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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 27 | |
| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 7/20/2005 7:30:43 PM | Superswede,
I hear you about finding an older woman in her 40's and 50's and not having to worry about child rearing. I wish I could say the same about the men in their 40's and 50's. Too many of them have young kids under the age of 16. I had an email from a 54 year old fella with an 8 year old daughter, do the math on that, he'd be in his mid 60's before the child is on her own. I said "thanks, but no thanks". There's other things I'd like to be doing besides raising kids. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 7/20/2005 8:50:57 PM | | If I do get married, I definitely want her to be ten or fifteen years younger. I am not attracted to women my own age because they don't keep their looks after 50. They look to washed out. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 7/20/2005 10:57:44 PM | | As has been said before age is more about numbers. I have met women in their early twenties that were very mature (ready for a LTR) and I have met women in their mid forties who I don't think will ever be ready for a relationship (I am sure the same can be said about us guys). But I think there is a cut off point where the gap between life experiences may be too great. Many of the younger women I have met have a wonderful sense of openness and energy about them. I think if two people are mature enough and truly love one another then anything can be overcome. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 7/21/2005 1:17:12 AM | I suppose it varies with the particular terrain and situation.
For the followers of Dr. Ruth 'if he likes eet, unt she likes it, vell den, eet must be okay.'
But I've finally come to the conclusion that it might be a good time to think about settling down (hold on! who said that?) and while sex and companionship is not so hard to come by, given all the 40+ single women out there, finding a gal who can still safely have kids is another matter altogether.
In my encounters with ladies in my own age group I am running into a lot of ladies whose parts and systems are running down. Cancer, connective tissue, bad backs, swollen ankles, etc. From my perspective, ladies in this age group are simply not mission capable for taking on the task of bearing 2 or 3 youngsters. So, in practical terms, I have to look for a younger lady.
As for me, I get taken for someone in their 30's and even in their 20's -- routinely. I spent 8 years with a gal 10 years younger than I, and yet folks would nudge her and ask if she was robbing the cradle.
Not the best of situations, but ya have to make do with what you've got. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 7/21/2005 2:18:44 AM | There are far too many stereotypes about age in this society...
When you're under 40 people will say things to you like, "Oh, you're young yet, do this and do that."
When you're over 40 people say, "Well, you've had a good ride. Just be happy with the past."
When we cut down this nonsense, the truth is that there is no actual age when people REALIZE, become READY, or have wisdom, etc. These are all stereotypes. Many of your greatest qualities are embedded within you from a long time ago, they may enhance and amplify as time goes by, or they may not. A fool usually remains a fool forever, years and experiences don't always change that. It most cases, it simply doesn't change it at all...
Each individual is different, and that's how we have to gauge each person; as they come. I've met people in their 20's that had more wisdom than those who are in their 50's and beyond, which makes me upset because it forces me to question the strength and lack thereof of the elders in this society, but I won't even get into that one right now... | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 7/21/2005 6:53:02 AM | I am 28 and my boyfriend of three years is 38. I date guys that are a minimum of 10 years older than me because:
1. I can not have more children and most guys my age want children of their own, and guys 10+ years older than me usually already have children of their own and it is not a problem. Current's son just turned 18. He is now helping me raise my two girls ages 8 and almost 9. Perfect.
2. Guys my age usually think the sun rises and sets in them. Major turn off. My ex-husband and a guy I dated (similarities were rampant, first being that they were both in the Navy) were exactly like that and it made me crazy!!.
3. Most guys my age are intimidated by the fact that I have ambitions and dreams, rather than supporting me in them like older guys do. For example: I go to school full time (on summer break right now), and I work full time, and I have kids. Younger guys can't understand why I'm too tired to go dancing every night, while older guys are content to visit and watch a movie at the end of the day.
My current bf is wonderful, he takes good care of me, and he treats me like a queen. I think it works because it's equal give and take. When he's had a bad day, I cater to him and vice versa. We recently moved to OK and I had moved here first so naturally I got a job first, his job right now is to unpack (and he's doing an AWESOME job) and find a job. I couldn't have done it without him. If I were dating a younger guy, I'd be on my own with the unpacking and sorting, and it would SUCK. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 7/21/2005 7:22:27 AM | I don't care about the age, as long as they can keep up with me. I'm more concerned with a mental and emotional connection. I will say this, though; at one time i was with a woman my own age. We stayed together for 6 years, and she finally left when she felt she could no longer keep up with me. I have a pretty intense lifestyle; gigging in and out of bars, nightclubs, and casinos, and running a store in the daytime. Then there's that damned sex drive to deal with; MINE, not hers. For some reason older women tend to look upon my lifestyle as a "Peter Pan" type of existence, and that I'm trying to sustain youth by playing music professionally. I'm not a player or a drunk, when I'm on the job there's no hanky panky, music and home afterward. younger women aren't quite as uptight about that aspect of my life, and most seem to enjoy being with an entertainer. Therefore, I keep an open mind about prospective partners;if you're mature enough at 18 OR 45, I'm willing to give it a shot | |
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TGTS
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Joined: 10/6/2004
Msg: 36 | |
| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/25/2005 3:20:18 AM |
gotta say I am a woman that loves YOUNGER MEN! I would never date a man older than I am ....Now Artlover! watchudoin? WOOOOOOOOOOOOOO a cougar! :D
you know i should hope a lot of you girls are ok with dating older guys, because thats where im going to be in about 25 years  | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/25/2005 3:27:17 AM | | Most of the time, I think older men who marry young women are fools. I may be stupid, but I aint entirely stupid. Hell no, I would't, hypothetically speaking of course, even bother with a younger woman or older one. There comes a time when a man should get some sense and smell the roses that have already died. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/25/2005 3:34:28 AM | I have no problem with dating younger gals, and they seem to appreciate the maturity and the life experience.
I tend to not be interested in little dorky things like clubbing and gossiping though. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/25/2005 3:50:52 AM | Shells, you hit the nail right on the head !!! Worrying about what others think is self destruction to any relationship !!! If your happy with someone older or younger, than go for it and enjoy yourself to the fullest for as long as it's meant to be !!! Life is short enough so follow your heart and enjoy it !!!  | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/25/2005 3:52:41 AM | | When I was in university, I knew lots of girls/women who were attracted to older professors and even had affairs or relationships with them. A few even got married! Personally, I have no problem dating anyone from 19 and upwards and have done so over the last few years. I think a lot of younger women appreciate the complexity and sophistication of most older men. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/25/2005 6:28:38 AM |
When we cut down this nonsense, the truth is that there is no actual age when people REALIZE, become READY, or have wisdom, etc. These are all stereotypes. Many of your greatest qualities are embedded within you from a long time ago....
I am of the school that a stereotype is a grossly exaggerated minuscule truth. Sure, many of ones greatest qualities are dependent on ones innate personality or their upbringing., but one should never discount the value of personal growth. We have all heard, “youth is wasted on the youth”. It is a sad irony of life that at the time that most of us are “really getting it”, time and gravity are at their cruelest. I guess it is a compensation of sorts that older people often have developed another quality of beauty IF they have paid attention during Life Class. As a result of my life experiences I have made deep and radical changes in how I interact with others. When I was younger, I reacted on a more emotional level.
Not all young men and women are emotionally unstable or are unsure of themselves- who they are, what they want- I have known many I would not hesitate to go to for advice or support. The young man I am seeing, for one. Some people just seem to have incredible insight with relatively little life experience. That insight extends to themselves and others.
I really believe that if “I knew then what I know now”, I would NOT be single. I have learned so such about myself and acquired many skills along the way.
they may enhance and amplify as time goes by, or they may not. A fool usually remains a fool forever, years and experiences don't always change that. It most cases, it simply doesn't change it at all...
Exactly! Those are the ones who fell asleep in class. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/25/2005 2:21:00 PM | | I love the older guys (no older than 30 years than me, I do have a limit). They are somewhat more mature and had seen things and can teach me a thing or two. Besides, they can take you out more often than a younger guy... | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 8/30/2005 10:39:31 PM | | I myself am in my early 20s and I do like older men,but not to old.Ive had a guy in his 40s want to start a relationship but I just didnt feel comfortable about it at all.I know people would defintley talk about that.I know you shouldnt care what people say or think,but it does make me feel a bit uncomfortable.dont get me wrong there are alot of men in there 40s and 50s who are very attractive but thats besides the point. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 9/18/2005 6:19:46 PM | | I have always prefered females who were a little younger than I am. 5 years younger is the furthest I have gone so far, but would not against dating/messing around with a female as long we hit it off and she is old enough to be legal. | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 9/21/2005 5:10:01 PM | | No age barriers for me, that's for sure - just don't expect a long-term relationship if the age difference is greater than 20% either way! When I was in my late twienties I dated a woman in her late fifties - the experience was one I will treasure always, but it was just that - an experience. Now I am nudging towards the big 50 I wonder what younger women make of me - do they find me repellant, or is there some little attraction. I consider myself at my peak in terms of physical fitness and experience - those attributes must count, i would have thought, and have some value. I would love to meet a younger woman and enlighten her to the deeper joys of a sensual and caring relationship - I just wouldn't expect it to last the year out, though! | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 9/23/2005 3:23:45 AM | As long as the right chemistry is there, they are MATURE (not used loosely) CONSENTING ADULTS and they make each other happy the age should not matter one way or the other.
My "X" is happy with his wife who is 28 years younger than he.
I am happily married to a woman who is 13 years younger than I.
Love does not discriminate... | |
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| Whats the feeling on older men and younger women?
Posted: 9/23/2005 4:25:59 AM | I was once in love and in a pretty fabulous relationship with a man 18 years older then I and I was in my 20's......it was wonderful to be adored and I adored him as well.......but relationships like that end for the same reasons they end when everyone is the same age.
Somehow being 28 with a man 46 was never a concern, but today I have thought being 50 with a man who is 68 could have had some practical issues. And although I date younger men and have great fun, the thought of someday being 60 and him being 45 doesn't seem like a very secure place to be emotionally!!!! | |
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