| | Speaking of faith...Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | | I think it depends a little bit on the depth of your conviction to your faith. If you need to go to church twice a week, then you should find someone who also wants to invest that time. If you have to have a significant other who goes to church with you, then you'll want limit your search to devout Christians. There are lots of Christians out there who don't subscribe to the religious institution. They are turned off by organized religion. Ask yourself, can you have a significant other who IS a Christian but ISN'T as committed as you are? | |
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Posted: 8/19/2011 8:37:19 AM | | True, I'm not much into extremes either. If someone can't treat others with kindness and respect - next profile please. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2011 8:49:49 AM | Creation....
You may have a little more luck if you just look for a good person...being a good person doesn't come from a book, sure they can be tough to find, people don't slap a bumpersticker with a good person sign on the back of their car....they don't have a regular meeting every sunday where you can just show up and find them...but the thing about good people, not people who just SAY they're good people, but people who actually are good people...they ARE good people....they don't go around crapping on people and then justifying what they did with some kind of moral superiority complex stemming from irrational belief in an imaginary friend who happens to be a magical wizard, living deep in space, casting spells on the universe..... and they don't spend their time crapping on people and praying to said magical wizard for forgiveness...they just don't crap on people.
In actuality, and please don't take this the wrong way, you are a christian in name only, you are, in reality, as evidenced by your expressed philosophy, a paulian...neither Jesus nor his brother who survived him and feuded with Paul advocated the "unequally yoked" philosophy...in fact those faithful to the teachings of Jesus suffered at the hands of the church Paul built (posthumously)
If you follow the teachings of Jesus rather than the teachings of the church you'd probably fare alot better when it comes to really getting what you want out of dating...finding that special someone...I mean you do realize that if Jesus was a chick, using your logic, you wouldn't be able to date her...right? She'd be too Jewish, not nearly Christian enough...how's that for irony?
If you really do want to narrow the pool down to that of christian women, i dunno, maybe at least put some effort into pointing out what parts of christianity you agree with and what you oppose, because the bible has alot of crazy messages...maybe something like
"love thy neighbor: good"
"beating your children to death with a rock if they talk back to you: not so good...but I understand"
"getting drunk and sleeping with each of your two daughters on two consecutive nights, and impregnating them after sending them out to be gang-sodomized by a rabid mob because you wanted to protect some nutjob who said he was a friggin angel: no bueno. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2011 12:27:59 PM | I think it's great. I dont think you have to be the same, but I would not date someone that didn't believe in God.
The 20-30 something generation doesnt' believe much in God. That generation for the most part were very spoiled by their parents and got whatever they wanted. Their college was paid for and their parents hovered over them giving them what they wanted.
My parents were great; taught me how to be responsible and handle life. I also had a great foundation in believing in God and saw how powerful praying was and it was awesome. I dont' go to church much but I believe in God.
Some people get married and all they think about is hobbies and looks; some just good sex. Then they try to figure out where to go with things.
Instead of important things like faith, if you are going to have kids and how many you'd like, where do you want to live, future careers, how to handle the money....
they just think, wow they are hot and sexy and we have fun together.
God is a huge part of that equation; to have an Atheist and a Christian parent is brutal; the kids are confused what to believe and it's an uneven home. Having near the same thoughts on faith is great. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2011 10:17:48 AM | | You are right on course. That doesn't mean that both need to be Baptists or Presbyterians or Methodists, but a faithful Christian should not marry someone of another faith. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2011 4:25:12 PM | You are right on course. That doesn't mean that both need to be Baptists or Presbyterians or Methodists, but a faithful Christian should not marry someone of another faith.
So then, does that mean that if we're, say, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, Wiccan, "Spiritual but not religious", etc., that we should just avoid trying to date Christians? | |
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Posted: 12/5/2011 4:26:05 PM | "Am I far off course?"
Ambiguous question. Far off course for what? | |
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Posted: 12/12/2011 8:46:14 AM | When I was young and naive I subscribed to the idea of marrying someone of a similar Christian faith. Since that only brought me a lot of grief that ended up in divorce after 25 years, this time around I decided to lift that requirement and simply look for a heart of gold.
We're going on 2 years now, we're still in love and we're engaged.
Yes, we did meet right here on POF  | |
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Posted: 12/12/2011 1:37:22 PM | The 20-30 something generation doesnt' believe much in God.
And after a while, neither did Mother Theresa...
to have an Atheist and a Christian parent is brutal
With all due respect.... That is pure Poppycock.
I came from a family just like that. Parents still alive and married over 60 years now. Home life was very loving and stable. For whatever reasons many believe that being a non believer is borderline evil. Just because one is a non believer in no way means one is not a good, decent, honest, stand up person with morals, values and integrity. Simply because they do not believe in a god, does not automatically equate to NOT being a good human being. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2011 1:31:33 PM | | Non-believers and believers get along fine if they respect each other's beliefs and don't try to convert them. If you don't want to date an atheist, that's fine; it's your choice. Some people would never date an African-American. Others have different prejudices. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2011 4:49:03 PM | Dave.... my understanding of Mother Theresa's "crisis of faith" is not that she ever lost her belief in God, so much as her great disappointment because she felt He never "spoke" to her. Which for someone who so intensely dedicated her entire life to Him, must have been a tremendous pain.
And agreed, whether or not someone believes in "God" has nothing to do with their morals or quality as a human being. In fact sometimes it seems like the ones who have to "wear it on their sleeve" are some of the "best" (and worst) examples of that. Am not of the christian persuasion myself, but "love one another" (regardless who or what they are) seems as good a rule as any. Or as the Dalai Lama says, "my religion is simple, my religion is kindness."
Season's Greetings & Merry Xmas!! Oh, and a Happy Festivus too! | |
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Posted: 12/17/2011 11:07:19 PM | "I believe what I believe."
The only person who should preach to me is someone who actually works in a church. Other than that, preachy religious people are a HUGE turn off for me. I'll shut you down right away and move on. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2011 3:35:15 PM | | Faith is simply the belief in something that cannot possibly be proven as real | |
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Posted: 12/18/2011 8:27:52 PM | | I agree with this, as a person of faith it feels wonderful when you can share that part of yourself with someone without fear of rejection because you are religious. I've had relationships with people who were atheists and even some who followed the occult and the fact is while they can be wonderful loving people if there is anything in your relationship that is so fundamentally disagreed upon like this it will tear you apart unless you're both willing to compromise which few people are truly able to accomplish. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 11:10:28 PM | | My family comes from 3 different religious backgrounds actually 4 but the 4th one we dont see on holidays anyways seems the non religious ones are the only ones willing to tolerate others choices of faith. Good people will do the right thing regardless if they go to heaven. Many christians, catholics and jews get divorced so their religion didnt keep them together so it shouldnt keep anyone apart either. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 9:53:53 AM | I have a very good friend who is Jewish. I am a Christian..... sort of. He always wishes me a Happy Hannukha, and I always wish him a Merry Christmas. The first time he wished me a Happy Hannukha, I told him I wasn't Jewish, but he said that for him to wish me a Merry Christmas wouldn't mean much, as that it doesn't mean much to him.
So he wishes me a Happy Hannukha, because he knows and understands the full meaning of it, and it means something to him. I always wish him a Merry Christmas, as that is what is of meaning to me.
So, to all of POF, a very Merry Christmas.
Paul K | |
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Posted: 12/31/2011 12:35:45 PM | "I believe, what I believe, is what makes me what I am. Far from being a "Bible thumper"; faith is a big part of life (I do believe). I've met some very nice ladies online; but, sharing a common faith is important to me. Show me your heart first. Am I far off course?"
If your partner sharing the same type of imaginary friends as you do is important to you, then I understand.
I personally prefer sane, reasonable women that have a firm grasp on reality. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2012 9:26:35 PM | JBAEL......you got lot of that correct.
I can tell you studied your stuff. right?
I have recently gotten letters in my inbox telling me I am going to hell.
so, if a rapist goes to prison and becomes, or pretends, to be a born again Christian he is going to heaven but because I am Jewish I am going to hell?
Ya know, I was born Jewish, but I became a born again Christian for many years.
what made me return to my root religion was that I could never believe God, or Jesus was sending so many people to hell,...yet he was a loving God. explain that please.
oh yes, we have free choice. well a murderer may be expressing his free choice but what about his victim. and if his victim was not a born again Christian would he or she go to hell?
and Jesus was himself an orthodox Jew.
it was Paul who changed the Christian Bible.
I doubt Jesus ever ate pork chops or shell fish.
I would definately date a non Jew...as long as they were not the kind of Christian who trys to convert me. and why would that type of Christian want to date me.?
why do they ask me out all the time in my in box? | |
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Posted: 1/4/2012 3:08:32 AM | I would also date a Buddist or anyone spiritual who believes in God.
I dont think anyone knows who or what God is for sure.
most of my long term boyfriends were Christians but they never tried to convert me nor me them
I think it is the kind of people who think they know it all and think theirs is the only right religion that I would rather not become involved with. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2012 10:19:07 PM |
I have recently gotten letters in my inbox telling me I am going to hell.
so, if a rapist goes to prison and becomes, or pretends, to be a born again Christian he is going to heaven but because I am Jewish I am going to hell?
Ya know, I was born Jewish, but I became a born again Christian for many years.
what made me return to my root religion was that I could never believe God, or Jesus was sending so many people to hell,...yet he was a loving God. explain that please.
oh yes, we have free choice. well a murderer may be expressing his free choice but what about his victim. and if his victim was not a born again Christian would he or she go to hell?
and Jesus was himself an orthodox Jew.
it was Paul who changed the Christian Bible.
I doubt Jesus ever ate pork chops or shell fish.
I would definately date a non Jew...as long as they were not the kind of Christian who trys to convert me. and why would that type of Christian want to date me.?
why do they ask me out all the time in my in box?
LOL, wow. It's "christians" like that that give other christians a bad name. I couldnt' tell you how many christians I've come across that really don't read the bible much, let alone understand much of it.
I have a feeling you and I could have a few interesting conversations on this topic.  | |
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Posted: 1/4/2012 11:42:33 PM | thankyou Ponygt you may message me anytime and we can talk.
K | |
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Posted: 5/21/2012 12:30:18 PM | | you are not far off at all I agree with you a common faith is important! As far as dating most men I meet do not want that in a woman! | |
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Posted: 5/21/2012 12:34:54 PM | This is so nice to hear!!!
"I agree with this, as a person of faith it feels wonderful when you can share that part of yourself with someone without fear of rejection because you are religious. I've had relationships with people who were atheists and even some who followed the occult and the fact is while they can be wonderful loving people if there is anything in your relationship that is so fundamentally disagreed upon like this it will tear you apart unless you're both willing to compromise which few people are truly able to accomplish. " | |
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