| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/21/2006 9:58:45 PM | Hey man I'm going through the same crap right now. I did nothing bad to her or my Son he is the most important thing in my life. But for some reason she is denieing me my time with my son. She is just trying to be in control and hurt me. And ya it really messed with my head for a while. But I went to court a took care of everything. It doesn't look good on their part when they don't put the childs best intrest to heart. And I found that being around friends
and talking with my family got me through the worst time in my life. Now I feel great, actually I feel happy that we broke up because she did nothing but hold me back. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 10:07:55 AM | | I know my ex loves our kids very much, although he is a complete dead beat dad. He doesn't see them, call, or help with any expenses. Many people tell me I shouldn't let him see the kids, but he loves them, and who am I to not let him see them. I have full custody and guardianship, but I ask him to come see the kids whenever I talk to him. I can't force him to though. He has seen them once in a year, and never seen his youngest daughter(we split when I was preggers). Although I wish he would make an effoort, I know he loves his kids, and hope one day my kids can have a relationship with him. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 10:58:44 AM | | My son is almost 6 and hasn't seen his dad since he was 2 weeks old. We left because he went a little crazy (drug induced, of course) and I was scared for the safety of both of us. He hasn't called, written, sent even .01 or asked his family (who we keep in touch with) about his son. I don't think he misses him at all, although I'm not in his shoes so it's hard to say, but you'd think if he did, he'd at least make SOME sort of an effort. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 11:15:08 AM | paige NS
Yes I know..makes me mad that he doesn't make any effort with them, he is screwed in the head, which usually comes with being a substance abuser. I know he loves our kids though. I was with him for 5 yrs, and know he cried when he left them again last time. He loves them, although I believe actions speak louder than words, I am not about to disreguard his love for our kids, and the fact he misses them. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 11:24:57 AM | And Im going to say wake up
He doesn't visit them, he doesn't call and he doesn't help support them
My God he has never even seen your youngest child
Yes actions do speak louder than words
Pls dont give your children false hope and stop defending him | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 12:14:34 PM | well i have a qustion for ya my ex left me when i was 4 months pregnant he left me homeless cus he needed a house for his new girlfriend (my mate) and him an`t had any money off him and an`t heard owt off him since he left so do i let him see his child and plus his girlfriend is always takin drugs so help here ppl | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 12:53:54 PM | paige NS
I know what kind of person he is...that is why I am not with him. I also know it wont help my kids any to bad mouth him, cut him down, or say that he doesn't love or miss them. He is the way he is, and life is way too short for being pissed off all the time about it, or turning my young any very impressionable kids against him. They will make thier opinion for themselves when they get to know him. Actions speak louder than words...so let them speak...If you know anything about people with addicitons then you maybe would get what I am saying.
My youngest sisters are adopted, it is an open adoption. They know thier mom, and knows she can't look after them because........the reasons......... Their mom loves them and misses them dearly.
It is not a matter of me drfending him, I just wanted to post to make a point which I think I failed to do so. If a dad misses thier kids make the effort and don't be a deadbeat parent, you're kids will and do have a say in what relationship they will have with you, especially when they are older. But I don't think it's right for any parent to keep the kids away from the other parent unless it is a case of child abuse, oor putting them in an unsafe situation. My ex wanted to take my kids out for a visit(the one time he visited). I said plain and simply no because they did not know him well after 6 months, so he had a supervised visit with my family and me present. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 3:44:13 PM | I have to agree with paige. There are alot of dead beat dads out there and thats why the courts are so bad with dads like myself and others who want to be with our kids. I know moms who are both mom and dad. I would rather have that then well maybe your daddy will come around, then by the time im 18 im on Oprea,Montle or even the springer show with a shrink on one side and my dead beat dad on the other. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 3:51:17 PM | | Hayley, As a dad heres my opion. If he truely wants to spend time with his child and wants to be apart of the childs life LET him. You connot say NO just because he hurt u in the past. As far as the girlfriend goes with drugs. When you go to court to give him visitation. Tell the judge she is not to be around her, Get a restaining order aginst her for your child... Believe me if you have the right lawyer you can get him to pay child support and come to see you oce a month to kiss your feet lol(joking). But honestly If he wants to be a DAD. PLEASE let your child have one. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 6:12:05 PM | I was married to my husband for 10 yrs... When I married him he had a child that was 2 1/2 years old. In the first year of our marrage we traveled 6 hrs to the city where she lived with her mother for access and child support issues (court). Child support is a given. That is not a problem, that was his/our responsibility... Access on the other hand was...well we found out that it the rights of the father stopped at paying support. We were just scraping by and could not afford a court ordered access agreement and unfortunatly the more time that passes, the harder it gets for dads.
My advice to fathers is to take the bull by the horns right away... The more time that passes, the more difficulty you could experience with the judge... Speaking from experience.
I left my husband a year and a half ago. I could not imagine keeping our kids from him. We did everything in a "peaceful manor". Very Quick, Very cheap and my children are emotionally intact. Thank goodness.
All my best... | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/22/2006 9:00:27 PM | "I LIKE TO KNOW HOW YOU COPE..."
I dunno how to cope. I just go on day by day. I see her as much as I can. She is really young so we play with her toys as long as we have time. Then Mommy comes and takes her to her home. As I am typing this I choke up with tears. Same goes for when I start to think about her. I hardly have any pictures up so I can get through another day. My house feels really empty when she is gone. Sometimes I wonder if she is thinking about me and if she misses me. Then it breaks my heart all over again.
So you ask if I cope I guess I do the best I can with what I have.
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:15:15 AM | Hang on, Gibble; those good times with your daughter are GOLD, and as you turn to silver, she'll remember those moments. Hey, I'm not gay; everybody needs a hug occasionally! | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/23/2006 8:03:23 AM | I'm sure things will...
Involvement is key. You seem to have that covered though. You do need to get something on paper together, or you can draw something up on your own to present to your respective lawyers. In my case I was rather lucky. My ex and I wrote an agreement together, so nothing would need to be ammended in the future. The sooner the better, especially if a child is in the mix...and it seems as though you have other concerns as well (from your other thread).
Good luck to you... | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/23/2006 8:13:37 AM | My daughter's dad lives right next door to us.
Literally, our doors touch.
He doesnt visit with her much, but im sure if i took off and moved away, he would miss her.
He is always welcome to see her anytime he wants, just chooses not to sometimes.
He will learn, and regret it :)
All you men who can't see your kids...
I apologize.
Some women are just b.itches. Plain and simple.
They think they are "winning" somthing, by not letting y'all see your kids. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/23/2006 8:41:57 AM | hi im a 25yr father of two well use to be there is not a day goes by i wish i couldn't see my lil amy and noah it's like a thorn in my side that just won't come out missing their laughs cries for help ect.. my ex-wife had me arrested on fathers day! for merely holding her back from hitting me whist i removed my computer from the house but i was the one that got done for "soft assault" the worst thing was seeing my daughter in tears running after the paddy wagon crying out don't take my daddy ! with my stepson in tow yelling out the same yes thats right i rasied her son since he was 9months old fed him clothed him evreything he needed i got for him and thats the thanks i got i miss my kids so bad i haven't seen them in 9 months nearly all because she has the upper hand on the law
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 2/6/2007 5:37:29 PM | | you know i really wish my kids father felt this way!!! i love having my kids everyday, but even i can come to see where my kids need a male figure in there life. unfortunetly that male figure cant be there father on a few counts!!! i wish things were diffrent, but he made his decison and i made mine. he now has no rights so........... | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 2/7/2007 8:17:52 AM | You know I cannot for the life of me even comprehend how awful it must be to not see your kids.
I am a single dad (soon not to be) and I am currently away from my daughter, have been for the last 3 days and let me tell you it is HELL! I miss that first cuddle of the morning and the last at night, the excited telling me all about her day and her reading to me and doing her homework, I miss just having here there. I speak to her on the phone, just come off in fact as she has finished school, I am in Texas she is in the UK and I really wanted to just climb down the phone line.
So for one I cannot imagine what absent dads go through, though a friend that once ran away from home for 2 years when he was younger explained it like this. 1 night away and you miss it but need to make the point, one week away and you miss it but dont know how to go back and a month away and you cant go back! | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 2/7/2007 10:13:10 AM | | tell you what why dont some of you guys look my ex up here. his display name is tre. we have the best son in the world that he hesnt seen in 9 months and our son is 14 months old. he claim he has been in iraq, yet he has only been there about six months has came home for leave and still didnt see his son. hell the last time he asked me about him was november!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 2/7/2007 12:57:22 PM | | When my partner and I split up in October, I was lucky enough to keep my children and I know she doesnt miss them or she would make contact sometimes! So do mums miss their children too? (in cases like mine!) | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 2/7/2007 2:36:55 PM | First of all, having an affair should have no bearing on whether or not a parent sees his/her children.
Violence and abuse, that's another story.
If you are denied access to your children that are legal remedies you can avail yourself to. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 2/7/2007 9:48:16 PM | I was 23 he was 21...fooled around got pregnant....never told hm till i was 6 months, he suggested abortion...*to late*, then suggested adoption...I said sure, lived in a small town in Alberta, went as far away as possible to BC Van Island to have him... gave him up at the hospital, left empty handed...11 days later I had to have him.. Couldn't do it, brought him him, called the dad, told him he had a son & I couldn't do what he suggested I do...He came to see him when he was 2 weeks old...& never again till he was 16 years old at my fathers furneral...took him under his wings introduced him as his son to all his family & friends...1 day...no more my son is going to be 20 this month...he still asked me sometimes how can a person just not even think of their child..he tells me "sorry mom" Im not going to have any children...Im glad he's still young, to change his mind.. I have a daughter who is 9, now I am going thru a seperation I tell her dad after 15 years...please never make promises to your daughter & not keep them...children never forget, but they are angels & do forgive..
Sorry for the rant...but thank you... | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 2/8/2007 11:19:01 AM | | My x took off with my daughter and the next time i saw them was as i was putting them both in the ground. Females like that dont need to be parents. So i guess to answer the question yes fathers miss their children alot. I miss mine. To those who fathered a child and abandoned them to hell with you. | |
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