| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/16/2007 9:55:34 AM | | Good video and very true. I moved from oregon to washington at one point. Someone made a clerical error when inputting my account into the system and stated that I owed 6000.00 instead of 600.00. At the time washington was allowed to take all but 50.00 of each check. This law was made for weekly paid employees. I wass paid monthly. For 4 mos they took all but my 50.00. I never got reimbursed, and they never paid the monies to her. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/16/2007 6:39:18 PM | lil sweat heart, how do you deal with that? I am going through the same thing. At first he saw my son but afterwards he gave everything up because the judge ruled supervised access and because of his girlfriend violent behavior. Me too his girlfriend has caused alot of problems, harrassment, stalking, violence.etc.
My son is now 3 and asking alot of questions, making pictures of mommy, daddy and himself. My son is mixed and he even drew himself brown and daddy and me yellow. I feel torn because, I don't know how to explain that daddy decided that he didn't want to visit because it has to be supervised. Of course I would never tell him that. My son also asks if I have pictures, telling me he misses him, pretending to call him. . I think it is best that he doesn't come around anymore because when he did, it was so stressfull, and then afterwards his girlfriend would harrass me for a month after that. I always acknowledge my sons feeings, telling him I miss him too, but daddy has his house and we have ours. Anyone have any suggestions? Any books that I could read that would help me how to explain this to a 3 year old.
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 4/20/2009 5:34:08 PM | i have not seen my oldest daughter in over 8 yrs and that was by only luck i found out about her high school gradusation... .i only saw her 3-4 times since age 10 to age 18..
the last i knew she graduated from ku with honors and moved ??? who knows where?? so from the time of her being age 10, when i divorced her mom, to now where she is over 27 yrs old now. .i have given up on her,100%..i can not get ahold of her mom or my daughter. i assume she is dead..
i have taken the facts..i guess she hates me more than the counslers ever said would happen.. as they told me.. she will get her brain cell back one day..and if you have problems. .we are here to help you. .
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/26/2009 10:36:35 PM | minncabin, I don't know if you are still reading this thread or not, but why couldn't you see your daughter?
I have an open question to anyone, how can either parent legally keep the child away from the other parent? I understand csaes where the non-custodial parent is a danger to the child, but what about in cases where that isn't the case? | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:04:56 AM | i have strong feelings about this, i want to be in my childs life so much that my daughter lives with me, ababy doesnt belong to a mother but familys ><
BUT if as a parent you endanger your childs life then these mums have every right to protect there children, AS do fathers if the tables turned. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/27/2009 2:24:53 AM |
minncabin, I don't know if you are still reading this thread or not, but why couldn't you see your daughter?
I have an open question to anyone, how can either parent legally keep the child away from the other parent? I understand csaes where the non-custodial parent is a danger to the child, but what about in cases where that isn't the case?
I might be way off base here, but I can tell you what probably happened. His balked at his ex "controlling him" with custody issues and thought it would be just easier to walk away and blame the ex... with minimal or no thought as to how it would affect his child.
No responsibility, no blame, no work; and the bonus of getting to play victim! | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/27/2009 12:32:47 PM | | Just because some one has an affair does not mean that they are an unfit parent. I am speaking from experience (as being the one cheated on). While I cannot think what I would do if my ex kept my son from me I do believe there will be a point in time when that child is going to want to know of and about his/her fahter. You be sure that you continue to do all that you can to see your child... at least you know that you have given it all that you can all this time and you can turn to your child and one day say that you have never given up. Best wishes! | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/27/2009 8:54:14 PM | | I think fathers should seevthem unless like mine who yells at me and calls me names like a fat tramp in front of him. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/28/2009 4:53:53 AM | | i am one of the kucky ones my kids spend more time with me then they do with there mother. when we split up it was agreed that they would decide who they wanted to see. and stay with. the only argument we have is me trying to get them to spend more time with there mother.. but i do agree expartners that use the kids as weapons to hurt the other person are nothing short of fcking stupid eventualy the kids grow up and realise who is the wrong party this can only cause badness in the childs thinking. the courts need to take a stronger line on this and any woman who stops the father from seeing there kids without good reason should lose custurdy at a minimum death is more the just outcome | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/28/2009 12:32:49 PM | I pay $2,300 a month to be with my kid. After she'd had several affairs and I filed for divorce, she got a hag of a lawyer who was pleading to let her take my boy to Texas to live with her parents due to her health not allowing her to work. I pay to be with my boy. It's not his fault. She got a job the day after the trial and now my boy spends more time with me than with her. This weekend will make 18 of the last 20.
Much of that money is alimony for 3 years. 1yr, 4 mo, 2 days to go......not that I'm counting! I really am not upset that I'm living somewhat in financial limbo for 3 years to keep my boy in my life. It's well worth it.
Not that I'm not looking forward to this damned alimony ending.
BTW, she called me today and needs $200 extra this month to put him in summer camp. I don't even **** anymore, I just pay. If I didn't, he would suffer by not going to camp. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/28/2009 12:39:03 PM | It is awful that a spouse can cheat and file for divorce, and the other has to pay alimony. How did it ever come to this?
You sound like an amazing dad. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/28/2009 9:18:20 PM | | not only do i see my son ever week i see my 4 grand childern too and his mom's not allowed to step foot on the property with out going to jail.why do you even try to see his father if he shows that much disrespect to you then you dont need that in your life. your an attractive women move on theres plenty of single guys out there find you a good one and forget the fool cause if you dont your going to go nuts. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 12:28:53 PM | My situations the total opposite.. my sons dad left before xmas, he doenst pay anything towards him - CSA have apparently told him to pay five pounds a week but I haven`t recieved or heard anything. I bend over backwards to try and get him to spend more time with his son, but all he`s bothered about is working and earning money for himself.. he rang me on my sons birthday bragging he had been paid £400 and never offered me anything towards our son, and in general has never really taken an interest, I have told him he can come through and see him, he says he`ll get back to me, I even offered to get the bus through with my son so he could see him (its 45mins on a bus) so he could see his son over his birthday and he was busy working.. said he would get back to me about coming to see him and hasn`t..
All I want from him is to give my son the best of both worlds, but I think his ego gets in the way off being a proper dad (and all the dollar signs).. So many people have asked why I try so hard to keep him involved but Im not doing it for him Im doing it for my son.
It sucks because so many guys out there don`t get the chance to be good dads, and the people that have the chance for no reason just dont bother. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 12:33:57 PM |
but all he`s bothered about is working and earning money for himself..
How old is he? You're only 23, so he's probably not to much older, right? Did he want to have a child with you? Did he say he wanted to settle down, get married, and work to support a family, before you had your son? | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 1:46:53 PM | There's no doubt that are some crappy dads out there and they make it hard for the rest of us trying to do the right thing.
My ex girlfriend crossed state lines while she was pregnant without bothering to tell me or let me know, despite the fact I was never abusive, just a little lost on how to handle the situation. I already had custody of my oldest daughter and was struggling to raise her on my own without the help of her mother so it was difficult for me to imagine another child at that point in time.
However, we have a responsibility to our children, as men, and I knew I would never be able took myself in the mirror again if I didn't do the right thing. I tracked her down through the internet, got a lawyer, and drug her kicking and screaming into court. The financial costs were enormous as I knew they would be. I struggle but I did gain access to my daughter. And to say I was angry would have been an understatement but I realized it wouldn't help my daughter so I made peace with mom.
She's a great mother and since then we have been able to work alot of the issues and make the situation work as co parents. I know she regrets what she did because she's stated as much.
She plans on moving back to the area next year (I can't wait!) and I'll have full access to my daughter. I'm not one who always forgives easily but I would say make peace with the other if possible because often it will save you alot of money and you'll get to see your kids that much more. If that doesn't work, write down everything that goes on, save your money and go to court with it. Attrition might make the other think twice about playing games if they know you're serious. I have seen a couple of my friends play this scenario out too and they have benefited by have better relationships with the ex's and more access to their kids.
Peace through strength. As father we have to be advocates for ourselves and for our kids because they deserve the best of all worlds.
Plus, there are many Father's Rights groups out there. Google them. If you don't have access to your kids because of a bitter Ex, contact them and I'm sure they can steer you in the right direction. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 6/1/2009 3:18:22 AM | | he`s younger than me, hes 21.. no my son wasnt planned, he wanted kids, marrige etc in the future. He wanted to provide for us but never did when we were together or now, its making things really crap anfd if he does grow up n realise hes messed up, he`s put us through too much for me to get back with him. | |
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