| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 8/31/2006 7:12:03 PM | | gurll I know what you mean.. I have had several men who will write to me.. and never respond back after I have responded to their email. Or do the I want to meet.. yadda yadda yadda and then never actually commit to a time.. I just figure theres someone out there for me.. and willing to take the time it will take. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 8/31/2006 7:31:57 PM | Darlin.. thats all you can do.. and dont TRY but do it... and always keep a positive attitude. You will be suprised once you start having a positive attitude how things will change.
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 8/31/2006 7:39:46 PM | Gurlll,
The guys you desribe aren't who you really want to get to know anyway. Keep trying, and you'll find someone eventually who is secure enough with himself to be able to go out with a strong, secure woman like you. Just don't let the "pansyboys" get you down, take your time and find the one you're looking for, not the first one who "bites", and like Mystry says....keep a positive attitude! | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 8/31/2006 8:14:45 PM | its funny....guys always complain how women only want the bad boys...
my answer to that is: they ask!
"nice" guys don't ask!!!!!!!!
or they are too busy chasing after the "bad" girls.........
maybe that's why they don't reply back to me....because i don't send a "oh baby you are so hot...let's get naked NOW NOW NOW" as a reply | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 8/31/2006 11:04:06 PM | | Gurl. That is the best when the morons reply to yours or others profile with such idiotic replies. They are also the ones that come into the forums here and complain wh woman do not reply. I always reply to every response and always will. I even told a couple that I was not interested for some reason and I get replied back nastily. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 9/3/2006 8:13:43 AM | | I know exactly what you mean... that's the point that I was trying to make in my earlier posting (errors not withstanding ~ lol)!! It's all psychology... some women & men are just "attention seekers". They have no intention of replying, whatsoever. You can write the nicest letter you can, but it does not make any difference. Those game players have already made up their mind to no respond, so why waste our time with them? They are immature... just like little kids, they just want attention. They need to GROW UP!!!! The sad thing is -- for them, that is -- is that they spend so much time, playing the "ignore" game crap, that they are missing out on what's out there... but that is THEIR loss... not ours! I send one e-mail per person... either they respond or they don't... their choice -- but not a choice that I have to live with. There's so much to see & experience out there... why waste time, waiting for one person, when there are so many more out there who are just dying to meet us? In other words, don't let a good opportunity pass you by!!! | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:49:58 AM | Hey people,,,, sounds like we have all burned ourselves and are paying for the way many that try online dating behave.
If we all could just go back to the golden rule,,,, treated others as you would want to be treated,,, and wow,, what a difference that would make.
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/30/2007 6:33:37 PM | | OK, being a girl on this site, I can say that I get a lot of emails from all sorts of people. And yes, looks are important but they arent the most important thing. There has to be attraction there to get someone to want to know more. So either you post a photo with an original (non XXX rated caption) or you just get overlooked by a lot of people. You dont have to be the best looking guy on here, the richest, the smartest or the 'biggest'...just be yourself. As to why I dont respond to emails...well, I try. If someone emails me that hasnt even read my profile, I wont waste my time in responding to them. I state clearly and boldly that I am not looking for a hook up, so dont email me asking me when we can 'get together' and expect a response. Take some time, read my profile and ask me something that I would want to respond to. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/30/2007 7:01:40 PM | Everyone deserves a reply, unless they are nasty, over suggestive or clearly are sending a mass mail out. There are jerks and players on both sides, but stick with it OP, most are good and just like you. Good Luck fishing. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/30/2007 7:18:58 PM | As ttheg said...if there's no attraction, there's no attraction. So there's no reason to waste either party's time by giving it a try.
As for the not replying, well, I'm guilty of that myself...because a good 60% of the time, if I send a polite, appreciative, "thanks, but I just don't think we're a match" email, I get a nasty or argumentative reply in return. It happens to a lot of women and, I imagine, a lot of men as well.
As cowardly or rude as it may seem, ignoring can make for a less aggrevating and stressful experience. This should be FUN...not stressful. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 7:30:17 PM | Well, I need to respond to this question now.
First of all, I like to see someone's photo, because a picture says a thousand words.
For one thing, there does not seem to be a lot of manners, respect or honesty anywhere anymore. And, from what I have witnessed on these dating sites, most men seem to just be interested in one thing. Yep! You know what I'm talking about girls and so do you guys!  And, the irony of it all is that you can talk forever to someone through e-mails, IMs, and phone calls and you can start believing that person just might be the one. But there are too many hidden agendas that are left unsaid by some of you guys and a lot of you put down things in your profiles that you change your minds about when it comes right down to the truth. Once the meeting takes place high expectations suddenly become imminent, and if the woman doesn't perform on that date the guy feels like there is no compatibility, BECAUSE the woman did not put out. He gets his feelings hurt thinking she doesn't like him because she didn't give it to him and he really isn't interested enough to pursue her.
Well, I can tell you this guys, there is a lot more to hoping in the sack right off the bat and while I may be a 'rare breed', I don't do it. The world is just too dangerous, and I'm not giving it to just anyone. I'm not out to just play. I don't know how many other women feel the same way, but if you guys come on with that kind of attitude; and I've seen a lot of profiles where you guys are wanting PASSIONATE, SEXY WOMAN, it is no wonder you don't attract a woman or get her interested. Most of us women on these dating sites are looking for more than just sex. I know that I am and pickey? You bet!
While I may be waiting a long time to find Mr. Right and he may not be on this site, I will find him when the Good Lord decides the time is right. In the meantime, meeting friends is also nice and like I've commented on other forums: Honesty IS the best policy and if we all keep it that way these sites would be great place to meet one another. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/30/2007 8:19:16 PM | Look boys, this is not a woman bashing site. Just like you men get upset when we bash men!!!
Not all of us are like that. Maybe you need to broaden your horizons, and think "outside the box" | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/30/2007 8:43:43 PM | It is about prospective and in my life experience I find a lot of people lie and are rude and being female I tend to notice more when it is a male. Generalizing about women or men is just adds to the problem. I don’t often receive responses to emails and when I do they are sometimes rather insulting. Mostly only wanting sex and by the way for all you young guys out there all women over 50 are not looking for a young “stud” some are but not all of us. I know I am overweight and my liberal attitude is sometimes too much for most men in the area. I have quit sending emails but I answer all write to me and enjoy reading the threads. In the three + years I have meet one friend and talked to some who are nice but just not a match to me.  | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 11:01:00 PM | I hear where your coming from man......I use to wonder the exact same thing myself. I will tell you most women on INterenet dating websites get so many e-mails they don't have time to respond to all of them so they read the most interesting ones. It's all about the attraction dating game. The best concept I have ever learned was from this dating guru for men called David Deangelo. He taught me that attraction for women isn't a choice. It's our job as men to create chemistry with women and KEEP their attraction. You ever notice how men who are naturals (naturals meaning men who are naturally good at attracting women) interact with women? You ever notice how they are always a challenge to women, how they are REAL men, how good their humor is, how they are masters at flirting and teasing women, and most importantly giving the GIFT of missing them. They don't do like did last week. I went with my heart and acted like a needy wusbag. Have you ever had a woman lose attraction for you within minutes or days? If a woman does I have news for you it isn't your LOOKS. Yes looks does matter somewhat but I have seen some of the ugliest guys before in my lifetime with some of the hottest women. Have ever heard a woman say, "oh he was nice BUT I didn't feel anything" Why do women say this? Why do women make excuses for men they aren't attracted to? Why do women not make excuses for questionable men who you know treat them like dogmess? Attraction isn't a choice...... Men- conscious mind, visual direct
Women- indirect, emotions, sub conscious mind If your falling to attract women more than likely it's a deep inner game issue like insecurity, self esteem, and confidence.
Women are so GREAT at reading men they more than we do very quickly if we have our crap together or not. Myself I don't have my crap together so that's why I shouldn't date period until I do get my crap fully together within my inner core being. :-) Ever known a man with even just a small lack of confidence date? What usually happens? THey fall on their face and fail...... Am I am making sense or no?
I hope you pay attention to what I wrote here there is REAL social science behind it. The first time I ever learned about this stuff last year I was blown away and it made sense every single thing I ever did wrong on dates as to why I wasn't keeping and holding a womans attraction. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/30/2007 11:13:16 PM | | Another thing to prove to you that looks doesn't matters as much...... I have a known a TON of women over the years who would tell me how GREAT they boyfriend is or current steady dating partner and then once they send me his picture the first thought i get it is, "your kidding me" The way they talk you would have thought the guys were Abercrombie models. lol | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 12:27:28 AM |  Most women think they are better than the men who message them... (which is sad but I have actually heard them say things to that effect) In my opinion, they shouldnt even be "online" if thats how they feel... Either that or guys should wait on the women to message them first... | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 12:44:36 AM | | I see what your saying Mimi and in my opinon the online world almost gives most attractive women too much power. It's like a HUGE candy store and it only rises their standards even higher. Night all best wishes xxxxxxxxxooooooooooo | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 7:41:00 AM | | Well i've been on here for two years now, and just recently, I started getting responses. I've emailed hundreds of women and only about some respond. some ignore me after we've emailed each other a bit. I thought women wanted a gentleman... lol | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 7:48:59 AM | | Same reason why we as men always look for a woman with great big knockers and no kids...we're hoping for the best and sometimes our expectations are unrealistic...there are good women out there...just keep fishing and you'll get a bite.... | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 8:29:52 AM |
Most of us women on these dating sites are looking for more than just sex. I know that I am and pickey? You bet!
CheTan17,With much respect I have to tell you I think you might be shocked at the number of women on this site that only want sex and use the term,no strings attached.
And the number of married women are increasing more and more. Of course I've already had my azzzzz chewed out on another thread for saying that married people both men and women should be giving the time they spend on dating sites to their spouse and family and not on a singles dating site.
I refuse to respond to women that have married or talk or friends and other. I've been experiencing as much nonsense coming from women as some of you ladies have been coming from men.
I do know some very good women on POF and without telling one ladies name that has posted on this thread, I met her and I will tell anyone she is worth any man's time and effort.
Although we didn't seem to connect as far as starting a relationship I consider this lady a great friend and a great catch for the right guy.
I also know women that get e-mail from some perverted azzzz men sending pictures that are shameful and disgusting. I've told those that I know to block the men and if the men find other ways to mail them report the men to POF.
In my opinion I think men should respect the women if they want a reply,however,the women should respect the men if the men put forth the effort to write a decent e-mail. | |
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| Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 1/31/2007 8:46:55 AM | TRY TO SHOW THAT YOUR ARE LIKE REALLY INTERESTED! BUT SOMETIMES I DONT REPLY BECAUSE SOME GUYS SOUND VERY HORNY AND OVER EXCITED AND THATS A TURN OFF FOR me. EVEN IF THEY ARE SAYING "HAY HOW ARE YOU". I RESPOND TO ALL OF MY EMAILS EVEN IF I HAVE TO MANY TO HANDLE. SO THAT EXCUSE OF HAVING TO MANY IS CURAZY!! NOT HAVING TIME IS REOSONABLE. SOMETIMES I AM JUST ON TO CHECK A MAIL FROM THAT CERTAIN SOMEONE THAT I HAVE BEEN CHATTING WITH! 4GET ABOUT WHO ALL THE OTHERS ARRE! SO I CHECK THAT AND LOG OFF SOMETIMES! SO LOOK AT IT FROM A GIRLS POINT OF VIEW! and maybe SOME GUYS ARE NOT AS CUTE AND CHARMING AS THEY THINK THEY ARE! AND YOU CANNOT TRUST AN INTERNET SITE WITH A BUNCH OF PhONEY WOMAN...THAT MAY NOT BEABLE TO GET A DATE IN REAL LIFE! ♥ | |
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