| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 12/23/2007 11:13:13 PM |
....it's very obvious that you have a problem with you're own height.....
It's the old attack the messenger when you don't like the message. The thread question concerns why women don't respond and the most common answer is the guy's height. Does this make you uncomfortable? The rest of the response is full of "I'm not guilty" anecdote. I would guess the quoted remark hit a nerve and produced a defensive (quilt) reaction to a truism many women don't wish to admit as most people don't wish to admit their prejudices. This is especially true when claiming that a man's character is most important then chastising men for concentrating on women's looks.
If you wish to find other anecdotal evidence, look for claims from women that men lie about their height and women lie about their age. People lie on dating sites to "get their foot in the door". Its a game where people wish to get past the initial screening. If I had an issue with MY height, I would do like so many women claim men do and lie about it. Instead, I point out a hypocrisy that is probably the most common answer to this thread.
Perhaps I should explain my motive for the "history" you seem to use for armchair psychoanalysis. I try to make people think about their actions. The defensive, and sometimes offensive, responses indicate I have been successful. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 12/24/2007 12:59:59 AM | | just last night i received an email... and well it didnt even deserve a response but I did.. havent heard from him since! LOL geesh he says, I bet you are lots of fun, with Viagra I can keep up with you".. now i ask... this . what in my profile even hints to Viagra??? but i did respond... said " alrighty then and Merry Christmas to you too!" I think im safe with not tryin that? geesh already! and i dont even know who tall or short he is! | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 12/24/2007 4:27:54 AM |  Too funny Shende, same kind of thing here. I get a first time email from someone asking me to come over for a candlit dinner, wine, etc. then wake up in each others arms and go do something tomorrow.....my response? "Thanks for the offer, but I think I'll stay home tonight."
Perhaps I should explain my motive for the "history" you seem to use for armchair psychoanalysis. I try to make people think about their actions. The defensive, and sometimes offensive, responses indicate I have been successful.
Actually, in my opinion it all just makes you sound like a self-righteous a$$ which is why I don't normally respond to your sermons. But of course, that's only my opinion and I wanted to share it with you. We will obviously never come to agreement, which is fine. After-all, if everyone got along this would be a very boring place to live. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 12/24/2007 4:44:55 AM |
Chemistry is the ever present EXCUSE for everything!!!!!! It is the excuse of the lazy, ignorant and spoiled that the other person did not inspire them to be HUMAN!!!!!
What? Okay. Yes, okay. Maybe? Nah. Maybe. No. Whatever….
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:44:28 PM | You can lead a horse to water but you can't make her think.
If you don't match a person's requirements, they may respond you are not a match but still get angry replies. Some choose to simply let it fade away. Don't invest too much emotion in your introductory email. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/19/2008 1:27:28 AM | Not really sure! I have been writing since December 2005 and get some rare replies. One we talked a little over a year and met for coffee. Distance prevented meeting sooner. I made a mistake requesting encounters a few times early in and stopped abruptly. But basically no one replies with interest and its up to them obviously.
All I say is. You did not give me much consideration and its obvious why. So I will just settle in a dating relation with a lady I contacted in Craigslist. A "PARA LEGAL" I might ad. Nice considerate serious and yet casual too. Hidden CLASS ACT. Lovely Lady. See you picky women. Thanks but no thanks. Will not delete my ad now but will in a few days.
Chuck | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/23/2008 10:46:47 PM | | Because as it was said before, some of us get a bunch of e-mails in a short amount of time. And me personally.. i dont check this site every day. I have a demanding job that keeps me away. Also, i make it clear in my profile that if you dont seem like my type after i read your note, and view your profile, I will not write you back. Nothing against you but we all know that #1 thing you look at is physical attraction. If you dont think they are good looking should you really lead them on? no. #2 if you read their profile and you and them have NOTHING in common, whats the point. And.. if i got a penny for every note ive gotten on here thats said "hey sexy how you doin" I would be a millionaire. So i hope that gives you an idea. This is a good way to meet people if you dont have a lot of time to go out and meet people. But in all reality, the easiest way to meet someone is to run into them on the street, or at church, or even the grocery store. Hope that helps. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/27/2008 6:34:37 AM | I think it is a combinaton of things. I do anwer all messages and IMS's, but if I am not interested I will state that and/or simply send little cute empty responses. I might like their conversation, but not interested in meeting until I feel comfortable.
There are so many wierdo's out there and women if on this POF may live alone. So, you have to take your time and trust you gut.
When we reply to someone we do not know there history (background). Are they lieing etc. I know who I am and what I am about, but I do not know who I am talking too. Just try to send notes and see what happens.
Do not ask for a womans phone number in the first message or note. Get to know her You would be surprised how many men instant message wanting SEX or want to meet just for SEX.
WORDS OF WISDOM: Everybody does not desire SEX only or on the first date. It is hard sometimes trying to weed that out.
Some people they just are not interested in just like men can not be interested. NO picture makes it harder.
Take your time both people will know when it is right.
Have a Blessed Day! | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/27/2008 8:40:27 AM |  I try very hard to be nice and reply to every message I get, but sometimes the messages a woman gets are very hard to reply to. The typical "Hey I like you,"... reply "Hey thanks, I like me to"  Some guys try damn hard to be the nice gentleman when they first start chatting on IM, than in a short time do a complete flip. Why is it some people think just because you talk to them, you are instantly together? Last night had a creep IM, was nice at first than suddenly started cussing me out because I would not give him my phone number. I for one dont like to give my number out when I just started talking to someone, there are to many freaks out there. He than told me to buy him a bus ticket so he could come see me from Illinois, hmmm red flag!! Broke a$$ don't have a car, obviously doesnt have a job and thinks I am going to foot the bill for him to come see me...HELLO I dont think so! The safety of my kids is my pain priority.
If that means I am the bit(h from hell because I wouldnt call him than so be it.  LOL he said I was playing hard to get and I need to stop playing games. Some people are just crazy, maybe this world would be a happier place if people took their PROZAC!  Some messages are definately a good laugh. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 2:00:00 PM | haha I agree with everything you said here!! I DONT want you phone number right away!!! For real guys.. you think i want every guy i run into on here to have my number? YOU HAVE TO BE NUTS! You cannot tell a serial killer by talking to them on the internet or sometimes even in person. Sorry.. but i dont wanna be that girl dead on the side of the road. And guys... if you think YOU are the ONLY guy we are talking to on here.. hahaha You are in for a big suprise. The only time i can single a guy out is if i am really interested or ive been talking to them for months. If im not interested.. you cant MAKE me interested.. haha so please dont send me 10 messeges one right after the other saying "whats up", "how u doin", "your sexy", etc... If your profile says you are looking for "friends" i am not going to take you seriously. I am looking for "long term" and this is a dating site.. so im gonna probably blow you off right when i read that. Another thing.. if you have "hi, im new to houston, hit me up" as your --all about me-- section.. and thats it... im not talking to you either. How am i suppose to see if i am even interested if you dont describe something about yourself.
ok.. ive rambled enough for today.. hope this helps as well. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/29/2008 2:30:50 PM | I have read in the forums here how immature some younger responders are but it seems Miss Balone is right on the mark. Perhaps her job has something to do with it. I would comment that giving someone a phone number is not so much an invitation to call but an invitation to check up on somebody if you wish to see how honest they are through reverse phone number lookup etc.
If you have not invested in putting yourself out there in your profile, don't expect anyone to invest themselves in you. Even if you do pour your heart out in your profile, you may simply not be of interest to someone you are interested in. There are plenty of roosters strutting around this digital hen house and you simply may not measure up in every chick's eyes. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 8:05:37 AM | Why do guys give their phone number than send you message after message asking why you have not called them yet? Its kinda nice to know something about a person so you have something to talk about besides the weather when you make the first call! If I wanted a random person to call I could just grab a phone book and pick a number, at least in that case the first question could be "are you married?"
 Have met a really great guy outside of POF (does that mean I cheated on POF?, lol) ,  after a week or so of chatting (hours worth) asked for my number, at the moment I was still not wanting to give it to him, but when he least expected it, I gave it to him. At least he wasnt so pushy and rude to get my number. He has gone out of state for the weekend but sent me a text message with his number so I could call him. That first call always makes me nervous, told him I didnt like to be the one making the first call so he said he would, but I gave in and called him and glad I did!! There are some people that judge you by your voice and I for one do not like my voice. With my "odd" sense of humor I have a off the wall voicemail and I told him if I dont anwser after 3 rings to hang up and not listen to it, of course he didnt listen because he left me a message. lol He has even asked if I would record his voicemail message for him because he likes my voice. That seems kinda strange to me, someone calls HIS phone and hears a LADIES voice on voicemail, would make me wonder??LOL | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 9:24:23 AM | Well in general I find that the women of Texas aren't very outgoing or friendly... generally speaking ANYWHERE you meet 'em. On POF they're even worse apparently! LOL!
I believe I've had my profile on POF for almost a year and a half now, and haven't met a soul... you'd think dinner and a movie, or just dinner somewhere, would be an easy sell. But oh no! Not here! Grrrr!
I'm just about ready to delete my profile on here... there's really no point to it anymore. (sigh)
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:49:06 AM | Well in general I find that the women of Texas aren't very outgoing or friendly... generally speaking ANYWHERE you meet 'em. On POF they're even worse apparently! LOL!
I believe I've had my profile on POF for almost a year and a half now, and haven't met a soul... you'd think dinner and a movie, or just dinner somewhere, would be an easy sell. But oh no! Not here! Grrrr!
I'm just about ready to delete my profile on here... there's really no point to it anymore. (sigh)
You might be fortunate some hasn't replied to you and or met you.
Having met a few causes caution to be extremely important and probably more important than ever.
Having met more than my share of married women and one druggie plus having met one woman two weeks ago that couldn't call to let me know she would be an hour and half late then lying to me about setting a date up the next night. Said she was free then the next day text me telling me she had already told her cousins she would go out with them. "DAMN" And women say me lie and are bad news?
Having said the above ,I do have to say POF has some very good ladies that are sincere.
Some women do not reply for the same reason some men do not reply to women. I get e-mail from women that have no idea who they are or what they want. After reading their profile I delete their mail without replying.
Some send chit lik,e do you wanna? I just delete and block them. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 11:25:24 AM | | Im friendly and outgoing.This happens to women as well.I have messaged many men first and only two have responded.I have been out on a few dates and I have found some have been married when they said they werent.Some forgot their wallet(hehe).But for the most part I have made some great friends.No love connection as of yet,but I havent given up. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 12:15:41 PM | Well, in all the time I've had a POF profile nobody from Texas has messaged me, and nobody I've messaged has ever replied. Ergo, I have to conclude you Texas gals must have a problem of some sort.
I rarely even bother logging into POF anymore. From my point of view, it's as near to pointless as can be. (sigh)
I don't find reading and posting to forums at all entertaining or fun. I find going out to see movies, boating, dining, bowling, just about ANY real life activity to be entertaining and fun! It just kinda suxs doing those things as a single male.
I dunno... I suspect I'm just gonna wipe my profile and abandon POF after today. There's just no point in it. The theory is sound, but the reality of how people use the system absolutely suxs.
ps. I've had the "bad" dates before too, back from the days when the Ya-Hell Personals system was free. Met a few gals there back then, and they were aweful! 
- Michael | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 3:16:17 PM | | No one ever said it was easy, Michael. No one ever said that anyone is guaranteed a mate/partner. Maybe a year or two (or 10 or 20) simply is insufficient time? Then again, as I read what you’ve written here and in your profile, a thought does cross my mind… and, sorry, not a compliment… “misogyny”. Okay, maybe that’s too harsh, but to blame Texas women? Maybe it’s in the math – you’ll have to initiate contact with 100 to even get a single response… ergo, get busy or remain single. Why not post to those threads where they offer to help and provide suggestions to improve your profile? And, as always, keep the faith! <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 3:17:26 PM | [quote
If you have not invested in putting yourself out there in your profile, don't expect anyone to invest themselves in you. Even if you do pour your heart out in your profile, you may simply not be of interest to someone you are interested in. There are plenty of roosters strutting around this digital hen house and you simply may not measure up in every chick's eyes
this statement is true. Some people put to much information on their profile and people just do not read it all. The things I look at (religion, age, location, picture, children,employment, smoker). If those things do not match then we are not going to match. I go to church regularly. I am in my 40's. I have a picture. My children are grown or close to grown and do not desire anymore children or even raising someone's children. I am employed continously for almost 20 years. I do not smoke. These things are important to me. I do not just go on a face or bio. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 3:20:58 PM |
Well, in all the time I've had a POF profile nobody from Texas has messaged me, and nobody I've messaged has ever replied. Ergo, I have to conclude you Texas gals must have a problem of some sort.
Do like me and consider moving to Canada. The women there seem to LOVE me, but I imagine that'll change once I move there. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:43:40 PM |
you’ll have to initiate contact with 100 to even get a single response… ergo, get busy or remain single.
Initiating contact is one thing,but contacting 100 to get a single response? Seems the anti has been raised quiet alot. I have no problem getting responses,however,some are not wanted,some are fun,some are weird,some have nothing to say except , "HI", or do you wanna ,and I wish I knew what they mean by do you wanna.
Do like me and consider moving to Canada. The women there seem to LOVE me, but I imagine that'll change once I move there.
Do you have gas money little brother? | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 9:33:52 AM | 100:1? Yeah, why not? Beats hitting your head against a wall… or maybe it’s the same thing. But my point was “get busy or remain single”. The “fishing” analogy really works well – you need the right bait, the right place, the right season, and… oh, yeah… a fish! 
To Magnanimous: funny, but Jesus had a similar problem – a prophet or whomever just isn’t welcome in their hometown. Unless you’re the football hero!
Along similar thinking to this thread – and it’s a crackin’ good read – take a look over at the California postings: What lessons have you learned from PoF? http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts7175077.aspx | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 11:18:25 AM | Guys and ladies,it's no fault of POF that some can't get a response, and or a date. POF has absolutely nothing to do how people think ,or in most cases don't think.
It's the people that enjoy playing games,lying and making excuses why they're here. If you pay attention to why they say they're here some have long term but their profile says they want friends. Their profiles don't match why they claim their on here.
The same happens on any dating site,even those you pay to be on.
Just the nature of some not to respond no matter what the guy is looking for or what the woman is looking for. I read e-mail but do not respond to all because some isn't worth typing hello to.
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Posted: 2/10/2008 2:36:38 PM | | I just think people put to much energy and trust in these internet sites. I guess I am afraid that people are not being honest because of my experiences with other sites in the past. | |
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