| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 4:50:23 PM | | So you couldn't just end the relationship like a decent human being? That's actually, pretty simple. I'd never cheat because I've been on the other side of that, and I just think it's ridiculously lazy to not just break up with someone who isn't giving me what I need. People who cheat deserve the absolute worst karma can return their way. Twice. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 5:01:25 PM | | rafeal3... right on the money, people out there should be shot!!! I dont think that they realise how much they are hurting the other person!!! Get a CLUE, *ssclown!! If you dont want to be with the person, tell them , then it wont be cheating when you get with your next fling, or whatever ..... | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 5:04:14 PM | The cheating thing is so harshly judged. I use to be the same way about judging it. Had a friend that would do it and I would tell her it is going to come back and bite u in the ass, and well it did eventually, and she lost the man that she had cheated on to the woman he cheated with. But what happens when ur in a relationship and ur not happy but if u leave u lose everything that uhave worked years for? U lose friends because well they think ur crazy, why arent u happy, how could u not be happy? its the right thing to do even though u both are not happy, its the right thing to stay with the one and only person that u married?
Never say never. cause we cannot predict the future and what it may bring, and well u may just eat ur words. | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 56 | |
| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 6:44:34 PM | This one's easy. Never cheated. I can't. Not if I'm in love. Even if I'm in love and she couldn't care less. Even if she betrayed me and broke my heart. Even if I craved revenge. Even if I wished she could taste the venom that I was spitting out. Even if I HATED her. Even if she knew she was still the uncontested sovreign of my blackened heart. If I love her I can't be intimate emotionally or physically with anyone but her.
Not that that's happened or anything.... ;)
Ok, it happened, I tried, I failed, it sucked.... | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 58 | |
| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:03:22 PM | This one's easy. Never cheated. I can't. Not if I'm in love. Even if I'm in love and she couldn't care less. Even if she betrayed me and broke my heart. Even if I craved revenge. Even if I wished she could taste the venom that I was spitting out. Even if I HATED her. Even if she knew she was still the uncontested sovreign of my blackened heart. If I love her I can't be intimate emotionally or physically with anyone but her.
Not that that's happened or anything.... ;)
Ok, it happened, I tried, I failed, it sucked....
fyi: I don't recommend using that as the excuse to tell the girl you were about to ***** why you can't....unless you don't mind walking out of an apartment building to retrieve your pants and boxers from the ground floor parking lot with your shirt tied around your waist... | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:07:42 PM | | I can honestly say I hope to gosh I never will cheat. For one, when I love one person, I love ONE person. I simply can't get interested in others (not in a romantic way). In any case, I can't hurt people like that, I'd probably run off and cry if I did. (yeah, sappy, but hurting people makes me soooo sad!) | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:27:25 PM | I had the opportunity once when I was living in Toronto, and it was very, very temping. Even though my girlfriend at the time was showing signs that she may have been cheating, I somehow managed to get on the subway and go home. :) A few years later she ended up ripping my heart out and using it for a Yoga mat, but meh...I'm sure Karma will work its magic on her in time.
I agree, it's pointless to put someone through that (or any kind of ) pain. Especially when you've felt it yourself.
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:36:15 PM | | Actually I can predict that I won't cheat on someone because it's all about willpower. Making up excuses to rationalize why you cheat is just that, making up excuses. If you're unhappy in a relationship, end it. Sticking around because you might "lose what you've worked for" is not a decent reason to maintain a relationship. If your friends do not think that your happiness is important, maybe you need to re-evaluate your friendships. Cheating has a negative connotation because it IS a bad thing. I don't see what's so hard to grasp about that concept. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:16:48 PM | Never have; Never will....
Unfortunately, I have experienced this once too many times....
to me, the worst pain a human can put another through. If unhappy, relate this to the other and either work on it or end it.....just not worth the changes it does to a person.....changes them for the rest of their life!!!
Learn from the mistake, just be strong enough to overcome it and not assume others will do the same...and will be able to have a happy relationship again once the pain subsides... | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:21:24 PM | Nope. I had thought about it once, but I never did. It was just a sign of how unhappy I had become. And I chose to deal with that. IF I even start thinking about it or being with other people, and I wanna STRESS here finding someone attractive is an awful long way from cheating, but if I start thinking about physically being with anyone else, then thats a sign theres issues in my relationship and I do an about face and start working on my relationship. If it cant be resolved - I leave.
Cheating is just distraction [ is mostly all about attention] or an excuse to get away from hard to deal with real life issues. But once you've had someone nice long term and you realise how much hard work and time goes into a great relationship, if you're smart, you dont want to lose if for a quick thrill or attention boost. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:30:44 PM | | I have never cheated on a girlfriend, I never will. Why? Well, to be real honest, if I'm in an uncomfortable scenario, or if I'm feeling guilty, or if I don't actually care about the person I'm with... I just can't get it up. And that's the honest truth. I let my conscience guide my body and I listen to the signals it gives me. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:03:24 PM | | I haven't ever cheated on anyone, and don't ever plan on it. I have been cheated on too many times to count. A broken heart is some of the worst pain a person can ever experience in their lifetime, and I've had more than my share. I would not want to put someone else through that, even if they did it to me, and even if they "deserved" it. Human decency seems to be fleeting and I won't contribute by doing something I know to be wrong. It seems too many people anymore either don't know wrong from right, or just don't care. I was raised right, and if I ever have children, I want to make sure they are raised right as well, and understand wrong and right, and do their best to always try to do right. | |
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Viper1
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Joined: 6/13/2005
Msg: 70 | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:11:47 PM | Never have and never will........ If I'm that unhappy in a relationship I will leave it !
I agree with ya lippy.
Never had it done to me to my knowledge, or ever done it to anyone either. I wouldn't like it done to me. And I'm big on , do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. If it's over, and you want to be with someone else...be man/woman enough to tell them...and move on. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:14:34 PM | Tossing my own two cents in:
Never cheated, never will. My ex-wife did, which is one of the reasons she's now my EX wife. The other reasons aren't pertinent to this thread. Like a lot of others have said, I know what it feels like to be cheated on, and I'd never put anyone else through that. Plus, when I make a committment to a person; they have my entire devotion and faithfulness...it's onlt the right thing to do, as I see it. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/17/2005 11:56:57 PM | | Admittedly I have...it was one night in a five year relationship that I've been wanting to get out of but my ex wouldn't let me...I was honest with him about it but he still wouldn't end the relationship...but if I was with someone I was truly in love with...absolutely not because nobody compares to him and I wouldn't care to be with anybody else. | |
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hank5
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Joined: 4/13/2005
Msg: 74 | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 1:13:18 AM | | I never understood the logic behind cheating. If you want to fool around with someone other than your long term (I am assuming we are talking long term) GF/BF then why be in a relationship? Besides... I have never hated someone I was dating so much as to put them through that kind of pain and humiliation. Meet some else you think might be better? Be honest, break up and take your chances with option number two. | |
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