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dae
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Joined: 6/2/2004
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:23:57 AM | | LOL!, jackson, that is a good one! I have talked with a man online; we have seen each others web cams, we really like each other, haven't met yet in person, but I feel good about it, not nervous or anything, cause we get along so well, now I am glad that other men I have met weren't right for me(or me for them).We all want a loving relationship,I think we need to do a lot of talking; at first, everything is all sweetness and light, then, once you start to really talk, then your natural instincts kick in, being honest at this point is better than one of you being hurt later. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:24:41 AM | Vanni,
You are as far from being overweight as I am from being bald. You have what I'd refer to as a knock em down type body, you don't fit , in the overweight catagory, not a bit.
I wasn't trying to be a smart a** or insult anyone. There's no doubt that we all have our wants and needs and why not openly discuss it without some ladies getting pissed off over it? This is after-all, a message board and if I'm man enough to put something in my profile that says I don't want women who are overweight, isn't that my right? I also don't want to meet a woman in her twenty's, is that a crime too? Honesty is and always will be the best policy, and a lot less people will be hurt because someone was considerate enough to be honest about themselves, don't you think? | |
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Joined: 10/2/2004
Msg: 28 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:24:43 AM | ahem....my pic is on line........duh
To each their own, I was just stating how you are limiting yourself, but that's not my problem now is it?
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:32:51 AM | 99
If I'm looking for true happiness, then limiting myself is my affair as I'm really not into overweight women. How more honest can I be? If I can be a bit more honest, I'd like to meet a woman around 5ft 5in, 135 pounds, or there-abouts give or take a few pounds either way. If the woman who answers my ad is 187 pounds as one woman in this thread is, then she's not for me, why let her reply to a posting, hoping that she will be the one for me, when in fact she won't be and then I'm in a bad position, not wanting to hurt her feelings, being a polite man, it's not easy to let someone down, so I eliminate that problem by stating what I did in my profile. I hope you can understand my motives. | |
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dae
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Joined: 6/2/2004
Msg: 30 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:42:56 AM | | It is true that when you are looking for that one person with whom you share your life with, you do have some idea of what he or she should be like, for example, I am 5' 71/4", I would like someone tall, and I can see that when we are looking for someone, we all know deep down what we can or can't live with; so being honest in your profile is important, after all, you will eventually meet, right? but, do you have to sit 3 inches from your monitor, no one looks good that way! I think I am a sexy woman, I feel terrific, and I do have lines and wrinkles that don't show up that well on my pics, but so do a lot of men too; I think if a man wants a woman to look like a barbie doll, well.....! | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:51:27 AM | There is this time that i met a woman online (we are now very close and she calls me, probably would have had more hadn't it been for the geographical distance) anyway, i was very open with her about who i was. I sent her my pics and told her to send me hers, she took her time and soon i forgot about the pics. One day after long, i open my mail and i see this big lady (don't like using the word fat a lot) an am like , Christ!! i was disappointed at first of course coz all along i had drawn an image of how she would look like. However , i got over her body size like lightening, why, we started speaking on phone and boy, did she have a good inside. At first i didn't know whether to trust her but she apologised and told me that she feared at first because she had liked me and knew that i would judge her by weight.
So u can see, most times when you meet someone online, you are already unconciously biased about how you want her or him to look like, especially if you've clicked. When she doesn't come out in the right package at the end of the day, you are all hurt. This is either side, some men look at weight and so do women, but the question is, is this the only criteria of choice?
Brothers and sisters, personally i have long learnt to go passed looks, that episode taught me alot. I felt guilty afterwards because this girl accepted me the way i was but it's me who had inhibitions all along. Now, i don't care about weight or staff like that, it's the inside that i like, hope i don't sound like a priest here so any lady who thinks she is big but with a good heart, come to papa, i will take care of you | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:53:53 AM | Now, now. Would you buy a pair of shoes without looking at them or trying them on ? Really the same question. We're all trying to sell something at the beginning. Contact/chance to meet someone, right ? We're not saying that if you do not meet our desires, you're of less value. Just show/tell us what you really are, why not ??? A little sensitive ? Shallow ? If that means critical and judgemental without appreciation for wonderful things I think the female is the most wonder thing "GOD" ever made not to keep it for himself. Wonder why he decided to share you ? I would never be critical of anyone for their weight that's your choice in most cases (Some folk do have physical problems). I criticize George Brush because he's a FATHEAD!!!!I just don't like overweight women and don't date them for "romance/desire" purposes. I don't want to have to roll you in flour everynight to hit the wet spot. I have more fat female friends than I want, not only for attraction purposes but also for their health. That happens when you get old like me. I'm not claiming to be the "example" to follow, just expressing my desires. I struggle with my weight also. Oh yes, my whanger? He's a little bitty feller but he's got a great sense of humor and stands up for ladies, but does not like the taste of flour though. Good lunch.  | |
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Vanni
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Joined: 9/6/2004
Msg: 33 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:58:30 AM | | Mystical i never said i was overweight, I put myself in the average categorie coz thats what i consider myself to be :) | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 8:58:56 AM | Thank u Vanni for the compliment.
Thank u as well Jackson, but that pic was a couple of years ago, the others r recent.
I believe it all has to do with prefernce and to each his own, but there is no need to make a post, putting down what u dont happen to like. The lies shouldnt be there, but what can u do about it but accept it and move on NEXT | |
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dae
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Joined: 6/2/2004
Msg: 35 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 9:04:36 AM | | HaHa, Not, it is polite to stand up for ladies, and flour has too many carbs anyway LOL!! | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:14:44 AM | | I agree but heres some advice. Never meet someone who hasn't shown you at least few pics and gone on webcam. Save yourself the time. Alot of the people on here are introverts and insecure about there weight. I've even had someone send me someone elses pictures, and met them only to look completely different. So why do we go on here? For fun, entertainment, enjoy! | |
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Idalia
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Joined: 9/29/2004
Msg: 37 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:16:53 AM | hola.. a few extra makes no differance to me.. I see people for who they are...not the weight...i thing it is shallow of men to veiw a woman by weight not her, smile or personality..
I have gone out with a couple of men who, have a few extra pounds and had a great time.....
So rember see them for who they are not the weight.... | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:18:29 AM | Vanni,
If I may be so bold, a nice looking average at that. | |
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mysty
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Joined: 10/10/2004
Msg: 39 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:25:25 AM | I TOTALLY agree that if women should have to post their weight...and if body size matters SO much to men...then men should have to post the size of their w*****s because SIZE DOES MATTER, BOYS!!!! I want to be sexually satisfied and anything under a THICK 5 inches doesn't do it for me. SO HOW ABOUT IT? You want to know how much I weigh exactly??? Then expect a fair exchange of information.
The phrase, it's not what you have it is how that you use it was invented by a man with a 4" pencil. It is what you have AND how you use it.
And mystical....you are balding. Reality check. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:27:44 AM | Dae
No Barbie Dolls for me, thanks all the same, however that being said, there is an old expression that goes something like this. The closer the bone, the sweeter the meat. I'm just an average man who doesn't want a Barbie doll type woman because these types of women tend to spend most of their time in a mirror admiring themselves, I've known a few. That and the fact that they usually wear tons of make-up and when you wake up next to one of them, you wonder if she was the same good looking womanl that you went to bed with last night. As I've said before no one is perfect, I just want an average looking woman who is exactly that, AVERAGE, not so skinny if she turns sideways I'll miss her, but a woman shaped something like Vanni, now that's my kind of woman whatever her height is as I didn't check her profile. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:34:43 AM | Mysty,
Don't write in anger, it doesn't suit you. You are a nice looking lady and from what I can see of your picture, small framed too, so what's your beef? As far as me going bald, perhaps a tiny bit on the forehead, but the rest that is there is real and at 55, would you expect me to be perfect? As far as dicks are concerned, you are most welcome to come to Montreal to examine mine, I promise you not only won't you be disappointed, but if you are any good, it will please you silly. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:37:32 AM | I don't consider myself too shallow. I'm 5'10 (and a half) and weigh 205 lbs and I'm looking for someone no worse off than me. But what is more important for me is character, and in the few blind dates that I've gone to, I have been shocked at what I've seen. What was a little overweight turned out to be virtually grossly overweight. I'm talking, outweighing me probably 1.5 - 1 (you do the math).
The principle of it all is that tell the d*mn truth. If your first impression is a lie, then I don't hold alot of value over your character. I've seen (and even once married) women who was shorter and heavier than I am that were cute and beautiful. But for the love of Christ, don't deceive us men. We are just as eager to mind a mate as you are.
On every communique that I have with someone, I tell them that I have a bit of a belly (something I've tried to reduce) from the start. I tell them my height and weight and even down play my strengths, because I'd rather her, when we do eventually meet, be pleasantly surprised rather than mildly disappointed.
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:43:36 AM | the dude is growing a shine and the dudettes are growing some jowls. It's called aging. It sucks. It's a battle no one wil win. Look at poor Diana Rigg (then and now), Terri Garr, Nick Nolte, Maron Brando, yikes.
Not all are blessed to go on like Tina Turner, Sean Connery or Gloria Estefan or the bucke to ensure we maintain. Good mature physical appearence takes work and attitude, Jack Nicholson in point.
Women are just as guilty as men at passing judgement based on appearence. The bit that gets my whities tightie is when I took the time to be honest and state clearly my preferences, which is is still a constitutional right, I was reamed a new one by a lady who posted "slim details" regarding her own physique. I sent her a "hello" because other aspects of her personality were appealling and I was willing to overlook my boundaries for the chance at something special. Her loss. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 10:49:43 AM | i was and still am thin and pretty much in shape i had a bopyfriend of 18 months and i had a STROKE AND ENDED UP WITH A SLIGHT LIMP AND LOSS OF MY LEFT ARM AND EVENTUALLY THE BOYFRIEND STOPPED COMING AROUND AFTER BEING THERE FOR 17MONTHS AFTER THE STROKE HE CLAIMED HE LOVED ME BUT STILL QUIT COMING TO SEE ME AND WHEN I BROKE UP WITH HIM HE BLAMED ME SO IF I HAD GAINED WEIGHT IM SURE IT WOULD HAVE ENDED UP THE SAME WAY PEOPLE NEED TO FALL IN LOVE FROM THE INSIDE OUT PEOPLE LOOK ALIKE PRETTY MUCH ON THE OUT SIDE BUT THE INSIDE IS WHAT ITS ALL ABOUT SO PEOPLE BE HONEST ABOUT YOURSELVES YOU WOULDNT WANT TO BE ANYTHING OR ANYONE ELSE HONESTY IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY BE WHO YOU ARE AND IF NOBODY LIKES IT YOU WONT MEET THEM AND THEN NO TROUBLE SO BE YOURSELVES EVEN IF YOU DONT LIKE YOURSELVES BECAUSE LYING WONT CHANGE YOU ALL IT DOES IS BRING FALSE PEOPLE INTO YOUR LIVES THEY END UP LIKING SOMEONE THAT DOESNT EXIST SO AVOID THE TROUBLE AND BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE 120 OR 170 YOU ARE STILL WHO YOU ARE ON THE INSIDE SO GOOD LUCK TO ALL AND THXS FOR READING MY THOUGHTS  MEN AS WOMAN ARE USALLY SHALLOW WHEN IT COMES TO LOOKS. SO PEOPLE NEED TO CHANGE A BITAND LIKE PEOPLE FOR PERSONALITIES AS WELL OK LOL:  | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 12:00:50 PM | Dear Determined,
Truly what happened to you was sinful. While no one is perfect, if you love someone then even if that person has some bad fortune in life, you should stick with them. I once met a woman with one breast, she'd lost one to cancer. I didn't think any less of her because of it, she was still a very beautiful woman on the inside, and outside too. Her heart was as big as a mountain. We didn't make it but it had nothing to do with her loss of her breast, she's from a French atmosphere and while I do live in Quebec, I'm orginally from Nova Scotia and never learned how to speak French. Our differences were in our language problems, not in health or weight. Actually it was our families who caused such a stink about things that even at our ages we decided that it wasn't worth taking on two family's. We still talk and now she is in her last stages of Lung Cancer. When you love someone and they love you it's very disappointing to hear that there are men out there in this world who would be such pricks and leave someone as you were left.
By the way in case you are new to the Internet, writing in capitols is considered hollering. Believe me, no one here is deaf, we read with our eyes.
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joe333
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Joined: 9/21/2004
Msg: 46 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 12:20:08 PM | gimme those extra pounds.............
just love em............tend to be more natural and down to earth.
in bed.............tries harder.........much more satisfying
out of bed..... uses brains more often, usually more intelligent
the super models seem to have more hangups than a dirty phone call.
a sexy woman is a sexy woman,
just love em.
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Posted: 10/29/2004 12:36:21 PM | | im a little overweight and i dont find it to be a problem. I still get lots of compliments and i wouldnt want to be too skinny. i love my size and i feel like a man. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 1:26:13 PM | Personally I never let weight influence what I think about a person. I have friends of all shapes, and some of them have even varied in shape over time. :)
The only thing that another person's overweightness does to me is stifle the sex drive. But that is a separate issue from liking them or being friends with them. Life is enriched by all sorts of people, not just the ones you can play under the sheets with.
And to the man who can go all the way with his plump bedmate: more power to you. I secretly envy you, for you are a better man than I. :) | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 2:27:25 PM | Hey Descartes,
When I started this thread it had nothing to do with overweight friends, I was referring to ladies who I may one day share my life with, but I do agree with you on one thing. Overweight women do TEND to be better in the bedroom. | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
Msg: 50 | |
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Posted: 10/29/2004 2:54:24 PM | i hace always wanted to lose the last 10 pounds of my baby wieght. Im almost there. I trioed on a pair of jeans last night that i havent worn in 6 yrs( since before my baby years) they were so big i need a belt now. I felt so happy and so proud of myself.
Im like my mom...short..petite but big bones.WE are very tiny....i was the smallest in my class for all of my school years.
Once spring comes im going to buy a new bike...time to hit the mountains with my bf!!
My bf told me dont lose more than 10 he loves me as i am and thinks skiiny is gross looking.. | |
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