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 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 151
Apparently Im too hairy!Page 7 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)

(jrbickers123) Simple rule of treat others how you'd want to be treated, and I'd never want my date criticizing my appearance negatively.


Sometimes it's better to be told what we need to hear, rather than what we want to hear...

Jack
 Synnie
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 152
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/29/2010 5:28:07 PM

I would never say anything critical to a man like that.



Are you sure about that?

What if he had really bad breath and wanted a kiss? Would you kiss him or offer him a mint?
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 153
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/29/2010 5:31:02 PM

(PinkAngel) While we are on this 'Hairy Subject'....some people may say that long, flowing hair is for women only...I'm just sayin'.


I have long, flowing hair, and I agree: it IS just for women.

It's just for women to run their fingers through, ask me if they can braid it, fantasize about what it looks like on their pillows... (ooh, inside voice...)

Jack
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 154
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/29/2010 5:45:15 PM

(Irish Eyez) Huh? You remove the hairs every day? They must grow back at a tremendous rate for you to be able to remove them EACH day!

FFS!!


I have the occasional stray hair popping out high up on my cheek, closer to my eye than my mouth... for some reason, I get a mental picture of a (unionized) contractor looking at a set of blueprints in my genetic code and saying, "Hey, Mac, says here that there's supposed to be a hair right here, so..."

Jack

"I knew I shoulda turned left at Alba-koikie..."
 Chill Pill
Joined: 11/19/2009
Msg: 155
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/29/2010 8:07:21 PM
Okay. Mightymouse can save the day.

Now. I liked to ask the OP something seriously. Was this guy perfect. Please tell me there is something about this guy that you knew would have eventually had to grow on you. I mean NOBODY meats Mr. Perfect.
There must have been one thing, or something that you weren't impressed with. Was there anything? Maybe his nose a lil crooked. His eyes set to close. His ears to big.
I mean. Was this guy PERFECT? I mean you didn't have a date with Brad Pitt did you?

Most men when they are rejecting someone don't get that personal. They don't tell you the truth right off. They try to either disappear or say as few words possible. In my humble experience of being rejected. I think the exit is QUICK. Men don't really
split hairs with you. They just try to keep it simple.

Why the guy had to get so personal suggests to me that you maybe pursued to much of an answer. Most men try to keep a rejection light. Unless the man is a complete moron. Most will say something like. I don't think this will work. Simple.

As soon as I hear that. I say Good BYE!!That's enough. If it's a person I am just getting interested in. Barely aquainted with. Then fine. Good enough I know you were just checking me out anyway.
Whether we got kissy faced or not, it wouldnt matter. Enough SAID.

If it was someone I had been invested with for years. MAYBE. I would have spent some time pressing for an answer or questioning him via FB or phone or whatever. Or
tracking him down to the ends of the earth to spite him. Whatever. BUT ... you just met this guy. Right?

If it was after a first meet!! FFS MEH- Who cares? Was he really Mr. Perfect?
 bsp71
Joined: 11/18/2009
Msg: 156
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/29/2010 11:44:14 PM
Yeah it was shallow of him. Me- I have a hairy back but I use an electric razor to shave it. It would be nice though to have someone special to help me since I cannot reach everyplace on my back and would be good to have a completely clean shaved back, lol.

Just dont worry- he is not worth it. Someone better will come along.
 traceymx5
Joined: 2/17/2010
Msg: 157
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/30/2010 11:26:06 AM
Hi chill pill, no he was not perfect, he was an ex-smoker, his teeth were a bit discoloured and his dress sense was casual. He told me he did not like anyone touching his hair and he grew it long on top to cover losing some hair. I looked past this when we me as when we spoke on the phone we got on and laughed a lot, and i thought his personality then was good. He was excited and full of himself a bit and he kept staring at my face and in my eyes and i kept staring back. I guess we were like two teenagers at first and i was bowled over a bit.

I only asked once why and i got the message through facebook and thats the gods honest truth. I was brought up not to lie and i dont see the point in lying.

He has since messaged me again on the dating site on sunday and when i said i was not interested and was too good for him he messaged back 'well you are the one with hairs on your chin'. Now also today i have received a text message from him saying 'hi trace how are you huni' I have ignored this as I think he is trying to provoke another chance to have a go at me. My friend has told me hes got some 'brass neck' texting me after rejecting me.

I dont like him, and i have enjoyed my weekend and had a good time without him. it was one date and now I can laugh at it. I have been chatting to another guy since and we may meet up soon.

But if he continues to text or message, i seriously have to be careful because i dont want him to get to the stage of harrassing me. But i am hoping the texts will stop soon. I dont care anymore i have moved on.
 carharttman2
Joined: 3/8/2010
Msg: 158
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/30/2010 11:49:34 AM
Why would you care what a person that you recently met has to say about your appearance if it's negative?
Unless YOU asked him what he thought of YOU, then it was rude and inconsiderate of him to criticize your appearance.
Unless you check him on this...or you like to be picked on...you should probably return to the bank and start fishing again.
 JeepHammer
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 159
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/31/2010 11:49:30 AM
Some guys just look at too much porn/advertising and think that 'Humans' actually look like that... Hairless and airbrushed.

He's a jerk for two reasons,
1. He doesn't have any reasonable expectations for a 'REAL WOMAN'...

Real women have hair, and your are a moron if you don't think one is going to pop up here and there unexpected...

If any adult male DOES NOT have hair growing in places he wishes he didn't,
Then he's lying about his age, or he's hairless through genetic defect!

2. He was VERY CRASS in the way he informed you about it.
Personally, it would have been MUCH NICER to have bought you a day at the 'Spa' for waxing, facial, ect. to get what he wanted...
(every woman needs a 'Beauty Budget', and any guy that wants a good looking woman better deal with it!)
That would have been a pleasant way for BOTH OF YOU to get what you wanted...
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 160
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 3/31/2010 1:24:05 PM
Too much hair? Simple try cosmetic Chemotherapy, not only will it sap some possible cancer that you may not know of, you can be completely hairless, yes even down there. And it's kind of sexy. Now if that seems to be a bit on the radical side, a less invasive, less painful and more pleasant way to deal with this is tell the guy to fvck off.

Hehehe.
 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 161
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Posted: 3/31/2010 8:14:04 PM
about the chin hair thing - I'd just tell him that he can transplant it right onto his bald spot!
 edencapwell
Joined: 3/13/2009
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Posted: 3/31/2010 10:19:43 PM
It is NOT shallow of him to say that. I think you should shave any facial hair that you have ASAP. Women with facial hair is a no no. ewwww!! Ladies should have hair only on their heads and maybe alittle "down there" too, but thats about

oh really? says who?? just because YOU don't like doesn't mean it's gross. why should we care what YOU like anyway?? if God didn't want women to have facial hair, then he wouldn't have created us that way duh!! it's just natural and normal but you are brainwashed by all these stupid magazine covers of women who aren't natural!! they are all airbrushed and fake!! personally i don't like underarm hair on a guy either but i doubt any of them will shave it for me.
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 163
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Posted: 3/31/2010 11:04:49 PM

According to howthingswork.com, encyclopedia.com, lavitalaser.com, dictionary.com. etc. :

Most of our bodies (male and female) are covered in fine hair, much of which is not visible to the naked eye.

I have a mirror that magnifies by 15x, so I can see the little, tiny fine hairs. I can also see the longer, darker ones easily and get rid of them.

If I go out with a guy and see that he missed a few hairs when shaving, would I say something to him about it? Maybe. Maybe not. IF I did, I would be playful or tease him about it. It's so easy for him/you/anyone to just pluck or shave them, so why not give people a break about it? (Character flaws, rudeness, disrespect, etc. are things to be firm on.) This is such a MINOR, easily fixable thing. I don't expect "him" to look or be perfect, just as I am not. As long as he takes reasonable pride and care in his appearance, I'm cool about it.

He has since messaged me again on the dating site on sunday and when i said i was not interested and was too good for him he messaged back 'well you are the one with hairs on your chin'. Now also today i have received a text message from him saying 'hi trace how are you huni' I have ignored this as I think he is trying to provoke another chance to have a go at me.


Obviously, if he wasn't okay with a few missed, stray hairs, he wouldn't be contacting you, would he?

I'm glad you've moved on, OP. Good luck with your new guy/date. Sounds like he probably has MORE hair for you to enjoy and a hopefully a brain to go with it!

 dave878
Joined: 2/22/2010
Msg: 164
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Posted: 3/31/2010 11:05:35 PM
I used to know a lovely girl with light downy hair all over her face - if I'd been a little younger I'd have been in there, and now I realise what a turnoff it might have been for others I'm rather kicking myself for not just ignoring the excess few years and snatching her from under the eyes of the "eeuuw!!" brigade.

If you've a dark moustache, yes, probably a good move to get rid of it. If you've full eyebrows, keep 'em for a guy who isn't into the pencil-line look, there's lots of us about. If you can't be bothered to shave your armpits, that makes two of us. As for "down there", a little delicate grooming beats the unnatural bald look.

We seem to be rapidly nearing the point where resembling a human being is widely considered unacceptable. For what, to sell more razors & tweezers? What are we really getting out of this anti-hair fetish other than insecurity about every aspect of our body? Do we want a person, or a cartoon representation of one?
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 165
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Posted: 4/1/2010 7:31:32 AM

We seem to be rapidly nearing the point where resembling a human being is widely considered unacceptable. For what, to sell more razors & tweezers? What are we really getting out of this anti-hair fetish other than insecurity about every aspect of our body? Do we want a person, or a cartoon representation of one?


Well said, it is sad that so many people seem to find the normal human body disgusting, and spend sooo much energy in a never ending battle to combat their own insecurities....
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 166
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Posted: 4/1/2010 8:06:39 AM

oh really? says who?? just because YOU don't like doesn't mean it's gross. why should we care what YOU like anyway??


I don't see why you're trying to argue this. Everyone has tastes and turn offs. Women don't date certain types of guys, like short, bald or guys with bad teeth and other types. It's natural to not be attracted to some types. How could that be shallow? You wouldn't date guys with those attributes I'm sure. It's EXACTLY the same thing here. He didn't like to see those few facial hairs on her and thats all really.


it's just natural and normal but you are brainwashed by all these stupid magazine covers of women who aren't natural!! they are all airbrushed and fake!! personally i don't like underarm hair on a guy either but i doubt any of them will shave it for me


If I am brainwashed then so are 80%-90% of the people, because that is what most of them go for. They try to find as close to perfect looking people as they can.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2010 8:10:07 AM
Geez, this is 7 pages when the entire first page pretty much agreed with her and the one dissenting comment was related to her issue with being given an answer, which the OP admitted she asked for and she got.


He wanted to know about your armpits?
OMG! He had a thing for hair....less!

I would agree, that he has a thing about hair and given your location, wonder if he is American? As another poster noted, razors aren't as prevalent in Europe as the U.S.

I have since the age of about 16 occasionally gotten one black hair that pops up in the middle of my neck. The first time I discovered this it was a guy that brought it up, fortunately someone I had known since I was like 6 so it was embarrassing in a crack both of us up kinda way because he knew I would trip when he brought it up.

Sometime during the last 10+ years I also have what appears to be an odd hair follicle on the left side of my face near my jawline, not black hairs, blonde, but like the neck thing, thicker than probably even the hair on my head and similarly I realized that I will now occasionally get one of those thick but blonde hairs that wants to grow out of as luck would have it a mole I have near the jawline on the right side of my face. That discovery a couple of years back was a real joy.

I do think this guy is an azz with a general body hair issue if he was also commenting about brows (which don't have the gross factor of women with facial hair) and the armpits as well? Who the hell asks someone if they have armpit hair? But when you have something that's an issue for you? I would in addition to the waxing consider bleaching the facial hair and while I may not have time to do the eyebrows if I am juggling work, kids and last minute plans with someone, I usually check the mole at least to make sure I won't look like a crone. Just a thought. Fair or not, facial hair on women is kinda creepy.
 Apollodorus
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 168
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 8:41:39 AM
I would be turned off too when I see hair in places it should not be. I honestly hate hair and I think it should only be on top of your head and no where else and especially the private parts should not have any hair.
 dave878
Joined: 2/22/2010
Msg: 169
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Posted: 4/1/2010 8:53:59 AM

I honestly hate hair

Well that's honest. But do you think it's healthy to hate something that virtually all adults have? What you hate there is the natural appearance of the human body, and that's not good for anybody.

As for "hair in places it should not be", who determines where it shouldn't be? The porn industry? Have we really sunk that low?
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 170
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Posted: 4/1/2010 11:11:52 AM

I'm really not cut out for all the etiquette of dating apparently.

har har. some incisive humor.
 junkyard dawg
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 171
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Posted: 4/1/2010 4:16:56 PM
From what you say OP, he sounds a bit weird,why is he still contacting you.Why ask about underarm hair, thats freaky.My deal breaker is bad teeth,sounds like he had them and bad teeth means bad breath eew.
Please do not shave your face, wax,pluck or lazer, unless you want stubble.You could use an epilator,you can get ones for the face or threading is good.I can see how a lot of facial hair could be unattractive but yours sounds very slight.Just tweeze them out or epilate, gone in a second.As for other body hair, its natural.
Dont encourage this guy, if he contacts you again, he sounds weird.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 172
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Posted: 4/1/2010 4:55:55 PM
Op..Some men and some women have an aversion to hair on the face and legs as far as women are concerned and it starts young..it seems.

I was watching TV with my then 5 or 6 year old..in shorts one summer and he touched my leg that had been 2 days with no shave and said" Eeeeeeeeeeeeew mom yuck'!

My own flesh and blood at that age yucked me!!!

This was no first meet with a stranger,it was my baby ..Gawd stuck like a knife. I was yucky to him and WHERE did he get that?

I think Marilyn Monroe had a lot of peach fuzz as do a lot of blonds and some red heads.
It gave her a glow in some pictures of her face, like an "aura".

You won't remember who he is soon and it doesn't matter as it was a first date right?

Sounds like a lame excuse..unless they were wiry black hairs..Then I don't want to see it either..
 edencapwell
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 173
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Posted: 4/1/2010 5:08:23 PM
If I am brainwashed then so are 80%-90% of the people, because that is what most of them go for. They try to find as close to perfect looking people as they can.

umm...yes and that is why they are still single and probably always will be because they have ridiculously high standards. the guy was a major douchebag. like someone else said, why be mean and cruel?? you can always say "sorry but you're not my type" or "i'm afraid we don't have much in common". those are MUCH nicer ways and are not mean or cruel. if he really liked her, he could have given her another chance!! i mean it's not like she was too fat and had to lose 100 lbs. or more. all she had to do was use a depilatory, bleach or wax!! big f*cking deal!! it's too bad he couldn't change his ugly personality. unfortunately there isn't any cure for that.
 edencapwell
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 174
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Posted: 4/1/2010 5:13:24 PM
i believe MOST black women do NOT shave their legs. evidently it doesn't bother the men because they do have boyfriends and husbands.
 Apollodorus
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 175
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Posted: 4/1/2010 5:40:58 PM

Well that's honest. But do you think it's healthy to hate something that virtually all adults have? What you hate there is the natural appearance of the human body, and that's not good for anybody.

As for "hair in places it should not be", who determines where it shouldn't be? The porn industry? Have we really sunk that low?


I just find hair unattractive even on me, it's not about dictating where hair should be it is just a preference of mine and a deal breaker because it is something I find repulsive.
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