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Posted: 7/17/2005 7:28:13 PM | 2dizzy... if you'd stop spinning long enough to look at my profile... i happen to be a woman. how on earth would i know about how women respond to being rejected if i'm a heterosexual woman? and don't misinterpret what i say... did i say "all" men get bent when they get rejected? nope, if you go back and read my post you'll see that for yourself. i just shared a little bit about my experience here, along with info. on the thousands of other threads on this same stale topic.
just out of curiosity dizzy... what do these woman who've been rejected say when you reject them that leads you to believe they're "absolutely pissed"? | |
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Gremmy
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Joined: 5/28/2005
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:37:24 PM | At least you know your mails are being read and then deleted instead of just out right deleted. Just figure they are not interested and move on. Maybe you will find someone who will write back or maybe you wont. Theres more than just this site out there and theres also one more option. Its called real life..* I can hear the gasps now* go out and meet women. You will know real quick if your truely rejected or not. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 9:08:48 PM |
Compared to being ignored for all my heartfelt work, I'd rather be told to "**** off." At least it dignifies me with a response, AND it lets me know where I stand.
If you can see your message has been deleted, with no response, that IS a "**** off". | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/18/2005 7:22:04 AM | | ^^^No its not...but it does let you know where you stand..and thats the issue here.. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 7:37:45 AM | I think it's kinda creepy that people check to see if their e-mail was read. It seems
a little obsessive. This is probably the easiest place to be rejected because (for you) at least it's more based on your profile and your one initial e-mail. Move on. Be glad you know she isn't interested after only one e-mail as opposed to several. Men do it too. You can be talking to someone for awhile and then poof they stop talking to you. It's one of the negative aspects of on-line life. Just think at least you didn't have to pay for sending the e-mail. Plus your e-mail you sent her although well written seems a little creepy. Rejection hurts no matter how it happens but ya just gotta learn how to deal with it. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 8:21:33 AM | | I can't believe we're being advised to write shitty e-mails, and make them look like we put zero effort into them. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 4:00:24 PM | Whosyourbadkitty:
You stated that:
men don't take rejection well So to answewr your question, yes you did say all men get bent.
That is a generalization. You don't say some men, you say "men".
Yes I know your a woman, whats your point? I never said you should know how women respond to rejection.
Never said that I was the one who rejected anyone. I said I know some women who've become pissed off that a guy won't date them. (for whatever reason)
Get off your high-horse wybk, I actually agreed with what you said, I just didn't like the generalization. See the OT part of my original post.
OT: Still say stop whining | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/18/2005 8:04:58 PM | i like the view from my high horse and i ain't hoppin' down for the likes of you dizzy! ;)
if i meant "all" men, i would have typed "all" men... don't be a girly man, get over it already. my personal experience here has been that you don't reject men you're not interested in or you're bound to be called every name in the book, harrased, stalked, cussed at, they've gone as far as getting personal email addys and giving it out to people to flood my personal email... so save your "high horse" speech for someone who really needs it... my "generalization" came from personal experiences, not some scenario i pulled out of my a-s-s. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 10:17:32 PM | I have the solution. Women: e-mail back your rejection, tell them "thanks, but no thanks", and then block them. That way, you e-mail them back, and don't have to deal with the shitheads who can't handle rejection like a TRUE man (i.e. getting drunk, and punching a car). There. Now everyone can be happy!  | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 6:26:43 AM | | and when he reincarnates himself into a new profile he'll let you have it from any direction he can get ya... problem not solved ;) tried it... didn't work. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 6:29:31 AM | Hey...
This thread has been an eye opener. When I first joined I sent out a couple of messages that didn't get responses, and I thought...gee, that's rude. But after hearing about how some have been treated after the fact or how some people get so much mail, I don't blame you one bit. Thanks for the eye opener. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 6:38:27 AM | bulldogmedic...your solution still implies that people are obligated to respond and d*mnit we're not...end of story...
VictorNorth...thank you...nice to know someone understands... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 9:19:56 AM | | Yeah I dont feel I am obligated to do $hit. So no reply means MEN move ON! How is that so hard to understand?? Thread after thread and the debate goes on. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:16:02 AM | | ^^^Of course there's no obligation..i make a point to reply to most because i think its just courteous and shows appreciation ...this may be difficult for others especially those who are inundated.. | |
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vangrd
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Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:27:59 AM | | I was investigeting a lot off time..I meet nice womens and we chat a lot we become friends...And they shared with me that most of the womens have morthan one profile ( Fake profiles)..this is good side give us many future...and not paying..but the bad things what you going to do the fake response...If you not get replyed maybe because is fake profile or she did not like it your profile and wanted to not call her again...move on...shes not deserve your time...I dont understand that you break your hearth with some one not just send it email ...here is not your place delite your profile and get to meet really life.. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 11:39:27 AM | | I undrstand where you women are coming from, and I empathize. But, I think the point some of the guys are trying to make, is that you're letting these rotten apples dictate your future actions. You're allowing these ***holes to lead you down a path where you are being discourteous in return. It's like saying "Some men are rude to me, so I have to be rude to all men in return." Now, if you're trying to tell me that not replying to e-mails catches you less flak than rejecting these e-mails, then I can see your point. However, I have sent out dozens upon dozens of e-mails, and I've NEVER gotten a rejection e-mail. Most were just never answered. So, the theory that women get sick of sending out these rejection e-mails really doesn't fly with me, because I know I've never seen one. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 12:13:24 PM | Okay, a couple of ideas here. First, though I'm sure you meant well, your comment about what you'll provide to a woman comes off as a little...sleazy. Sorry, it does. You're at an age where a lot of women are seeking a man who is looking for his life companion. So...write like one. Write about what you want to build with the right woman in your life. Believe me, they do check your profile, and they're looking for a man with a life. The second idea ties in with this. When I first started online dating, I thought I had to be polite and write everyone back. Big mistake. Some men could not take the rejection and became VERY nasty in response. I was even threatened just because I wrote that I didn't think I was a good match to someone. So, I learned to read someone's profile, and if there was ANYTHING that didn't seem "normal" I'd just delete the message. No explanation given. Also, if a man doesn't post a pic (yours is nice)...I don't respond, as a security precaution. You'd be amazed at some of the things men will write while hiding behind an anonymous profile. Good luck to you.  | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 12:25:23 PM | I usually write back something like "thanks for writing but I don't think we'd be compatible" if the email he sent me was polite. In rare cases I just delete, but I do feel guilty for doing this. Sometimes I get so many emails at once and have limited time in which to read and answer them, I might be more likely to delete. I'd rather not get a reply at all then a "F*** you" or other type of hostile reply. If he's not interested, he won't write back and I get the message; no hard feelings.
Ninki | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 12:30:17 PM | bulldogmedic: Right on! That's a smart way to do it.  I don't take what happens here too seriously anyway.
N. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 1:24:45 PM | Mathemagician,
Okay, lets say you have a sister, and she is sitting in a bar, and men are lining up to say sweet things to her...now lets imagine that one man who gave it his best shot (and recieved no response) said to your sister "EXCUSE ME...how dare you ignore ME!"
As a woman, I'm not obligated to a strange man just because he wrote me a letter.
As a person, I usually drop a note and tell them I am not interested if that is the case. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2005 5:19:50 PM | | The only time I really wonder is when they have written me first. Then I reply to their message, and they just delete it with out reading it. I just think it is a little rude. If I message them first, and they just delete it or read and delete. I am not all that bothered. It would be nice for a no thanks or something, but I do not expect it. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 5:21:45 PM | i like the view from my high horse and i ain't hoppin' down for the likes of you dizzy! ;)
Good 'cause I'm not your type anyways.
my "generalization" came from personal experiences, not some scenario i pulled out of my a-s-s.
At least you admit to generalizing. Never said you pulled it outta your a$$, I woulda said somewhere else.
Hope you have a wonderfull day WYBK
OT: I still say to stop whining | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 6:22:48 PM | @mathemagician
Okay, so she didn't write you back. What are you going to do, cry yourself to sleep or move on to someone else? | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 7:01:29 PM | | Many guys I have responded to with a "no-thanks" seem to think its a debatable issue, or want to write a long and nasty message full of profanities. Not all, but more then 60% | |
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