| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 1/30/2006 7:05:19 AM | "Like to know who you speaking with"
How is a pic in the profile doing that? Your talking to the picture then, not that person. Because you don't actually know who the person is your talknig to. A person can post any picture of anything from the internet, so saying that you wanna know who your talking to is basing alot of trust in an assumption.
If the person is determined to maintain anonymity and is tired of getting comments about "no pic" then they'll just find one to post that has nothing to do with them. It makes the complainer happy and they maintain their privacy. So what' was the point of it all?
Let people do what they want and stop worrying about their motives until it directly involves you, which 99.9% of the time there are no motives and you will never be involved with them other than this site's postings. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 1/30/2006 8:14:17 AM | | When I joined POF I was unable to post a picture. After I was here for a couple of weeks, I decided not to post one. Before I am worried about what someone looks like I want to determine if there is enough compatibiity between us to continue communicating. If you smoke and won't quit we are already done, if you are allergic to cats you might as well keep going too. Some have replied to my profile without the picture and some have replied to my emails without a picture. Just because you don't find some one attractive, even if you like their personality, dosen't make you shallow. I can only assume that those who will not talk to me without seeing some kind of picture are the people who are shallow. I want to find someone who wants me for who I am, so If you think I am hiding something, in a way you are right. So yes I am hiding my looks, not because I am ugly, but because I am attractive to enough women that I've begun to feel like a piece of meat and i am tired of it. If you don't want to take the time to get to know me because I don't have a picture, then you aren't worth my time. I won't give my heart away to some words on the screen or a picture of a person I don't know but am supposedly talking to. If you are so mistrustful now because YOU THINK something is up, how are you going to act in a relationship later? I sure don't want to find out. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 1/30/2006 12:16:56 PM | | Trust me, I'll bet more women do not post pictures than guys. Just protecting their privacy I'm sure, but if it is a guy he must be married. Funny how that whole deal works! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 1/30/2006 4:53:27 PM | was that a joke or what you believe to be true about guys? Cuz I'm sure the guys have reasons other than a wedding ring. Your assuming a married guy is going to be truthful in his picture to hide from a wife.
Why not just post a different picture. How would the guy's wife ever know it was her husband? For that matter why is she on POF to "accidentally" see him? | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/22/2006 4:11:45 PM | yes i totally agree with you , i know of people who deleted their old profile to create a new one , so why not load the picture when you already been identified... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 3:56:08 AM | i'd guess there's alot of married people on POF and only a small portion of them really plan on meeting anyone. MHO I think most married people are on here to chat, maybe flirt, and have some harmless fun no one's aware of but them. To cover themselves further, they use a fake picture.
Speaking of pictures on profiles, here's a new thread the admin made:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3686293.aspx | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:38:41 AM | For me personally, if there is NO photo and I find myself interested...I actually feel a little less shallow than other days. If there is cyber-chemistry (not to be confused with actual chemistry) and post-picture attraction isn't there....you might at least be able to be friends. I recently took a chance answering an email from someone with no pic, glad I did, he's not only amazing...but gorgeous.  | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 11:01:59 AM | | What is up with no photo? Well, SOMETIMES people just cannot get their picture online. Most people on here are successful have their own car home computer digital camera camera phone or web cam, which is fine. But.... There are some people on here (And I am one of them) that have the car and the home but no computer no digital camer no camera phone (no cell phone at all actually) and no web cam. I can only get online at the local library and they do not have these services. So you tell me how someone like me can get a picture (a decent one that doesn't look like I'm some psycho) online so you can all see me? I would greatly apprieciate it cuz there's NO WAY I'm gonna be able to afford any of those things in the near future. I make enough money to cover costs right now. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 11:11:50 AM | When you only make like $650 a month and bills are $500+ a month and you have a one year old daughter to take care of you can not afford to go buy a digital camera I dont care how cheap it is. Hell there are video games for XBox that are only $5 around but I cant even go buy those and they are old games that have been used for years. You think about this.
Rent, electric, gas, car insurance, food, gas for car, diapers, wipes, baby food, laundry, cleaning products, tp, hygiene products.... WHERE IS THE MONEY FOR A DIGITAL CAMERA AT? WILL YOU LOAN IT TO ME? CUZ THE BANK SURE AS HELL WONT!
I'm not tryin to be an ***hole but sometimes you have to look at all angles of a situation. And I agree with a previous post cuz most women are more shallow than men. No picture no response. WTF? I sometimes think that women are worse than men. They all want "MR RIGHT" but yet if we aren't the hot boys with the six packs or Fabio or whoever then they don't want anything to do with us. Well let me tell you something ladies. "Hot boys" are just like "Hot girls" they only want one thing and when they get it they get bored and when they get bored they find "Hotter girls" and dump your ass and then your back on POF looking for another one. Why not give a decent looking guy a try? Or at least a decent sounding guy?
I've been on this site for over a year being the 'good guy' and although I read tons of profiles talkin about how women want a 'good guy' they never email me... why, you ask? Probably because I don't have a picture. So you shallow women go ahead and find your 'hot boy' cuz it wont last and when you come crawlin back to POF and you decide to email me because you have been dissed so badly by the 'hot boys' then don't.... Cuz I wont reply. I'll tell you to go somewhere else.
Once again I'm not tryin to be an ***hole, I'm actually one of the 'good guys' this has just been on my mind for a long time now and I needed to say it. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 11:24:26 AM | Hi Craneman: I agree with you that a lot of women feel that some of the men on these sites are married but a picture will not make one heck of a difference posted or not. I don't post my picture for obvious reasons...MY JOB...as an undercover cop I would not dare but if and when I am ready to leave this kind of work, sure I will be happy to post a picture. As it stands now SORRY LADIES, you won't get to see what I look like. Besides as my ad states I am on here for the forums only. Not looking to date anyone until I get out of this kind of work as its not fair to any woman to be put through the long crazy hours I work nor not seeing me perhaps for days on end because I am AWAY....
Before you condemn men for not posting pics, I am sure many will be happy to forward one to you if you are really interested in them, same goes vice versa, then I can't see any problem with not posting one. Would I if I was dating answer an ad if no pic was posted, sure because its what is in the post not a pic that interests me. I am sure others feel the same. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 11:56:59 AM | @SAGE:
I can relate, man. I been there. Living paycheck to paycheck completely sucks.
Its probly just as well though since POF is starting to crack down on what kinda pics we can have. Admin has stated either "a picture of the user or no picture at all. There is no requirement that you must have any picture". In other words he doesn't want pics of non-humans on our profile.
If you wanna pic I have a suggestion. On your next library run, just upload a picture of something off the web (landscape or something) if it makes everyone happy that you have a picture.
Good luck, Sage.
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:11:09 PM | | I DELETE MESSEGES IF THERES NO PHOTO. WHAT ARE THEY HIDING? AGE? BODY? FACE? ITS SOMETHING, AND ITS TOO RISKY. COME ON, IT COULD BE ANYONE!!!! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:11:14 PM | | Please tell me how to add a picture if you do not own a digital camera and doc station. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:17:12 PM | --VIXEN
So ... how does one having a picture prevent it from just being anyone?
--TIME
If you just want a picture you can just copy paste one from the net or from any scanned ones you already have. Otherwise, I guess you can't. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:30:59 PM |
Please tell me how to add a picture if you do not own a digital camera and doc station.
where there is a will there is a way.............
what if admin said 'no pic no.........profile'
I actually think it is kinda creepy getting mail from 'invisible people' | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:33:01 PM | http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3686293.aspx
Um, he won't. This is his new thread about photos and he clearly states there is NO requirement whatsoever to have any photos with your profile.
MSG 78,
Why would no pic = married person? I don't get that logic. Would a married person simply remove their ring and take the picture anyway or post a picture with the ring cropped out? And thats assuming they are posting their own pictures. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:44:19 PM | I prefer pictures, yet I try very hard to answer everyone who took that second or two to stop by. If there is no attraction I usually say thank you for taking the time to stop by, and I wish you well in your quest.
Acknowledging one is important to me. I know I don't like it when I write someone and I don't get a response. After all, picture or no picture they took the time to stop by and I appreciate such kindness, and try hard to return it.
Again I do prefer pictures as I have had the "I'll tell ya what I look like story", and the "You won't be Disappointed lines", and in reality it was "OMG" for lack of a better word or letters,,,,smile.........deceit is what I found. At least a picture plus a profile does aid in my decision of possibly meeting and sharing all we have in common.
Nothing like good eye contact, it alone can tell you little secrets....smile | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 1:02:40 PM | "what if admin said 'no pic no.........profile'"
Personally I think that would only create a rush of faked pics as people wishing to save their profiles from deletion would start grabbing any photos they can find, real or not, from the web. At least until they can put up a real picture of themselves at any rate or until someone catches them in a lie. Good luck there, though. my 2 centavos. | |
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| Second Best Dad Oh Yeah MEOW!!!
Posted: 3/23/2006 1:28:52 PM | You said it better than anybody else. The point is in real life
would anybody strike up a conversation with a man or woman
who was walking around with a mask on? Of course not.
Well translate that into the same scenario on the dating sites
on the web. So if I wouldn't strike up a conversation
with a man in public if he were wearing a mask, then why oh why
would I do it here?
{off topic} but can't help myself... secondbestdad...just one word
comes to mind... YUMMY!!! [blush] | |
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| Second Best Dad Oh Yeah MEOW!!!
Posted: 3/23/2006 2:01:27 PM | Bluelakemermaid,
I think understand what your saying, But YES, "Hell Yes", I'd strike up a conversation with someone wearing a mask, but that's just me. I'd want to know the reason, his plans, am I in danger, do I need to call for help, his thoughts, is he mentally stable, etc..these would be things going through my mind, so to soothe my mind I'd definitely say how's it going or something to that effect jsut to get a feel of the situation.
Don't you say hello when you enter a room of people, or just in passing? or on an elevator, at a nightclub, how about on Halloween, many walk around in Mask, we have no clue who these people are"most", but we laugh with them, admire them, party with them etc... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 2:11:36 PM | herewego,
good point, but it would be a boring affair, I don't know many men/women who love to type without something visual or stimulating that gives him/her reason, in my opinion. some suspense is good though don't ya think... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 2:26:40 PM | while everyone is arguing "pic or no pic", i would just like to state, pictures lie too. some girl posts a picture of her at prom night or as a bridesmaid, she looks pretty damn hot. do you honestly think she looks this way every single day? probably not. that can apply to the opposite. there are pictures we or someone else has taken of us that make us look hidious, possibly the most undisrable thing in the room. take a video camera and just read something out loud, than randomly take stills from the video, you will find you make hundreds of the most stupidest faces in the world. ex, your mouth is open while reading. thats not strange while doing it, but you have a still picture of it, and you look retarded.
i think people look into the picture thing way to much. it's a blunt tool to get an idea of what the person looks like, nothing more. if a person doesn't post one, im sure they have their reasons, good or bad. and likewise, there are people who post pictures and quit frankly, they're good looks may be all they have going for them. to each man his own.
-the evil one | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 2:35:01 PM | evil,
well put.... but I don't think theres an arguement going on, just different views being shared. But to have no picture then ask a person with pictures for more pictures, is insane....well, maybe not that bad, but come on....where does one draw the line.....smile | |
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| NO PHOTOS? and USELESS PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 3:32:08 PM | I am a no pic person because of many reasons sited before, but I feel the need to highlight some of mine - I do not hide anything in person....perhaps people who cannot understand not having a pic haven't had an nasty experiences yet, or like excess attention or whatever the reason....who knows? For the record, I do like seeing who I am talking to and own and use a webcam after my private e-mail addy is given by me...and I prefer seeing a webcam, pics turn out to be old. After you met someone who has posted an old pic, gained 100 pounds after the picture without mentioning it.....you get a little jaded about that sort of thing, especially if you value honesty.
1. I don't want someone to message me solely because of looks, I have found when I tried online dating before (a different site) way too many people smiled and messaged without reading my profile.....it was really a waste of my time until I took the pic off....
2. I am online dating, not because I don't get approached in the 'real world', but because I'd rather avoid overconfident 'pretty boys'. Don't get me wrong, physical attraction is a must, but so is being literate.
You meet single people all the time in the 'real' world, but unless you work your marital status into a conversation, people don't know unless you're wearing a wedding ring. You only have the balls once to approach someone you find attractive - only to find out he's 'regretfully engaged', to be turned off that method. I suspect the only place you might be somewhat effective is in a bar, I'd personally rather not witness their binge drinking before I knew about their interests, or their name for that matter...
3. Although online dating is more and more common, I still would not want my mom to find out, especially if it wasn't me telling her. If your profession involves you being in the public, you're recognized, plain and simple.
4. Exs.....eeewwww, what if they seen it??? Not like I keep my singlehood a secret, but my business is no business of theirs.....
5. I am self-employed and that is all I will say about it online - just in case it risks the integrity of my business....I will in person, I don't hide it - it's no big secret, frankly quite proud of it....yet,
6. I KNOW people behave different to people they haven't met in person. Have you ever been approached by someone in person and the first thing they say is not "Hello", but "So, have you ever been fisted before?" I haven't......but it's happened online before. If people can be extra crass online to me...woman with class....the possibilties, negative and positive, are endless....
There are many reasons to not have a pic and still persue online dating....those are some, yet not all of mine.
-Waterbabe | |
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