liked, and enjoyed talking to--don't you think the world would be a more complicated place than it already is?
Photos help, but they aren't the be all and end all if you aren't physically attracted. No matter if you really like their inner self. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:41:09 PM | of course ! a picture is just a glimpse of a person and a small one at that.
the personality is what hooks me .
I've met people I found very physically attractive and they started to talk and they turned ugly quickly! The opposite happened too , I met someone and while I didn't feel physical chemistry there initially (and I'm sure he didn't with me either!) , we hung out a few times and things blossomed from there , ended up dating for a year! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:47:09 PM | | Welcome to the world of internet dating..........The vast MAJORITY of women I have met in person (close to 100) in the 3 years that I have been partaking in this exercise in futility have looked NOTHING LIKE the photo they posted.........Why do women always post a picture that is either 10 years old, or was taken before they have gained 200 pounds? What is up with that? Then there are all the ones who won't even post a picture at all.........then when you meet them you understand why (sighs).............. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:10:17 PM | Welcome to the world of internet dating..........The vast MAJORITY of women I have met in person (close to 100) in the 3 years that I have been partaking in this exercise in futility have looked NOTHING LIKE the photo they posted.........Why do women always post a picture that is either 10 years old, or was taken before they have gained 200 pounds? What is up with that? Then there are all the ones who won't even post a picture at all.........then when you meet them you understand why (sighs)..............
ktodd1969,
You hit the nail on the head. Keyword is "Internet Dating" where photos and information could be misrepresented. OP fell in love with a picture and dialog. With any sort of meeting (resulting from a Dating Website Profile) a person should never get their hopes up. Conversely, people with no pics on their profiles does not mean they have anything to hide either. I don't have a pic on my profile, but if someone want it, I would give them a recent one. If you plan to meet, how could you hide any physical traits anyway? If you never plan to meet, then lie all you want  | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:44:31 PM | | sorry to hear that city kitty.. just had a similiar experience myself... went to go meet a guy outta town. after numerious conversatons.. even asked him his weight beforehand..which was just out of curiosity..He told me he had a few extra pounds and have posted that and that his height was 5ft8...no biggy right wrong.... way wrong......... He was 5ft2 weighed approx 300 lbs definately not what he portrayed himself as so I did what anyone would do I left never to look back........ | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 11:26:49 PM | | WOW, this is scary; kinda makes me not want to date anyone from this site; but, why do people use false pictures (that is ridiculous) and dishonest!; the photographs that I posted (the oldest one was taken in December) most of them were photographed (by a cell phone camera, btw) a couple of months ago (in April) and I am not even photogenic!!! Ha! | |
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YogiZ
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Joined: 2/23/2006
Msg: 159 | |
| Misrepresentation on profiles...
Posted: 6/4/2006 11:47:17 PM | ... is not exactly new, folks. For some, the dating world can be a terrifying place. There are countless examples on here of women who rate their body types as 'average' when in reality they are actually carrying 'a few extra pounds'. (I'm certain that some guys do the same thing, but I prefer to look at women's profiles.) The fact IS that 'average' is a vague, vast window, and some are either in denial, or can't handle the rejection they believe they'll get.
(There was a dating site where one had to put their actual weight and height in, leaving little wriggle room for denial/lying. I doubt that they still have that in there as the complaints probably crashed their servers.) My weirdest experience involved a woman who'd photoshopped herself beyond being recognizable. Kind of between an elf and a pixie. She turned out to be a chain smoker, so I'll leave you to conclude what her skin REALLY looked like...
I often wonder what these people are thinking will happen when they meet their date? "Well, maybe s/he won't notice the fact that I look 87 years older than my doctored profile pics..."?! Oh well. At least it makes for a great story for the NEXT date... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 11:56:43 PM | yeah met a gal on here and after chatting several times on the phone.We decided to meet we are both in our forties and she looked not at all like her pic>Anyways we meet and I tell her that her hair color is different and that shes much prettier than her pic..She scowls and says that doesnt mean sh*t to her>I was very disspointed to say the least.Cant a woman take a sincere compliment I guess not happy | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/5/2006 6:36:32 AM | yeah i met this guy who...when i was looking up the street..thought...
nah that couldnt be him...he looks like too much of a dag..
only to sit and listen to a pretentious ****er all night who asked me if i drink soy milk and when i said yes he said, "yeah i could tell, i can see it in your face!!!"
what the ****..
sorry to get off topic ...but it really spins your prior perceptions right around...when you actually meet them...so you really can't judge someone's character too much from online...
and it's a real shame when they look different..what the hell | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/5/2006 9:03:08 AM | | I love it.... a girl makes this post and everyone feels sorry for her, as a guy I make a simular post and everyone tells me how shallow I am and what a bad person I am for not seeing their inner beauty and to pretty much forget that the person is a liar. | |
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YogiZ
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Joined: 2/23/2006
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/5/2006 8:33:51 PM | Re: Msg #162
Welcome to the real world, biganthony77. Double-standards have always and WILL always exist. It's how we respond to them that matters more. If stuff like this bothers you, start a thread and see how many others dis/agree with you. I think it would make a great subject, if not an endless battle of the sexes where you'll all end up 'agreeing to disagree' and move on. Kinda like with religion, politics, and sex...
Re: Msg #163
Hey Bonk, I don't know if your post was meant to be tongue-in-cheek or not, but she also said that the dude showed up not only looking differently from his profile pics, but he was even from a different RACE! LOL! I think she may be a bit justified to have reacted as strongly as she did. You GOTTA admit that that was a bit weird...
While we guys may've just brushed it off with a "WTF?!" (as I did after my adventure with the Photoshop Queen), women tend to get a bit more creeped out by that kind of thing as it conjures up images of stalkers and mentally unbalanced guys watching them. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/5/2006 8:40:30 PM | I can tell by the look of a guys face if I might have chemistry with him. That's why I don't respond to profiles without pictures, it's also uncomfortable talking to faceless entities.
If a guy showed up and that wasn't his picture in his profile I would not even talk to him, I would walk out then and there!
If he's going to lie about who he is then god knows what else he might lie about. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/6/2006 10:55:06 AM | | I must say it is a shame , but you are right there are double standards.. i myself believe noone should misrepresent themselves to anyone. No matter which sex is doing it..Just be who you are and let the other person see the real you. In my case i asked all the right questions, size, weight if it was a current pic ect.. before i went to meet him..And I got a yes response to all of it,,, if he would have told me his pic was old and he had gained 100lbs upfront.. I would have still went to meet him.. I beleive in honesty first and foremost..Its just a shame that ppl have to be so insecure about themselves isnt it?And my question is this how can you form a freindship with someone.. when they lie right off the bat? | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 168 | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/8/2006 5:37:08 PM | CityKitty
I've had the same problem. I saw a guy who I was attracted to by his picture. He was really good looking. We started emailing each other and I asked him if he had another picture of himself. He sent me one, but when I got it, it was a different picture of someone else. I emailed this guy back and I asked him which one of these pictures was really him. He told me it was the one he sent to my email. After looking at his real picture, I noticed he wasn't all that attractive afterall. I asked him about the other picture and he told me it was a friend of his. Now this guy won't leave me alone. He keeps emailing me.
I don't understand why people have to lie about themselves online. Makes you wonder what else are they lying about, huh? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/8/2006 5:55:46 PM | You got in brother just crapola!!!!!!!!!!
I love it.... a girl makes this post and everyone feels sorry for her, as a guy I make a simular post and everyone tells me how shallow I am and what a bad person I am for not seeing their inner beauty and to pretty much forget that the person is a liar. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/8/2006 6:39:31 PM | | Yes, I have had this happen and next time I am going to call them on it. That is crap and they should be reported and banned from here. If he asks what happened tell him he is a liar and you are not interested in people you can't trust. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/8/2006 7:08:59 PM | I hear what you are all saying. Most of your words come from your hearts. But if you read what citykitty wrote, she did say he wasn't even the same race. What he did was just wrong. He should never have been given any chances. Forget about the weight. Seems most of you have your own agenda to post. You should read what citykitty or anyone else is saying. This whole topic would have then been about lies, how do you trust what we read... not about weight, or ...
Just my thoughts. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/8/2006 8:37:34 PM | | Well, here is my take on it. I believe that there are more important things than looks, such as HONESTY! I know that when I meet someone off here, I let them know up front that I have no perfect physical qualities. I do not look for someone physically perfect either, but I do look for honest individuals. If a man or a woman for that matter is going to lie about something, anything, be it looks or whatever, then I feel there should be serious questions as to whether or not you can trust that person. I think in dealing with him, you should just be honest and say that you had a good time talking to him, but that you were put off by his misrepresentation of himself and that there was no physical chemistry for you when you met him in person. Good luck! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 6/8/2006 10:15:40 PM | | Put it this way. Honesty is the best policy all the way around. I had a similar experience just recently. HE initiated contact thru IM, and we talked for about two weeks on here before I would give him my phone number, then about another two weeks on the phone and computer. I checked out his profile, seemed to be a fairly good match because it looked like we had a lot in common. Nice picture, not bad. So when he asked to meet, sure, why not? OK. Profile says athletic, right? Wrong!! Guys with beer guts are hardly athletic! Come to find out, his pic was about 20 years old! Makes you wonder if he's just trying to get the young girls, huh? He turned out to be completely the opposite of what his profile said he was. He was obnoxious, and a braggart, you know the type, knows it all, has done it all, Mr. Billy Bad Ass! I couldn't WAIT to get home from that one! If you look at my profile, you'll find thatt I have pictures posted with two hair colors; blonde and brunette. BUT, I also tell that I have stopped bleaching my hair blonde, and why, so, I'm not lying about my haircolor. If there's one thing that can blow a relationship sky high, it's not being totally honest with each other. And then men wonder why women are the way they are; give us more reasons to trust you guys, and maybe we'll change! And web cams aren't always the answer. There are those of us who don't have those things (I don't know if I would even know how to use one). | |
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