| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/18/2005 11:26:50 PM | He was an alcholic. We did an intervention, trying to get him to accept help and quit drinking. At the end of it, our oldest daughter, in tears, said, "Dad, it comes down to this - us or the beer."
His response was, "I'll take the beer."  | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 1:40:18 AM | | I walked away - after 24+ yrs. Last 3 were spent drifting apart. I turned to a confidant just to have someone to talk to. She swore I was having a sexual affair -- until she did -- then she knew for certain that I didn't. | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 6:09:56 AM | Sitting on an upturned bucket behind the shed late one night, I came to the conclusion there were 4 good reasons to walk through the door, and one good reason I didn't want to.
Made a list of her 'failings' and presented them to her..she did the same for me in return!
After the discussion..quite amicable really..we agreed we were not going down the same paths, nor had the same objectives, but as she was in her early 30's, and still attractive ..better she find another companion and I kept the 4 kids.
As the economy was in a mess...late 70's with the oil embargo driving interest rates through the roof, my business line of credit was called in, so I promptly declared bankcruptcy..leaving nothing to split
She moved in with her 'watcher waiting in the wings' as the kids called him..LOL!, I paid her car lease until it expired..and found out a few more reasons for having made the right decision, despite the difficulties of being a single MALE parent in those days..( children's aid were constantly trying to split us up for starters!)
 Now the stories of how two older sisters looked after and dealt with their brothers whilst dad was brining home the bacon are an eyeopener for me at every family get-together...IF I had done half of this and Children's aid had found out, I'd have been jailed for sure..!
My ex had nothing to do with any of them not long after moving out...but has since 'made her peace' with them all, now she has retired, and visits once in a while. I have no problems with this..and we are still on speaking terms, and we probably both feel the same way in each others company..'glad we did what we did, when we did.'
But I feel I got the better side of the bargain...4 great kids I grew up with..she missed out on a LOT! | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 6:37:00 AM | | Mine called me at work one day, where she knew I couldn't come home to talk, and told me, "I'm just not happy anymore." When I got home, she was gone, and the next day, while I'm at work, she comes back and cleans out the house. | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 6:59:35 AM | I left (I'm a woman). The marriage was dead.
My theory: women want relationships, and men* just want sex without having to spend a lot of time and money on dating. So the women tend to be the ones leaving.
*Not all men, just a lot of them, enough to make for the 2/3 figure. | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 10:59:07 AM | I walked away with basically the clothes I owned and my computer.
'We' tried to work it out after I left, but he didn't know that 'marriage would be so much work'
It wasn't amicable, we don't talk, I didn't ask for or get any money. I am still paying off my last few debts, and maybe one day I will decide to go back and get the last of my belongings..... | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:04:47 AM | We had been fighting for a few months and she told me she wanted a divorce and that she was moving out. I took the kids on a vacation for a week and came home to an empty house. Three months later after her boyfriend dumped her and she ran out of money I wasn’t such a bad person anymore and she wanted to get back together. (The divorce hadn’t even begun yet) We did with the stipulation of going to marriage counseling; went every other week for 6 months and she didn’t show up once. The next time she said she wanted a divorce I packed my clothes, left her with everything and haven’t looked back! Since then she’s lost the house and everything but the photos, the kids don’t want anything to do with her (they’re with me 100% of the time) and her latest boyfriend was just arrested on drug charges. Her choice all the way; and I’m so much happier since I left!  | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 12:02:21 PM | | I got depression so i left, and later found out that he was cheating on me with what i thought was a very good friend of mine for about 6 months before i left him. He took the house, money and entire contents of the house. He also threw all my sons stuff out into the trash. Son was only about 11 years old at the time. He said that he would call the police on me if i tried to come back home and have me committed lying to the authoritys telling them that i was Suicidal etc... and more i forget what all he said now. Anyways being so depressed with no energy but" definatly not" Sucicidal i gave up and he took everything and lied to my family telling them that i had left him because i was sleeping around with other men which was not true. I tried to get an attorney but each said it would cost around 50 grand and could take up to a year and maybe i wouldnt win regarding going after the house etc...maybe i would it was basically a coin toss. Well nedless to say my son is major damaged and blames me for alot of it. Iam in great shape now and id like to go up there where he lives and kick the C---! out of him, but being a lady i will not do it, hopefully god will pay him back! | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 2:10:09 PM | | I walked. with my 3 month old baby back to mom's. I got my fair share...he may not agree though. I see it like this. most the stuff that we got as wedding gifts were mine. depending on who bought them for us. my family gave hundred's more than his did. His family cried when they found out he was getting married, but the funny thing is, they didnt' cry because they were happy, they cried cuz they were scared what he was going to put me though. needless to say i went through the first 6 months of our marrage pregnant with him chasing me around calling me names. and when he actually got a job and kept it for more than a week, he would call me non stop cuz he thought i was cheating. Needless to say, i found out last week, that he was so insecure because he was the one cheating...........with my friend. wow...when i say it like that...it's jerry spring s**t!!!!!!! Yeah as far as i'm concerned i had plenty of reasons to walk. | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 2:29:12 PM | | baby, not much of a friend, is she??? Your too young to let one *ssclown ruin it for you, Im sure that you will have no problems in the future...... | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 2:40:47 PM | | i left my marriage after he cheated continuously,so basically he walked the minute he betrayed me,it took me a little longer to leave. | |
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| Who walked from your marriage(s)
Posted: 7/19/2005 8:14:29 PM | | I announced separation and 6 months later custody was resolved (shared) and she moved to a house a short drive away. I have never doubted my decision over the last 3 years. It was in everyones best interest - especially my daughters. | |
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