| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 7:10:15 PM | | Wow...maybe (hopefully) it's because they are young and don't yet know not to take it personally, even though it feels quite personal. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/19/2005 7:56:37 PM | | don't flatter yourself dizzy... you're behaving just like all those men i've rejected and couldn't handle it... you're just proving my point - it's not worth it to respond to men you're not interested in because they simply cannot handle rejection like a real man should... does your p-e-n-i-s feel bigger now that you've tried to insult me more than once? keep the insults comin' tough guy... it's gonna be a lot tougher than you think to get my goat... i hid it real good. ;) | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/20/2005 10:40:10 AM | | You were just as insulting as he was. Although he didn't ask you if your t-i-t-s feel bigger after you insulted him. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/20/2005 10:45:45 AM | | I hear ya vice guy! What the hell is wrong with these chicks they act lik this is playboy. save the nakedness for after at least ur first conversation..... no im kidding if you got it flaunt it | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/20/2005 5:58:45 PM | Whosyourbadkitty:
Why do you keep going back to saying it isn't worth responding to men your not interested in?
Once again, I never raised that point. Once again I agreed with your original post. What I didn't agree with was the generalization you made about "men" don't take rejection well.
Anyways kitty, thank you for proving "my" point, that some women are just as bad as some men. First you started with name calling:
2dizzy... if you'd stop spinning long enough to look at my profile
don't be a girly man
Then you start talking about my penis:
does your p-e-n-i-s feel bigger now that you've tried to insult me more than once?
Not once have I called you a name, not once have I swore or used profane sexual inuendos as you have. My first post was a polite request to not generalize about men. What you did was jump all over it like I pointed my finger at you and started swearing at you. Are you always filled with such anger? For no reason?
Anyways kitty, I hope you have a wonderfull day.
OT: It still isn't a big deal if someone doesn't reply to your e-mail. You don't know them, and they don't know you. No-one owes you anything. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/20/2005 10:43:49 PM |
I knew an English girl who taught at a college in Nigeria. She once had a student express interest in her and give her a photograph of himself.
She blatantly rejected his advances at least a dozen times yet he kept persisting.
Exasperated, she asked a female Nigerian collegue why this chap wasn't getting the message?
"Do you you still have his photograph?" the Nigerian lady asked.
When my English friend replied in the affirmative, the collegue told her to return it.
She took her advice and sure enough, the student got the message 1st time!
"What the h***'s that got to do with this thread?" Well I see a similar "cultural communication gap" here at this forum: For some guys, not responding is a bit like keeping the photo - the message is unclear.
But even for those guys who DO take the hint, it can still be a little disconcerting.
Almost none of the women who make 1st contact with me are the type I particularly want to 'cyber-flirt' with, let alone 'relationship potential' but I still respond. Why? Well partly because it's just one of those civilities that makes the world go round – "greases the wheels" in society's machinery, if you will - and partly because when I put myself in her shoes I know I'd like a response.
Someone here wrote:
I dont feel I am obligated to do $hit.
And that's true, you're not *obligated*. In fact, even if you were to walk into a room and say "Hi!"… I'm under no *obligation* whatsoever to return the greeting. So it's not about *obligation* it's about *courtesy*.
Now of course, there are instances when it's absolutely the RIGHT thing to ignore the sender. For example:
- the sender makes lewd comments.
- the message lacks substance (aLrite babe? Ur hot! Cya!).
- And definitley don't respond to senders who persist in writing even after you've made it clear you're not interested in continuing the contact. Those ppl are obsessive.
In such instances, I fully sympathise with the ladies. Where I sympathise with the men is when they write a well thought out, well composed message which goes ignored.
I mean if the guy isn't asking you to "Play Misty' for me" then I don't see the harm.
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/20/2005 11:07:17 PM | | oh you poor baby, want some cheese with that whine? here's one woman who will tell you to ****-OFF! many more to follow, i'm sure... | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 12:54:46 AM |
oh you poor baby, want some cheese with that whine? here's one woman who will tell you to ****-OFF! many more to follow, i'm sure...
A little on the militant side I take it? Ask yourself: "What would Ellen DeGeneres do?" | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 1:03:47 AM | Frist off, thanks to michaeljalan. My hat's off to you... I didn't realize the lack of courtesy I had there. So, I went back to the inbox and sent a nice reply to each one (there weren't that many, so it was a small job, hell i even cheated and cut/pasted). I'd rather recieve profanity in return than be rude. Who knows... maybe my values and decision system is bad... who knows? I may be ignoring the greatest person on earth. That having been said, that's not something I can help right now, courtesy is something I can remedy. It's amazing how doing what's right needs no justification and is above reproach. Beautiful! I'm no saint here, so nobody martyr me-please
OT- if someone deletes and no reply, and you think that's bad, perhaps they just don't share the same values as you do and it ay be indicative of deeper personal differences. Or the person may be as ignorant as myself... Either way, be the better man, or woman, and continue with a modicum of satisfaction and dignity, even a little self righteousness is good for the self esteem. Who wants to date someone they see as impolite anyways? | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 1:05:16 AM | | BAD KITTY,i love it its like arnold says they are all girly men its so true all you guys that complain about the girls not sending you mail really are........................girly men LOVE IT | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 2:55:42 AM | | Well whipty fukken Do, She won't write back......Grab some fukkin Balls ,Be a Man ,and Move On..........real simple......nothing more fukkin attractive to a woman than a cry baby...real attractive...... | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 3:03:47 AM | Ok, ok, ok, guys and gals.
Let's stop the battle between the sexes, NOW, for heavens sake, about why she/he did not or should not respond to each others e-mails.
Sheez.
This is getting silly, guys and gals. Why cannot we be friends, and work together in unison, as a team, rather then blaming each other, for why he/she did not do this, or that.
Thats right, why cannot we ALL be FRIENDS.
As a man, I would rather have you woman as my friend, my allie, rather then my enemy.
As a man, I would rather LOVE you to pieces, then hate and hurt ya.
This hurting thing between woman and men, has gone on, FAR, FAR TOO LONG, and it is about HIGH TIME, that we ALL come together, and LOVE each other, as friends.
So, what has happen in the past, LEAVE IT THERE, and lets start getting down to LOVING EACH OTHER, ok.
What do you say, gals, and what do you say guys, are you up for it. It is a challenge, however, if we work at it together as a team, then we can make it work.
So, lets stop the constant bickering, and lets get down to work, and make this partnership between woman and men work.
Sincerely
Neill | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 3:08:09 AM | Oh let's all stand around the circle Join hands and sing happy songs......
Did You ever think, That just fukkin maybe a Women could possibly???Gee?? I dont know be REPULSED by some of the profiles..and Vice versa...YOU CANNOT MAKE SOMEONE LIKE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...it happens or it does not SIMPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!................. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 3:23:29 AM | What many women don't realize is that men don't take hints well. You have to be blunt and straight to the point. Logic dictates that we also want a reason why we are being rejected.
What is wrong with being courteous and just giving a well written message a simple response? | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 3:24:39 AM | oh you poor baby, want some cheese with that whine? here's one woman who will tell you to ****-OFF! many more to follow, i'm sure...
A little on the militant side I take it? Ask yourself: "What would Ellen DeGeneres do?" I don't think Ellen DeGeneres would ever say that...
Well whipty fukken Do, She won't write back......Grab some fukkin Balls ,Be a Man ,and Move On..........real simple......nothing more fukkin attractive to a woman than a cry baby...real attractive...... I understand your sarcasm, and that you're trying to say that there's nothing more UNattractive to a woman than a cry baby... I'm here to tell ya, buddy, that there IS something less attractive, and it goes something like this:
Well whipty fukken Do, She won't write back......Grab some fukkin Balls ,Be a Man ,and Move On..........real simple......nothing more fukkin attractive to a woman than a cry baby...real attractive...... | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 3:36:07 AM | @Michaeljalan
My hat's off to you!!
If only more men would put themselves in a woman's shoes once in a while.
If only all people would try to see things from another point of view.
What a better world this would be. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 5:16:34 AM | | hey welcome to my world , lol ain't it fun.. dirt on your shoulder man, rejection is as big a part of life as acceptance, you can't have the joy without the pain. you should put up a pic of yourself though. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 6:36:39 AM | | wavrydr... not only are you hot but you're obviously a real man! one that doesn't throw temper tantrums and i bet you don't complain and cry about the little things in life either... oh boy if you were local i'd be all over you!!! | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 6:57:16 AM | They should have a extra feature "button" that auto responses "I'm not interested, good luck in your search" that you could click when you delete a message.
I've seen this complaint over and over again and I don't think there's anyway to keep feelings from getting hurt. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 7:22:31 AM | Dust yourself off, and get going, it wasn't worth it.
Lot's of non-communicators on this site, I find.
Something better is out there...don't give in to the negative stuff.
ETC,,, | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 11:36:25 AM |
Irish Eyes and Nittany Lion - thanks for your feedback ladies. 
Hick54er – well done that man! 
Serreus - did you actually READ my post?!
If anything, I'm more sympathetic towards the LADIES than the guys who rant about not receiving replies!
I was simply trying to communicate BOTH points of veiw and underline where some of the misundertandings and communication breakdowns are.
(Bloody 'ell, I didn't think my post would be a miscommunication too!)
Cheese with my "whine"? No "whining" going on here luv: Perhaps I've just been lucky but so far I've had responses to almost ALL my messages… hardly something to complain about!
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/21/2005 4:11:54 PM | I would not put a lot into it move on and keep searching, like they say a lot of fish in the sea.
it is nice to get a response I agree, but I would not loose sleep over it. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/22/2005 3:34:24 AM | | Dear mathemagician....you must realize, it takes some of us a life time to learn to tell someone to "**** off".....Some reasons for not responding with anything is simply the one sending the note just doesn't do a thing for us.....not that we want to hurt you in any way....then again...this may be a first time on a dating sight.....it can be quite intimidating to some...even though you aren't face to face with another.....then again.....some like the attention and like to see just how many times a person will keep trying....but whatever the reason.....I think there is only so many times you bother to try......then my dear boy....just hang up the phone.....because obviously she isn't the one that deserves your attention.....find another.....that is usually the universe telling you you haven't hit the right one anyway........I know a thing or two.....I've lived longer.... but keep trying.....I am!! :) | |
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