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| | Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?Page 2 of 30 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30) | | Here's a scientific study: Put 50 guys and 50 women in a room....I'd be willing to wager there would be many, many more guys willing than the women. | |
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| Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 1/7/2011 8:46:08 PM | Oh that is nonsense AlmostBlonde, utter nonsense, any woman can get laid, even the physically unattractive , remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder and sometimes beer holder.... You put a swamp donkey/ditch pig in a bar late at night some body will try to pick her up for sex so i dont buy that argument, Even in a club where every body slim and trim and one really obese woman comes in some one will try for her at the end of the night.
For some guys its harder for them because they are losers, the only time they are getting their willies wet is in the shower . I think the reason why some women are finding it hard to get laid because they think its slutty of them to jump into bed with a guy when you're not involved in a committed relationship, some women have to be emotional attached to the guy before they have sex nothing wrong with that.
Any woman can get laid , it is easier for women vs the average man who has to whine , dine, be in a committed relationship before he's getting any , exceptions are 1) he's paying for it with Genital Technician ( hooker) 2) one that takes credit card numbers 3) He's extremely attractive 4) he's a smooth talker. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 8:48:53 PM |
Compare what women have to do compared to what men have to do.
Irrelevant so long as the results in the end are the same. If the prize is what counts, then the end justifies the means, which then makes no difference. It does make my point though, that the issue here isn't how available sex is, but the number of hoops some need to jump in order to get it.
Here's a scientific study: Put 50 guys and 50 women in a room....I'd be willing to wager there would be many, many more guys willing than the women.
We don't live our lives in a room, so this is a great theory but also irrelevant. Sure, men may have to do more, prove themselves more, pay more but in the end (or want it less, but I digress) if they are willing to do what it takes they'll still get it, which is basically the bottom line. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 9:11:05 PM |
It does make my point though, that the issue here isn't how available sex is, but the number of hoops some need to jump in order to get it.
Hoops...
.. yup, a guy can get laid any time he's willing to lay out $100-$200-$300 + for a hooker, once.
Hoops...
.. well, a woman can wear those lovely ear hoops that she can pick up for $2 at WallyWorld and get laid a dozen times.
I think the only time I've ever wanted a vagina rather than a penis is when I'm horny and really want to get laid.
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Posted: 1/7/2011 9:57:11 PM |
Sure, men may have to do more, prove themselves more, pay more but in the end [...] if they are willing to do what it takes they'll still get it
Really? I think many gentlemen on POF would disagree with you. Myself included.
Paying money for sex (directly at least) happens to be illegal in the US (in all but 2-3 counties of Nevada). Wave that kind of money, and if you're unlucky you may find yourself staring at a badge. If you're REALLY unlucky, you may find yourself staring at the barrel of a gun. In both cases, sex is a highly unlikely outcome. Well, unless you count being sodomized by a pimp cane as "sex".
Your argument is also groundless as it has no qualifiers. Yes, if I'm willing to do anything, I could get sex. I could probably go out, buy a handgun, kidnap a woman at gunpoint, duct tape her hands and feet, and serially rape her. If you define sex as merely PIV, I could get sex that way. I'm probably sure I would be facing a lifetime of staring at a set of grey bars as well.
However, if you define sex as a mutually consenting act by two people interested in performing it with each other, then no, guys cannot have sex whenever they want. As I can attest first hand, even marriage does not guarantee that. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 9:59:24 PM |
Compare what women have to do compared to what men have to do.
Women: exist.....good enough. I've talked to a few I've met from online, and they tell me about how not all women get inboxes overflowing with messages. They do clarify what they consider a message---and exclude all the ones from the hole-patrol. I would say even if a woman didn't want to leave the house and go to a bar, she could post a profile on here...no pic, 99 years old, etc and she'd have messages for sex.
Men: Have to convince women they are worthy. Careers, gym, captain of the high school football team, rescues kittens from trees on weekends, etc.
Ladies, do you know how powerful you really are?
Gee, I must have missed class that day or something. Since I raised the age on my mailing preferences, I don't even get the 'wanna f*ck' messages anymore. In fact, the only ones I've ever gotten are answers to ones I've sent, and very damned few of those. Yeah, my inbox is overflowing okay - overflowing with emptiness. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 10:09:25 PM | Kari you may be the exception given your location, but generally speaking, yes women can get laid whenever they want.
No reason for us to pretend that isn't true. Take a man and woman of the same level of attractiveness, and the woman will have a much easier time finding a sexual partner.
It's just the way it is. Doesn't mean it's right, doesn't mean it's good sex, doesn't mean it's what women want. Doesn't mean every woman can get laid every minute of every day. But it certainly is true if a woman wants sex she can find it with relative ease. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 10:38:06 PM | Yes. Women can get laid whenever they want.
I agree that both sexes have this option.
No matter how unattractive and ugly a person is,
there is someone even more unattractive, uglier...
and very willing.
The problem for us guys though,
is whereas you girls can just close your eyes to the ugly
and sortof lay there comatose if need be.
We have to see what we're doing and
a very bad ugly can cause us to shrink in horror.
So not exactly the same.
OMG...this is hilarious. You have made an important point, though. Most women won't have sex with a guy she thinks is too ugly to look at. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 2:38:34 AM | Yes... from my experience... women can get laid anytime they want.
The thing about the 'ugly' factor is this: it isn't JUST the exterior ugly that counts.
Men who are nasty, rude, angry, etc. (ugly inside) will be rejected by most women too.
So, expand your statement to:
Most women won't have sex with a guy she thinks is too ugly inside OR out!
Plus... it is very true and for most women to want sex she needs to feel loved.
for most men to want sex he need a place.
totally different worlds. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 2:43:08 AM | i havent got laid in 8 years.
no its not by choice.
no im not picky.
no i have never turned anyone down, never had the chance.
yes i have tried, im on here arent i? along with other sites, joined clubs, volunteered, set up by friends/family etc....
if you havent got IT they dont want IT.
men are just assuming that all these women complaining are the ones they themselves are interested in. But what about the ones you have turned down (of course there are plenty are there not?) , now if you turned her down then is it not possible that the next guy turned her down, and the next and then extrapolate that to all men she had the opportunity to meet..........................theory busted.
and yes done the drunken bar "can i get a lift home" thing as well (as ashamed as i am to admit that), and guess what, I WALKED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 3:42:57 AM |  I knew within one paragraph that particular OP couldn't have written that! Glad the moderator corrected it.
I sat here awhile thinking about the question could I go out and get laid today if that's all I wanted, even here in this small town nothing place?
Yes, I could.
With effort (and being someone I'm not!) I could accomplish that.
But so what?
Whoop-de-do.
I guess studies and such about this subject are important to those that are just looking for a fck?
*shrug*
And what would it prove, if I did that today?
That one can always find a man willing to stick it in anything? | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 5:51:34 AM | quote]Hoops...
.. yup, a guy can get laid any time he's willing to lay out $100-$200-$300 + for a hooker, once.
A number of men have argued/complained that they've spent that much getting to know a woman they want to date without seeing sex once.
Really? I think many gentlemen on POF would disagree with you. Myself included.
I'm sure they would. However once again their argument isn't about whether it's possible so much as what effort would have to be put in. I also know some men that get offers for it - and oddly enough don't entertain those offers because those women aren't what they want.
Paying money for sex (directly at least) happens to be illegal in the US (in all but 2-3 counties of Nevada). Wave that kind of money, and if you're unlucky you may find yourself staring at a badge. If you're REALLY unlucky, you may find yourself staring at the barrel of a gun. In both cases, sex is a highly unlikely outcome. Well, unless you count being sodomized by a pimp cane as "sex".
In those counties in Nevada then, you're ok. Fly to Nevada and pay for it. This is my point. Sure it's expensive and takes a lot of time, but it's feasible to do. However I doubt MOST men have so little to work with they'd need to hop a flight to Nevada.
Your argument is also groundless as it has no qualifiers. Yes, if I'm willing to do anything, I could get sex. I could probably go out, buy a handgun, kidnap a woman at gunpoint, duct tape her hands and feet, and serially rape her. If you define sex as merely PIV, I could get sex that way. I'm probably sure I would be facing a lifetime of staring at a set of grey bars as well.
True, I didn't say rape or crime was out of the picture. I'd hope that it wasn't a consideration, but OK - ya got me. Again I doubt the picture of getting laid is THAT bleak.
However, if you define sex as a mutually consenting act by two people interested in performing it with each other, then no, guys cannot have sex whenever they want. As I can attest first hand, even marriage does not guarantee that.
OP said "getting laid" which doesn't guarantee mutual interest or attraction, just consent. All that points to is getting sex for the sake of it (at least where I come from). | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 6:25:27 AM |
...any woman can get laid, even the physically unattractive...
all of you saying this didn't bother to read the article that the moderator so helpfully provided (since Almost Blonde didn't even write what she posted), or the original article on which that one was based.
...there are entire groups of women who are sexually devalued in a society that privileges youth, whiteness, and a thin-yet-able body. These groups are uniquely denigrated by the statement that women can get laid anytime, because the kind of man who says this is also likely to be the kind who would reject them out of hand.
(Anna North at Jezebel.com)
no, EVERY woman cannot get laid just by lifting a finger and saying yes. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 7:08:14 AM | Im sorry but I dont agree with you Devine, any woman can get laid or at least 99% of them can ( if they choose or want to) that's the operative words(if they want to)
I agree there are certain groups of women for what ever reason they think/believe they are unattractive(physical and/or personality-wise),most likely due to fear, brainwashing, lack of sexual desire, unrealistic expectations about sex, or psychological damage. Yes, yes, there are many people out there who do not have sex because they were indoctrinated by their parents to believe "sex is dirty." Sex is dirty only if you let it be that way: no people who are selective about their partners and have loving relationships will ever tell you sex is dirty. Anyone who thinks sex is dirty, IMO is mentally unstable. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 7:16:25 AM |
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Anyone should be able to see an exaggerated statement when they see one.
If you take it literally...then no. Any woman can't get laid in the front pew on Sunday morning...just because they're horny.
It's an exaggeration and I'm sure he meant that it is much easier for a woman to get laid. And I don't care what anyone says...if a guy and gal of equal physical attractiveness to the opposite sex are put in a social situation...the woman has the advantage. A big one.
Sure...the more attractive you are...the better your chances are....male or female. A very attractive female almost could look at a guy...give him the (come here) finger gesture and watch him skate over on his drool. If the guy tries it...good luck...Chuck.
We're talking about equal amount of effort here. Not paying for it or hanging out at the entrance to the sexual addiction meeting room. That's just taking exaggeration and extreme literal interpretation to the limit. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 7:31:38 AM | Although I think the article is flawed (the answer to the question stated in the subject line is obviously "Yes" -- but the article itself goes off on a tangent that doesn't really have much to do with the original question), I actually agree with WIP for once, though there is no way prostitution or rape should be on the table; of course, the fact that nearly are prostitutes (both female and male) serve men and essentially all rapists are men is in and of itself proof that the answer to the original question is still "Yes."
One peculiar thing the article does not go into: women propositioning men. Why is it entirely focused on men propositioning women? ANY man with any kind of game throwing himself at every woman in a room (ANY room) more likely than not will fail -- ask any player or "stud" what his nightly success ratio is. You win some, you lose some. A woman doing the same thing? I guarantee she succeeds 99% of the time. Of course, most women don't do that. But, that's their own fault for not trying like many men do. Just like with POF, when a woman initiates, something is FAR more likelier to happen than when a man initiates.
But back to why I agree with WIP: I haven't been on a date in 4 years and at a number of other times in my life have gone years between dates, yet I'm still quite sure I could probably also get FREE CONSENUAL sex whenever I want. IF I am willing to go deep in the ghetto or some rural meth factory and find a 300 pound 8th-grade dropout with six kids or an 80 pound addict with half of her teeth and half of her brain missing. I doubt I wouldn't find a taker or two. Indeed, as inept as I have been on POF, about once every 3 months I do get a first contact email from a woman... that I almost inevitably find completely repulsive. No doubt if I relentlessly pursued any of those leads, I would be dateless (and sexless) no more.
But after spending most of my early dating years with women that pretty much sickened me, and then spending my most recent with women I was genuinely attracted to, I can't really see myself going back to those early years -- it's not fair to them, and to me, it's actually very close to being worse than being alone. Though four years in, I'm starting to question that. The really sad thing, I suppose, is that I find like 90% of the women I come across in my POF searches and Meet Me's and whatnot attractive, yet pretty much only those from the 10% I don't really want anything to do with ever email me.
Which, I suppose, is what many women of all attractiveness on POF argue. Yet I'd still take their 30 bad emails a day over my one bad email every 3 months! Much better for one's self-esteem... | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 7:32:29 AM |
Women are often seen as having the power to say “yes” or “no” in sexual situations. From the male point of view, if a woman wants to have sex, all she has to do is say “yes” and sex is on.
LOl, that's pretty much the gist of it. A woman I don't care how unattractive, fat, and disgusting she is. If she wants to get laid that very day, it will happen. The only kicker here is can she get laid by who she wants to screw, that's where the work comes in, other than that she can get screwed by somebody at any given time. A man who is deemed unattractive has to work to get laid.....he has to find a way to get "money" to give to the prostitute. And now we are back to the age old question the double standard. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 7:58:18 AM |
We're talking about equal amount of effort here.
Some people are, yes. However the statement "women can get laid whenever they want" doesn't address the effort or amount of ease. It addresses possibility. So if some have to work harder at it, who cares? In the end if they do so they'll still get it when they want it.
If someone means "most women can get laid with less effort than most men" then that's what they should say. From there the discussion can then be about amount of effort (if anyone cares, frankly).
I think the "amount of effort or ease" is implied with the original question.
You're really dissecting this more than it needs to be.
To most men who would say something like this or who think that's the important issue, I'm sure it is inferred. However in the sense of people saying what they mean, it's not a given that it's what is meant. I'm not dissecting so much as taking a question as is without contextual influence.
If women can get laid with less effort than men, what do we then conclude from that outside the fact that men make the dynamic what it is? They could all band together to tip the scales, but since that'll never happen - where do we go from the knowledge of this? Women don't usually find the fact that random men off the street would sleep with us if we asked to be much of a reason to celebrate, so the point is sort of moot. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 8:03:15 AM |
Some people are, yes. However the statement "women can get laid whenever they want" doesn't address the effort or amount of ease. It addresses possibility. So if some have to work harder at it, who cares? In the end if they do so they'll still get it when they want it.
If someone means "most women can get laid with less effort than most men" then that's what they should say. From there the discussion can then be about amount of effort (if anyone cares, frankly).
I think the "amount of effort or ease" is implied with the original question.
You're really dissecting this more than it needs to be. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 8:07:53 AM | (Capitano Blaugh) .. yup, a guy can get laid any time he's willing to lay out $100-$200-$300 + for a hooker, once. (WIP) A number of men have argued/complained that they've spent that much getting to know a woman they want to date without seeing sex once.
Right. So, logically, if getting laid is the objective for a guy, he would get the biggest bang for the buck (pun unintentional, but DEFINITELY intended!) if he just skipped the "meet for coffee/date" foo-fer-aw, and just spent his money on an esxcort...
J.P. Arlo... | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 8:13:28 AM | Right. So, logically, if getting laid is the objective for a guy, he would get the biggest bang for the buck (pun unintentional, but DEFINITELY intended!) if he just skipped the "meet for coffee/date" foo-fer-aw, and just spent his money on an esxcort...
Without the laughing icon, which loses its meaning after the first 300 times it's added to a post, YES.
If a man is looking for sex only, it would not only be a waste of time and money for him to try and get to know a woman who may want more just for the benefits, it's a much better investment for him to go pay for it. If more men paid for sex only when that's what they really wanted and spent less time trying to wrap it in a faux search for a relationship to get to what they percieve to be "added value", women who want relationships would have an easier time weeding through to find men who want the same - and less men would be harassed by women they told they wanted more than sex from when they didn't follow through. No brainer. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 8:23:57 AM | I'm sure if that was a woman's main priority, then no problem.
Same for men.
You can get what ever you want ... you just have to make it a priority.
With that being said, I prefer BOB.
Too much drama involved with a live person. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2011 8:31:29 AM |
Some people are, yes. However the statement "women can get laid whenever they want" doesn't address the effort or amount of ease. It addresses possibility. So if some have to work harder at it, who cares? In the end if they do so they'll still get it when they want it.
If someone means "most women can get laid with less effort than most men" then that's what they should say. From there the discussion can then be about amount of effort (if anyone cares, frankly).
Effort and ease in this discussion is as relevant as level of attractiveness.
It's no more fair to consider the levels of success with an unattractive gal and an attractive male. They MAY have a similar success rate...but really "apples and oranges".
In the same token...you cannot compare success rate with a passive female (I'll sit here and look beautiful and wait for a guy to come on to me) and an aggressive male. They may have a similar success rate. But...again...apples and oranges.
For an answer to have the least bit of validity...it cannot contain two huge variable. In this case attractiveness and effort.
But...if you level the playing field...equal attractiveness and effort...I think we all know the success rate would be extremely lop sided.
I do agree with your "literal" answer to the "literal" question. But it was an absolute question. The answer is almost always "no" with these kinds of questions.
Can men REALLY get laid whenever they want? Not if their genitals were removed in a car accident and never recovered. REALLY?! Literally!
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If a man is looking for sex only, it would not only be a waste of time and money for him to try and get to know a woman who may want more just for the benefits, it's a much better investment for him to go pay for it. If more men paid for sex only when that's what they really wanted and spent less time trying to wrap it in a faux search for a relationship to get to what they percieve to be "added value", women who want relationships would have an easier time weeding through to find men who want the same - and less men would be harassed by women they told they wanted more than sex when they didn't follow through. No brainer.
WHOA...
Now we're adding relationship seeking as a further variable in this discussion. The question was about getting laid.....sex only.
Now...the guy is just looking for sex. The gal is looking for a relationship. The guy is putting in extra effort...pulling out all the stops including intimations that he is looking for a relationship.
Does she want to get laid too?
Just trying to keep up
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Posted: 1/8/2011 8:49:57 AM | People, let's keep this straight.
ANYBODY (except the extremely fugly/or obese/or social inept) can get laid simply ..... BY ACCEPTING WHAT IS OFFERED TO THEM ........
All else is "yeah but's". All other discussion is rationalization of the emotional "yeah, but I WANT that one over there!"
(late teenage, early twenties joke)
Q. How is a Mo-Ped like a fat chick?
A. Lot's of fun to ride, but no one wants his buddies to find out about it.
Anyone can get laid, simply by accepting what's available to them.
BTW, I'm seen beautiful women crying because they couldn't find a lover (they wanted as a lover). | |
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