| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 6:27:39 AM |
Posted By: AsGoodAssItGets on 7/17/2005 3:04:52 AM
Subject: Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Message: I Myself, Never Have And Never Will Cheat. (And, I CAN say never.) Why, because there is no need to put someone through that pain, and disrespect; when you can just respectfully break up with them. Am I alone here? I know lots of women will show, but come on men, show yourselves! I'm thinking we're rare as can be, show me I'm wrong.
never have, never will and I hate cheaters...
if you think so little of the person you're with then break it off... and if you are such a weak minded person that you can't resist the temptation to stray.. then perhaps you should not be in a relationship to begin with.. that way you can do what you want and with whomever you want
if you want multiple fu(% buddies, then maybe you should find someone with the same attitude then you can agree to screw around.. and both of you will be ok with it. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 11:47:51 AM | I cheated once. What I should have done was talk to my significant other and worked things out or moved on. It came back to bite me on the ass and I guess you can say I learned things the hard way.
I'll never do it again but that's because it's a promise to myself to be better than that. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 3:55:01 PM | | How about a different spin?What if you are single and not in a relationship.Then you meet someone who is married and they tell you they're in the process of leaving the marriage,but can't yet(money reasons).The dude she is married to is a jerkweed-mentally and physically abusive.I have done that.Does that make me a cheater?How about her?Am I a home wrecker?Can I be if the situation was already a wreck before I came along?I mean her mind was made up before I came along.Do I feel bad or guilty?Nah,the guy was a jackass so he doesn't deserve a wife as far as I'm concerned.Yikes,you guys are gonna crucify me now I bet,haha. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 4:07:10 PM | | I never cheated because according to my logic if I cheated I should never go out ever again, and besides, the laws of karma dictate that if I did, I'd live a living hell, and to hurt a nice girl like that isnt right. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 4:07:53 PM | | wow, thats low man... she should have left her previous situation before getting with you.... it would be different if she told you that she was single but by the sounds of it you knew him!!! | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 4:16:33 PM | | But the husbands conduct is acceptable????????I feel if you treat your wife that way she's gonna look for positive attention elsewhere.Hey,just adding some honesty to this board bro.By the way,karma is bullshit.I was with the same woman for 15 years-never cheated,drank,did drugs, I always worked,never abused her in any way,never raised my voice in 15 years.She still cheated on me though.Go peddle the karma crap elsewhere. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 4:20:39 PM | | jeffey, Im sorry to hear about what happened to you, but it obviously hurt you when she did it to you, all I am saying is think of how he feels..... she should have left him if it was that bad!!! are they still together now?? | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 4:23:49 PM | I feel that you get back later in life as to what you give now.So if you lie,cheat,then some day you will fall in love and it will happen to you.
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 4:28:45 PM | I will never cheat.....and yes I can say never , regardless of the post that said "you can never say never"
I will never cheat because I have been cheated on and it feels horrible. The thought of everyone knowing but you makes you feel worse then the act of being cheated on. I felt like a total idiot, it was right in front of my face and it took some time for me to figure it out. Others knew but no one wanted to tell me cause they thought it was none of their business. Well I got hurt twice ....once by my boyfriend and once by those who claimed to be my friends, but keep it under their hats , just so an idiot could cheat on me. I loved him and he hurt me , sure the signs were there but I was blinded by love I guess. I dumped him and never took him back , even though he tried to convince me he would change.
I never want to make anyone feel so hurt and humiliated ever. So I will never cheat , I am and adult and if I want to have sex with someone then I will do the adult thing and be honest and tell the one I am with that I dont want to be with them anymore. Why lie? When in the end the only one you have to answer to is yourself, why not just tell the truth and set the one your with free. Sure being honest will hurt the one your with, but it is easier to deal with the truth, and I myself can respect people that have the guts to tell the truth even though they know it is still gonna hurt someone. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 4:32:58 PM | | Well I did put in 15 good solid honest loving years-and it got me shit(to all you karma lovers out there).She did leave man,and she's doing good now.It's better when your husband doesn't beat the shit outta you.And I'm the anti-christ?I also look at this in another way-if I burn in hell for helping a nice woman realize she deserves better than being abused than so be it.Burn baby burn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 5:21:21 PM | People are only as moral as the options before them. To all of the men who say they have never cheated; (1) How many opportunities have they had to cheat? (2) Were the opportunities enticing at all? (3) How far did you go to protect your relationship? (4) Was it difficult for you to say no? It's easy to walk away from an opportunity that isn't worth much, but what if it's more than just a physical attraction? What if the person approaching you imprints your heart in some way? What if you are in a dissatisfying relationship? I won't judge anyone who says they have or have not cheated. What I will judge is their inability to take ownership of it and move forward without looking back. What I will judge is their inability to leave the person they clearly do not love.
A relationship has to be protected from such things. Why? Because a relationship is at a constant risk of being ruined. Sharing intimate secrets about your relationship with someone you are attracted to, having coffee after work with the hottie in the office next to yours, taking the phone number or email and putting it in your pocket, letting her touch your hand or stand closely next to you, accepting gifts from someone who is clearly trying to win you....those are the actions of someone who is failing to protect the relationship they are in. I think protecting ones own relationship is a clear indication as to how serious they are about the person they are with.
People can claim to be morally rigid about such topics, but the truth will always lie in how they deal with what they are challenged with. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/18/2005 5:46:01 PM | 1) I've had more than one chance to cheat per relationship on average. On one weekend fraternity camping trip alone, I could have cheated on my then gf with at least 3 different women who all suddenly found me appealing when they realized I had a gf who was considered "hot".
2) Yes. The assumption that people don't cheat simply because the option isn't present or appealing, is a cop out. If you want to cheat, you'll cheat with anyone. If you don't want to cheat, you won't cheat with anyone.
3) I didn't do anything. No kissing, nothing. The fact is, if I'm with someONE, I'm only with one person. I don't need extra attention.
If I'm falling for someone else while in a relationship, the simple answer is, I break up with the one I'm with. If I then choose to pursue the other relationship that's up to me, but no one gets deceived or betrayed that way. You see how easy that is? And yes, I've actually done that so I'm not speaking from a hypothetical place.
4) Was it difficult to say no? Yes, because I could have had a threesome which is something I often fantasized about. And even in that case, where I could have had something I'd dreamed about for years, I still said no.
Cheating or not, is all about willpower. Anyone who has a great deal of it won't cheat. Plain and simple. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/19/2005 12:36:33 AM | Oh, I've had opportunities....I never took any of them because I had made a committment to someone I loved with all my heart, and I was going to keep that committment intact.
Yes, some of the opportunities were attractive, but I just wasn't going to do it; the relationship I was in was MUCH too important to risk damaging it on a fling.
I would be pretty direct about it...to the point where I would say to the person trying to entice me "I'm very happily married, and this is just not going to happen between us. If you're still going to push me, then I want you to leave me alone."
Was it ever difficult to say no? No it wasn't, for the reasons I've already listed. Eventually my wife decided she was going to cheat, and subsequently left me for the guy with whom she was cheating.
I would never put anyone through that, nor be a party to someone else's cheating. I know how much it hurts. | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/21/2005 8:49:04 PM | | I'm very suprised at the number of acclaimed non-cheaters, if not the percentage of non-cheaters on this link...almost 100%...considering the number of cheaters I've come across in my lifetime...be it cheaters who come on to me...i've dated a few cheaters...my grandfather was a cheater and a number of other people's fathers were cheaters. They are rampant. I am not a cheater, by nature, thank god...it's not my style. I value/respect relationships too much and other people's relationships too much, so no I would never hook up with someone who is with someone, if anything they get quite a lecture from me. I respect the girl too much and their relationship. Is my life experience rare? | |
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| Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..?
Posted: 7/21/2005 9:19:15 PM | Have cheated once....worse feeling ever....will never do it again. It was a spur of the moment thing that I didn't think about. I think it hurt me more than the person that I was with, if that's humany possible. Have been on the receiving end as well.
Cheating is wrong, it's stupid and it's downright mean. Can't say that I've never cheated, but I never will again. And that's a certainty. | |
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