| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 12:18:47 PM | I think one of the problems is that not everyone has the same idea of what "cheating" actually is. Some people think cheating is if you are having an ongoing affair, or sleep with one person more than once. Some people think getting a lap dance is not cheating, or making out with one of the male strippers is not cheating, or that oral sex only is not cheating, or if they're married but separated and sleep with someone other than whom they're legally married to; that they are not cheating or that if though they may be engaged to someone else, they're not actually cheating by sleeping with someone else until they're legally married.
Someone mentioned dating several people at once. I don't think that's cheating. Unless and until there's been a clear discussion that the two parties are exclusive with each other, then there's nothing to bind them to each other and no contract, verbal or written, that they've 'broken' by cheating.
The problems arise when two people in a relationship are not grown up enough to have honest discussions about what it is they believe and what it is they want. Too much is assumed or taken for granted.
It would be more interesting to first define what cheating is, or is not, and THEN ask everyone wether or not they've ever cheated  | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 6:26:50 PM | I have never cheated! I never will. Bottom line is I have too look at myself in the mirror and like what I see. 
...that means no looking at men and being aroused, no flirting, no touching in a way that I would feel aroused, no friendships with men that didnt involve my husband as well, no thinking about sex with another man, no watching porn, no telephone sex. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 6:44:15 PM | | I would NEVER cheat! It's hurtful, disrespectful, in a way selfish, etc. I don't get it on why people cheat. Like if your not ready to settle down with just one person, then remain single, just date no relationships til ready to settle down and if not happy in the relationship anymore then break up.. it's not that hard... Those who have or tempted to cheat should ask themselves, how would they feel if someone cheated on them. I bet they would be just as upset and what not just like the next person. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 6:48:57 PM | I wish more thought this way.
Honestly, if someone is so worried about loosing their partner, then why the hell do they allow themselves to cheat? Unless it was forced upon you, you're a cheater, and did so willingly.
How anyone can knowingly cheat on someone they supposedly care for, is beyond my understanding.
Frankly, I believe I will never cheat, because I have strong morals and would be far too disgusted with myself, to live with myself if I did.
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:30:51 PM | I think it's better if you feel like cheating. You should just end the relationship & be honest with the person. There's no real reason for cheating & you shouldn't. If you truly care about the person inside & outside you will never cheat on him/her.
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:35:22 PM | Never cheated and never will.
I'm old school, I guess. My word is my bond. When I make a committment, I follow through.
In addition, I've had it happen to me. It's the ultimate lie/betrayal.
Cheating is the murder of trust!
just my thoughts | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:36:59 PM | | I have never cheated nor will i ever cheat!!! I know that for a fact because i have had it happen to me and i would not put that pain upon anyone else. Nobody deserves to go through that. It is very hard on the self esteem. If i was with someone that i was not happy with and attracted to someone else.....i would end the relationship first before i started dating again. The truth may hurt ....but lying is unacceptable as far as I'm concerned . And i would never be with another woman's man!! That is ten times worse. I have respect for other women and would never want that to happen to me! | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:42:15 PM |
I've had it happen to me. It's the ultimate lie/betrayal.
Cheating is the murder of trust!
That ain't nothin.
Try havin your ex burglarize your home.............months after she's moved out.
Sprinkle some "feeling of being violated" on top of that sense of betrayal! | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 12:21:31 AM |
All can happen to you and you do not know never in which way you will react. Maybe they put you in a situation like. If you do not cheat your wife we will kill you. I was just putting a hypotetical situation, but for sure you will cheat then cos you will want to survive.
I have not read the whole thread but this is so absurd! Anyone who has the inclination to cheat will find an excuse.  | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 1:18:41 AM | I'm male and have never cheated in nearly 20 years of a ltr. It is possible and it is a choice. I've had opportunities and chosen to ignore them.
I may have had more opportunities if I was looking, but I wasn't. The ones I noticed were just super overt or because I was working away from home for an extended period and actually noticed the offer. It's funny what you don't see if you are not looking.
As to why. Pretty simple really. Respect, commitment, and integrity.
Am I bigoted about it, no. Could I see myself ever being tempted to the point where I'd cheat? Well yes, that could happen with the right attraction and the right circumstances but they'd have to be exceptional before I would abandon a lifestyle choice that I made so many years ago. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 4:25:18 AM | Cheating is cowardly. People are so chicken-s--t to be alone that they "sample" the goodies on the side and stick with their current, want their cake and eat it too.
I've never cheated...always made a clean break first...faced the unpleasantries "this isn't working out for me and this is why" and allow her to speak too, tried to talk things out to see if there's any way to make things work before pursuing another. My ex was feeling the same thing and was relieved that I ended it so she didn't have to LOL. I still enjoy a harmonious friendship with her because of this--we're even deeper friends now. Of course, should a new woman present herself, I'll probably have to cut off all communication with the ex, because the new woman won't take kindly to me talking with the ex. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 5:26:43 AM | HI-
Never have, never will...no reason to. I am honest and sincere. If something is wrong in the relationship, I would go to the other person and discuss it. If I am in a relationship, it is because I like/love the person.
In addition, I have been cheated on and it hurts. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 7:47:03 AM | since by definition, cheaters are liars, I wouldn't doubt that some cheaters have posted on this thread, emphatically claiming that they NEVER HAVE CHEATED!!
AND NEVER WILL!! and on & on in a holier-than-thou manner..
well, whatever..anyway I seriously doubt that many cheaters ,on a dating site, would be honest, get on here and say they have cheated, if they are still looking to meet any one..
In my experience, the worst liars are th ones that go on & on about how 'honest' they are, and how 'noble' they are..if someone lies about any thing, of course they will lie about (not) lying.. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:02:51 AM | ^^^^ damn skippy...This survey must heretofore be rendered invalid until each respondent is strapped down to a lie detector machine..
Cheating is the residue of insecurity and greed anyway.. If the relationship isn't working, why not just break it off and start new with another.. Besides all the stress from the sneaking around and lying can't be worth the trouble | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:16:32 AM | | I am proud to say that is me! I have more respect for a person than that. I am one of the few honest people left out there. When I am into someone I am really into them. I put all the passion I have into the relationship. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:22:18 AM | I've cheated in my past. I am not perfect. I used to try to not cheat for other people's feelings, other people's opinions of me, etc. Now I don't cheat for me. It's weak. I am not gonna be in something that is not doing it for me out of fear of lack of something better (which was my main reason to before).
These self-indulgent threads piss me off because I don't believe 1/2 of the posters in them.
I think if we lined up posts with truth, some people would be suprised and dissappointed.
Call me kooky, crazy, an ***hole, whatever. This place strikes me as a liar's haven, sometimes, with some of the stuff I read. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:53:11 AM | Who everI was in a serious relationship, cheating was the * furthest * thing from my mind, I never even thought of it, honestly I have never cheated in any of my relationships, nor I never would.
gezzz I can hardly handle one man never mind two | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 9:13:31 AM |
Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
This is an easy claim for me. The past is the past, can't be undone, and just didn't happen (more because of circumstances than moral superiority). It will be impossible for me to cheat in the future because I don't intend to enter into an exclusive, monogamous relationship. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 1/26/2009 9:32:03 AM | | I've never cheated and never will. If I'm not happy in a relationship, I try to fix what's broken.. if I can't? I end it and then move on. I don't believe in cheating for any reason....I just wish more people would be as considerate... | |
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