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It's admirable to be understanding and forgiving but don't be a damn fool about it. Are you looking for a lover or starting a monastery ?
Couldn't have said it better myself! There are limits to being understanding and forgiving.....why put your life on hold, because your desired lover can't make up their mind or they want to keep you as a "spare tire" for the just in case scenario.
Nobody's likes to play second-best.........Why do you want to play that social game? | |
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Posted: 6/25/2011 12:00:32 PM | It's not just men who do this. I once dated a woman who did the exact same thing. Eventually she broke up with me to go back to the first guy. I haven't, and won't fall for that again.
What I don't understand is why so many women on these forums seem to think that bad behavior in the world of dating is the exclusive province of men. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2011 4:06:37 PM | | this is a clear case of a guy trying to keep his options open. also, if he was crazy about you he'd figure "things" out real quick, trust me. if a man is crazy about you he will not pull this BS. when guys do this it's pretty clear that they are worried about missing something, and are still looking. do you want to be with a guy that is still looking? no. then don't call em, dont text em, dont' email em, and by all means don't take them back. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2011 4:12:57 PM | Guys under 30 generally have no idea what they want, other than a hottie who will give them much sex.
That's the entire thing about guys. No magical answers, they just want nookie...that's all. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2011 4:26:31 PM | | He ain't worth it! Sounds like he just wants to play the field and leave you as an option if things don't work out. You sound like you are a better person than him, dump him. | |
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| Why do men do this?
Posted: 6/25/2011 5:30:51 PM | They do it because you let them.
Sounds harsh, but its true. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2011 1:35:34 AM | | well as a man i have a simple answer to your question either he wants to be with you or not cos remember time is ticking on and time should not be wasted on men who cant make there minds up?a relationship has a begining and an end,not stop half way to continue from the middle,but that is my thought on that,bye | |
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Posted: 6/26/2011 1:55:30 AM | | He is working nothing out...You are handy and usable. You are the plan B girl | |
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| Why do men do this?
Posted: 7/2/2011 10:08:03 AM | NO he is using you like a mother for comfort,, you are not his shoulder to cry on.
Girl don't go backwards... if he wanted to see how things would go with another woman,, it is him telling you,, you come in second,, you are his fall back.
You diverse to be the only choice in a mans life..
If your dating and he wants something else then he is telling you are not what he is looking for.
When you meet that one man that you take his breath away then he would never want to see how things will work out with someone else.
Tell him to hit the road sister...  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2011 10:11:56 AM | | The real reason is that he's not that into you. Dump him and do not attempt to have a friendship. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 2:28:56 PM | | I feel what your saying . It happens constantly. Even when i was married all my exs where hunting me down. Women get over men and its not healthy to see them again after its over often .. at least for me. I cant tell you how many exs have just showed up at my house thinking i would be thrilled to see them. The worst is when they want sex for old time sake. But its flattering that they are still thinking of you so take it for that.. men often get bored... humm i mean boys get bored... not sure how to word this but maybe you get my point | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 6:34:40 PM |
Sometimes people have low self esteem and think they have to settle for what ever they can get because no one else will want them.
i think you have some self esteem issues, and some guys are good at preying on such women, especially young women. Somehow they convince you that they are doing you a favor by keeping you on the line. They've got you believing that you aren't attractive enough to get by without them. They know that you'll still be there when they're done "looking around".
OP I looked at your profile and pic's and take my word for it, there are plenty of guys out there waiting for you to wake up to what the other guys are doing to you. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 6:48:48 PM | | can some one figure out why im not getting any hits please, this is irritating :P | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:07:35 PM | This is the second time I've been in a relationship with a guy where he says he wants to see how things go with someone else, which has been fine with me, but then they come back and tell me how big of a mistake it was to leave me and they regret it. Then they "need to get stuff worked out first." I am an understanding and forgiving person, but this drives me bananas!!! Why do guys do this and is it worth waiting for him to get his stuff worked out?
Testing how high in a woman, as he sees women, as he can go maybe?
Swing and a strike.
Seems like he's realizing he cant do better than you, at his own pace Who knows; maybe he sucks, or maybe you ARE that good. I wouldnt wait; I would live my own life,and have my own selfish fun while he is out striking out.
Maybe YOU find someone better than him, and if not, oh well....all even.... and its decided.
I'd definitely make him mow your lawn and do your house renos as punishment though.  [Careful; I am sorta kidding...sorta. This could make him feel like aloser and even SEEM a looser to your surroundings, and THIS would mean that YOU have a loser as your partner] <--Partners....are one. ;)
I missed where it said "TWO" men. YOU should buy a horse farm,and use em as loveslaves and stable boys!!
Heck; see if you can find a few more!! (lol)
And marry someone who "doesnt" suck at relationship baseball
Does anyone think it is possible to still remain friends with someone after a situation like this?
Maybe if you're bored sometime.
I'd give em the low tier friendship plan though; its really where they deserve to be with you...no? [an example is the girl who stood me up when I had an amazing date set up for her..TWICE. She called me back and let meknow she was ready to date one night, on amoents notice. I had no plans really; so decided to be a good man and take her out....to the taco bell....around the corner] (I was hungry for a snack....so.why not..and ya..I did agree to go because I wanted a cheap snack myelf...why) ;P
She looked so cute and perfect; all pis*ed off in her brand new 200 dollar Parasuco jeans and Tommy Sport for her shirt. [I thanked her for the company, and walked home, full with tacos and content]
Hope she had a fantastic night!! :D
She called back, probably to yell at me; I didnt bother answering. (all due respect right)
becoming real friends with someone you come to resent or disrespect for their inability to make up their minds isn't likely.
Use em as you see fit; until they decide they dont want to be in the inferior spot anymore. ;)
From what I get it bugs him
Naturally; because you are in control of your own life; where he has to take what he gets; which apparently isnt so satisfying :)
can some one figure out why im not getting any hits please, this is irritating :P
None of us do really; its normal. (its not you; its them) lol
Try getting your profile checked on the profile board. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:34:26 PM | | Both men and women do this, its a case of people who don't know what they want in life. Stand up for yourself and believe in your self worth. There is a limit to being understanding in that you have to also protect yourself from someone who really doesn't care about you. You aren't a revolving door that he can just come in and out of whenever he may get the hankering that the grass may be greener elsewhere. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:35:35 PM | | I had that happen over the years also. It's not only men, women do that too. Dating and relationships are just tough. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:39:36 PM | | A woman or man will get treated the way they ALLOW themselves to get treated. Always remember that. Someone has to stop that cycle! | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 12:18:11 AM | | Because you allowed them to treat you like their fall-back second option. A back-up plan in case it doesn't work out with their first choice. And it won't stop happening till you grow some proverbial balls and think of yourself as someone's first option and demand of YOURSELF to be treated as such. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 2:02:11 AM | | The appropriate response to this is to tell em to go **** himself. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 3:10:10 AM | Personally i would not want to be hanging around waiting for a man to decide whether or not he wants to be in a relationship with myself, or have some other person waiting in the wings as to whether he prefers her instead. Where is your self respect and self esteem? While you let men treat you like this you will never find a decent man.
And another thing. Why would ANYONE want to stay as a 'friend' when a relationship is finished? Why hang around on the sidelines while they most probably find a replacement for you and rub your nose in it? Ex's are ex's for a reason, and you should leave and NEVER look back.
Just my take on it.... | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 3:37:19 AM | | ur 22 yrs. old for gods sake...they are using you because you are easy...u need to keep busy and worry about getting a job and improvoing your life..which doesnt require a man!! | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 3:31:06 PM | | redraider609 hit the nail on the head. Besides, you're too pretty to have to deal with losers who WON'T - and that's the key word here - commit to you. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 3:35:38 PM | Op, I think the guy wants to keep you on the back burner while he works things out...so you would be his *bit on the side of his new relationship.
If someone isn't treating you the way you want to be treated..don't be with them. | |
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