| NO PHOTOS? and USELESS PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 4:57:06 PM | waterbabe,
I see clearly where your coming from, and you've made some good points thanks for sharing. I've been on both sides of the fence, no photo, to photos, I have had that bad experience you speak of with both, a picture and without a picture. It still boils down to preference, and I still perfer a profile with a picture perferably their OWN, smile, but I make it a point to answer the ones without pictures as well. I don't persue profiles without pictures, not usually, but have.
I enjoy reading so with or without a photo I do respond.
OMG, I'm thinking about what you said about mother finding out, can you imagine at dinner, hi honey, so ummm, I saw you on the internet, pass the potatoes and tell me why....lololololol | |
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| NO PHOTOS? and USELESS PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 5:01:39 PM | ^^^^lol oh my goodness a nightmare no doubt.
Well, Mum...why were you there eh? Did ya know Mum was there, Dad?
"well.ummm uh..." lol
Fun dinner.... lol | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 5:42:24 PM | Another thing, how do we know that the pics that are posted are really who the profile is portraying. Some post pics of themselves when they are like 10yrs younger, or pics of someone not even themselves.
I say,if you take the time to post a pic, make sure it is one of you...and up todate! Even a one taken a few years ago can be different then how you look now...different colored hair, less hair then pic posted or even no hair any more!   | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:00:05 PM |
no picture========>hiding something from someone ( wife, g/f, boss, family, friends...the IRS, the fbi/cia........)
I have none of those mentioned..I am single AND I have pics. I send two-three pics with the message i send out.
I just do not have one of me for my main pic. What is the big deal of not putting one as a main pic. Most of the first messages are sent from guys to women, some women may send out to guys, but the majority reply or do not.
So do not jump the gun thinking because someone does not have a main pic they are hiding something.
I was on a pervious site before and low & behold, some co-workers happen to be surfing through that one and came upon my pics/profile. Sorry to hear razzing all the time about it can get stale and annoying after the 2nd or third week. So this time around I figured seen as i can hide the pics and send them to people instead, why not do that.
Is a preference to do it that way. At least I DO have pics. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:09:53 PM | msg ! sorry only when it's HALLOWEEN! OR there isn't an R. in the month  | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 9:34:07 PM | lil moments,
we don't do we.....just one of those things that comes with surfing the net and the many different sites, we would like to believe "TRUST ME" but it's the chance we take in hopes that the profile is as real as the person who wrote it, or is the picture really theirs.
Have fun and try not to put a lot of weight on pictures, they are definitely nice to have in my opinion, but there are lots of good people I'm sure without their Mug shot in that little square box..smile
I've seen some terrific pictures, from all over the world, art work, scenery, the beach, peoples backyards, horses in a pasture, all types of cool animals, boats, oceans, clubs, you name it. Quite interesting to say the least and some very beautiful, and those types of pictures don't lie.....smile....(or do they) | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 10:00:26 PM | i think it's a waste of time to post a pic. i went 10 months on here without a pic and everyday i got at least 3 or 4 women sending me messages, now that i have my pic posted, no one is sending me messages.......and no i'm not ugly...lol
what i think it is and i feel this is more with women then men, but women make a bigger deal on what a person looks like....i read the profiles and i send a message if the person as something interesting in there profile, it has nothing to do with the way they look.
half of the women i have sent a message didnt have a pic posted.
and the women who say they wont respond to a man without a pic..thats a lie.
even with a pic posted, most still decide not to respond | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/23/2006 10:12:29 PM | Cajunblast,
Do you really think that women make a big deal on photos? I too went without photos for awhile for personal reasons and when I'd communicate with others the first thing out of their mouths were send me a picture, you got a picture, wheres your picture, what do you look like, I don't talk to people without a picture, put your picture up etc etc.......
I think men are more visual then women. just my opinion though................... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 3:01:06 AM | | I do not have a photo on my computer so to have to mess around getting one, and scanning it in, whilst signing up is too much of a nuisance, so it is easier not to put one. | |
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| hornydevil
Posted: 3/24/2006 3:04:19 AM | | So, that is fortunate...May, June, July and August are coming up. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 3:24:46 AM | I got on another site a few years ago. My profile was honest and my picture looked like me in a dress...well I got emails..you have any other pictures? Is that really you? and then I got one that the guy REALLY REALLY wanted me to send him pics in my underwear..nude..when I said no..he said that he knows where I live and has been by my house..he knows me and if I don't comply he will paste my face on a nude and spread it all over the sites on porn sites..
Well...he did..he is a local and he knew where I lived..so I had to get a restraining order on him and he ended up going to jail for kiddy porn..SOOOOO
That is why I am very careful of whom I print my likeness to these days.. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:34:05 AM | "WoW" arealangel,
so sorry to hear such. I took mine down after an episode from a "CREEP"..went awhile without a photo up until things got better and he was band from the site...I wish you well, and hope you encounter nothing but happiness from this moment on...... | |
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| hornydevil
Posted: 3/24/2006 1:53:39 PM | msg 112 WHAT! YOU DON'T LIKE MY PANTHER! I'D stick with the panther! then you really will be fortunate!  | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 2:08:42 PM | I don't have a picture up because I don't want to post a picture out where anyone on the internet can get ahold of it and do whatever they want with it. There are plenty of horror stories about people's pictures being taken and used in bad ways I guess it make me a lil nervous about it. For the same reasons I won't create a myspace page, that and the company that runs myspace is pretty bad with keeping their word in the terms of service and privacy statements.
I have 2 pictures though, and if anyone asks I send them w/o question.
I guess if someone can't look beyond the no picture thing I'm screwed. I did write a rather lengthy profile though detailing everything in my life right now. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 2:15:01 PM | | msg 117 well i guess! you're SCREWED! because the NO PIC NO RESPONSE! clan are gathering! in strength! on here! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 2:24:57 PM | | It's so those of us what's attractively challenged might could git a purty girl like you to send us one o them email thangs and boost ar ego. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 2:38:58 PM |
COULD BE ANYONE just like the PHOTO! I SUPPOSE!
This is true, anyone can go out to google and type in "hot " in images, pick one and post it, or just post a picture of a friend or anything, how does the photo give it any more weight?
I'm sticking with not having a photo up, if someone is too shallow to send me a message because I don't have a photo up I guess its my loss. Not that everyone who would ingore the photoless is shallow but, you get the idea. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:13:46 PM | No offense to anyone intended, but I feel that sometimes no photo leaves more to the imagination than some photos. I recently replied to a message with, "Sorry, I am not in the habit of speaking to strangers who are not dressed." Just for the record, I normally do not receive inappropriate messages. The poor guy did not say anything inappropriate, but since I am not in a relationship, any half naked man that I converse with is probably going to be a relative.
On another note, I did not post a photo on another site for work related reasons. I can say that I get much, much, much more response with a photo. This thread has forced me to consider how many no photo profs may be hiding marriage and more. I had considered it, but I will definitely give it more thought. . . . .thanks. | |
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Xavi
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:28:49 PM | If your co-workers razz you about being here, ask them what THEY were doing surfing an online dating site. If they are of the same gender as you and aren't openly gay, ask them why they were surfing their same gender on an online dating site. I'm pretty sure they will shut up after that.
If you don't have a photo on here, my first thought is "Hey, this person is either incredibly insecure about their looks, or they are cheating on someone." I like confidence in the people I meet, and I hate cheaters. The same thing applies to folks who say "Well, I have a picture I can send you," okay, so why isn't it on your profile? Afraid your wife will see it?
As for googling pictures of hot people and posting them? That's why I have a range of my pictures on here. You can tell some are newer than others, but the range lets you know that yes, those really are all shots of the same person.
When you get down to brass tacks it's the same as walking into a bar with a bag over your head. You are on here looking for a partner or friend. If you met them in person they would see what you look like, so since that is the eventual goal here, why not show them right at the start? That way you also avoid meeting up with someone with whom you had fantastic online chats only to discover they are utterly repulsed by your looks.
There really is no good reason to not put a photo up. If you have that much concern about someone "doing things" with the photos you post online you'd better destroy your bank accounts too since that information is a great deal more crucial and it is on the internet for folks who are smart enough to hack into the bank's servers. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:34:21 PM | I had a photo up at one time. I removed it for my own personal reasons. I've had better luck meeting women with depth since then. I have no problem sending a photo to a woman if she asks, but I'm really not interested in anyone who decides yae or nae based soley on what I look like.
You said it would be nice to "know who you're talking to". Well, "knowing" someone has very little to do with what they look like. Appearences are almost always deceiving. Who someone really is comes from within.
One of the major reasons marriages don't last anymore is because people are so much more shallow than they used to be and get married to people that they really don't know based on how much the person spikes their libido when they look at him/her. Lust only gets you about as far as you can throw the person....then you have to look deeper, and you find out you can't stand the person you're married to.
By the way, before you decide that I only think this way because I must be unattractive:: I'm 6'6", dark curley hair, blue eyes and take pretty good care of myself....but I've learned through experience that looks and lust fade. It's who people are inside that makes or breaks a relationship. Sure, there needs to be that initial attraction...but if you're open minded and like who someone is on the inside you can find sexiness in almost anyone. I have to wonder how many people have pushed away their soulmate because they never gave them a chance after seing their photo.....go figure. | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
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| NO PHOTOS? and USELESS PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:35:53 PM | By the way, to folks who say "Oh, I don't have a digital camera or docking port for one so I can't post a photo."
Wal Mart will put your photos on disk and create a website for you to store and show them. It's easy enough to pull one from there to here to post it.
It's not that expensive, and if you can't afford that, then you ought to be getting a second job or upgrading some skills so you can get a better job, instead of looking for a partner.
(Folks who are just here to chat in the forums, well, I can think of plenty of online chat forums that aren't attached to dating sites, but if you really want to use that as an excuse for no photo, fair enough. Maybe someone should suggest to the admin here that one of the options under "looking for" be listed as "just here for the forums.")
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:57:33 PM | | Maybe they are weeding out the supeficial people in the world only interested in looks and want them to learn about them first? | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/24/2006 6:16:06 PM | | msg 123 well thanks! for your INPUT! but i really would not be intrested! in e-mailing any of the women on here who required a photo! or no response! ATTITUDE! there intrest is only in looks! so why bother! just let them enjoy! there pics! it's there loss! | |
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