| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 12:17:58 PM | Well, if there isnt a photo i usually wonder if they dont have a pic or just are afraid to put one up there.
If i exchange e-mails/ do phone conversation thing i mostly ask for a pic.
Although, i met a lady last week from this site who didnt have a pic posted.
We e-mailed, then chatted on the phone (she contacted me actually! lol!)
And i was sorta wondering (while waiting in the parking lot) if she was gonna be a "10" or a "1"! LOL!
She sounded nice on the phone, and is very intelligent, smart, and witty.
And lo and behold she was very cute as well!
I hope the feeling was mutual, as i would definetly like to continue seeing her.
So dont always count someone out if they dont have a pic posted. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 3:28:42 PM | Xavi: I know!!! 
the bottom line is people will come up with the most ridiculous stories not to show a picture, excuses might as well be lies. if you need excuses to hide behind words, then I don't need an excuse when I want nothing to do with you. NOT INTERESTED - PERIOD.
Why would you come on a dating site and not want to show what you look like unless you have something to hide? And the old "my job is very important to me", sounds like a crock of shyte! Everyone's work is important to them, get over it! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 5:15:48 PM | | People got too much time on their hands just to come online and rag on what total strangers choose to do with thier own profiles. If ya don't wanna talk to em, then don't. Griping and ribbing them isn't going to change anything any more than you'll change for them. sheesh. We all come here for some escape, not more stress from people we don't even know. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 5:22:38 PM | ^^^Speak for yourself. some of us don't come here for fantasy or ESCAPE!?!?
Some of us come here TO DATE in case you haven't noticed this is a DATING site. If I wanted escape I read a novel NOT FAKE PROFILES on a dating site! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 5:40:46 PM | well my 2 cents is this ...i have met one guy on pof so far that actually looked like his pic he posted.. the other 3 i met not even close.. so realy dont matter to me if they have a pic or not cause you dont realy know what they look like anyway till you meet them | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/3/2006 8:15:28 AM | Sunshine I agree. If you don't want to contact someone without a picture then don't, but don't bash someone else for their own personal preferences. Seems to me that people waste way to much time worrying about what someone else is doing or not doing.
As for pictures on profiles, I've met 2 guys that had 5 and 6 pictures on their profiles, strange how some men age 20yrs overnight, so to me pictures mean nothing. Dishonesty does.
Bashing someones preferences to anything is stereotyping a person, or people. Not every person on here has something to hide.
And for the record, a friends son is an undercover cop in an highschool, been there since the beginning of the year, he's 29, looks 18, fits right in with the students, so my question is, does he post his picture as 29 and risk being seen by another student or a parent? In his profile he said he was 29 and in a government postion, which is true, but no picture attached.
HMMMMMM
I'm not going to argue the point I was trying to make in a previous response. I am saying that some people do have to protect their jobs. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/7/2006 7:31:28 PM | I don't have a picture up right now because I don't want to meet anyone at the moment. Not having a picture reduces the number of people contacting me (and probably most other people, I'd guess) down to zero, pretty much. You can always ask for a picture, right?
I have talked to and met people in person, with pictures of themselves on POF, who hardly look like their pictures at all. One woman told me (and it's quite obvious) that her main picture is more than 10 years old when I asked why she looked like two different people, yet she still has that old picture up! Who is she really fooling??? Another woman I met looks almost unrecognizable from the picture that is apparently less than a year old...
From the other perspective, I have gone out of my way to contact a couple of women with no pictures and they have been absolutely gorgeous. They had their own (valid) reasons for not showing pictures..
And finally, I met and went out for several months with a woman who I didn't even ask what she looked like before meeting her. She is a beautiful woman in all ways. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/7/2006 8:19:08 PM | some people just enjoy EXHIBITING! themselves others don't some are shy. some don't know how to put a picture on here so for those people that want pics posted get a LIFE! there's more to people than pics.   | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/7/2006 9:31:29 PM | I'll tell you this,My pic in the forums match the name I chose for this site,nothing
more ,nothing less.
On my profile however,I do have pics of myself,wich by the way I must update
very soon.
And when I write to someone,I always send a pic of me with my letter,so in the
forums it is not a big deal at all!!!
Knight Rider! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/7/2006 9:36:14 PM | | i can't post a pic. the only ones i have are almost nude ones,, and there's the no nudity rule. i do however have a webcam and i've said so in my profile. | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 1:28:50 AM |
i can't post a pic. the only ones i have are almost nude ones,, and there's the no nudity rule.
And in your profile you come off as such a nice churchgoing lady. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2006 1:50:26 AM | | Like it or not, because of my type of work, I will not post a picture of myself. By doing so would only put myself in acute danger as I am an undercover police detective doing sensitive work. These forums give me a little outlet from what I am presently involved in and as stated I am only here for the forums and not to date as yet. | |
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I Spy
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Joined: 4/7/2006
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 1:58:40 AM | | I would rather get to know the person first. Picture gets in the way of this. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 4:44:41 AM |
I would rather get to know the person first. Picture gets in the way of this
How do you get to know someone...when you don't even know who you're getting to know?
You wouldn't discuss yourself with a total stranger on the street, why would you do it on here?...do you think being on a "dating" site somehow protects you from the crazies out there?...i still maintain pictures are part and package of the attraction no matter what anyone says...there is nothing wrong with getting to know a person, but why can't one do it with their eyes wide open..why should i close them and pretend that your looks don't matter...looks are NOT THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS...but it does play its part... | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 4:58:26 AM | Just a few years ago, people were still meeting each other through newspaper personal ads and telephone recorded messages. You didn't know what people looked like through those venues, but it didn't stop people.
When people can put up false pictures, what's the difference anyway? You'll see 'em when you meet 'em. If you're that turned off, you can choose not to see 'em again. What's the big deal? | |
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Posted: 4/8/2006 7:28:05 AM | Posting a photo is taking a bit of a risk. If you're eye candy (as you are getreal) Posting a pic will attract a lot of attention. and invites, good and bad.
I can see many reasons for not posting good and sleezy.
Seems like it would be perfectly reasonable for you to paruse the non pic profiles and if the descreption of his character is what you are seeking, ask for a photo. If he declines, move on. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2006 7:38:59 AM | msg 221 well i'm from SCOTLAND. AS MY PROFILE. states which is a considerable distance from CANADA so the chances of us meeting or any other CANADIAN women on here are very slight indeed but i see no reason not to CONVERSE with women here even though they have no pictures. like myself. and i know you don't really know who you are talking to but even with a picture. there are no guarntees! that it is them in the photo. also profiles are nothing more than words thought up by people to try and impress! a potential! partner on here. they can never be taken as being 100% truthful. and all we are really left with is speak to them. and find out what's really behind the image and the profile. and hopefully find out what they really are about. even then we may only scratch the surface. but can there really be any harm in trying! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:05:50 PM | This world is a big busy place and some of us are looking for spark. looks matter!!! alot of pictures help. if you want to be considered, put it out there!!! those who are not attracted to you won't even contact you saving you the agony of rejection. I put a few pics up so that you can see what I really look like, a few different angles, all fairly new photos. I have contacted men with pictures if their looks strike my fancy....but only if their profile does too. Looks are NOT everything. But they are too important to overlook. I certainly won't contact a man who is not willing to show me what he looks like up front. Keeping in mind all, someone is going to think you are attractive.  | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:15:04 PM | This is a good post, people's shallow minded thoughts come through...which also helps in the selection process.
1) I don't think anyone needs to know how you look upfront, if you'd like to send a picture later that's fine. This way you really know what the other person is, all vanity sanity or girlfriend/marriage material.
2) Lets face it this is a dating site, not a modelling competition, not who wants to be a millionaire, not apprentice, not MTV live, not exposing yourself to millions of viewers so you get selected like a piece of meat.
3) People who don't show their pics, be proud, show it only if a person deserves to see you......and you can be the judge of that ! | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:16:40 PM | [qoute]Like it or not, because of my type of work, I will not post a picture of myself. By doing so would only put myself in acute danger as I am an undercover police detective doing sensitive work.
Hey bonecollector, any specific reason you had to mention the sensitivity of your work? Did you consider pretending that you are just a regular joe shmoe with a boring dull office job instead of putting yourself in acute danger with your exciting impressive 'incognito' double ohhh seven type cool dude, women want to throw their panties at you type of job?
Perhaps you should lose the copmovie title and start ALL over again....you could be office joe and put up a picture...see how many women want to date you that way. For those women who want to date you because of your super cool super job, keep up the old profile too...cover all your bases there big guy! | |
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Xavi
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Msg: 221 | |
| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:21:34 PM |
1) I don't think anyone needs to know how you look upfront, if you'd like to send a picture later that's fine. This way you really know what the other person is, all vanity sanity or girlfriend/marriage material.
Hmm, yep, you really get to know all about them while you have a profile full of "prefer not to say." | |
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Posted: 4/8/2006 10:23:28 PM | Sorry to cut in here,,but some with no photos are quite coy in thier descriptions of themselves..Now I may not be no great white swimming around,,I never did take good pic I liked,,but I have come across a few that should have ' false advertisement ' pasted alongside.. To be frank,,it scared the s*** out of me..I was tempted to burn my mouse!!!!
Since that time,,I have tried to ' see ' who I'm looking at,,it takes a lot of unpleasantness out of the situation,,sorry folks........ | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:29:01 PM | Xavi in here for the forums, not to really find someone on here.
If you wanna know someone you always have the option to ask, not just sit and wait just because they haven't filled out their profile.
Your pic means nothing if or when you have an ugly personality, so again like I said before different strokes for different folks. If you like posting your pics, be my guest, everyone has their own dating scheme. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:17:06 AM | Well it's the persons choice if they want to put up a photo or not. I put up a photo and get mixed repsonses, soem have accused me of being photogeneic (forgot what that means lol ) and also they suggested that I manipulated my pics and went to some photo store to get them modified and what not. Well that is not true, and atleast i have photos up and I vary them on a weekly bases.
Because I do have a girlfriend I am not so much concerned about which photot i put up, but I think it's still nice for people to see who they are :
1 chatting to
2 who's post they are reading
But again it is the person choice weather or not they put it up. Some prefer to put it up publicly, others are willing to show it in private. | |
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| What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/9/2006 9:43:24 AM | Really how are you to post a pic when you have sooooo many guys out there only wanting to be with you for how you look....
I had my picture on and I attracted guys ten yrs younger than me and calling me babe,love and when we gonna hook up.I see girls that have pics of their cleavage and bodies and can see that getting attention,but I did not have that. Just seems that don't show a picture of some body part no one really notices you.Really look at the guys every pic is of their abs!
You can have the hottest body.....yet the most unattractive personality. | |
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