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Hemzen
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Msg: 127 | |
| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/21/2011 12:17:42 AM | | Three kids is a lot for anyone, single, or with kids or have their own kids alike. As a single parent myself, I have completely been turned down because of being a single mom, and I do not even have my one daughter full time, so I can sympathize. You have to remember that it could take you longer, as it should, you have four people to be concerned for. You can't rush it, and when it is right, you will know. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/21/2011 12:51:25 AM | | Personally I do not see having kids as a turn off, but that would be because I am a single mom. Because I have a child, most people would not even consider a relationship. Either way though, once you find the right person you will know. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/21/2011 5:51:29 PM | I have had bad experiences in this area. Sorry, for those still interested in this thread...
Things started out ok. Once even a teacher with a child of her own. But, something happens that I cannot explain. The worst experience came after we moved in together. She just stopped speaking to my daughter. Would not even acknowledge her existence. It was devastating. Her own child was the 'super star' but mine didn't count. Another turned into the, "IF she were my child I would never let her get away with that and discipline!!!" I'm like WTF???? I have had two promising relationships end because of my daughter. I am very much not all, "ooooooo look at my child, look, bask in her glow...." However, she is pretty cool and really wants a job and college and a career. Has never once even come close to be deserving of that terrible behavior. She even liked them too.
The worst part is that it came after... I don't know... after they realized that they didn't have that special mother daughter relationship or whatever it was they didn't grow up with... It sucks and I hate that I brought that crap into our life.
So, will they date, yes. Do they want to, maybe. Does that add a whole level of complication, yes. Why am I trying again? Hoping to meet someone that doesn't suck? | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/23/2011 11:53:29 AM | I have the same feeling...i have full custody of my 3 yr old son and it seems like women dont wanna date or even a relationship with a man with kids  | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/24/2011 10:52:24 PM | | I have been told many times "I am sorry, I am not ready for an instant family." so No I dont think women want to date men with kids. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/25/2011 10:39:52 AM | I have kids and have no problem finding women who are interested in me, the problem is I have not found any solid compatibility with any of them  | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/25/2011 10:44:25 AM |
Date a woman with no kids she will either have issues being a mommy to yours or want more of her own
SOME single mothers under 40 WANT more kids.
ALMOST all single mother s 40+ do not want anymore child of their own
In 1913 ... a married woman has a son.
His parents name him Leslie Lynch King, Jr
Leslie is 6 months old when his parents get divorsed.
His father REFUSED to pay child support and does not see his son again till he was 17.
In 1917... His mother married a man with no children.
In 1935 .. Leslie who is an ADULT chances his legal name to Gerald Rudolph "Jerry" Ford, Jr.
How many men in 1917 would marry a divored woman with a young child ....
There are men like Gerald Rudolph Ford, Sr but they are hard to find. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/25/2011 4:37:06 PM | | Personally I perfer to date a guy with kids. I have kids and I find those that don't, really do not understand that my kids come first. Good luck | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/25/2011 4:49:17 PM |
Personally I perfer to date a guy with kids. I have kids and I find those that don't, really do not understand that my kids come first. Good luck
I wish i was 10 years younger ....
I meet my fiance on POF ..... she passed away a years ago
she hads adult children and grand-children .....
the father of her children has NO relatonship with his own children and grandchild | |
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amblar
| | Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 136 | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/25/2011 7:03:03 PM | hammertown, I am sorry about your loss.
It makes me sad when a parent, whether is be the mother or father, want nothing to do with their children. My ex doesnt see his boys ever. His choice. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/26/2011 6:50:10 PM | | I don't mind dating a guy with kids but it depends on the relationship with his childs mother. That is where the tricky part comes in, not to metion the ages of the children. I personally don't look for someone with kids because I have had experiences where he was still havng relations with his baby mother. I don't want to be with someone who is not giving me their honesty or whole heart; its not fair to me I'm givin you my all. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/26/2011 10:56:58 PM | A very rare man indeed.
One of my very best friends' husband died in his sleep a few years ago. They had 4 BOYS. Ages 13, 11, 10, and 2. Vicki was 31. Courtney was 35. When Court died we were all freaked out about how she was going to manage. About 18 months after Court died, one of his friends, James, asked Vicki out. They've been together ever since. He took on 4 traumatized boys and their widowed mother and loves them all as if they were his own. He even told Vicki he had no desire for his own kids that he was happy raising her and Courntey's as his own.
Not many awesome dudes out there like James. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/27/2011 12:26:50 PM | He even told Vicki he had no desire for his own kids that he was happy raising her and Courntey's as his own.
Not many awesome dudes out there like James.
Am I reading this right?
James could care less for his own kids, but is happy to raise Vicki's kids? You think that's awesome?
(help me out here) | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/27/2011 1:48:58 PM | No, absolutely not!!!
No woman would ever date a person with kids :rolleyes:
Anyone ever hear of the title step mother????
If women haven't and wouldn't date a man who has kids how exactly would that title come into play? | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/27/2011 4:28:45 PM | | Ice queen - Although I mainly agree with your assessment pointing that out also says something of you . Lets keep the personal attacks out of it please . | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/27/2011 4:32:05 PM |
Ice queen - Although I mainly agree with your assessment pointing that out also says something of you . Lets keep the personal attacks out of it please .
I see Im not the only one who has noticed. Dont know her, seems she can have some valid points, but it can be done without the personal attacks on. every. reply. to him. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/27/2011 4:35:43 PM |
"I have kids and have no problem finding women who are interested in me, the problem is I have not found any solid compatibility with any of them "
I do not have kids of myown and many single mothers on POF are interested in me, the problem is many live 1 to 3 hours from me.
I am a widower .... so NO ex-wife and i have NEVER been divorsed.
My mother ... both of my grandmothers and all my aunts are widows.
My future girlfield knows ... she and her children are my #1 priority ...
I am a GREAT step-father ... action speak louder then words
I have meet 4 woman in person in 2 months . and ALL of them emailed me FIRST. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/27/2011 7:40:45 PM | Personally, I don't. However I am a single parent too.
Some women may see it that you are looking for a mother to your children.
I have found that most (men) on here that put dating on their profile are looking for one on one.
I started out with Friends (Not FWB) just to see if their was anyone serious out there.
You do not mention children in your profile. Is this something you say to them in a message?
Maybe change your second picture to one without a girl's arms around you.
Good luck in your quest. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/28/2011 11:58:19 PM | | This may be wrong but I see it like this, most women understand that there will always be a woman "or women in your case" in our lifes that will be more important than them. Our daughters! and weather or not they see it or it is sub-conscious that is a hard thing to compete with. (i say compete only for lack of a better word) now weather true or not I don't know, but makes sense too me. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 10/29/2011 1:10:56 AM | | I'm 22, I have a daughter, who's my world. She's everything good about me. It's extremely hard for me to meet women, especially online, when they can just exit a conversation at any moment, which they do. unfortunately, I'm beginning to lose hope. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 2/14/2012 7:54:32 PM | some do some dont i wont but hey thats just me call me selfish least i know what i can cannot handle women dont wanna feel 2nd to someone esp a kid thats not theirs and i know all you single parents will probably have something smart to say but its the truth! people our age do not wanna have a relationship with a a man that cant just get up and go whenever he pleases being a single parent isnt bad matter of fact i was thinking one day when im ready when i have a kid i may not even want a father for my kids sperm doner gimmie my kid and be done with it i dont have time for bullshit and drama and before anyone says anything remember you are single parents... and i will be just that.. as well and i rather have my kid because i know i want him or her and not have it with someone thats just gonna bail or cause me stress for the rest of my life they are your ex for a reason i do not want or need a reason to see them any more point blank take it how you want too happy valentines day to all the single parents keep up the good work  one day i hope i will have a little one as well | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 2/15/2012 7:38:53 AM | I love children, so a man bringing up kids would not be a problem for me.
If his ex was always around - and negative about my presence - that could be a problem!
Also if some or all of his kids were teens or older and they were determined to dislike and also chase away any woman other than their mother - that could also be a problem! This kind of thing is common and usually settles down but sometimes it gets worse as time goes by.
If he can never ever get out of the house due to lack of family support/babysitters then that, too, could be a problem. There would have to be at least some opportunity to do things as a couple, without the kids, and without having to stay indoors all the time.
Most other possibilities can be resolved. I am particularly fond of under-fives but enjoy the company of all children. Teenagers I get along with supremely well so long as they are not 100% hostile in principle to their father making friends with a new woman. | |
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| Do Girls Wanna date a guy with kids?
Posted: 2/15/2012 8:27:04 AM | I married someone who had a child even when I did not.
It caused some interesting conversations and challenging situations. I just saw it as her growing up. If there was a problem we worked around it.
She's a 26 year old women now with her own life and we still see each other and pick up the phone. So all in all it's not your children she is dating it's you. If she wants to be with you you both will work around this. If neither of you can then it wouldn't be the relationship for you.
I see so many times where men and women make it an issue due to previous experiences. I just believe that life is a challenge and situations are meant to challenge us. It's how we approach them and work them that matters. | |
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