detcam
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Joined: 3/9/2006
Msg: 226 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/11/2006 9:15:45 PM | for the simple reason that anyone that is going to skip my profile because it does not have a photo is generally not the type of person i want to meet.
the other irony is that people with pictures may actually be lying to you but it is ok because they have a picture. that is rather dumb logic if you ask me.
just a different way of screening people. if you want to jump to the conclusion that i have something to hide - that is your issue, not mine. if that is your immediate conclusion then i definitely don't want to get to know you.
if i find someone i really like then i see no reason why a person cannot supply you with a picture and vice versa. when a person does not want to supply you with a picture after you start chatting on a regular basis - then i would say there is an issue.
lastly there are always exceptions to the rule, so it is a case of what ever floats your boat. (I have more of an issue with people that post really bad pictures or pictures of their pets) | |
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| Some Are and Some Aren't Photogenic
Posted: 4/11/2006 9:32:04 PM | | For me I find that I am nowhere near photogenic. Does it bother me? It did in the past, but I know that there are millions of people out there that are in the same boat. Regardless, if someone passes by my profile, that's fine. I know what I'm looking for in a person, so the picture and the profile writeup are definitely important. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/11/2006 9:36:59 PM | | There are sooo many reasons not to post a pic. I used to and found myself a nice stalker! I also work a very public job and dont need to respond to a 911 call and have someone recognize me and say in front of my co-workers..."arent you the girl from POF???" Not hiding anything! If you ask and we chat I share! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/11/2006 9:41:22 PM | | I took SecondBestDad's hint and checked out your photos, Getreal. Fabulous. I love what some folks have done with the simple parameters the site offers for images--although I'm convinced, to be flattering, you could do no wrong. As an incidental aside, I drove 2 hours for a date with a woman who had posted images that were about 20 years and at least 75 pounds out of date--and that's being nice about it. Opening the door was the shock of my life and in hindsight it was more than a coincidence that she was also slightly insane. (My own photos, btw, continue to be plagued by scanning glitches, making me one potentially very handsome, technically incompetent bachelor.) | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/11/2006 9:43:21 PM | | yup sure do...getreal..why i took mine out...now they ask..hehe an i say..well you send me one first...an they dont .... so i dont.... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/12/2006 7:41:08 AM | I tend to think that this whole "What's up with No Photo's" is a about human nature, as in having to KNOW or it will drive them nuts. They will always have an answer for everything, men/women don't have pictures posted because they are hiding something. Not always true. Its like the fact that your neighbours drive really fancy cars, are always going away, its going to drive some people crazy until they find out what they do for a living. Or so and so's husband just moved out, wow I wonder if she/he had an affair and you stop at nothing to find out whose fault it was. Or a co worker wearing an expensive ring or piece of jewelry to work, geez wonder how that much cost?...and the list goes on. People with no pictures is always going to be a hot topic on here, it drives people nuts that some of us don't want to post one even though we will provide one to people of our choice.
If someone man or women say's they won't respond to no picture, their choice, if someone doesn't have a picture posted and you like their profile and chose to send an email with a picture, then again your choice. If you don't have a picture posted and don't get reponses, so be it. If you won't respond to profiles that don't have pictures because you have lumped all "no pictures posted" in the same "they are hiding something group" then again your choice, but you could be missing out on meeting "Mr/Ms Right because you chose not to make that choice.
Its all about personal preference and the people that it drives nuts because they don't know. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/12/2006 3:56:41 PM | | Geez, did nobody here ever do the phone line dating? I did. You didn't know what THOSE people looked like. Only one guy out of 10 or so looked like a monster. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/12/2006 4:14:00 PM | I have to say I'm with detcam on this one. I'd much rather hear from someone that's interested in "who I am" instead of just what I look like. Some people are going to make a concious decision to not post a picture to weed out those that who really aren't serious. A relationship based on looks won't last long if the person is a knob.
Likewise, I look at profiles based on what's written, not the pictures, for the same reason. Sure, my logic is a bit flawed. I could be missing out on "the one" simply because they have a picture. But I'll stick with this approach for now. Anyone that gets to me because of a picture is likely there for the wrong reasons, so I choose to not display one. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:04:39 PM | | i agree too^^^^ seems to many empahasize to much on looks now days..man ...whats happened to this world. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:21:49 PM | HA HA HA
Its not just pictures..
But some guys are fed up with what woman put on their profile nevermind the pictures?¿?¿
Well im fed up with alot of guy's profiles too that are boring or have shitty pictures.... but thats because they only get some chicks that will look for more profiles, cuse they already have too many messages from guys.
The only reason we have a profile is to let guys like you know about us so we dont have to tell every single one of you the exact same shit over and over again.
Some of us girls get messages from someone new like 3-4 times a day. When I first signed up on this site, I didnt even have a decent picture and I got like 10 new messages every day or two. It was totally insane.
Most of these guys I had nothing in common with,. and they would send me something stupid commenting on my looks, or something I wrote in my profile... then you call me a **** because I dont wanna get to know every single one of you?
I am constantly changing my profile, just for certain guys that say weird or stupid things to me. So its really hard to find someone decent to talk to, and to remember anything what was said, especially while fighting off all the other random guys that come along that wanna chat and then trying not to get them confused.
So pictures on profiles definatly help alot, but I can totally see why some people prefer not to have them with all the random messages  | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/12/2006 10:32:56 PM | | well profiles arent always true either...least in my cases they werent...not honest at all...sad actually. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 7:29:57 AM | I agree .. ;) I've talked to many people who have had pictures up and have been hiding TONS of things .. I don't have my picture up because
I work in a very public place professional place and the last thing I need is so weirdo seeing me and chasing me down the halls screaming BUT YOU DIDN'T RESPOND TO MY MESSAGE I SENT YOU .. 
Once I talk to someone, get to know them, I will freely cough up a picture of myself and it clearly states that in my profile .. I'm not ashamed at all by my looks .. I mean shit no matter what you look like there are always going to be people prettier than you ..so why sweat it .. :) And I'm not "hiding" anything either .. I simply want a bit of privacy until I've talked to someone a few times ...  | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 239 | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 8:02:05 AM | I'm shooting pics today for my profile. Aside from the usual headshot, what other picture(s) are you ladies looking for?
Job stuff? Free time/hobby?
Any man who won't post a picture on here isn't just hiding something, he's being incredibly stupid and lazy. Even cell phones come with cameras these days. C'mon guys! It ain't hard to snap one!
Don't buy into that, "there's more than just looks" nonsense -- you posted a pic, so should he. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 8:24:04 AM | | well some of are not aware how to put them on here but when i e-mail someone I attach it. I don't want some crazy jumpin me because I said something he/she didn't like people in my home town read this and well I am just to Dam lazy. Or a Daisie put might be Butt Ugly . That I can't change if some think so but I dam sue can be nice to people. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 8:26:16 AM | AMEN!
Some of us have valid reasons, not excuses for not posting a picture. I also am glad to send a pic after a message or two. At least mine is current. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 8:39:03 AM | I think your photo is very nice... To me it is more important what the person's likes and dislikes are...looks change...personality does'nt: | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 8:45:32 AM | Don't know how........................
Please forward instructions.
Thanks
John
from
Mesa
...and not afraid of sending
pictures. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 9:04:56 AM | | To all of you who think that someone who does not post a photo is married or hiding something, or lazy and procrastinating, YOU ARE ALL PARANOID AND IGNORANT!!!! There are plenty of people who for one reason or another doesn't post a pic on their profile that are good, honest people. I have been divorced for a couple of years and when I joined this site I had attempted to post a pic on my profile. I couldn't get one on there because at the time I was having server problems. I waited a couple of days, then was all set to get my pics posted, then a good friend of mine that I met in a chat room told me that I should leave my pics out to see if a person will want to get to know you for you or just base things on what you look like. She told me(and I met her, she is a beautiful woman) that if someone who demands a photo right away in order to get to know you is a very shallow person and not worth your time. And she was right! I have had several people that had contacted me and we had a few good conversations until I sent them my photo! Then, BAM!!! No contact, and they would not reply to my emails at all! And that really pissed me off! So I posted a statement on my profile about it. I tell you right now, those who act like that are NEVER going to find someone. No wonder they are having problems finding the love of their life!! If this is you and you are that way then there will probably be no hope for you of finding real love. And if you do, then that will be a miracle! Before you are so quick to shut out someone who doesn't have a pic, try them out. You may be surprised about how right for you they may be! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 6:45:30 PM | | well..i took my pic out..always got messages...but since then ..i get nothin now...so guys need a pic too?? so it seems.. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 8:17:11 PM | Well I posted a pic on another site....and a lotta women never read my profile. They were like,
hey! "you're hot", "you're cute" or "nice bod" ( I'm not looking to just get laid, b/c that's never been a problem for me)...so I decided to go without a pic, just to see who really cared to find out the real me. I figure if someone takes the time to get to know me, I'll send a pic, no problem | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 9:13:09 PM | ^^^ your right...an i was told to do the same...kinda nice now..lol...weirdos left me alone  | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 2/19/2007 8:12:10 PM | | I think part of the problem is that people don't have pictures to post AND are not bright enough to figure it out. Other than that they have a lot to hide like the fact they are really fat or married. Just my opinion though | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 9/30/2007 6:37:07 PM | | I do respect if someone don't or can't for some reason post their picture. Usually if you ask them almost everyone will send you one in the e-mail. We all have a choice to answer the ad with no pictures or not. | |
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