| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2004 8:56:18 AM | | In Bill Clinton's words......"I did it because I could !" :) | |
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Loukus
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Joined: 2/15/2004
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2004 1:19:04 PM | | Boy, I would sure love to give him a piece of my mind. And fist. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2004 1:54:23 PM | Hi kiss me,
Sometimes I think that we really are all **stards, but, that's an easy generalization. We have flaws, and today, most of us haven't been brought up properly. I'm in the process of being separated after about two years of cold war, seperate rooms, and no conversation. Breaking up wasn't my choice, but I recognized that it had to happen. Throughout our 14 year marrriage I never cheated. I probably know guts who have, but I've never known that they have. I don't know if this is any help to you (maybe it's more cathartic for me). I think having sex early in a relationship can often lead to disappointment, and not because guys always think that this means that the lady is 'easy', but because it takes some of the excitement olut of the pursuit, the romance, the art of love. Recreational sex is perfectly excellent, but when we misinterpret commitment with recreation, we do so at our peril. Any guy who will wait to make love to you is a guy worth developing a true relationship with. A guy who will jump into bed at the first opportunity, even if you are giving out signal (subtle or otherwise) may not be someone who regards making love as something more than a physical act.
I wish you luck, and I hope this helps a bit.
Martel | |
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ousu
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Joined: 8/28/2004
Msg: 54 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2004 2:13:16 PM | "Men don't cheat, Boys do!" says z man. Exactly... Like boys are still for hunting game, kamaki, when men do not need to prove their manhood.
And a person who respects him/herself does not cheat.
But I understand the problem of the person who started this originally, it is d*mn hard to know beforehand... there is no quarantee. You can just think for yourself, not for the other person. | |
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Loukus
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Joined: 2/15/2004
Msg: 56 | |
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ousu
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Joined: 8/28/2004
Msg: 57 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2004 11:15:49 PM | | Cedricstylin: That is not even an excuse. That would be the answer to the question: "Why do people have one-night-stands or open relationships?"... Cheating - lying happens when you let somebody believe you have a sort of contract about having settled relationship. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/6/2004 11:15:05 AM | Kissme4Ever,
I am recently divorced because my ex-wife cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend so i may not be the perfect one for advise but I will say this. It's not just men that cheat, obviously women do it too. I think that this day and age, few people believe in ever lasting love anymore. I gave my ex-wife everything she eer asked for. We had a beautiful marriage, we got along great, everything was perfect. Then right before our third wedding anniversary, she cheats on me for no reason. I don't know what I could have done differently but I think that people just aren't sincere anymore. I personally have never cheated on anyone that I have been with, but I have been cheated on several times. I guess some of us are just here for others to hurt.
Depressed in Nevada ( comptech99 ) | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/6/2004 8:17:20 PM | | ive been cheated on several times, but 2 of them justified it by "breaking up with me" first. wish they wouldve told me first though. once you choose "cheaters" you tend to keep picking them. you need to change the "type" of person youre dating, as hard as it sounds. being attracted to the one who needs help, or the bad boy/girl, or whatever. change your style too. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/8/2004 5:56:18 PM | | thats a good question, I don't but I have a question . Why do women cheat? | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/9/2004 4:23:29 PM | | Men and Women cheat and in answere to y both sex's doing the dirty its cos they can (they knew wot they wud loose if caught but did it neway) . I've been on the receiving end of cheats in every relationship, the worst, my now ex with my now ex mate. My only advise to all is 2 things: Dont give up there's some1 out there for every1 (apparently). 2 if u give up all ur ex's won, they destroyed ur faith in finding happiness for ur self. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/10/2004 12:08:33 PM | I have cheated before and I think that I just wanted to see if I could get away with it. It was not even that great honestly and I think about it often and realize that I didn't really care for my boyfriend at the time or else I would have been sleeping with him. Cheaters are just that and I say just walk away and be glad that you saw what a loser he was sooner than later. By the way, I cheated when I was 18. It's childs' play... | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/10/2004 1:30:59 PM | What a question......without any one single answer:
Could be cause they are tired of what they are getting at home?
Could be cause they aren't getting it at home?
Could be they didn't understand the rules?
Could be cultural...for instance, in Russia, if you don't have a mistress, you are looked down upon in the corporate world.
Could be instinctual?
Don't know, is cyber sex cheating? Is phone sex cheating? Is having same sex cheating? Is masturbating with another in thought cheating?
This questions spans many others.....introspection is the answer. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/12/2004 6:16:43 AM | Dear Kissme4Ever,
This is a hard one indeed. You are not alone by any means. A survey in Australia carried out last year - are you ready for this. 80% of Australian men cheat on their weman at some time. It is the nature of the beast. Men love what they are attracted to and weman are attracted to what they love. Unfortunately it is the little down side of evolution. The sex drive of a man.
Sometimes a big yuk yuk and at other times - well. Most of us want to be loved, respected and appreciated. Not all men play up. With alot of men it only takes the wrong time and place eg ..out drinking with the boys and presto. I have been played up on so many times that I lost track years ago. I too thought it was only me until I grew older and realized - hey join the que. Now I just take them for who and what they are. I look at a mans habbits and life style. If the temptation is there ofcause the ultimate may happen. If they are going to cheat there is nothing anyone can do about it. Some men are just like that and so are alot of weman. I believe in getting to know a man really well. Over a long period of time without committing myself lock, stock and barrell. Hard I know but at least that way there is a chance of really finding out who we are giving our hearts to. No one forses us to love some one. Love yourself first above all and everyone else. If he does not prove himself to be what you want say - bye, bye. A woman always knows. She gets a gut feeling and there is no other feeling like it in the world. Men are an investment. Make the wrong investment and we will always come out short changed. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/12/2004 6:26:00 AM | | Now we are getting down to the nitty gritty of things!! Alot of people cheat because they can control themselves. Sometimes a lack of character. In alot cases it can be caused by one of the partners who is being abused. It can be for many reasons. Lonleyness, abuse, lack of self respect, getting pissed at the local pub. There can be a 100 reasons why. Something in a persons past or a combo of reasons. The mans penis is too small, The woman has regular head aches. We could go on all night. At the end of the day it does not make it right. Who am I to say. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/12/2004 7:47:41 AM | | why do women cheat? same thing! some people cheat cause its bad.. and they get a rush off knowing its wrong.. some arnt sexually satisfyed and some like the exitment and some just dont care!! but everyone has there reasons.. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/12/2004 8:26:56 AM | Hey trouble - you don't know me.. but definitely leave her. I know you love her, but you have to love yourself. She's just not the right girl for you. Find someone to love you the way you need to be loved.
Love someone not only for who they are - but for also how they make you feel (and it doesn't sound like she makes you feel good). If you separate, don't worry - love will find you again and you'll wonder why you hung around and let her play with your head for so long. Don't take her "I'm weak" and "someone took advantage of me", that's just a way to get someone to feel sorry for you instead of angry for something they did wrong.
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/12/2004 3:17:47 PM | | who cares why men or women cheat theres always different reasons ..so thats just life! | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/12/2004 10:48:00 PM | Mens sperm has no value.....thats why we spread it around so freely.
A womans eggs however have great value and she is more selective about her partners.
Basic biology.... | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/16/2004 8:23:52 AM | | Becuae its like produce once what you have is gone or gone bad you need something fresh to gobble up. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/16/2004 8:54:48 AM | this is very true indeed, but hard to admit......im atracted to the knock me out of my socks type of man....and they seem to be very unstable and not grown up running away from responsablility......and love.
but i have to say that i know how they feel they are hit on constantly and woman fall in love with them the first time they see them and worse after they sleep with them .....the same happens to me all the time, exept with the one guy i was after who was a real knock out drop dead cutie.....i thought we look good together and thats what all the other people sayd.
i guess he slept back and forth between his ex gf and me to put some distance between me and him cause he felt that i was serious and in love....and he told us both he doesnt want to comit to anyone(we had a casual relationship with lots of potential for a serious one (his words) but he lied to me about him sleeping with his ex again).
i just find i am a good looking girl and a guy can show me off ( but i dont want to be just a show off either) so i want a guy i can show off as well......we have to look good together besides all the other aspects of compatibility.
i am unconfortable with a guy who is way shorter than me or isnt realy good looking has bad teeth or a bent nose and i see a couple with a cute guy and wish i had someone like this and i think oh my god im so shallow................but it realy buggs me.
thats why i dont want to comit cause i havent found the `perfect` guy.....i think im looking to fahr.....................or i might just be afraid of comitment altogether and chase after guys i know they arent available........and i guess im safe cause, they wont fall in love...
go figure.
what to do????? | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/16/2004 9:29:49 AM | dear z man
there is only one thing i can say......you just spoke out of my heart.
it hurts to see that especially if you care for a person and you know that he is deff, numb and blind to see that his happiness is right in front of his nose...he even thinks about it but is too scared to admit it.
what if hes wrong...what if he makes the wrong decision?.....is there quilt and bagage?..............oh boy when does this boy finally deside to become a man,( not only for a woman who respects and loves him and he even knows that she is all he ever wished for), but for himself and his kids? | |
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