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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/23/2008 9:14:25 PM | | I can't believe this is actually a thread! People shouldn't be proud they have never cheated, it should be expected. I've never cheated and never will, I think it's one of the cruelest things you can do to someone you love. I have never considered myself a great guy because I this fact, just like I don't think I'm great because I don't abuse people, it's common decency, or atleast should be. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/23/2008 9:52:33 PM | | Well, basic morals would prevent cheating from happening. However, I remember one time I was about 18, talking with my Dad. We had some in-laws that were very wealthy in the community, and very crooked. I had found out men would go out on boats or to hotels with high-class hookers(if there is such a thing). Big parties. I was stunned, because I knew their wives. I assumed that married people didn't do such things, that's why they were married. I told my Dad how utterly disgusted I was and that I thought these men were just human filth. Real quick my Dad replied, "Remember that if you ever cheat in a relationship you'll be no better than them." I didn't have a real strong understanding of what marriage was then, but I set it in me right then that I would never under any circumstances find a cause to degrade myself that way. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/24/2008 12:15:12 AM | I get that realisation in my head and sinking feeling in my stomach just thinking about what it would be like to tell someone what I'd done, which is quite a good deterrent and has worked out pretty well so far.
Oh and edit for clarity, I have a habit of having a big mouth, I have a harder time keeping my own secrets than other people's. If nobody in the world ever had to find out, I'd still probably tell them anyway. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/24/2008 5:02:18 AM | | I really dont see the reasoning behind cheating. If im in a relationship that isnt working, id rather split up with the person before gettin involved with another.. whats the point sneakin around, u may as well be single if ur not ready to commit and no one gets hurt then. My ex cheated on me with many of my friends and i was too naive and weak to do anything about it, im glad he did though because it has moulded who i am today and im a much stronger person, plus i KNOW i wont do it to anyone im with after ive experienced how much it hurts. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/24/2008 6:08:07 AM | been on the receiving end and it sucks. will end a relationship rather than betray it. still have to look in the mirror every day. can't honestly expect anyone to be trustworthy if
I am not... | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:23:29 AM | I have read this and so many say they haven't and never will...
Then why are so many being cheated on? I don't get it!
Is it Addition
In the Genes
Not enough at home
Not Loved enough
WTF
No matter the excuses...IT'S WRONG and IT'S HURTFUL!
EDIT: VVV Good point! Still wrong to Lie and or Cheat!!!
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:25:21 AM | ^^^
because very few people are honest &/or stupid enough to publicly state on a dating site
(where most presumably are looking for dates)
that they have and/or would in the future, cheat.. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:41:10 AM | | I have never cheated in the past and I will never do so in the future. I take loyalty VERY seriously and if I was to cheat I would be degrading myself and disrespecting my upbringing, values, beliefs, and morals. I have had boyfriends cheat on me in the past (physically and online) and promptly ended those relationships due to their infidelity. There is no excuse for cheating. It's negative, selfish behaviour, which I don't tolerate. My parents instilled in me the importance of commitment and the definition of loyalty and I uphold those beliefs. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:48:28 AM |
Actual life experience and actual statistics suggest to me that many of the "I never cheat" people here are lying... Men and women.
I doubt it.
Cheaters may read the thread, but I doubt they would post in the thread.
The truth always comes out sometime. If someone was a cheater, somebody in their network knows about it, and you will eventually find out that they did. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 3:11:53 PM | "Cheaters may read the thread, but I doubt they would post in the thread."
Verityone... you are funny.
Funny in the wayCharlotte in Sex and the City was.
There's no way for anyone to know who's lying about not cheating.
How are you gonna prove someone's cheating about being honest about cheating?
Sidenote: Do two cheats make a non-cheat?
But you can bet any body part at least some would... and they'd say "I don't cheat because blah blah blah" just like everyone else.
After all, they would want to actually get dates in the future. Nobody is that stupid... or at least, I hope not.
The fact that there's nobody who came out and said "I cheat because blah blah blah" here only proves that there's nobody here who is Duh-What's-My-Name Stupid who also has cheated.
And see... (sarcasm switch... ON).... they DON'T cheat because they said so in this thread. And this thread is PROOF that they don't.
YESSIREE!
It's True because It Is Written!
Lie on this thread and a specially built laser made by POF orbiting the earth will zap off your nose and nose hairs in your sleep if you do!
Oh yeah... I never cheated and never will cheat either... by anyone's or any country's definition of what cheating is.
I don't even show my ankles in public and have my own Burka.
It's great and I didn't even need to get a costume at Halloween and in the summer, I don't need to put on any sunblock. Going swimming is a bit of a pain though... but I got around the problem by sewing floaties around the bottom and middle of my swimming-burka so it floats on top of the water while I swim around.
I have to be careful of sewers though or I could have an embarrassing Marilyn Monroe-esque Burka-lifting incident which will cause women to see the beauty that is me and cause them jump on me and sexually ravage my body.
It's true because I still have my nose. Even check my pictures on my profile. Now you won't see the burka in my pics because I only wear it in public to keep me from cheating in the street and POF only allows pictures that show your face.
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 3:21:29 PM | Well, cheaters usually are compulsive liars, so I guess you could be right.
But they are also known to lie by omission, which is why I think that they wouldn't go out of their way to post a lie about their fidelity in this thread.
It's one thing to be forthcoming to someone you are dating that you've been guilty of cheating in the past, it's quite another to paint yourself as someone with morals when in fact you weren't.
But, again, you could be right. There could be a liar or two here in this thread. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 3:30:21 PM | Because it's wrong. I have a conscience, frankly I could never hurt anyone like that. You could really do damage to a person when you cheat on them. It happened to me (ex husband cheated), hence divorced now. I got over it and moved on with my life many years ago.
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal of trust. You shatter that trust, it would be hard to put it back together again. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 4:45:23 PM | Why ?
..... Because I've been on the other end of cheating. On more than one instance.
What was the reason [for each instance] ?
Some answers include but are not limited to:
* I'm not a real man....(If I hear another woman mis-quote this  )
* I don't have "swagger". My goodness alive, I surely apologize for my parents raising me right, and dismissing to teach me the schematics of "swag". *sigh*
* You're too nice. I will not, nor ever WILL I apologize for who I am. While we're on the subject, cheating on me is the perfect remedy for me treating you like a lady how .......... ? Ah, I get it. You want me to fondle you and speak improper english, and other shards of buffoonery. I'd cry, if I wasn't so busy laughing at the idea. Logic, even.
* I'm messed up, and can't deal with [insert conjured problem here] . Again, this remedies the problem how .........?
You can say "pick better", "change your circle", "you don't love yourself, because of the girls you attract" until you're indigo [lol Eifel 65 anyone ?] in the face. The fact remains, non of those things answer the question of decency.
I remember how I felt [past tense intensive *wink*] each time. Like I'm less than a person. Like I don't matter. Like the time invested was null and void. Like I'll forever be the one who "understands". Like I'm 2nd place. Those were not fun times.
I can't bring myself to make someone feel, the same way I've felt all those times. I can't, no matter how big her booty is, or how big of a chest she has, or how "easily accessible" she is, or how engrossing her conversation is, or how free she is with her body. Non of the physical stuff matters anyway, right ? I'm too busy, being too nice, right ? 
One woman.
Sometimes, all those oppertunities people spend being pissed off for something dumb (as is per justification for cheating) that energy could be spent on your partner. I just turned 25 a few weeks ago, what the hell do I know about women/love ? 
"The grass may be greener on the other side, but somebody's tending that lawn"
~ Anonymous
Eh. I'm but one fish. what do I know ?
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/27/2008 4:52:23 PM | I've been cheated on so I know how it feels to be lied to. So hence I will never cheat. I dislike cheaters with a passion so why would I become something I hate.
I even think that if it is a "bad" relationship the person should have the respect to break up with the person. I also think "revenge" cheating where one person cheats because they busted the other the whole "if they can why can't I" thing is wrong.
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 11/28/2008 7:50:34 AM | | In high school, did it like crazy, had 6 going at once......but I take my marriage vows serious and haven't and won't on my wife of 21 yrs. Don't have the time even if I had the desire too, between work and the kids. I've had guys ask why I don't, like I'm not normal, they don't by the vow part of it, so I tell them, if I'm going to lose half or more of everything I own, it would have to be someone so far superior to my wife.......haven't found that and don't think I will. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/24/2009 10:51:44 PM | Exactly. Cheating just leads to trouble, heartache, problems and UNhappiness. Trust is so hard to attain these days for so many........BECAUSE sooooooo many ARE cheating on someone they date/see/are friends with.
Although anyone of any gender, age, culture, financial means, etc., has the ability to cheat, we all see that by far the people with money and the best looks ARE the ones that cheat the most. Why? Obviously they not only have the more means to do so, and the influence, but the very frequent opportunities to do so because of who they know, the people in their circle of society, and their being looked up to as "better" than many others because of who they are and what they possess.
Why cheat? It gains a person nothing in the end. They end up all alone sooner or later.
Never have, won't now, never will in the future. I want someone for me and me ALONE. And I want to be someone for her and HER ALONE. Period. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/24/2009 11:42:03 PM | | erm.. cuz i have self control and am not a slut.. if something is so bad that you want somethng else.. then just walk (oh yeah dont murder them cuz ya know thats not good either) what the hell.. is it so damn hard to say no?? cheating to me shows 1 no self control over your own freaking hormoans 2 no self respect 3 you really dont give a damn about the person your cheating on (hence walk) .. I am sure I could go on but why bother. | |
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