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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 101
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Apparently Im too hairy!Page 5 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)

Sometimes the only way a woman can get true love is to shave all her hair and hope for the best. The price of a razor is small compared to the prospect of one day dying alone after a life lived without ever having experienced the joys of intimate bliss. Even of you add in the price of shaving cream, clearly the cost is well worth it.

I know this is a sarcastic post, but it holds some truth.

Well, the dying alone part can't be prevented. We'll all die alone no matter what we do - because you can't take anyone with you when you go. Anywho...

Once a man is done shaving himself from head to toe, changes the blade and hands me the razor - I will then gladly take it and do the same. : )
 traceymx5
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 102
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 9:02:45 AM
What a sensible answer chill pill thankyou.
We met at a pub, he held my hand straightaway, we had flirted on the phone every night and he was a cheeky chappie and full of laughter.
He stared into my eyes all night, stroked my hair, massaged my shoulders and back in public, kissed me an awful lot in public, proper full snogs and everything, he was not shy at all. He asked me to stand up and turn round so he could see my figure and how slim i was and he commented i was just like the photos on pof. He asked me whether i shaved under my arms, then told me he did not like coming into contact with 'down there hair'. I thought all this a bit strange. He continued to buy coffee and then wanted to sit in my car to see what its like as its an mx5 and then full on snog again and then we parted and he asked me to ring him when i got home. that same night he invited me to bingo with his family and friends, then the next day told me it was too soon and he would call after bingo, he didnt and then texted me to say he would ring, he didnt. when i tried to call him once just before bed, no answer. i texted him the next day to ask what was happenign and he said he could see no future with us. on facebook he messaged me and told me he could not stop thinking about the feel of the facial hair and that he prefer to enjoy kissing someone. It did upset me a bit as i was trying to control and remove it and had been for a blood test that did not show anything.

But now I laugh at the comment, because i know i have had lots of dates and one two year relationship that have been great, they accepted me for who i was and fancied me.
I continue to treat it and if you look at my pof photos you will see i look ok.
the guy is forgotten and i love my life and not worried about it now. But i created the thread to see what people thought and what they would do in a similar situation.
I told the guy best wishes and left it at that.
 Chill Pill
Joined: 11/19/2009
Msg: 103
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 9:21:42 AM
I'm still waiting for some who stood so firmly in his defence for a preference to explain why the kissing?
Nothing against you OP. I think you are an attractive woman... but If I think UGLY or unsightly about a persons face whether it be a proboscis or a wart the size of a third eye on his forehead...I don't think KISSY FACE ALL NIGHT.

I mean FTW? Really if it was all so hideous to him that he couldn't tolerate it why did he kiss you more than ONCE?

I used to hang with a group of less than sophmoric men when I was in my early 20's. In that social circle the mens ages ranged from 19 to about 32. Some of them used to belly up at the bar and tease about "doing a fattie" or having to "put a bag over her head". It always amaze me how some men can rank on the ladies they are intimate with or play KISSY FACE with.. I mean WHY GO THERE? It's was a poor reflection in their mirror no one elses. NOT the ladies.

You can be ready and willing to bump the gorging uglies but a little hair on someones face is a turn off? Then when little Mr.Willy wants to go home the guy starts picking you apart against his dream fantasy girl porno queen and thinks a few hairs makes a difference. Tell him to buy a farken blow up doll or a nice ripe watermellon and carve a hole in it.

I've had guys try to put me down when ending a real relationship and I just say STFU you ARE the one that came back over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. That wasn't because I was ugly. Fools are saying he told you the real reason but I think if this particular guy was moving his lips I would wonder about the truth. Their could be a number of reasons and they have nothing to do with the hair on your chinny chin chin.

HE was so endearing that night? Hmmmm... I wonder what his intent was or why such a schmooZZZIng routine when he was with you and then the boomarang getting back to you on the phone. He did a 180 but it all falls back on his lap because he was a
phony schomozzzzer and prolly just looking to entertain himself for the night when he had already rejected you after the FIRST KISS, because of his F&CKTARD issues about woman with hair.

You are better than me OP. You wished him well. I would have put a voo doo curse on him to make all his f%cKen hair fall out.

I'm happy to see your blowing past this one and yeah, meet men with confidence and assurance that one AZZZhats opinion of you doesn't amount to a hill of dried up old beans. It's what YOU think of YOU that matters. Let him go pull his KISSY FACE bull chitting routine with some idiot that will fall for it overnite and be happy you didn't.
 2heat
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 104
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 9:24:25 AM
Yes he could have been more tactful. But a man not dating a woman because she has some facial hair isn't any different or worse than a woman who doesn't like bald men or men with long hair. Another possible theory. Perhaps he wasn't interested in you due to another reason that he didn't want to reveal. So he mentioned the first thing that came to his mind.
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 105
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 10:19:13 AM
I'm still waiting for some who stood so firmly in his defence for a preference to explain why the kissing?
Nothing against you OP. I think you are an attractive woman... but If I think UGLY or unsightly about a persons face whether it be a proboscis or a wart the size of a third eye on his forehead...I don't think KISSY FACE ALL NIGHT.


Ok this is a easy one!!! They met in a bar they hit it off. (lighting in a bar is not normally bright).....for good reason!!! Have you ever heard of going to bed with a 10 and waking up with a 1?!?!?
I digress ..Anyhow they begin to talk and hold hands the night progresses they get more friendly. The kissing starts ,they like each other they part for the night and start phone contact. Now here is were the problem comes in they meet in the light of day!!! He notices the chin hair and he is taken back. Maybe he thinks he can over look it however in the end it gets the better of him and he calls to break it off.
Now all of this is just a guess so it really means nothing.

However notice the OP has now posted that it doesn't bother her she has had many dates and A TWO YEAR RELATIONSHIP SINCE!!!! How fricking warped do you have to be to post some passing meeting from two years ago?!?!?!?!?

AS I SAID BEFORE THIS WHOLE THREAD WAS POSTED TO BASH A POOR GUY THAT CAN'T EVEN DEFEND HIMSELF!!!!!

The sad commentary is most women and some men jumped right in!!!

I have to admit it has been a riot watching the mindless crowd lambaste this guy that we now find out is two years removed!!!!! ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EDIT.....Rushluv thanks for seeing through the fa-sod of this post. You have something most ladies on here don't. See every woman can look sexy with the right pose or reviling clothes......However to catch my attention you need a logical mind.....Make me want to lick your mind and then you have my attention!!!
 traceymx5
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 106
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 10:30:05 AM
errrr no it was very well lit in the pub, it was last wednesday evening.
And before i met him i was married from 1990 till 2001 and had two year relationship from 2006-2008 and one of my ex-boyfriends from work is one of my best friends and he said there was nothing wrong with me.

Get your facts right miyawn67. And i dont do one night stand s or anything, its disgusting, I am a lady and act like one.
We have not met in the light of day either.

You're the one who fricking warped with all your exclamations marks.
Why are you getting so upset and angry?
Its a normal discussion.
I was not bashing the guy, i wished him the best.
If i date someone and it does not work out, i dont ignore calls and texts I ring them up or meet them face to face and tell them that we are not suitable and wish them best for the future.
 Arpeggia
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 107
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 10:36:59 AM
^^^
miyawn67... read again. She did NOT say the 2 yr relationship and other dates were after the hairphobe. I suppose you didn't read the part multiple dates with him after meeting in the pub.. before he showed his true colors?

OP sorry you had to endure this guy. He had no class IMHO.

Arpeggia
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 108
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 10:41:10 AM

But now I laugh at the comment, because i know i have had lots of dates and one two year relationship that have been great, they accepted me for who i was and fancied me.
I continue to treat it and if you look at my pof photos you will see i look ok.


How about you make your writing plain!!! The above quote is yours......the words But now set up that this was after the fact.....In the past tense.....So if you are being honest and it was prior to the meeting then you should have conveyed that in your writing!!!

BTW I am not angry or mad.....Just amazed at the masses!!!
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 109
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 10:43:11 AM
from your getting blood tests taken to see if you had a hormone imbalance because of your trying to get to the route (...root.. :)) of the hair situation, it appears as though you knew you had a bit of a problem going on? And from what you've stated about him, it seems as though he really dislikes body hair on a woman; I'd say it was simply a matter of two incompatible people and you not liking his reasons for saying so... he was impolite if you didn't ask him what put him off, but if you did ask him, then he had every right to tell you, imo
 nosho2010
Joined: 3/7/2010
Msg: 110
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 10:58:46 AM
This is getting really banal. He probably didn't really notice the hairs until they started blowing in the wind. That's a date-breaker. Either pull them out, shave them, wear a bag over your head or sit at home with your mug of Ovaltine and your cats. I'm bored. You're probably one of those chicks who has that band of hair between your belly button and your pubes. Now THAT's gross!!
 mr.evil
Joined: 11/14/2009
Msg: 111
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 11:06:15 AM
Hmmmm, still an interesting read, I so enjoy the women, who wish to impale the guy at any cost.

Why the kissing, so can we be honest? Maybe he would've slept with the OP, even if he wasn't going to date her again, due to said hair. Maybe he didn't notice the hair until the end of said kissing. Maybe he wanted to kiss her to see if he was attracted enough to overlook said hair.

What's interesting to me, is the threads we have where literally 1,000's of guys, say the women don't answer their emails, or refuse to date them, after these complaints, the women jump on and sniff "we have our preferences", so all the guys should just accept it, cause that's how the women want it.

NOW we have a guy, who the woman actually liked, or at least enough, to want to see him again, and the women wail "foul". He was an ogre, uncouth, unsympathetic and someone who revenge should be committed upon, for failing to see her attributes and virtues, despite his "preferences", and the fact that SHE asked the question.

Double standard much ladies?
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 112
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 11:12:07 AM
nosho......You own me dude!!! OVALTINE----CATS.....That's funny right there I don't care who you are!!!

OT.....OP tell us when he rang you to break it off after he said he was not interested in dating you, how hard did you push for a reason?

I find it hard to believe he just blurted it out on his own. Because in your own words "you asked". Now let's see if she backtracks or will the truth finally come out?!?!?
 Chill Pill
Joined: 11/19/2009
Msg: 113
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 11:38:13 AM
Well gentleman I have to admit that when or if a man ignored me after a first date I would not chase after him. I let the men do the calling and pursuing for the first few dates. If they don't come around again I don't look for them or a reason why. There are to many fish in the sea to worry about one flounder.

What I do not understand is the kissy face first date if a man has these insecurities about hair. NOW.
I would follow your logic magic but the guy when he is doing his inspection asks a few strange questions about hair. RIGHT?
He asks about her pits and her privates. THAT would have been a red flag for me right there. I would never have KISSED him after that. I don't expect to go out with a grown man on a first date to get "aquainted" and have to tell him if their is carpeting on the ground level or bare floors. I like a man that is gentleman enough to reserve those questions for when we know each other better and their has been some mutual suggested inuendo.

ANYWAY.. to get back to my point. IF the guy indeed had a HAIR issue, then would NOT that have been the FIRST thing he would have NOTICED.. about the OP.
I mean it's his preference. SO... wouldn't you expect that on first site and his stand up inspection the OP describes that the guy would have LOOKED for said intrusive and hideous looking HAIRS ON HER CHIN????
Please.
I think that is logic.

I KNOW if before I go on a first meet. BEFORE I go if I have any real preference I ASK.
Like ... Are you married? seperated? Since when? breakfast? or Are you really 45, not 65 becuase your pic looks like it's from the 1980's.
I ASK.. and if I go on a first date I am on guard for the mental preferences I have, be they there or not.

If I find out a man is married, let's say. I DO NOT proceed to play kissy face games with him. If he looks like he is 70 and posted he is 45. I DO NOT proceed to play kissy face games with him. If he had HAIRS growing out his EYEBALLS and that is a deal breaker for me..... I DO NOT proceed to play kissy face games with him.

The OP. says he realized this WHEN HE KISSED HER... How many times did he have to kiss her to get a feel for the facial hair? ONCE MAYBE?????? You think?

I don't look for the REASON... really, who cares, who needs to know EXACTLY why and who ever really gets the TRUTH... I don't think the hair was the only issue the guy had but I think it was the one he was willing to give up. WHO KNOWS? Not a soul but him and I think that guessing or trying to figure it out is foolish.
In the end you still don't have a date and you still haven't found the ONE. Knowing that you are NOT one mans cup of tea doesn't mean you aren't very sippable to another.
Yum.. yum.
 SassySky
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 114
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 12:02:35 PM
Well OP you did ask!!! He was honest and told you.

I personally dont' like body hair on a "woman". I believe in Waxing and keeping things waxed... I am a woman and that is my preference for personal hygiene he could have felt the same way. I recently offered to pay for my daughter to have a spa day if she included waxing as part of it. She was also offended til I told her in my opinion her chin hair and forearm hair belonged on a guy. What one gets comfortable with is a huge turn off to others. She came back and felt totally awesome and couldn't believe how silky her skin felt.

If you are happy with who and what you are, then let it go and well find someone that doesn't mind a bit of body hair.


<div class="quote">I thought it really shallow of him to say that.
May have been in your mind, in his he was being honest.

I guess this comes down to be careful what you ask for.


EDIT...
In all fairness to the guy since he isn't here to defend himself, maybe he didn't get poked by a stray hair till the end, then it bothered him.

Come on what would have been worse he date her, then try to change her and her body style. That would have made him a cad instead the guy was upfront and honest. Isn't that something we all say we want.
 traceymx5
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 115
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 12:14:19 PM
nosho im not a chick im a lady, no band of hair between belly button and my pubes you idiot. fair skinned get it! If you are bored with this thread then why comment on it.
You're gross!
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 116
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 12:23:32 PM


We met at a pub, he held my hand straightaway, we had flirted on the phone every night and he was a cheeky chappie and full of laughter. He stared into my eyes all night, stroked my hair, massaged my shoulders and back in public, kissed me an awful lot in public, proper full snogs and everything, he was not shy at all. He asked me to stand up and turn round so he could see my figure and how slim i was and he commented i was just like the photos on pof. He asked me whether i shaved under my arms, then told me he did not like coming into contact with 'down there hair'.


I'm curious if he tried to get you to/convince you to have sex with him. He was VERY forward. The last line (above) is obviously a sexual reference. He was extremely attracted to you physically. I'm not buying the "facial hair" comment. Sounds like an excuse. While it appears that he might have a bit of a (no) hair fetish, it might just be curiosity because he was thinking of what it would be like for you to be naked (and have sex with him). He was clearly coming on to you, BIG time.

Did you have a conversation about sex? Did you happen to explain to him that you don't have one-night stands and that you wait awhile to have sex? If so, that would explain his "excuse". He saw no "future" with you because he was hoping to get lucky. . .



 Abbicci
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 117
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 12:24:53 PM
There was this guy I worked with years ago who let me in on his break up technique.
Anytime he wanted to stop seeing a woman, rather than falling off the face of the earth he would tell her he no longer wanted to see her because of something about her appearance.

He would say they were overweight, too short, too tall, weren't pretty enough, had funny teeth or horrible breath or something else that fit the bill. He did this so they could call him an asshat and he got to go right out the door without worrying about her ever calling him again or even saying hello to him if they ran into him somewhere. He also felt it gave them something to rant about, and after they got over the initial shock they wouldn't spend anytime being heart broken over such a tool.

I don't think it's any worst than falling off the face of the earth or even finding out the real reason, because sometimes the real reasons are much more horrible.
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 118
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 12:56:09 PM
Finally the comments are getting a little more balanced.
I have noticed the OP has avoided my question of how hard did she push for a cause.....That alone speaks volumes!!!

Ms Cheevious.....Sasquatch hiding in your bloomers.....Again that is funny I don't care who you are!!!

I know some think I have been harsh on this thread. However even a murder suspect caught on video gets a trial if they want one. This poor guy was blindsided without any recourse.
I felt the need to try and shine a light on his side of the problem.

Op you are a attractive lady and I am sure have no trouble dating. However in the future you might want to take criticism with a grain of salt.
I took a class once for my job that said if 10 customers were dissatisfied only one would complain to you the rest would tell everybody else!!!
Criticism is a chance to look at ourselves through the eyes of others. Even hurtful things can bring a positive change if we think about what is said and not dwell on HOW it was said.
 traceymx5
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 119
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 1:02:20 PM
excuse me but they are not noticeable, they were very short when we were kissing, i had removed them. Why on earth would friends/family say something????

I have just been on pof site and he just messaged me 'hi tracey are you ok huni x'. I replied back 'why are you messaging me, I am not interested in you any more, I am pretty and too good for you now, please do not message me anymore'

He replied 'too good and pretty you are the one with hairs on your chin lol'
then i noticed he had blocked me - yippee!



 traceymx5
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 120
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 1:05:54 PM
mjyawn67 it speaks volumes does it??
I texted why he did not want to see me again and he messaged me on facebook. End of Story.

I do take critiscm and i have been trying to sort this hair problem out. Its not easy you know. I look after myself and have pride in myself and the way I look. I like myself.
Im a lovely person i have been told and will defend myself if I feel criticised too much.

I am now chatting to a nice guy and have lots of men friends through being in a car club and a volunteer for british waterways society and I love my life.
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 121
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 1:18:00 PM
excuse me but they are not noticeable, they were very short when we were kissing, i had removed them. Why on earth would friends/family say something????


According to your above post they were not noticeable....However he noticed them?!?!?!?

It can't be both ways!!! This is exactly why I have been so hard on this.
you slant the facts and twist them to fit your agenda!!!

Now either they were noticeable or not.
One statement is the truth the other has to be a lie!

All you are doing is showing your true colors!!!

So he messaged you on Facebook hummmm When you text or message someone it is impossible to know if they are saying it with compassion or not.
So now that that is out in the open how do you know he was trying to be hurtful?
YOU ASKED HE ANSWERED!!!

So now fellow posters what do you think of the facts now? She has clearly contradicted herself in saying they were noticeable in one post and that changed it not noticeable in another.
The scalding statement turns out to be a message on facebook!!!!

I think that it is plain to see her intent now!!!
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 122
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 1:39:10 PM
Frankly.. I am surprised to see this thread go on for so long...

 nosho2010
Joined: 3/7/2010
Msg: 123
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 1:58:06 PM
This is what happens when you ask for an opinion. Instead of asking if chin hairs are a turn-off, maybe it should have said "this guy didn't like my chin hairs, but I'm still lovely, right? Aren't I pretty?" I'm old school....ask me a direct question, you'll generally get a direct answer. Nobody is saying you're unattractive, Tracey (quite the contrary), but finding hair on a woman's face would be tantamount to finding man boobs or body odor. Not something you expect to find, and when you do....whoa! Just how it is. Try tweezers. It'll probably hurt like hell, but whatever. Forget the eyebrow thing, unless a woman has a uni-brow, it's not anything to worry about.
 traceymx5
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 124
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 1:59:30 PM
My last post now.

One. they are noticeable only to him when he kissed me. they were very short.

Two. every day they are not noticeable because i remove them, listen! i would have been told if my workmates or friends saw them. I went out with my last boyfriend and he loved me the way i was, he says to this day there is nothing wrong with me and that i am lovely and pretty.

its like shaving your legs, the day after you shave them they grow back slightly then you shave them that night.

Gordon bennet !
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 125
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/28/2010 2:03:14 PM
Two. every day they are not noticeable because i remove them


Huh? You remove the hairs every day? They must grow back at a tremendous rate for you to be able to remove them EACH day!

FFS!!

Something wrong with THAT picture...
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