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jrj_paladin: "Does any one else agree with no sex before marriage or am I the only one who think that this is a good idea?"
I personally think this is a *fantastic* idea. It increases the chances that if you get hit by that proverbial bus before marriage you'll be removed from the gene pool for having such silly notions as this. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 5:30:51 PM | I like the idea of a man respecting me enough and loving me enough to wait until marriage.
The the fact remains that I also want someone that I am sexually compatible with.
...does that make sence? | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 7:07:52 PM | im 25 i was waiting and i broke the commitment recently. Didn't wanna be like 40 or 50 .. It's great and all but I wish I would've waited for someone a bit more special.. Doh!! But if a girl wanted to still wait I would wait no matter the length.  | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 7:47:54 PM | Personally, I think sexual intimacy is an important part of my relationships, and something I love to share with a partner. I wouldn't consider marrying anyone I hadn't slept with a fair bit beforehand, because sexual compatibility is important to me, and being sexual with someone tells you an awful lot about them.
Clearly, there are others who disagree, and that's cool, as long as everyone can be respectful of each other's beliefs and priorities. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 6:24:14 AM | I waited til I was 16. I asked plenty of girls, 13, 14 yo, to marry me when I was 8 and 9! I really did. Guess I lost interest in the institution after my 11 or 12 years. And since I a single and 46, I would have been a 46 yo virgin!
I ran into a 32 yo virgin a few years ago, she admitted she was one just before we were about to have sex, naked, in bed. The shock almost killed me! She chose me because she knew I was "nice" enough not to laugh at her 32 yo virgnity. She was right, I did not laugh, I was shocked. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 1:56:22 PM | | I guess you are into masterbating alot. In a relationship that leads to marriage you go through a process. First you date and become friends then you become engaged and then you marry. That process if you are really to get to know someone should last at least two years. I am not sure about anyone else but that is too long to go without sex. By the way the average is seven dates before people have sex and a good rule of thumb for many is sex by the third date if you like each other. But many, if they are really hot for each other do it on the first date. So if you want to wait two years after meeting the person go for it. However be ready for surprises after the wedding bells. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 8:08:05 PM | | I agree with you completely!!!! Glad to hear someone else shares that opinion. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 8:08:50 PM | | Glad to hear you're willing to wait. You'll be glad you did. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2009 11:30:16 AM | | Yes, there are many who understand and believe that it is God 's plan for relationships. Your committment to honor God with this choice will be a wonderful and sacred gift to your wife. Take your time in finding your special life partner in marriage; the one who holds equal values dearly in her heart. God Bless! | |
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Posted: 2/17/2009 11:43:28 AM | ...entirely up to the individual...I wouldn't wait-I would have been divoced had I done so-my ex-fiancee' was so hung up on sex that it was impossible to enjoy (no foreplay, no lights, no fun...) years later she tells me she likes it all! Too late, baby! So,no, I want to know all of and about my partner...I enjoy sex and I am over 21 so...  | |
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Posted: 2/17/2009 12:55:32 PM | Personally no, nor do I even feel that it is some divine creators plan for us, even though I do believe in a higher power whom I choose to call God. I tend to feel that any creator also created us like all the other animals of the planet. Last time I checked, dogs don't get married, neither do lions, or whales.
What's my point? Marriage is a rational, social and societal institution. Sex is an natural, animal and instinctual drive/need. Perhaps we actually have it all backwards. I mean waiting to get married for sex is very, very, backwards in terms of nature.
It's like buying a car without test driving it first! (yeah, I know, but I couldn't resist that one)
Does this mean I don't believe in relationships? No, not at all, it's just that relationships are probably a much newer concept than sex (which never was a "concept"). The notion of a relationship or of monogamy actually goes against our nature, this doesn't mean we don't strive towards something resembling it. The chief reasons we do are more based upon our own very gender specific notions of what we need to feel safe and secure.
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ml456
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| No sex before marriage
Posted: 2/17/2009 12:57:38 PM | | I would respect a person's decision not to have sex before marriage. However that person should fully be aware that could severely limit his/her potential dating pool. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2009 1:06:46 PM | If you are faith-based then yes you should stick to it. However you'd be better off going on a Christian Dating site since they will be more likely to share your beliefs. There might be a lot of dishonest women/men on here with regards to their sexual activities.  | |
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Posted: 2/17/2009 3:57:18 PM | | I'm not a big believer in no sex. I wouldn't want to make a commitment like that to someone who I didn't even know if we were sexually compatible. I just don't see virginity as some kind of prize to give. I don't think it makes much difference in the end or makes you have a better marriage. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2009 4:05:39 PM | | I knew a guy I used to work with and this guy claimed to be waiting to be married. Some of the co-workers gave him a bad time once in a while, but I figured to leave it a alone. That's his choice and his life. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2009 8:40:50 PM | "When God creates something, He creates it with purpose and design. "... so "The Genesis account of creation makes it clear that God's creation is “good” (Genesis 1:31)." (quotes from http://www.christiananswers.net/q-sum/sum-f001.html)
...of course this is only the of the mater....
its ALL about your choice and beliefs !!!
majority of statistics/poles/reference show that the End of it"No sex before marriage" isn't that good :( | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 5:03:09 AM | | Waiting till marriage is highly overrated. What if you never get married? I'm 28 and have never married. I may never be. **** Sarah Palin. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 5:37:03 AM | | I ended a relationship over this issue. She was perfert for me in every way but that. Don't know if I made the right choice, but it is too late to go back as she is married now. I probably made the wrong choice. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 10:16:11 AM | | Its an old tradition and your belief system plays a big part in it. The reality of it is that most people no longer follow that tradition and haven't for quite some time. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 2:50:57 PM | | I would respect a person choice not to have sex before marriage. There are other things you can do to get to know a person. You don't have to jump into bed with someone to be their perfect match. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 5:43:43 PM | | I want to wait until marriage, but that's just me. Blame it on 12 years of Catholic school. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 7:22:29 PM | | Tried that with my first marriage, trouble was she thought it was ok to go years between encounters. Sex turned out to be one of my worst experiences with her, never again will I wait until marraige before I find out if the sex will be any good. If she is willing to wait years before sex now, she might be willing to wait years after marriage too. The question becomes can you live with sex once every two or three years? | |
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