| | Why do most women not reply or give it a try?Page 2 of 15 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15) | *DONNIE*
1) Try using punctuation. I got dizzy trying to read your post. Women respect a man who takes time to communicate effectively. You know that. They didn't teach you rikki writing and the phoenetic alphabet because they thought you'd enjoy it.
2) Don't play the service card. Yeah, it rocks. You have a right to be proud. But it doesn't automatically entitle you to a date. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2006 3:55:05 PM | you need to try talking the the women thatare in your range to talk to you dont have to e mail every hott ass girl on here and try to put up a pic it may help | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 11:34:10 PM | | I rarely get emails from guys but I figure that is because I am not a barbie doll and I dont have the most wonderful profile. I send out quite a few and if the person writes back I will answer them unless they make it clear they do not want to talk. Mostly if some one does email me they are wanting an intimate encounter even though they don't come out with that right away. I will reply if I have an email sent to me but I would like to have a picture of you. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2006 11:02:41 AM | I got lucky with my first profile once. Turned out to be a good sequence of dates with this one girl.... and then we stopped seeing eachother...for reasons that are irrelevant to this discussion. After that I couldn't get ANYONE to respond to me. Not even the (no offense meant by me at all here, but) bottom of the barrel. I realized that my picture first of all makes me look about 10-15 years older than I really am.... and my profile SUCKED. It was all the same ole "I am a 32 year old guy who knows how to treat a lady....." "likes and dislikes...etc".... So I decided to change my profile. New pictures and completely new wording in my profile. Now I am getting an average of 5-8 emails per week from different people which I understand is not like the 20 per day that most women on here get....but it is MUCH better than what I used to get. I am pleased with the results...and now I can start weeding through the not-likelys and get to the ones I would seriously consider dating. This site is truly great, you just have to find your niche in here. I promise you.... come up with something worth reading and a picture worth looking at (as long as it is YOU) and you will not have a problem getting girls to email you.
Now....if I can only figure out why I got an email from Jade1972 and before I could even respond or check her profile...it was gone.....deleted.....poof....vanished. Oh well...chock that up to the beginnings of my first bad day this week.
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Posted: 2/26/2006 6:32:46 PM | | Being new to this site. Let me give you guys some pointers. In my opinon the guy I'm looking for is someone nice with some values and morals, honest and true to their word. A one night stand is a huge turn off and if the woman is genuine she should at least be nice and polite and email back even if it's just a few words as well as she should be looking at you not your looks. Being the bigger woman that I am, I'm happy just when someone emails back. It's been a hard lesson for me but if the person is a good person they'll atleast talk back to you as I have done. I try to be nice and courteous and give everyone a chance even though the favor isn't returned. What matters most is how you act and if you're nice, polite accepting etc, she'll come to find out that you truly are man of your word and a true gentlemen, which are so very hard to find these days. And I would hope that someone would do that for me. All my life all I've ever wanted and prayed for was to be married and have a family of my own. There are some women out there who still hold on to their morals and values and have not yet been with a man, these women are good and decent women who look into that heart and soul for the good of a person. I am one of them. Give them a chance even though they may not be beauty queens, if you look into their heart and soul you'll see the beauty emerge. Girls the same goes for you give the guy a chance, talk a little bit and get to know them before you make a haste judgment on their looks. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2006 1:55:13 AM | I never knew that yankeentx, thanks! 
It's a bit weird to me, too, that guys never answer emails. I'm a bit shy, but I do send one or two at times, and never get any answers at all. In a way it makes me wonder am I that plain? But I also assume that some are as shy as I am. good luck to all! | |
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jty98
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Posted: 3/16/2006 4:01:50 AM | i haven't a clue as to why women don't respond. when they have, it was kind of going great, but then you know how it goes, kind of trickles off. i am currently on no peoples favorites list. I used to be on at least 4 I think. besides, there is just one girl on here i'm interested in. god i'm infatuated with her... | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 6:22:13 AM | | Well you are right Josh most women don't respond. Most women are on these websites to window shop and hoping to find Mr.Right or Mr.Perfect and they keep searching and searching because the last guy they passed was ok only he was just an inch shorter than her or he just lived 30 miles too far or he is just not cute enough.They have 1,2,3 kids and they are looking for some hunk or cute guy to hook up with them and he might just to get sex for a while till he find someone who has no bagage.The don't understand that there are guys like myself who are ok in finding a lady with kids. They are looking for someone they put together in their mind, and don't believe that they are getting 5 or 10 messeges every 5 minutes and that they can't answer all of them. They are just flatering themselfs.It looks to me they are more about looks and what you do for a living and not what is in your heart.They are just window shopping that is all.I did the same and email any women just to see what happens, fat, skinny, pretty,ugly you name it and out of about 100 I emailed just for the hell of it about 10 responded and slowly they faded away even though I responded they left.If you look at my profile I'm not a bad person but they see some fault in there that makes them keep looking,I just don't know what it is. I don't think they know what they want.You might want to also consider changing your name on the website or remove the 69 from it and maybe that might help you.Don't give up | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 6:59:12 PM | The 69 in your name means sex! Women like sex and need it, but sometimes we just really want someone to talk to and see what kind of person they really are. It also helps if there is a picture with the ad. Once we feel comfortable we will meet a person and take it from there. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 11:13:09 PM | i at one time was on like 5 girls favorites. not great, but ok i guess. finally, i said screw it and quit giving a rat's ass. they either like you for you or not at all. if they don't tell them to go and die really slowly. especially the gameplayers. don't worry about it, and don't let it get you down. in the end, who really cares! i don't. i've also been out with 2 women on here. i won't write to you about the details, but let's just say that 1 didn't work out and the other is just kind of on hiatus. in the end, it doesn't really matter anyway! | |
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porgy
| | Joined: 3/30/2006
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 4/2/2006 12:06:36 AM | I would have to see your messages to determine why you aren't getting replies.
Most of the time, men attempt to be a "nice guy" and say stupid things like:
"Hi!. I liked your profile and I would like to get to know you" or something else equally lame.
Generally, bad grammar and spelling is a knock-off.
Examples:
allot and alot are not words. If you like something A LOT, then that is correct. You don't like something allot.
then and than are distinctly different words.
"I like this more then that" is not correct.
"I like this more than that" is correct.
I could go on and on about the horrendous grammar and spelling I see on the internet. I sometimes think that this planet is doomed to failure.
Now back to the topic here...
Women work on instinct. It's not that much about looks, but what they get as a first impression about your personality. What you have on your profile is important. What you say in your message to them is crucial. You have to be different than the other twenty or so blokes that send messages to them every day.
Try being funny, at least.
I'm new to this site, and haven't had a chance to play around much other than just looking, for now. However, I've had plenty of responses to my messages on other dating sites by finding something in the profiles, whether it's in the text or in the photos, to comment on.
I find ways to make it funny, and a little**** at the same time.
You have to be interesting for someone to be interested in you.
As was implied in earlier posts.... I believe that a large portion of folks that join these dating sites are not happy with their lives. They get a visual of the perfect mate, and if you don't fit that image, then you are out.
All people are not like that. I'm on this site because of where I live. We do not have much choice for socializing out here in Spring Branch, Texas(not in Houston) >zip 78070.
We have about four "Beer Joints" to go to. Those places have bikers and their women, losers and drunks. That's about it. Otherwise, we have to go to San Antonio(30 miles) to socialize.
Yes, I do that from time to time, but it's a bother.
You need to find a way to bring attention to yourself in your emails. Be funny,**** and interesting. Give your intended person something to reply to.. a reason.. a purpose.
I've done quite well at HEB and the local convenience stores. These dating sites are not the final answer.
George
ps: my handle "porgy" is from > Georgey porgy.
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porgy
| | Joined: 3/30/2006
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Posted: 4/3/2006 4:01:59 PM | I try to answer anyone who takes the time to message me. And if i write you, then it means I read your profile and am actually interested in talking with you because of something you wrote. I'm not looking to meet as many people as I possibly can or have 1000's of emails a day to respond too..afterall..I have online ADD..hehe  | |
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Posted: 4/4/2006 8:51:26 AM | | I think it's not a gender specific issue... It seems to me that we are all on here to meet someone we are compatible with and that's hard to determine in a brief profile and a few pictures...If someone takes the time to write you, give them a shot. Just by blindly deleting the message or not responding at all, you may be missing out on the best person for you. JMHO... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 3:27:25 PM | perhaps it's because the women are interested in a guy that actually READS the profile. i have listed that i am here for 'hang out' and that i am NOT interested in dating. i still get the emails from guys that are wondering if there is a chance for a hookup. the guy is wanting a wife and is actually asking if i'm interested. well, gee, um , NO. i still respond to these emails, as it is only polite to do so. i could not care less if the guy can spell. i prefer not to cap. we all have our issues, for a variety of reasons. however, lumping all women together and pronouncing a gross and general judgment is about as effective as doing the same for men.  | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 3:45:55 PM | I did an experiment once,,, on match,com. I found a pic of a very pretty lady,, made a fake profile and wanted to see what would happen. Kep in mind, the woman was very attractive. I got maybe 6 winks, (no e mails) in a month,, not 100 ok? The profile was also appealing. I didnt respond cause it was an experiment.
I too have e mailed women and never got a reply back. I have tried persistence, like maybe trying once or two more times and sometimes I still get nothing back, but a few times I did. The response was basically F off,,,, now what did I do or say to diserve that?
Second,, I finally got one of these no response ladies to give me her side of the story for not responding to me. She said, its nothing personal, Im just not here for the same reason you are and that is to find someone. I then went on to tell her about common courtesy, and she said,, "I dont care to be courteous , and I really dont ever intend to reply to anyones messages,
This is not an isolated case,, this happens on many dating sites, Ok for you good ladies out there , are these type of women your friend? If you want to know where the good guys are,, they left long ago,, but if he was here,, you wouldnt be interested anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 3:49:26 PM | | I usually do not email ladies on this site anymore but in the past I emailed one a nice email just to tell her I liked her profile. I appreciated how she presented herself. Well she deleted it un read. So here it is like 6 months later. I tried again because I was curious why she never even bothered to read the first email. Now mind you I was not trying to hit on her nor date her. I was just trying to pay a compliment to her. Guess what? She deleted it unread again, lol. Now many people would be insulted by that kind of rudeness but I just had to laugh. It is kind of funny. For all she knows I could have been writing something she would have liked to read but she never even bothered to read either email. LOL oh well. I lived. :) | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 5:10:46 PM | Hi Josh... I guess it works on both sides..:)
Why do men not reply to email...don't ya think they might just find someone on a whim?...but too skerrreed to answer...hmmmmm... Makes ya think.
I am a very decent woman as well....lots of people are into the "physical" traits and dont look beyond that....which is sad. I mean the chemisty has to be there but if you dont try and take that chance.....you will probably always wonder if that "one" could of been the one!
Keep smiling babe....
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Posted: 7/15/2006 7:35:22 PM | | well it seems like in my experiences, women say they are looking for a nice honest guy, but really they are looking for a jerk that will abuse them, and cry on a nice guy's shoulder about it. They think that they are going to change the jerk. If they do, then they don't want him either. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 7:39:18 PM | | I have had the same experience. Starts out great, then out of a sudden either she is just looking for a friend, or I never hear from her again. Sometimes I ask them what I said or did wrong, but no answer. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 10:06:47 PM | | Gee your not jaded now r u? Not ALL women are like that...Just like ALL men arent STUPID!!!! but im also not gonna tell u what u wanna hear when its BS. I will be honest to the end. and the other thing its not about ur job or ur looks its about weenie size.....LOL | |
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Posted: 7/16/2006 1:20:18 AM | you noob....First and foremost put up a pic...not just one of your mug....these pretty ladies wanna see the entie package bro...
Have'nt you ever had a fast food job...
You gotta up sell that sh!t bro....
They will not knock if they cant see inside...be proud of what god gave you and flaunt it like a crazy squirrel...but on top of that be honest.
women aren't dummies...they can smell a fake a mile away. be truthfull and lay your cards on the table. they will appreciate you for that.
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Posted: 7/16/2006 4:20:11 AM | | Sad but true, women want a guy that's financially successful. It doesn't matter if he's doing what he loves for his career. Also, they do base us a lot on our looks. So my only suggestion is to stay true to yourself and never pretend to be something you're not.......because one day that right girl will come along and respect you for who you are. I never get any responses either for those reasons; so all i can do is cross my fingers and hope she'll come along somewhere down the windy road. I believe somewhere out there that there are girls who are in it for love instead of looks and money; so I'll keep looking. | |
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