| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/30/2006 1:47:46 PM | | i agree with you..there needs to be something in a picture that makes you want more of them..i realy liked a man on here ,no pic,but we talked on the phone and i was crazy for him...we met,and i still am crazy for him.but theres no physical attraction...feels very odd.. | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 177 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/30/2006 2:23:42 PM |
How about an undercover policeman that would jepodize his/her career if they posted a picture, would you judge them?, are they not allowed to date? or look for someone on here? How about a teacher?, there are people that judge people all the time, and that might be a reason to question a person's credibility based on the fact they are on a dating site, the list could go on.
Unless he specified on the profile that he was an undercover cop, who would know he wasn't just Joe Average on a dating site? If he's on a dating site talking about being an undercover cop, chances are he probably isn't, he just wants to sound exciting. If someone is really working undercover or in a high-risk job, chances are not even their closest friends know.
I never said anyone wasn't "allowed" to date, I don't know where you got that idea.
I know a few ladies on here who are teachers and who have their photos up clearly in their ads. One is a librarian in the local school system. Why should anyone's credibility be questioned because they are using the internet to find a date? Why would anyone not use the technology available to find a date? While using that technology, why not use everything it offers, including the ability to show several photos of yourself so folks can see that if you say you are athletic, you are?
Why does it bother you so much that I think people ought to post pics if they are looking for dates? | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/30/2006 2:35:10 PM | i have photos of myself. i usually send them to those i'm interested in. other than that, the display photos are an expression of one of my major interests, horror.  | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 7:51:44 AM | How do we know anyone on this site is who they are!!. How do we know that you are who you present yourself to be. That wasn't a knock against you, I'm sure you are who you say you are, just using an example.
I don't think an undercover cop is going to specify that he is, and I hardly think he is going to let many people know unless he is really interested in someone.
You are intitled to your opinion and others are entitled to theirs, and whether they post their picture or not shouldn't be a reason to condemn them for that. If you know ladies that are teachers and have no problem posting their pictures, great, the point I was getting across was that some people in public positions don't want to. If a person wants to take advantage of all the technology thats great, if they don't then that is their choice.
Your line of thinking came across as, because you have a picture up you get dates, those that don't won't.
It doesn't bother me that much, believe me. Like I said you are entitled to your opinion, but if others have theirs you should respect it. I'm not arguing with you nor am I disputing what you say, I agree that you would get more responses with a picture, that people could see right off what you look like, but it also seems that a lot of people on here are quite content with not having a picture, and willing to send one to those they are interested in.
Wow it is like trying reasoning with a teenager!. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 8:01:38 AM |
With the amount of lambasting people get over their choice of pictures...i'm surprised anyone puts them up at all!!
Smart woman...that is I think the most popular reason...I think as long as you send a pic or two with your message to the women then what is the problem... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:21:33 AM | I think alot of people are missing the point...i'm not interested in everyone's comments about my pictures (especially the women) just the men that appeal to me... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:50:04 AM | .............................. well anyway 
umm people who don't wanna post anything have that right and shouldn't have to be judged by total strangers that have no impact on their real lives. Whats it matter what "Joe Stranger" thinks? exactly. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:07:18 PM | """" the point I was getting across was that some people in public positions don't want to. If a person wants to take advantage of all the technology thats great, if they don't then that is their choice."""""
gimme a break, everyone is in a public position. And undercover cop's prefession is irrelevant because unless he writes in the profile HI UNDERCOVER COP ALLERT!!!! no one gives a damn that the guy has to work incognito all the time nor would he jeopardize his cases by simply being seen on here.
having said that, I respect someone who doesn't want everyone to see their picture, no matter what their personal reason is.
As far as exchanging pictures behind the scenes I would never meet a guy without a pic.
Oh and as to the we never know who someone is...chances are that if you have a few pictures they are more than likely the person they say they are. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:56:10 PM | I agree with both posters above....if you don't want a picture up then that is your perogative but why bash the ones who have their pictures and the choice of picture they have...and by the way most of the "bashers" have no picture up so can afford to be "critics"...
And if you choose not to have a picture then don't whine about the fact that you don't get emails and that the ones responding to pictures are "shallow"...
I wouldn't strike up a conversation with a stranger on the street and share my life stories with them...why would i do it on here?....weren't we all taught not to talk to strangers? | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 1:24:36 PM | I was hesitant to post my pic, so i can see why others feel the same way.
Esp if they have a job where they are in the public eye, esp a teacher, dentist, pharmacist, etc | |
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cogirl
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Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 187 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:05:36 PM | | I was very hesitant to post/give a pic but recently have learned you never know what can happen with your pic once it's out there. I have only sent my pic to 3 people that I thought I was talking to as friends. Just found out recently that that pic (just a normal everyday pic that you'd send a friend), someone else that I've been talking with recently said he saw my pic grouped with a bunch of other pics on some other site....that's just creepy to me and probably why some people don't give out photos....I know I won't be doing it again.... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:10:53 PM | <-------
Got photo?
You get mail.
Do i respond to a "no photo mail", sure, with "Got photo?".
I'm not shallow, just realistic. I just had a conversation with my kids about this issue. In my opinion, everyone here is fake or in some way miss represented. So proof is needed, Not to see that you ARE 30, beautiful and blond, Rather that your NOT 40 Bald and a man!!! I'd Rather keep my comments on my "eating habits" to someone that can appreciate them, not some spunk freak needing some entertainment.
So bash away!
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, No matter how wrong it is!!!
Regards. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:21:01 PM | | If a girl doesn't have a photo up, she has to have something extremely eye-catching in her headline or the few lines of their profile that show up in a search for me to bother e-mailing her. Or mentions why she doesn't have a pic (something like "if I'm interested, I'll e-mail you a pic"). Also, if I see a post in a forum that says something I like, I might contact a girl without a pic. Not having a pic usually means the same to me as saying "Prefer Not To Say" under Marriage Status or Do You Do Drugs. In other words, I imagine the worst thing possible. | |
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ohgary
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Joined: 5/1/2005
Msg: 190 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 3:42:31 PM | I suppose I'm kind of on the fence with this one. Sure, pictures are nice because in real life, no matter where you are, you're first attraction to someone is their appearance (unless they just saved your life somehow).
However, online is a little bit of a different story. I'm trying to teach my kids that its NOT ok to talk to strangers online, but what am I doing ? Oh..Hiya stranger ! lol. Sometimes when you see some forum posts here and there by the same people with or without a pic, you sorta get to know them a little bit....maybe enough to want to talk to them.
Sometimes no pic is a REALLY nice surprise when you do see it. I've enjoyed that in the past, thats for sure. You know...someone who's main objective isn't to win the popularity contest thats going on here...just to find someone who's worth it. Its a great way to weed out alot of people. Even though I chose not to go that route for my own reasons.
To each their own. Be honest and you'll be fine.
ETA : I would expect a pic at some point though...sooner rather than later. ;-) | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 191 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 3:45:33 PM |
I don't think an undercover cop is going to specify that he is, and I hardly think he is going to let many people know unless he is really interested in someone.
Okay, so you've just argued my point for me. Thanks. Now why would that person have a problem posting a pic of himself?
Wow it is like trying reasoning with a teenager!.
Actually that's the experience I'm having at the moment -- trying to figure out good, logical reasons why people insist on not posting photos. I've run through the reasons most folks give and many of them boil down to "too lazy, too uninformed, too insecure." I've seen lots of emotional responses, but not many based on facts, unless you include the folks who have had their photos posted elsewhere -- again though, the people who saw the reposted images knew it wasn't the person whose face was pasted on.
By the way, I only mentioned anything relating to this:
Your line of thinking came across as, because you have a picture up you get dates, those that don't won't once, and it was in a joking manner at the end of a post. Other folks here have mentioned that they get more reponses with a photo up, and it seems pretty logical that more responses will equal more dates. | |
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trey65
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Joined: 3/24/2006
Msg: 192 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:36:02 PM | | not trying to hide anything, no undercover cop, the camera ended up in the bottom of the lake a couple of weeks ago when we went fishing and just haven't been able to get out to get a new one, guess I need to put it higher on my list, lol. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:53:00 PM | | msg 190 LESSON FOR TODAY! to LAMBAST! someone is to scold or reprimand severely. also means to beat or whip severely! does that clear it up for you! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 5:00:04 PM | "chances are that if you have a few pictures they are more than likely the person they say they are"
Not necessarily. Anyone can go to Webshots or Botfolio and collect all the pics they want of someone's family vacation and play it off as their own. Those are photo album storage sites where people store their personal pictures, and many people do not set them up as private. And there's nothing protecting the pictures from the ole right click and save. | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 195 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 9:44:47 PM |
the camera ended up in the bottom of the lake a couple of weeks ago when we went fishing and just haven't been able to get out to get a new one,
Now that's the first decent reason I have seen so far!
*wonders if the fish are enjoying the camera.* | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 10:08:41 PM | """"ROXIE,
It does matter for the undercover cop because the people who think he's someone else (the bad guys) might see it and find out what he really is: a cop, a KILL him or at the very least make it harder for the police to solve the case he's on.
You may well be right, but no one can guarantee that the people he's working against will not see him on here, nor is it worth his job or life to take that risk for a free internet dating site.""""
DEAL WITH IT: I think you may be watching too many murder mysterires LOL first off undercover cops would never reveal that's what they do for a living. look around and see how many people don't even state what they do for a living, I don't and I'm no undercover cop or detective. So a picture alone says dyck-all, furthermore it does not jeapordize a person's work, sorry I disagree in that case. I only see it as a problem a some people said their pictures were used to form fake profiles THAt is a real concern.
JACKFROST: sure they can and you might never know until you meet them. I've looked at guys pictures who looked like they have "psycho eyes" watched what they had to say and totally decided I was not interested just based on that. I was right. you use your intuition. generally speaking a person who is honest will send you more pics of them once you speak to them. I have never shown up and seen someone misrepresented. I had one guy who seemed like he could be lying and most those people can not keep up with their lies. I had asked him a question about something in the backgound of a picture since I was suspicious it was a phoney and a month later we were talking again and asked him the same question but changed the answer to make it seem like he has said something else, he fell for it. so he was lying, he didn't remember what he told me the first time and that is how I caught him. just be smart that's all. of course you can't control the outcome of every situation but use your judgement.
Picture is 100 times better than no picture. | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 197 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 3:17:31 AM | Look out Roxie, certain boys here have the undercover cop issue as their scared cow and will freak should anyone deny that it's a valid reason to not post pics.
Of course it's not as though someone who had worked as an undercover cop would have a cover story well worked out for all eventualities or be adept at thinking on their feet or anything, and we all know the criminal element spends a great deal of time hanging out on online dating sites. | |
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jiszam
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Joined: 7/5/2005
Msg: 198 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 10:48:06 AM | | Besides if they got killed...that would be good and then the rest of us could have fun without having to worry about accidentally getting to know a cop.. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 11:08:10 AM | {Seems like there is a trend on POF where men (I don't look at the profiles of too many ladies, so can't comment on women) are deciding not to post their pictures. It sure makes communication a lot nicer to know who you are responding to...know what I mean? }
I know what you mean, sort off. It's still good to know a person.
would you rather have someone post a fake pic?, Probably not, so sometimes we have to chill and just get to know someone and then when we do see their pic, don't reject them because of there looks.
Lets play nice. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 11:12:13 AM | | I do agree with planthehip's explanation of the no photo thing. I myself do not have a photo up, but I'll send a photo to someone I've exchanged conversation with. The no photo advantage is that people get to know your profile a little better and if still interested they message you, the disadvantage is that you have to put a little more effort because you have to email them, then you have to request their photo, then review to see if you match, but sometimes it's really worth it! It's best to ask for a photo before you meet, is a dating must for those who are looking for a particular look(not to sound shallow but some of us have a mental picture of the type of look we want, and it's hard to find it)so remember even the shy ones without a photo could end up being your match if given the opportunity!!! Anyway think about how many people with photos you have met and had no luck!!! Try it !!! | |
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