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Lynn31
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Joined: 3/6/2005
Msg: 152 | |
| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/18/2005 9:58:42 PM | | What i tell myself and what you have to try and convince yourself of is...people cheat for all different reasons and it's not your fault,it's them,there the ones with the problems! And in a lot of circumstances they did you a favor. Once you heal you realize alot of things!! The hardest part is what your at now. But reverse it for a second,what if he's having these fears of you?? Theres no reason right?? Theres no guarantees but you have to trust again other wise your going to miss out,would you rather break up with him because he might cheat on you in the future??? nooo Trust is something that takes a different amount of time for everyone the more damaged you are the longer it may take but if he's the one it really wont matter how long it takes!! Just relax and enjoy and everything will fall where it's suppose too! Good luck to you!! | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 12:02:19 AM | | men cheat so they can brag up to there friends cause they think it makes them more af a man. I know i was once that way then i found out how much it hurts. i cheated on some one before i fell in love with her she found out later it was the worst day of my life. any ways men dont cheat because if your a man you take care of your girl and treat her with the utmost respect | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 12:37:08 AM | | hey, if you start a relationship not believing hell be faithfull thats wrong girl, and watch out who you hang out with, thats all io can say for now | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 6:43:02 AM | Hey troubled, this girl KNOWS you adore her and is using you as a hammock while she trys everyone else out. You dont want to hear this but you have to get rid of her. You have settled, and feel she is the one for you!, but unfortunately she doesnt feel the same. She is letting you know that by her actions. She is comfortable with you, but drifts off when bored the comes back when it doesnt work out. You will never be able to trust her completely, that is hard to live with.
You deserve better, move on hun, by moving on you open your self up to better things, if you dont this will go on for as long as she wants it to.... | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 9:02:06 AM | | Umm I think men cheat because as soon as they start to feel tied down in any way at all they get scared .. commitment is a big issue for guys .. and some just cheat because they can .. why sleep with just one girl when lots other will put out .. it's not just guys though .. i have friends that cheat on their boyfriends .. no one really seems to care much about anything these days .. why bother being with someone if you want to be with other people .. i guess i have more questions that answers .. hmm | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 10:26:30 AM | | men are not the only people who cheat. not all men are dogs. these are common misperceptions built on the behavior of a few. i was with a man for four years who was a serial cheater. i didn't find out until we broke up, when everybody (including his family and his sex partners) came and told me they were glad i left him and that i was better off. he was cheating on me with everybody he could get...i mean, the dregs of society. i'd already left him, so while it surprised me, i wasn't angry. i just smiled, nodded, got myself checked out and moved forward. i've had two relationships since then and my current one is very serious and he is very very faithful to me as i am to him. so, no, not all men creep. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 2:37:26 PM | | men AND women cheat b/c they are not getting what they want. so... they go get it. duh. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 3:56:29 PM | my best advice for you is that..don't give all your love to a person Untill you are really sure that he's not gonna break your heart again.. coz it really hurts and this is based on my experienced.Let him do some different things..put him in a test,like have some friends to flirt wth him.And if he passed in all this test..then go for it girl...but dont expect anymore that his not gonna cheat..okay??just be yourself..If the person cheats???then let him cheat...just put this on your mind always...A person or a guy who truly loves you will never ever cheat on you!!!!! And if he does???and you find out about it??? then dumped his ass!!!! he dont really love you...you cant stop the person if they wanna cheat!!!! there's nothing that we can do!!!
coz thats the truth!!! if they wanna cheat then they'll gonna cheat!!!so..give all your love to this person,show him that you really care about him even if you already know that he is cheating...just don't say anything about it.Make him more feel guilty of himself and be ashamed about it and will feel sorry about what he has done to you...thats all i can say for now..I'm in a hurry..gtg now..see yah.."GIRLS POWER" "BOYS R TOYS">>>>For the guys who deserve to be our favorite toy....hell yeah!!!!!!!!!!!! i ****in hate cheaters!!!!!!!! sh*****t!!! | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 10:15:11 PM | | Wow, woman don't cheat? Must have been a transexual. I feel more betrayed now than when they cheated on me. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/31/2005 9:14:27 AM | | ITS VERY SIMPLE WHY MEN CHEAT FOLKS.... HERE IT IS IN A NUTSHELL. FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME SAY THE CAVEMEN DAYS, MEN WERE MADE,CREATED,EVOLVED (WHICHEVER YOU BELIEVE) WITH A CERTAIN CHROMOSOME THAT TELLS US(MEN) THAT WE NEED TO MULTIPLY AS OFTEN AS WE CAN.... IN OTHER WORDS MEN WERE NOT MADE TO BE WITH ONE WOMAN. EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE EVOLVED TO WHAT WE ARE TODAY THAT CHROMOSOME STILL EXISTS IN MOST MEN. WE THEORETICALY OR AT LEAST MOST OF US HAVE LEARNED TO CONTROL THESE "URGES". BUT MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT THIS CHROMOSOME STILL EXISTS IN MOST MEN. ILL TRY TO TAKE THIS A STEP FURTHER AND SAY THAT THIS IS THE REASON WHY A WOMAN THAT CHEATS IS FAR MORE DANGEROUS THAN WHEN A MAN DOES BECAUSE A MAN WILL CHEAT WITH HIS****.. A WOMAN CHEATS WITH HER HEART. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/12/2007 5:39:58 PM | Well in my opinion you should rename your thread to,
Why have my men cheated?
You should not post (or believe in) silly stereotyping of the "all men cheat" variety.
It's just not true..... I would never cheat on my woman regardless of circumstances. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:03:58 PM | Well i hope you get used to it cuz numerous studies have shown that at least 65% of men have or will cheat sometime in their lives.
There's a part of me that seriously believes that men are not meant to be intimate with just one person for the rest of their lives. Men are visual they need "eye candy" and there will always be "eye candy" out there for them.
Most of my friends are married men and women in their 30's and 40's. I can honestly say with a high degree of certainty that if tomorrow a younger 20 something attractive girl threw herself at one of my friends' hubby's that 9 out of 10 would go for it.
I do believe that if a woman is superhot on attractiveness scale that at least 75% of married men and 95% of unmarried men would go for it. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/14/2007 5:38:43 PM |
Well i hope you get used to it cuz numerous studies have shown that at least 65% of men have or will cheat sometime in their lives.
OK ladydallas, before you go perpetuating the myth that those testosterone-laden men just can't contain themselves just because some 20 something bombshell shakes her ass, let's get real. When marriage becomes boring, stressful, lonely or sexless, rather than work it out with their spouses, people cheat. Sometimes, even happily married spouses cheat. Also many women use sex as a way to punishment her man. This is nothing but black mail. I see more & more of these sloggon's on hats & T-shirts & even on the back of women's shorts. "I got the pu**y, I make the rules!" The women wearing this must think she has the only pu**y out there. Funny thing is when she discovers shes not, shes in shock! And tends to cast the falt on her man.
Most of my friends are married men and women in their 30's and 40's. I can honestly say with a high degree of certainty that if tomorrow a younger 20 something attractive girl threw herself at one of my friends' hubby's that 9 out of 10 would go for it.
My question here is, where are these attractive 20 somethings that throw themselves? Yeah I'm 45 and fighting them off with sticks. Get real girl. Whos bright idea was it to marry these men who will cheat at the drop of a hat? 65% of men cheat? "Oh I'll think I will marry one and worry & wonder through out my whole marriage if hes cheating or not! 
Contrary to popular belief, men have no corner on the market of infidelity. Women these days give their husbands a serious run for their money. And it may surprise you to learn that the reasons men and women cheat are changing over time. Use to be men mainly cheated for sexual reasons, and women for emotional ones. Not any more.
As you'll see from statistics, men are cheating more now for emotional affairs. As men go into midlife crisis, they are looking for intimacy. The affairs are more emotionally connected as opposed to physical. Women, on the other hand, since they're out in the workplace wearing miniskirts, are looking for physical validation. If a woman commits adultery and she did marry her husband for love, she'll commit adultery for the physical part of it the way men used to do years ago.
We're seeing those trends. Men looking for intimacy and women looking for sex — the role-reversal thing. The reality, say experts, is it happens more often than not. And — contrary to conventional wisdom — it's not just men who cheat! More than 50 percent of all married women, at some point, cheat on their mates, according to psychologist Bonnie Eaker Weil, who has written several books on adultery. "You have to be on the alert that at any moment you could lose your partner," she says.
Great so now we have 65% cheating men & 50% cheating woman steadly closing the gap. The Americans for Divorce Reform estimates that "Probably, 40 or possibly even 60 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue. Everybody is phucking everybody these days
The anger that appears to be building up between the sexes becomes more virulent with every day that passes. And far from women taking the blame...the fact is that men are invariably and unfairly portrayed as the bad guys.
Being a good man is like being a good Nazi.......
Guess thats why I'm a Badboy~ | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/17/2007 1:00:33 AM | i know what your going through, i have been cheated on by my husband 7 times, plus 2 of them times i was pregnant with 2 of my children.... i think men will always cheat they dont know not to, it hurts so bad, sometimes i think am turning gay, hate men so much, and yes women do it to, so its not just the men.  | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/17/2007 1:47:40 AM | Ya know, you're still with this guy after 7 times cheating on you, even while you were pregnant! Why? Was it because of the kids, was it because if you left him he'd mess you up, are you really that stupid or "I can't leave him because I love him and will always forgive him". Get real!
I'm 57 and one of the most decent, loving men left on earth who has heaps to offer and yet to find my true love and soulmate, if there is such a thing. I refuse to settle for just anyone for company. I have a lot of great qualities any woman would desire in a man yet they don't really give a shit about your credentials. My ex just got married for the fifth time! I was number 2 husband and I never remarried after our divorce in 1983 when my son was only 2. I was cheated on and shattered! I left behind my Italian family in New York and chose to live in Australia to watch my only son grow up and now he's 26 and he's glad his old man stayed.
Women hang around guys that constantly cheat on them and treat them like shit. Where is the logic in this and and what hope is there for us decent guys to meet and trust women any more? I'm a good looking, youthful guy for 57 and a great guitarist who's travelled the world and after all my travels, awards, TV commercials etc, I still only long for one woman I can trust who will love me until my time on earth expires.
Where are all the earthy, cool, single women who just want to meet a decent guy and live peacefully and happily forever? Like women, many of us guys have been cheated on, lied to and taken advantage of. Sadly, the sexes are growing further apart each year. No wonder the gay population is on the rise, and they're even worse in their tempers and padantic nature! God help us! It's the Moses and the Ten Cmmandments trip all over again!
Peace, happiness and healthiness to you all and I hope you find your true soulmate!
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/17/2007 2:02:26 AM | | It is so bad that the love of my life could not trust me because she thought I have the potential of cheating. Which I never did. But is got so bad that I lost the respect for her and after that we started the accusations. We are now history and I wonder how beautiful is would look in my arms again. Just no trust. | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/17/2007 7:22:48 AM | | I was married to him for almost 4 years, he moved from fromVictoria to Chilliwack where i don't know anyone. He always worked long hours but then he started not coming home (claims he was too tired to drive from Vancouver to Chilliwack) I trusted him, I was dead wrong. the first time he said it was a mistake, i belived it, second time same girl, Pissed me off, it took awhile to get over and we started working it out so I thought, not even 2 weeks after the last he shacked up with another one, all i ever did was love him, f---k I was dumb. I filed for a divorce that i know he won't sign, men need to be the centre of attention and it's what they want, | |
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| Why do men cheat?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:25:37 AM | Well, I guess you are lucky today. I am here at POF to search for another woman. Yet, I do not know what I am looking for. I am married, but the relationship has grown cold and there is faults on both sides. Instead of filling this page with a story which no body want to hear, I will list some things you should take into consideration.
Opposites do attract, but your differences will stand in the way when you need to resolve problems and when you want to do things together. Over time your differences will be your demise. Look at your potential partners friends and ask them questions, they will give you insight. Don't be afraid to meet the parents, they will give you what kind of person they were and if they changed as a result of their upbringing. If your potential partner does not want you to meet the parents, it says something about them and what kind of home he lived in. If you find that you are trying to do or say things that are not what you would do or say to begin with, you are heading for trouble. Be yourself, if you don't, you are going to end up in a role of a performance that will not end 'happily ever after'. Be comfortable in the skin you are in. I am no romeo, but I know who I am (now) and I know what I want in life, but take it from experience, my options are now limited and true happiness with my spouse is just not possible any more. My spouse gave an award winning performance while we dated for a few years and once we were married, she wanted me to be the person that she wanted me to be. For the years that followed, she stopped acting and became the woman who she really was, we were total opposites and she wanted me to change to meet her needs. I was true to her by showing her who I really was all the long. I had everything she wanted, but she wanted more and that is a hard thing to give when you are comfortable with who you are and you thought that she loved you for who you are. Now - 2 kids later, a house, a car and bills to be paid - things are complicated beyond what can be fixed. I am forced to settle and compromise daily to eek out happy household for my children's sake.
So, in a nutshell;
Find someone who has a fair share of similar tastes in all aspects of life.
Don't be afraid to look at, interact and size up his family and friends.
BE YOURSELF!!!
Be happy with who he is and who you are. Give him the opportunity to show you who he really is and see if you like it.
Marriage is HUGE, it is a life sentence...of happiness, or despair, it is your choice. Take your time and choose wisely.
And last but not least, if you are not have the time of your life, he ain't the one.
I hope this helps. 
It comes from a honest heart. | |
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