kbr40
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Joined: 7/19/2005
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/22/2005 5:26:50 AM | So it's not about *obligation* it's about *courtesy*.
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Oh halle uffin lewya (sic) somebody's got their finger on the button, someone's gonna make it in this life...
COURTESY peeps, COURTESY!! think about the word, look it up in a dictionary, please, lots of you... go... NOW!!!
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Posted: 7/22/2005 5:51:37 AM | What we have to realize is that if the other person doesn't have the manners to politely state: Thank you for your interest. Good luck on this site. Or no thank you, I don't believe we are compatable,
What does it matter? I mean I don't want to meet anyone that is that rude, or disrespectful to another person. Because I am looking for a person with some basic manners and consideration for people. If they think that they are that great, or believe they are that busy that good manners does not apply to them because the internet is faceless, then, they are not the people we the good one's want to be around.!!!
Think about it from that aspect, and it is not them rejecting us/you. But rather they are eliminating themselves from getting to know decent people. Let the trash swim with the trash.
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Posted: 7/22/2005 6:03:25 AM | This is something that has happened to all of us at one time or other. Personally it has never bothered me as when the person reads it and deletes it, I just assume they didn't like what they saw, and don't give it a second thought.
Even though men may have more problems with getting responses, I do think in the long run it is easier for men to find someone. Yes women can get any number of men for sex, but when it comes to something more real, men have the advantage. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2005 6:18:52 AM | hey jazz... if i had a dollar for every kind rejection response i've sent out and received a nasty message in return... i'd be flyin' out to shake your hand! "let the trash swim the the trash." i see it a different way... i'm a lady and deserve to be treated as such and i don't give men the opportunity to treat me any less than what i expect. when i choose not to respond to certain emails i receive, that's my choice and it's for very good reason.
when's the last time you responded politely to a "hey... wanna fvck?" message? how many times have you nicely told someone you're not interested and had them send you an email full of insults? if you haven't... then you have no reason to do anything different than the way you do... some of us ladies get this sort of crap every day! i simply won't respond. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2005 7:43:04 PM |  Dude, I know how you feel. I get the same thing with the guys that I'm interested in & have emailed to tell them just that & how to contact me. Do they email me back to tell that they're not interested or I'm not their type or even a simple thanks but no thanks? HELL NO!!!!!!! At least when ever I'm not interested in a guy that has emailed me in response to my profile for what ever the reasons I'm not interested in them, I send them back an email stating. "thanks for looking & responding to my ad but you are not the guy that I'm currently looking for in my life. I wish them well & good luck with their search for their Miss Right than I say my good-byes & sign my real name to end the email." Than I send the email to them. It's just common curtious for someone to do that. when guys don't email me back after I've responded to their ad, I get very pissed off but I move on because there's nothing that I can do. Well I could go tell them what I think of them doing what they didn't do but why would I want to waste my time doing that on a jerk like that. Just move on to the next person that you are interested in & hope that they will response back to you. Please do not think that all people are that rude & do not reply back to other people that have emailed them in responses to their ad because not everyone is like that. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2005 10:40:33 AM | | your right its your choice not to respond i read most on this stuff but if a persons email is not rude i think it would nice to say someting iam not interested and if they are rude then i wouldnt respond or tell them off . | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/23/2005 4:02:43 PM |
hey jazz... if i had a dollar for every kind rejection response i've sent out and received a nasty message in return... i'd be flyin' out to shake your hand!
Somehow I doubt that you've sent out hundreds upon hundreds of "kind rejection[s]".
when's the last time you responded politely to a "hey... wanna fvck?" message?
Probably the last time she put up a picture of herself with her ass hanging out as she plays in her lingerie.
some of us ladies get this sort of crap every day! i simply won't respond.
It sounds like you may be having some trouble with this on your own end. Maybe you should try a different tact in your profile, or in the way you, respond to these people, no sense in doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different outcome each time, is there? | |
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Posted: 7/23/2005 8:53:27 PM | don't hate bubba! ;) i mean bulldog... don't be mad at me because you don't get any "wanna fvck" messages to reject. you've gotta remember... it's a whole lot easier for a woman to get laid than a man. so next time you dust your little willie off to play with him, remember... it's not my fault you can't get laid.
you made my point for me... "no sense in doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different outcome each time, is there?" NOPE... makes no sense at all... that's why i DON'T RESPOND. ;) | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 1:38:42 AM |
don't hate bubba! ;) i mean bulldog... don't be mad at me because you don't get any "wanna fvck" messages to reject.
lol, I'm not mad at you. Turn down as many potential suitors as you want. That elicits pity from me, not anger. I think it's obvious that you have issues with men, and for that I hope you someday feel good about yourself. I won't point out your obvious attempts at trying to lure men in with your lingerie glamour shots, only to reject them when they respond. Nor will I draw attention to your suggestion that I think of you when I masturbate. I think the issue with this thread has always been courtesy (or the lack thereof). It's wrong for the men to be discourteous when they write you, but it's somehow ok for you to be discourteous to those who haven't wronged you at all. It's all good, some people hit it on the head. Anyone who doesn't have the emotional attention span to respond to a message, is really not the type of person we want in the first place. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/24/2005 11:12:08 AM | Some people have the decency to reply, and that's nice.
But what's the big deal if she doesn't reply? It's just a mail, you don't even know her.
How bad can it be? Forget it! Plenty off cool people out there who will reply. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 12:02:32 PM | Maybe it's just because they're lazy, like me...lol. I have rcvd some very nice emails from men. So nice in fact, that I wanted to respond properly and not with a one liner. Then duh...I forget or it scrolls off the page. It's rude, I know it. Guilty as charged. The good news is I never delete anything! Just in case. Not really, it's because I'm lazy.
On the other hand, there are a bunch I don't respond to because based on our profiles, we're obviously not a good fit. I don't need more friends to just chat with, that's not what I'm looking for. So in that case, no response is a response isn't it? I don't usually delete those either and I really should.
I haven't rcvd any hateful emails from men. I wonder what that's about. I've only had to block one guy, and that was just because I wasn't interested in anything else he had to say, he wasn't mean, just a little too full of himself for my taste.
I agree that some of the female profiles here are a little over the top! Ladies, if you wanted to be treated like ladies, present yourselves as ladies. Think about the type of men you're attracting with your profile.
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Posted: 7/24/2005 12:18:15 PM | As a relative new-comer here, I would like to say that, unlike OTHER sites where 'ladies; can send smiles, carrots, winks..whatever..and indicate interests by 'hotlining' you..or even sending a saucy emails..and you find as a male,in order to contact them, you have to PAY to reply..usually in US dollars of course..at least here everything is FREE!
This way..one isn't 'scammed' into forking over only to find out you've been a victim of the site itself ..the profile has suddenly vanished..or you get nothing back from the supposedly interested party..or as happened to me on one occasion..a rude reply asking what in blazes I was doing contacting her in the first place, as she had NOT contacted me at all!
So let's put things into perspective here..YOU are free to contact anyone you wish..they are FREE to reply..or not, as they see fit
Certainly, the courtesy of a reply is appreciated, and several of the ladies I have written to have been kind enough to do so..gentle refusals admittedly...*grins*..but nicely worded, probably because my introductory email contained very little cause for them to be annoyed in the first place.
Okay..so my batting average to date has been about 4 replies to 50 emailings so far (which is a far higher ratio than the 'pay sites' have ever produced I might add), but I am not in the least discouraged..I wasn't born into the generation of 'instant everything"..and the 'I want it ALL and I want it NOW' mentality.
Lighten up, lean back, and laugh if they don't reply..Life has done it for a reason..maybe saved you from a heart break..a drained bank account, or given you time to pause and reflect on what YOU have to offer..in short..are you using the right bait for the fish you wish to catch?
And if you are one of those males that slings out his hook with a lump of meat attached..(*grins* the ladies know what I mean here)..don't be surprised if you land up with a shark on it! | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/24/2005 9:18:59 PM | Unfortunately, some people are just RUDE! I always try to respond whether interested or not.
There are a ton of responses if you're not interested for some reason!
I will tell you that I haven't read your profile, but my ex contacted me and said that he hasn't had any women repsond to his E-mails. I read his profile and gave him some advise on Friday and am hoping he will have a good report on Monday!
Keep it light and fun.. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 11:04:55 PM | | Well, I have a problem sort of like this. I have no problem actually getting women to respond initially to me when I write them a message. They usually come off as very interested and want to talk more. No, I am not misinterpreting this as someone just being nice. But they quickly seem to lose interest in me. All of a sudden, poof and one day they are gone. Its really quite frustrating when you think you've made a connection with someone and then all of a sudden they don't even want to speak to you anymore. Especially when you have been nothing but warm and kind. Can someone explain this to me and why this happens? Have they just traded up for some other jerk that they think is better? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:44:20 AM | bad kitty love it you got bulldog good bulldog the only problem shes got with men is cry babys like you,if the women dont wanna talk to you,badluck buddy stop cryin about it | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 4:30:10 AM | Hmmmm ...I thought it only happened to women ....but tome worst to never writing back are the ones ...that send you a nice response and then you never hear from them again grrrrrrr
But you do get that on all the sites ..... I try andrespond to all ...if nothing else to say thanks but no thanks | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 4:39:47 AM | No worries.
I sent a message to that girl that wanted to commit suicide because nobody ever gives her attention. She never got any replies, or emails...
So, I sent her a email to make her happy. I sent her another one asking for any reply so I know she was there. I guess her suicidal post made her famous. She doesn't have time to reply to me too. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 4:43:52 AM | whyistheskyblue,
Well, I have a problem sort of like this. I have no problem actually getting women to respond initially to me when I write them a message. They usually come off as very interested and want to talk more. No, I am not misinterpreting this as someone just being nice. But they quickly seem to lose interest in me. All of a sudden, poof and one day they are gone. Its really quite frustrating when you think you've made a connection with someone and then all of a sudden they don't even want to speak to you anymore. Especially when you have been nothing but warm and kind. Can someone explain this to me and why this happens? Have they just traded up for some other jerk that they think is better?
That's too bad. It's normal for this to happen to guys.
Any women ****ing about no responces are either very picky, or not human. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 5:08:26 AM | | I guess but what if I really liked someone. Would it be that bad of a thing to send them a message saying something like "hi, haven't spoken to you in a while, whats up with that?" I guess I would have to be really careful how I do it because it could easily be interpreted as needy and then it would be curtains for me for good. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/25/2005 5:15:47 AM |
That's too bad. It's normal for this to happen to guys.
Any women ****ing about no responces are either very picky, or not human.
Please. PLEASE! What's with the "guys have it so badly, women have such an advantage here?" I think we all have our hurdles on here, regardless. Playing the "I have it rougher than you" doesn't help, I can assure you.
Whyistheskyblue, how about just a "we haven't spoken in a while" note? Instead of asking her to account for the lapse, just try to reconnect. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 5:18:33 AM | whyistheskyblue,
Do you really want the truth? It's because she's busy with me, and maybe after I dump her, you can have the sloppy left overs. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 5:20:23 AM | nittanylion,
You are female. How do you know it's so easy for men to find dates here? Last I checked women are complaining because they cant get dates within hours of joining PoF. | |
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