| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/18/2005 10:29:17 PM | I'm all for no sex before marriage, for other people who want to do that. I think it's a fine choice and you go ahead and do what's right for you.
Of course, what that means is that you need to decide if that's something you need from your partner. If they need to be a virgin too? Well, you're what? 21? Find 'em quick...the numbers are already dwindling.
You're also obviously religious which is fine. For you, and I assume for your presumed partner. But what you should decide has nothing to do with your sexual habits (let's face it, you go more than a couple degrees of separation into evangelical preachers or roman catholic priests and you're so far into sexual deviancy, it makes the groupie clusterf*ck at a G'n'R concert look like the Walton's family reunion show).
What you want is a good Christian girl who SAYS she's saved it. (wink wink). Trust me, you won't know, she won't tell ya, and it won't make a difference unless there's some really awkward moment in the local A&P when she bumps into someone who's curious as to what happened since she walked off with those four guys at that amazing beach party with the quarter of hash and the monkey skull bong...
Then you date a while...and you two decide if THAT'S what you want to do together...then forever and ever, amen.
But you guys just play it by ear and whatever you two decide is just fine. Maybe you two DO want to try 'it' but then just keep it secret (use a rubber). But please remember, you're not sinning. No one goes to hell because they dip their wick. At the worst, they just go to the clinic (use a rubber). | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/20/2005 7:52:37 PM | | Well you sound like I said I'm looking for a virgin but I'm not just someone who will respect that ( yes she might have done it in the past but that wouldn't make me hate her). I do it cuz I'm dedicatied to what I belive in. and thank you | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/20/2005 7:56:47 PM | | I would think that sex before marriage should be acceptable, it depends on persons beliefs. I do not feel that having pre marital sex is a sin, nor do I think that you should force it upon someone or yourself to wait. people can make their own choices, whether something like the Bible says so or not. | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/20/2005 8:59:19 PM | | Define "bad" sex please. Is that going down on two crossed over 2x4s with splinters or a 400 lb hunnie with its legs crossed where traffic permits, arms folded, moustache, matted pit hair plus skin flakes, and snoring like a warthog with advanced pleurisy? | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 5:21:27 PM |
Nope.............bad idea.....better to jump in da bed and go for it then you will know if your compatible or not sexually...why wait.....I don't see the point Actually test drive the sex thingy a few times.
I think bad sex in a marraige is one doomed for failer... why wait......
I disagree..When the act is expressed in the manner it was intended for, then there is no such thing as bad sex between a married couple expressing their love for each other in the most intimate way...
What "get married before you have sex" translates into in the bible belt is getting married to the first chucklehead you get the hots for and spending the rest of your life living hand to mouth because you you had kids when you were teens/early twenties and don't have the education level to command a decent paying job.
A gross mistranslation | |
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jdw1
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Joined: 6/14/2005
Msg: 81 | |
| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 5:30:43 PM | bugger no sex before marriage!!!!!
im luky to get past the first dinner date without it let alone down the aisle | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 5:38:33 PM |
I can't belive how many people hate me because I do this."
Oooh, here's a thought.....why do you do it then? I thought your pastor didn't send you? Perhaps is was Jeebus himself who spoke to you in a dream?
I just wandered inadvertently into your part of the forums and I was horrified...no wonder you can't stand to post this stuff in there.
Tell you what, Christians keep posting their judgemental hypocrisies in here and I'll make a habit of coming to visit you in the Religion section....deal?
Stupid quote of the day
O.T..Im not sure why u feel people hate you unless you've been personally attacked by your decision to take the more courageous stand on this issue. If you have been, contact an adminstrator as this behavior is not tolerated in these forums.. | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 5:47:18 PM |
^^^^ I have to disagree with you...I think that if someone has decided to make that commitment to their god, then that is their own choice. Even if this means waiting until they are 28 to have sex...I think that even though it may very well be painful and not pleasurable, just KNOWING that you have saved yourself for that one person holds its own level of pleasure and emotion.
I am not saying that this is right for everyone, I am just saying that if someone makes this choice, who am I to judge their decision just because I didn't make that same decision?
There were times that I wished that I had waited to lose my virginity till my night of marriage, but now I am sure glad that I didn't because my now exhusband did not deserve my virginity the way that my first boyfriend did.
Jenn
Great post....
Furthermore, to compare this to an appliance or car sale is ridiculous..
Im Vice, Im out | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:02:43 PM | | Nobody "back then" was marrying when they were 13 apart from the nobility. When I took a medieval history class my professor said the average age for normal people to marry was 25-30. | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:12:33 PM | @viceguy....you are a good christian and you believe that no one should have sex before marriage......I think we got it. I'm wondering if you have anything of your own to contribute to the discussion?
My earlier comments, although disagreeable to you (because anyone who disagrees with you must be in league with Satan or something I'm guessing) can stand on their own merits. Feel free to show some leadership and initiative and bring my offensive comments to the administratiors yourself.
I am not a christian, I use this dating site to meet women and I also believe in having sex before, during and after marriage....or instead of it as a matter of fact. I don't ask you to agree with me, I don't want to change your mind - I don't care what you do or what you choose to believe. What I do care about is being insulted by "holier than thou" zealots.
I especially loved the quote from the abstinence supporter crying about people who give her a hard time about her choices in life? The ONLY people being insulting and degrading towards others who disagree with them are the members of your faith! LMFAO!
I am entitled to my opinions as are you and everyone else in here, in keeping with the forum rules I make an effort to not make personally inflamatory remarks to other posters. The fact you agree or not is totally irrelevant.
@Mr.Ravenlot.....you should get your money back from the people who stole your tuition and told you lies. Life expectancies were tragically shorter in the Middle Ages and didn't improve much until the nineteenth and twentieth centuries...."consumption" is still a killer in many countries today. People weren't living much past the ages of twenty-five or thirty and this is especially true for the poor! | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:26:36 PM | | Listen man we don't hate you because we disagree with a choice you made . Anyway would you marry a girl that had sex if you haven't made the plug yet ...? | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:28:35 PM | I couldn't do it...I love women, and all the things they do, and all the things they like having done...and...where is the cold shower emoticon? | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:37:22 PM |
I'm wondering if you have anything of your own to contribute to the discussion?
Re-read my previous posts
My earlier comments, although disagreeable to you (because anyone who disagrees with you must be in league with Satan or something I'm guessing)
Where, from what I have written, have I given you this impression?
I am entitled to my opinions as are you and everyone else in here, in keeping with the forum rules I make an effort to not make personally inflamatory remarks to other posters
Whomever is bashing the author would be wise to emmulate your forum practices..
The fact you agree or not is totally irrelevant.
The whole point of the thread...
you are a good christian and you believe that no one should have sex before marriage
I dont feel a need to have to dig up background information on people through their profile or by other means..I dont care who/what they are..I simply comment on what they write...keeps the personal component out of it...thanks for the complement though
Vice Out | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:40:07 PM | No, my tuition was well spent. The people who survived their childhood could expect to live to about 40-50. No offense, but I'll take the word of a qualified history professor over yours any day.
http://www.bus.ualberta.ca/rfield/LifeExpectancy.htm | |
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sarahb
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Joined: 2/26/2005
Msg: 90 | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/27/2005 4:14:25 PM | @vice......"The whole point of the thread..."...is No sex before marriage.
I have read all of your posts on this thread and it took me all of about two and a half minutes. My query for you was "do YOU have anything to contribute"? As in an opinion, an original thought, something of your own....not cutting and pasting other people's ideas and adding six or seven ambiguous words as an afterthought. And my observations of you were entirely born out of your comments, not your profile. I only look at interesting people's profiles.
@Mr.Raven....you have no idea who I am or what my qualifications are. I would suggest you expand your research efforts and read what some other "qualified" scholars have to say on the subject. I can tell you that the archaeological evidence tells a very different story. | |
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r324
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Joined: 7/13/2005
Msg: 92 | |
| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:11:39 PM | What is marriage, anyways? If 2 ppl wanna commit themselve to each other, so let it be...you don't need a marriage for that! I don't so see a difference whether you save yourself or not.
All I see is two crazy kids dry humping on the dance floor..keeping it real..sweeting..wanting..touching..and slappin' that ass! Keep on pervin' | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:24:27 PM | I agree practice, practice, practice..........Hell what if they suck in bed.....or your just not compatible.... | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:25:59 PM | | I agree test drive it before you marry it....If it doesnt work your just looking for a divorce.. | |
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r324
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Joined: 7/13/2005
Msg: 96 | |
| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/27/2005 11:02:20 PM | you should see if you are compatible...and if things don't work out, you can simply find someone else who fulfills your perverted & deviant ways...perhaps some Latin guy/girl sweating on you while making 'primate monkey love'  | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/27/2005 11:51:10 PM | | I tried and tried, but i could not wait any longer. I need it... and Im in such a drought | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/28/2005 1:50:21 AM | | @td,h..evidently you have not read all my posts or you would not be asking the same question over and over...your only credible post was that of 'forum conduct' which you just killed thru your latest diatribe, which by the way, illustrates quite clear your qualifications....nada!! | |
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/28/2005 1:52:51 AM | | No sex before marriage is definatly a personal choice, in my MUCH youngers days i said it was going to wait but now i couldnt live without it .. if im not compatible with someone in the bedroom its not going to work out .. i need good sex... | |
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fiveoh
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Joined: 4/5/2005
Msg: 100 | |
| No sex before marriage
Posted: 7/28/2005 5:48:05 PM | OK would you buy a car without taking it for a test drive or even looking under the hood? That is quite a major um investment to be entering without knowing how it handles or if the seats are even comfortable. | |
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