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Posted: 3/17/2007 10:32:24 AM |
Haven't you learned that a few extra pounds, in reality means; OBESE
*yawn* that was said pages ago,can't you think up anything original? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 10:53:43 AM | I think what I dont like is people who judge others by the way they look straight off.
Yes its your right if you ask to be told the truth.
I have always found most good looking people rather shallow.
I dont know if it comes from their attitude that they are attractive so there for can speak to others as second class people.
So my advise to everybody is talk heaps on the phone first of all and see if there is anything there mentally.
Does he or she make you laugh?
Are they considerate? Or do they interupt you in converstaion?
Do they call late at night when you are likely to be in bed?
Do they ask how your day has been? and! really mean it?
Do they have a nice voice and manner.
Do you share anything mentally at all - even views on politics.
I would never ever date a guy who asked me first off - What dress size are you.
I think its rude and very disrespectful to any woman
Then again i come from the old school where all woe were treated with respect. Its not a meat market/ Well I guess this place is but thats not the way it should be.
I think the aurthor of this post is no gentleman or he never would have mentioned his problem
I can not think of anything worse than a life with a self centered shallow person and no charlie I am not fat but it upsets me to see larger ladies being spoken about like this.
Your terrible Murial | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 12:22:42 PM |
Haven't you learned that a few extra pounds, in reality means; OBESE
*yawn* that was said pages ago,can't you think up anything original?
but it still is true generally | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 12:30:11 PM | I thought a few extra pounds meant, "slightly above average" ... a lot of people add more to average than I would though.
I'm not saying that judgmentally... I'm just saying that my perception is different. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 12:37:47 PM | Dearest Clive,
I have watched every single one of your films. 10 times. Each.
I am your most avid fan, as you can see,
Please consider my request for a date with the utmost care consideration and contemplatioin.
Before you decide, consider this:
I shall die if you refuse me. I WILL.
I am,
Your most humble servant,
ever,
forever and ever and ever...
Merf720 
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Posted: 3/17/2007 12:53:35 PM | Still the most entertaining thread out there right now...and still going strong.
Yeah, Clive is a hotty. I'm so hoping...heh...why don't ALL OF US FATTY'S write Clive...his mail box would be exploding! 
I have posted earlier (a disclaimer to the ones who drop by with their little one liners without reading the whole flavor of this thread).
I will be going up to British Columbia to meet a man I have met on line. He hangs at the gym and is very atheltic. I did not initiate contact, he did. We've been chatting on the phone now for over six months and we first started writing a year ago.
After reading all this, I had a chance to speak to him about it. It was difficult to start, but basically I pointed out to him how I have tried to be honest about my weight. I didn't want him to be "surprised". He responded with how he finds me very attractive and not fat...I responded with "Hey, Bertha Butt and her sister are coming up to visit! Get a grip, I am fat!" He said he did not care and to please come up, please! So, the Butt sisters are headin north!
Like some one else said earlier...we try to be honest (some of us...alot of us) . You just can't win.
Sincerely,
Short Round Goddess. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 12:58:38 PM | | Well, I just checked out Promisez...nice looking man. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 1:19:44 PM | ACtually if you do a thread search you'll find a plethoria of weight issues on POF.
There is two schools of thought on this..
The men who are "upgrading" as they put it from the one they are free from or left or got left by. I heard a few guy's speaking and they said you never move down, always up in looks.
I've personally been attacked on this site by a man who actually had put that if you were a few extra lbs, just admit you were a fat cow.
There's a belief that if you have just a head shot, you're obviously a fat cow.
I call them phatphobics.. those who see a weight problem as a blight on a person's soul.. That being fat defines them more than anything else in their world. The ones that put in their profiles that they are seeking fit, athletic, slim, trim, women in their profiles.
Many of these same men sport a bald spot, a spare tire or could even be closet snorers but th weight issue is the defining factor.
I for one, no longer post a pic and don't care to since I was tired of saying hello to men and being told that I was out of their "weight class".
Good luck to you all. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 1:35:23 PM | I noticed though even though no picture, you state your body type as "prefer not to say"......hmmmmmm
Would it not be better to just show yourself as you are and let those viewing decide? If you are looking for just friends to chat with or know, then why would it make a difference? And if you are looking to date and maybe have a relationship, then it should make a difference to both you and the one potentially interested.
I believe that if you are open about your life style then showing pictures to prove that life style should be a given. Those pictures should be recent and multiple, showing face and full body. Why would you potentially want to get hurt by hiding the obvious, when it will be seen sooner or later?
It is no different than being in a club or bar and all around you can tell what you look like and you will attract those interested in your body type and then your mind and attitude will take it from there. If just interested in friends to laugh or talk with, then that will be determined too.
Just my opinion......  | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 1:41:03 PM | Actually I'm just here for the forums, mostly to chat with people I know. I stripped my profile down cause I'm honestly not interested in meeting anyone.
I tried. .. for a very long time.. This is new profile but on my old I was very upfront, pics, body size and shape and like i said I found that the "majority" and this does not mean ALL men were less than interested due to my weight. I'm an educated, articulate women and I don't stop traffic in horror in the looks department.
I was approached by two groups of men..
The younger crowd looking to score with an experienced women and the older men who were hoping to score with a younger women.
The men in my age range really were looking to date women in their 30's and I watched and observed my large group of POF friends and their conquests and relationships.
Most of this is based on observation, not stats or facts.
and JMHO as well. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 1:41:07 PM | You know I haven't read all 78+ pages, but I think that while the weight issue is admitedly a personal preference, and by all means go for what you know, I also think it's hard for one person to judge. I mean because it's a personal preference it's all so subjective. So if your profile states, height and weight proportionate, perhaps this is something that needs to be stessed in your conversations, prior to arranging a meet. Granted you are still going to get the people who don't believe they have to tell the truth here, it's like a free pass, because the internet isn't reality. Oh, but that's a whole other topic, and you don't want me to get started there. 
I agree that liars are really irritating, but if you decided to meet someone off here, wasn't this height/weight issue discussed? I would like to think if I was going to put myself out there for a meeting with someone, that a whole lot of our cards would be on the table, not all, because that could take years, but the important ones for sure.
I myself am a BBW, and while I am quite active, I am also 6 ft tall, so I'm NEVER going to be petite. It would be ridiculous for that to be one of my life dreams.
Although funmanlooking obviously has some unrealistic goals too. LOL j/k fun I'm sure it's the >3x a week alcohol comsumption that's aging you far greater than your years.
At the same time, I don't want anyone who isn't interested in the TOTAL package. Why would I want someone who wants me, so long as I lose weight, or so long as I grow my hair long again, or so long as I ____________. You fill in the blank.
After 45 years, I know who I am, finally, and I know what I want, and if that's not what the Lord decides I need, then I'm happy with that too! 
And yes promisez I do think we still need to like people from the neck up, cause if that doesn't work all the rest is just window dressing!  | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 3:28:59 PM | but it still is true generally
Yes it's true of some,or many on here(I don't know about generally,however),all the people I know list themselves accordingly.The thing that is annoying,is people just apply a blanket judgement,and the rest of us who ARE honest get persecuted based on the actions of others.That totally sucks balls,in my opinion.
Merf,you cheeky monkey:laugh: I love it, you're the reason I keep coming back to this thread!! | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 3:44:53 PM | PEOPLE this post has been running for 2 and a half years . 78 pages now. Please let it DIE!
I'm sure everything can be said has been. Let is die die die die die die.
Let it go you can do it.  let it die. shhhh die off now. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 4:11:06 PM | | goomba2 if you dont like it dont come in here. no one says you have to read anything in here if you dont want too . have you stopped to consider that most of the people in here like each other and come in here to read what they have written and to respond back in a group where mostly we all know each other on line . why do some people feel the need to try to come in here to put an end to what others think is amusing ? oh and i see clive owen has posted again. imagine clive owen in her .eeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk i am going to faint. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 4:25:20 PM | I'm with you Ducky, but it is a big issue. Unfortunately an obsession.
I am a large full figured person. I resent the fact that we are to conform to the limited descriptions. I had my profile critiqued by the profile master. He recommended that I choose the "A few extra pounds" he had an explanation of length and I decided to see if he was right. So far it's a toss up.
Happy Trails, Blu. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 5:14:29 PM | i say that the category "a few extra pounds" is the biggest issue on this dating site bar none. nobody likes my idea but i still say the most accurate thing to do is put a full body photo in tight white clothes and in your profile state your weight. anybody agree? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 5:31:54 PM | Promisez ~ I thank you for your kind words. It was really sweet of you to say and it's refreshing to know there are actually gentleman out there that can appreciate a woman for who she is ... regardless of 'a few extra pounds'.
It's funny... I was almost 70 lbs heavier when I was with my ex. It was he that showed me my beauty... inside and out. He couldn't get enough of me... totally loved my belly lol. And he is young, slim and athletic... go figure huh? Maybe because he's from and in Ireland that there's a different take on what body type makes a woman attractive. I was somewhat insecure about my body up until we met and it took him a long time and persistance ... unconditional love really, until I saw myself through his eyes. Just before we broke up I went on Weight Watchers because I wanted to just feel healthier... the last time we saw each other I'd lost 45 lbs and we had an amazing time together... but three weeks later we broke up. My old way of thinking was like 'huh?... I'm not used to the guy leaving when I LOSE weight!'. But truthfully it had zero to do with that and lots to do with where we were both at in our lives and life experiences.
Anyway... I've stayed at my current weight for three years now and am completely comfortable with how I look and feel. The MORE important thing than that is that I feel HEALTHY. So again Promisez... I thank you... for having the ability to accept us 'just as we are'.  | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 6:24:20 PM | | When I see a person, male or female, I know I only see a very small fraction of who that person really is. A very very very small small part is the physical shell we reside in. It's not up to me to decide what kind of shell a person has, it's up to them. It's also not up to me to judge anyone based solely upon that. Lord knows there are enough people that judge everyone these days based solely upon their own wants and desires, their own thoughts of what society should be in their worlds, no matter how big or small they may be. There is just so much to learn about each individual, wants, dreams, desires and goals and all the fun that can be had walking down that road with them, even if its only for a mile in their lives. Everyone has their own path to follow and I need to respect their choices but I have to have my own set of eyes also. Depeche, you know I'm proud of you, thank you. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 7:26:32 PM | | I have no problem admitting I am a big woman...I do however kinda wish that Big and Tall was its own seperate selection casue I am a Big Beautiful Woman not a Big and Tall man...I guess it just comes down to our society and the "perfect" woman that females are supossed to aspire to be. You can't be too thin, but then you can't be too big. No wonder women make up 90% of people with eating disorders....Ladies here is to loving our selves just the way we are big or little! | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 7:56:42 PM | snoogs!!!! i love you too, sis!  thanks! i think this thread has been a lot of fun, especially the last 476 pages of postings -- those were definitely the best so far! 
promisez: ok, i've decided: i am dumping clive owen. will you marry me? i think you are the man of my dreams. you are, at least, and by far, the coolest guy i have come across on this site in many moons.  | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 8:10:48 PM |
No wonder women make up 90% of people with eating disorders....Ladies here is to loving our selves just the way we are big or little!
of this 90% im sure is included a large number of women who eat too much | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 8:24:11 PM | promisez: ok, i've decided: i am dumping clive owen. will you marry me? i think you are the man of my dreams. you are, at least, and by far, the coolest guy i have come across on this site in many moons.
Mr. Promisez is definately cool. No doubt about it. But there are lots of others, too, you've got to admit. Here's a funny twist on things. On reading these threads, there are a few very vocal people on both sides (can't stand chubby/can't stand skinny), but if we actually did a scientific survey of all the posts, I think the vast majority are attracted to quite a range, depending on the person. Lots have made nice comments, never to be acknowleged because the crazies are, well, so LOUD.
I've also been a bit sad that a few of the men I consider very, very attractive are not only OK with curvier women, but obviously prefer them. They seem to be of the opinion that smaller women are nasty or self-absorbed or lack sensuality. Maybe they've had bad experiences, I guess, but it's still a bit sad. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 8:41:09 PM |
No wonder women make up 90% of people with eating disorders....Ladies here is to loving our selves just the way we are big or little!
of this 90% im sure is included a large number of women who eat too much
You know Clive, you had a 50% chance to get that wrong (eat too much/eat too little), and you STILL got it right. You should be proud.
Smart boy. Have a cookie.
Dawn, I hear what you are saying about being sad about people judging those who are thin as 'nasty or self-absorbed or lacking in sensuality'. That's every bit as bad as judging someone who is fat.
What is so wonderful about Mr. Promisez is that he's everything I want humankind to be... simply accepting of the 'shells' we live in, and instead, more interested in knowing the souls. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 8:48:47 PM | | (of this 90% im sure is included a large number of women who eat too much) well duhhhhhhh! clive owen is not to swift on the uptake is he . an eating disorder is eating to much fool depending on the particular disorder . if you are anorexic you dont eat , bulimic and every other disorder all revovles around eating to much . you know i really think plenty of fish should be made aware that not only is someone impersonating a well known actor but he has no pictures of himself so we can see with our own eyes . personally i think our clive owen impersonator is a 450 man living in his mothers basement who decided he wanted to be a different kind of person on line . clive owen wanna be go get your own pictures down . this is not funny anymore . | |
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