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cmay04
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Joined: 9/26/2004
Msg: 77 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/16/2004 7:38:12 PM | i know what you mean
i have been burned twice this month with guys i liked one turned out to be married and the other couldn't tell me he was sleeping around but he hit on my friend who was pretending to be a girl then i find out he has been sleeping with his partner (hes a cop) who was suppose to be les. well guess not huh? then told me he still wanted me with him but get this he says he will leave almost all the girls and if they ask who i am he would tell them but he don't want to leave them all yet he don't care what they think only what i do then he was saying he loved me and wanted to marry me and then this happens and he doesn't anymore but he wants me to be there with him now if that isn't f**ked up man i not sure what is so your life is not the only one ****ed up just remember that, i have been cheated on everytime never had a faithful man so i do get the cheaters and your not the only one | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/16/2004 8:35:15 PM | | it's not our fault. it's that guy gave us a brain and a penis, and only enough blood for one at a time. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/16/2004 9:38:39 PM | | because women let them ! It's really hard to keep the dog on the porch now a days..smile...now where did I put that shock collar ?. . .hmmm | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/17/2004 12:21:09 AM | It probably has to do with our ancestors. Men were designed to propagate the species, therefor, to mate with as many females as possible to ensure his lineage. You might say we were built for that purpose alone. But this hold true for women as well. A woman who could find more food and protection from a future mate would most likely choose to stay with him for we he could offer her in exchange for mating with her, regardless of her current mate.
So when a man says 'we are hard-wired' that way, it's the truth. That is how we were designed. The urge to mate is strong, women just supress it due to their upbringing. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/17/2004 3:01:48 PM | You know, you make a good point. Now, I don't know where everyone is from, and I don't intend to find out. But where I'm from, and most of the places where I've lived, things go this way...
- Men cheat, yep, well, MOST men, I've done it once myself, and I was not proud of it.
- Men will try to deny it, or be straight out about it.
- Like the other guy said, we're "hard wired" like that.
now for women's turn...
- MOST, like men, will go outside the boundaries. This has been proven.
- A statistic showed that 75% of women ADMIT to cheating, or having cheated. Is that any better than men?
- Alot of women I've met, talk to, or have known of, will, have, or would in a second, leave a man for another. Reasons could be larger "features", money, belongings, and other misc reasons.
- It has also been said by MANY women, that they are more attracted to men in relationships, 'cause it's fun, exciting, a rush, and a challenge to get them.
Now, my advice to you with this information... is as follows.
We're all pigs. Men, and women alike. Sorry, that's the best I can do. | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
Msg: 83 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/17/2004 3:21:58 PM | lack of remorse..lack of compassion..lack of happiness and lack of guilt.
bad poison when you mix it all up.Its a recipe for disaster.'PEOPLE" who cheat have no regard for others feelings..think only of themselves and seeking thier own needs.They are i nthe moment and are blind to consequences that are coming in the aftermath of what they have done.
Some of these ppl are so screwed up they lack selflove...and beleive they deserve and its ok to find love in the arms of another.THey are the most selfish cruelest immoral ppl o n the planet. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/17/2004 3:51:38 PM | "They are the most selfish cruelest immoral ppl on the planet."
Now, that's a little harsh. There are worse things than cheating, come on!
One thing's for sure, it's wrong, but still, some people do it to have a reason to get out of the relationship. I know a few guys AND girls, who will cheat and let themselves get caught, so that the other party will dump them. It's just that they have no strength to kill the relationship themselves.
It's still wrong, but that was harsh to say. | |
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lsmith
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Joined: 10/31/2004
Msg: 85 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/19/2004 12:50:09 AM | | I have to agree with Alura2 on the 'most selfish cruelest immoral ppl on the planet'. I don't know that there is much worse that you can do in a relationship than cheating. Cheating f*cks the person you cheated on faaaar after the relationship has ended. All those good guys who recieve damaged girls would probably agree with her statement. Leaving a good relationship is really hard; but in truth.. some people are looking for a reaallly good relationship.. which is fine. If you're leaving someone behind.. you need to take the responsibility for doing so. Why in the world should the other person pay to that degree for a strengthless dumpee. A few responses in here from men agreed that it appears to be the way to end an unwanted relationship for certain personalities. It is absolutely.. whole heartedly.. supremely selfish .. without question. and besides.. it explains one angle.. but does nothing to explain the tons of men.. in this very website.. who are married and looking for a little sumpthin sumpthin to feed on. Shameless, and selfish. Women take that sh*t seriously you know. Some men too, I'm sure! Anyway.. didn't intend this to be such a diatribe. Those are my thoughts. Hope I didn't step on any toes in the sharing of them. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/21/2004 12:40:01 AM | I don't know about others, but I was married to ONE woman for 19 years and did NOT cheat on her even ONCE. I guess I was brought up to believe that marriage is a sacred institution, one man, one woman, FOR LIFE. I can only wish you the BEST of all that life brings you.
Everyday of your life, you make hundres of choices. Each with consequences, some much greater than others. The learning process starts when you look at your choices and realize how high a price you have to pay for them. Then, and only then, can you decide which choices that YOU truly want to make.
Darryl K 1987 | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/21/2004 4:11:33 AM | do u know, after the girls lost theirs' bf, they will began to cry, do u know why?
the 1st time maybe she really loves this guy, but the 2nd time and so on, they would hate themselves. Cause they angry about why they make the same mistake to hurt themselves.
why do men cheat?
this is theirs' habit.
do u belive the mighty works in world?
i belive. but i dont belive will happend on me!
anyway... follow yr feelings... no regrets in yr future...good luck!
God bless u!
Amen!! | |
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lsmith
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Joined: 10/31/2004
Msg: 88 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/21/2004 11:36:24 AM | DrKersh.....
Did you get hit on by REALLY hot women 'regularly' when you were married?? Be honest...
I'm not going anywhere with this (yet :-) I'm just really curious.  | |
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shanny
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Joined: 6/13/2004
Msg: 89 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/21/2004 4:22:55 PM | My thought on this , is it's not why did he or she cheated. My thought is how freaking rude and insensative, and how dare YOU lie, and be deceitful to me . What i can't stand is someone who lies, and if someone cheats on you female OR male, they are full of lies. There is no excuse EVER for " IT JUST HAPPENED"
Karma comes around and it BITES hard.
If someone cheats, they are not ready to settle on ONE person, they want to whore around, that is both male and female, that can be whores!
No one is perfect, every one has issues, but be sensative, don't lie, and if you feel the need to cheat have BALLS ( male and female) to tell the partner you are with " HEY, i'm not really into you , because i feel the desire to seek out my needs elsewhere" Honesty is everything, cause if i would be cheated on again by some stupid a** mofo they better run and hide and definatley change identity | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/21/2004 5:27:20 PM | Me i personally think men cheat cause they had a bad relationship in the past,
if they been screw around soo many times, they figure why not do it, before someone does it to them! or either he just had soo many partners before that he cannot commit to only 1 partner | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/21/2004 6:37:07 PM | | boys will, be boys. he, a ass! he let his dick. do his thinking. so look for righ one. mike. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/22/2004 3:26:30 AM | Okay I have a question rather than an answer well maybe both ....
I too have been cheated on many times and I don't really think that there is a straight answer to the question why do they cheat
My father cheated on my mother and recently I asked him this same question why did he do it his replywas he was unhappy
Now what I don't get is why if someone is unhappy in a realtionship would they stay it dosen't make sense to me if they are unhappy with their sex life either attempt to change it or break up with them what I think men dorry boys that cheat don't realize is that it would be so much easier to just end it rather then cheat it hurts less to egt dumped then to be cheated on at least for me | |
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Ayah
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Joined: 11/21/2004
Msg: 93 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/23/2004 3:40:39 AM | to be frank, all men cheat :)
Hate me or not but if you are smart enough you'll seeit alla round you, you parents, your best friend, your neighbours, ect...
Just believe in one thing, it doesn't matter if he cheated once or twice, it doesn't matter if u doubt him seeing someone else, coz if he relaly loves you sooner or later he will regret all his mean attitudes & will come run to you.
Men are different than us, sometimes they just lose their minds wnating something so bad but after being satisfied they let it go & return to their rela true loved ones. I know i might sound so tough telling u to let mistakes go & forget it but if u really love someone fight for winning him forever, don't let momental mistakes burn you & your dreams together.
Love Hurts, but also love is great when you relaly share it with someone who deserve it. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 9:09:01 AM | Statistically, women cheat more often than men do. The research shows that women have become mose sexually active outside of their relationships.
Back in the 40's men were at 22% had cheated, and women were a little under 10%. Now the current studies have men at 22% having cheated at least once, and women are at 48%. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 9:12:50 AM | Internet Makes Cheating More Secretive
There are four million pornographic websites on the Internet, including sites specifically for those wanting to cheat on their spouses or flirt. Yahoo, for example, has a chat room called "Yahoo Married and Flirting" for those who are married but still curious to meet other people. Wives looking for affairs have long used Yahoo, MSN and America Online to find sex partners. Internet cheating appeals particularly to women due to the fact that don't have to leave home. They get home from work tired, get the shower, wet hair still dripping, and find something to eat. If they feel lonely, they can get online. They do not have to explain their intentions. If they know what they need, they can browse those porn websites. Women tend to go to websites that are more interesting to them, such as those for playing chess, bridge, or knitting. When they encounter likeminded individuals, they begin long distance instant messaging. Then they wake up one day to find themselves in love!
Even children know that there is no more secure place than the internet or a cell phone.
Amanda's husband of six years would never imagine that she has six email addresses. One of her email accounts is specifically set up for her boyfriend Ron. Amanda is a sales representative for a Los Angeles company. She often flirts with her boyfriend through emails. When they need to set up a place to see each other, she text-messages him or calls him on his cell phone. Thirty-six-year-old Amanda says that text messaging is safer than emails. She can hardly imagine how she would be able to carry on the affair without a computer or a cell phone.
Peggy Vaughan, author of "The Monogamy Myth," conducted an online survey with a thousand people. Seventy percent of the responses came from women. Seventy-nine percent of the responding female Internet users said that they did not go online to find love. Fifty percent of the respondents said that they had Internet lovers, half of whom had sex with their lovers. Sixty percent of the women surveyed said their husbands had no idea of their affairs. Obviously, extramarital affairs on the Internet are more secretive and lower risk.
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Partial article from the Washington Observer Weekly, Issue No. 94, 08/11/2004 | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 9:44:39 AM | | Because all men eventually get tired of having sex with the same person. Given a long enought time line all men (OK not all but the majority) will cheat on whoever they are with if the think they can get away with it. All men put on their best front in the beginning of the relationship so they can get into your pants - it's at this point that you get the impression that he is "the one" because you are seeing his good side. All men are scum and you have the right attitude - don't trust him because (although there is a very slight chance he is a good guy that will stay faithful) he will probably wind up burning you for some other female. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 10:12:02 AM | Kissme4you: Another reason that people cheat is they get frighten when things are going too well and they are not accustomed to having decent relationships. If people that pray to have wonderful people in their lives do not prepare for that time in mind and spirit they usually do something to sabatage it when it does happen. Just another point of view.
Then you get people that want their cake and eat it too. We live in an age where people are less responsible about their actions toward themselves and others. There are folks that want something with out the investment.
I know that you assume that if someone is your friend or lover that they have a level of respect for you and then you get dissappointed. I understand where you are coming from. I have never cheated in my life. I have been cheated on once or twice though.
Mysticalman: What you said is utter nonsense. There are beautiful women with wonderful bodies that get cheated on daily. There are men that are drop dead sexy that also get cheated on. People that view relationships totally in terms of respecting their partners based on appearance are not mature, respectful or capable of having decent relationships.
People like that need to not be in a relationship because they have nothing of use to contribute. They are usually the ones doing all of the taking. They need not be shocked that they can't find anyone to date or that when they do that it is someone as heartless and ridiculous as they are. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 10:14:04 AM | | I am a man and I do not cheat. I have been with women who cheat. I do not think all women cheat, just those ones and maybe some more I never met. I am getting so fed up with these gender generalizations. If they cheat, that is as good as a lie. Cheating and/or lying is not a sign of love. If it isn't love, you are just going through the motions. If you are just going through the motions, don't be surprised when your partner does too. If one loves and the other doesn't then you have choices to make. Me, I walk. If it is not a 100% equal relationship it is a game that toys with human emotion. That is a game everyone involved loses and one I just will not play. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 10:16:28 AM | Aya: If all men cheat then so do all women because if they are not gay or bi then most often they are going to be cheating with a willing female. So that blows this assumption of yours out of the water don't ya think?
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I do not cheat and I haven't by the way. I know many many men who haven't either. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 5:54:41 PM | Stop thinking of every single guy that you like so much as the "one". Really, there can't be that many "ones" out there.
I think a lot of people make this mistake, me included, and since I've stopped thinking in this respect, I have not been so disappointed when things don't work out.
I think that if you ever grow up emotionally you will see that you do not owe anyone anything and no one owes you anything either. If two people do not want the same things in thier life, why keep what they have, move on. Perhaps the men you date and what you are really looking for in a relationship are two different things. You can't make someone be like you and want the same things as you if they are different from you and they don't like your agenda.
I think the reason people cheat is because they are not truly in love yet, or they know that thier relationship is dry and the love they once felt is gone, so they try to replace that feeling with someone new. I have changed my views on many things in my wisdom and old age, and I do believe that if you are not committed in a marriage or other type of permanent relationship, then why be exclusive to anyone. I think that someone's personal life is thier own and no one else's business. If you are with someone you like very much, but know they are not the love you want, and you meet someone else that you think could be, why would you throw both of those opportunities away. Why limit yourself. Fine, if you are a and make a point of throwing your cheating ways in your lover's face, then you are good for nothing and hope that someday you become road kill. I guess what I mean is instead of always being the victim, be in charge of your life and what you want.
People lie all the time about everything to get what they want. So instead of sitting back and being cheated on, take the initiative in your life and really look for a man that is worthy of your love. Stop giving your love away for free. Sex is just sex, love is sacred. The only reason people feel so sh*t when they get cheated on is because they are immature and still think that people don't lie to get what they want, and that they are better than anyone else or more special. Everyone has some quality about them that someone will find attractive.
Im my opinion, you can only cheat on someone that you are committed to, either through marriage or some other way. If you are with a man that the ladies love, than you can pretty much guarantee that he will be lovin' those ladies too, not just you. Just because you have sex with someone does not mean that you are indebted to them for life or vice versa. I don't condone cheating, but I am against the belief that one must remain exclusive to somone for ever and ever just because they at some point in thier lives had feelings for you and now they don't anymore.
If you find out that your partner is cheating, it is because they want you to find out so that the relationship will end because they are not happy anymore. It is a really cheap way to get uninvolved with someone but it is the fastest and easiest way (in a cheater's mind) to get out.
All I can say is know what you want, know what you don't want and try to live with what you have until you get what you need. | |
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