| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/18/2005 12:09:53 AM | [Most of the older folks here keep themselves sedated in the 30+ area, in their 40+ and 50+ threads. Once in a while the mods look in on them to make sure the mail isn't piling up, which could be a bad sign.]
I resemble this ^^^ comment...its us oldies that developed the internet..it ain't a young thing..except maybe shooting things on a screen....
C++ | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/18/2005 7:29:11 AM | I have the utmost respect for Internet pioneers who bravely traversed the wilds of cyberspace in the pre-gopher days when it was uphill both ways, through snowdrifts with wolves nipping at their heels, the first to print those immortal words: hello world. Enjoy the well-deserved rest. I'll try to keep this kids quite when it's time for your naps.
 | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/18/2005 12:36:59 PM |
I think it has a lot to do with the fact that the "young'uns" are children of the internet era, whereas many people in their 40's and upwards are not very internet savvy.
Hummm
I'm 42, I'm self taught in HTML, and CSS, and I've been making graphics with vector and raster layering for 8 years now.
Hummm
What to say...
well I guess us older people must be a heck of alot smarter because we know this stuff, and we didn't have the "luxury" of growing up with it in our homes as a "common television".
*grin
Yep, that's what I wanted to say.
windover | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/18/2005 12:50:51 PM | Hey grandmasternathan and any other guys young or old in his shoes: Just flirt and tease the hell out ot these ladies, dont even worry or think about if you are going to ask them out, that will ruin your fun. Sit next to the girl in class and say "you smell like candy", or tell the pregnant woman (without a ring on or with a ring on who cares ehh?) in grocery store, how fantastic and desirable she looks. If some chicks move into the apartments across the street, go over and "borrow a cup of sugar" or ask "for some honey". And then just leave, or not, just stand there in the doorway saying stupid stuff like us guys are good at.
This works best if you aren't worried about asking for a date, just tease the ****es! | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/18/2005 2:05:14 PM | Whew.. I'm glad that I am no longer a Youngin...
But my reson for being here is because
I live in a small town with no one who can keep up with me intellectually.
Outside of family..
And there are NO options for dating here...
Everyone is married, dating and family here...
So I came to this site because it was highly recommended by a friend.
Katelynn | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/18/2005 2:09:43 PM | | tex,,these young studs and hot young women can do everything. They learned to multitask,,a word I truly hate! | |
|
| |
sddude
|
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 33 | |
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/18/2005 3:32:17 PM | I am not much of a youngin anymore but in college every woman I know is too busy or is already living with someone .
Women in bars do not respond unles I play the "game" , being here as a guy with no results is just being hopeful . | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 9:36:26 AM | well... im only 19.. I knew turing when I was 14... C++ when I turned 16 and almost every internet code b4 now... there's some prespective. Plus I also have a life (not saying you dont) just saying I don't think young'uns got nothing on ya.  | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 10:16:29 AM | | It might sound crazy, but I just moved here and don't know anybody. I lost a lot of weight and definitely get more attention from the opposite sex, however I would appreciate a friend that likes me for who I am. Here I don't have to show my face to talk to people. I find people that talk to me cause they like who I am as a person, not what I look like. Guess I am still getting used to weight loss. | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 6:24:42 PM | Well speaking as a "young'un" lol, I've never really had time during the school year to meet with guys. Plus the area I'm studying in doesn't have that much of a male population.
I found this site to be pretty much a better resource for me. :) | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 6:31:08 PM | i mean profile after profile, and forum post after forum post seems to be written, more and more, by kids in the 18 to 22 range. most, if not all, seem attractive and interesting. and i'm wondering, why are they here? i mean i know why i'm here... i'm 45 and have been out of the dating scene for more than a decade. i got a lot of catching up to do, and i have very few, if any, places to meet people. but why would an active college-aged student need an on-line dating site???
I wondered that too. When I was in college, I was either studying or out with friends and meeting people. Wild horses couldn't have kept me inside when I was young. Evidently something has changed. | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 6:32:57 PM |
whereas many people in their 40's and upwards are not very internet savvy.
Oi vei, what planet are you on?  | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 10:16:55 PM | | I know. When i was 18 i never would of thought to join a dating thing. O thats right i had a boyfriend from high school at that age lol, i wasnt meeting guys online, scary lol. | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 10:28:28 PM | Why am i here?
these days:
-Getting drunk is preffered to a classy bottle of wine for people my age
-Doing drugs is more common and socially exceptable, and its hard to get into a group of people where they are narcotic free.
-I am shy
-Gentlemens are not appricieated for people my age... If i beat the sh!t out of people, it would be more attractive.
-I don't have time to look for women by going places. Id rather just come online
-Seems you can meet more and more descent people online... who are looking for the same thing. | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 10:44:05 PM | | I'm 19, I'm here because I'm a single mom so I need someone MATURE..not gonna find it around here. My best dates have been with guys I've met from the internet. It's slim pickings around here especially when I live in a town of only 1000 population. I like the idea of talking to someone online & then meeting them. | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:55:47 PM | A lot of people have already posted some good reasons as to why they're here. Some of mine are similar and some of mine are different. First off I've only been in one relationship. It only lasted about 2-3 months. And this is when I was 22. As in only a few months ago, before my birthday. So yeah, I'd say part of the reason I'm here is the frustration and feeling of hopelessness. On top of that I recently graduated, so I'm back to being my lonely self and starting from scratch. And I guess even though I'm not considered old yet, being in a relationship for the first time at the age of 22 doesn't exactly sound too good either.
Admittedly I used to be shy type of person before. But my lifestyle eventually changed. I began to open up more and meet new people. And that's when I realized that getting into a relationship wasn't as easy as I thought it would be. Let me tell you, just because you're young doesn't mean it's easy. It may seem like it, but trust me it isn't. There are several factors, especially in college, that tend to complicate or even prevent long-term relationships from happening.
1. The future. Most 18-22 year old people are in college or some other form of education. Now, you might find someone special during those years, but you have very little guarantee that the two of you will be involved in anything long term. Once college is over it's goodbye. Everyone has their own ambitions in life. Even love can't change that sometimes. Some people can handle long distance relationships. Some can't. I'm the latter of the two. Part of the problem that occurs with people my age is that they don't think ahead. They get into something serious and they end up in total heartbreak when they find out that they actually have their own life ahead of them.
2. Drinking. Unfortunately it looks like our society has set the main arena for dating at bars and parties. That's okay for people who like to drink. But for those of us who don't drink, how exactly do we fit in to an environment like that? Hey I know it's possible to go to a party without drinking. But honestly, what's the point? It looks and feels awkward to do something like that. So you're just standing there humming yourself while everyone is drinking and smoking all around you. I'm sorry but that's not the type of place I'd want to go to meet a girl. This isn't just for college students either. I know that some of you older people are also tired of meeting people at bars. We're just tired of it!
3. Commitment. Okay, I really don't know what's up with this. The majority of the single girls I've met at college were afraid of a commitment. They just wanted to "fool around" and have a fling. This came as a shock to me, since I thought boys were more like that. And oddly enough some of my best male friends from college, including roommates, were interested in a long-term relationship. So it felt as if the roles were completely reversed and I was living in bizzaro world or something. The guys were looking for something long-term, while the girls were just out to have fun. I don't know if I was just cursed with a bad college or what, but that was my scenario.
Hmmm I think that about covers it. Well those are my reasons. I'm glad someone asked about this, because I'd like people to realize that it isn't easy for us younger people either. If anything it's harder. Part of the problem is being at that young age where we still don't even know where the future will take us. And honestly, I don't believe a relationship can work out until you've finally settled down somewhere, got your life together, and carefully looked at whether your life will be compatible with your partner's. That's just the reality of it. | |
|
| |
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/2/2005 4:46:08 AM | I'm only here for the forums. I've sent emails to all the people I would of like to have met, but you can't always get what you want. So I just use the forums for a source of mild entertainment, and to see different opinions on certain subjects.
I'm out of college, and even during college, there was only a hand full of women near my age... and all of them were already seeing somebody. The majority of my classmates had families, kids, and some of them had grand kids.
I try to frequent college hangouts, though I don't meet many single women. Most college students often date other college students, or still have their high school sweet hearts. Even then, I'm very limited as to where I can go... being that I'm just 3 months away from being able to just legally stand inside most bars. So I often go to one of the many coffee shops near the university, read a book, and wait for some interesting girl to walk past... if I manage to get my courage up, I'll ask her if she would like to join me to coffee. So far, it has been pretty uneventful. It is a feat finding someone who you are compatible with, but it is hard enough just finding a girl who is single... not to mention single and interested in you simply upon the first impression.
I don't like clubs, and I don't like places that play bad music... and to my opinion, about 90% of the places that young people haunt are often places that play bad music. So for me personally, there arn't many social settings to meet girls my age. | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/2/2005 4:58:37 AM | i am 23. descent looking, smart, funny, own my own home, no kids..... country girl type.. but i hate the bar scene and the fear of rejection... plus i am on this damn comp so much for school...its fitting..lol | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/2/2005 8:45:27 AM |
don't college-aged adults have a whole lot more "real-world" opportunities?
HA!! Yeah, usually we'll have part time jobs that will allow an odd work week so that there just might be the chance that we'll have a Wednesday off or something and we can mingle with the public during that time, but the thing is, most of those part time jobs are 2nd or 3rd shift to accomodate the whole school thing so if we get stuck working on weekends, we're pretty much stuck to a conversation with our coworkers. Think of it like two full time jobs; 40 hours per week at school, 40 hours per week at work. And if we don't want to really suffer, we had better leave 56 hours to sleep (give or take a few hours). That leaves a whopping 16 hours to meet other people. Wow. Barely above 2 hours per day. And I imagine you're going to want to bathe, eat, and go to the bathroom at some point during those remaining hours so... yeah... you might not want to do that in front of a potential date... I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be good.
Younger people tend to be more social, attending the bar scene, night clubs, etc., but a vast majority of those who don't have the extra college hours added to their schedule still have crappy 2nd shift jobs so their schedules are practically the opposite of the social scene. They're working when others are partying, and off work while others are working. And it's hard to meet new people in a situation like that... believe me, I've tried. I have to rely on my friends to introduce me to new people either on my days off or after I get off work around midnight. It sucks. Internet sites like this one allow me to meet new people on my own and figure out if I like their personalities for myself instead of their acuaintance being thrust on me by one of my well-meaning friends. It's not necessarily a last resort, just an easier means of meeting people with my busy and odd-scheduled life. | |
|
buni
|
Joined: 12/12/2003
Msg: 47 | |
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/2/2005 11:50:50 AM | Ohhh ,where did my geritol and walker go?I feel so old now...lol
For the remark about the people 40 and up don't know much about computer stuff,that is wrong..How old do you think the people who started the whole interent/computer thing are now?They sure aren't 20;) | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/2/2005 2:53:34 PM | Well said batgirl. Amongst the young college age crowd, there are usually two types. The studious and the partyer. The partyer is often an obnoxious yahoo, and the studious is usually either at home studying or at work earning money. The rare times when you see the studious outside of work or study is when they are with friends, and only have that time to spend with friends or family. Often is the case that college students study in coffee shops just to get out of the house or dorm room, and to get a little caffeinated fuel to keep them awake during their studies.
So your best bet is to either meet a studious college student when they are working, and ask them out. Or to hope that they won't get pissed if you interrupt their studying by asking them out. Though they usually don't have much time to have an active relationship, and are usually drained by the time their day off comes around. It can suck to be a college student if your parents arn't footing the bill. | |
|
nergal
|
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 49 | |
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/2/2005 3:03:42 PM | | I have worked in IT for over 21 years now, and was playing with bulletin board systems and direct dial connection before the Net was thought of. I even remember the first IBM pcs coming into the country cos I got invited to see them. In the late 80's we tested attaching pics to email to see if we could recover the data, something that people now take for granted .. I'm happy sitting in my corner on my rocker chewing on valves lol | |
|
| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 6/2/2005 3:15:28 PM |  TEX..
I agree... Go out and LIVE !!!!!...  I used to go out dancing  every week........
Besides, for them it would be wiser to meet someone offline than to wind up figuring someone and the unreality of the NET ... don't you think? | |
|
Home
login 
