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I agree with you in part Micki but most of us find that the joy in giving starts to disappear after a while if the other person is seldom or never willing to reciprocate.
I understand where you're coming from......but, for me, I wouldn't enter into a LTR with a man that doesn't love to give oral. I would consider us not sexually compatible.
And it has nothing to do with me giving him oral.....but the fact that he doesn't enjoy aspect of sex that I do enjoy.
It seems like the two are entwined.....but they're really not in my mind.
Kind of like anal sex.........if a man likes to be penetrated with a finger or toy, I am more than willing to give him what he wants. But I don't enjoy anal play.....so if he has to have a woman that likes anal sex......I'm not the woman for him. In this case......I'll gladly give without this "reciprocation" or "tit for tat" aspect! | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 2:03:14 PM | Maybe I'm weird, but I definitely prefer giving rather than receiving. I love the taste of a clean ****.  | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 4:28:27 PM | Hmmmm..well...I can only say one thing to that....Im the aggressor with oral...and any woman whos experienced hasnt ever regreted.....Nope not stuck on meself....just love it!....and it really doesnt matter where.... | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 6:05:01 PM | | personally I love to go down my lady and do my best to make sure she is satisfied before i am . IN fact i have been able to get several of my former g/f's to squirt just from oral . | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 6:15:52 PM | | hmmmm...I have NO issue going down on a woman and stay there until she has an orgasm...no idea why some men wont..Its friggen AWESOME....Wish i had a GF to do that too... | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 6:17:44 PM | I really would not want someone to do it who did not love it.
If it is a "job" for them to do so.......no thanks. NOTHING about sex should ever feel like a duty or a job. There are many men who love it, and will spend more time on that than anything, chalk it up to sexual imcompatibility and get with a man who is all about the p*ssy. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 6:37:35 PM | Men won't do it because they're lazy and expect everything to taste like steak, beer and pizza. Sorry to say this guys, but you're going to have to get down there. Quit whining and get the job done.
Oh, and apparently that was not enough to write about so Im going to do what I usually do RAMBLE on about nothing *checks to see if this is enough for POF* | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 9:24:25 PM | My guess is you haven't found that right guy. I say this because I love to go down on a woman, I don't want to quit until she is done...then we can work on something else. I will add that if someone is taking care of you or trying to take care of you, and they are not quite on the right spot, you gotta speak up otherwise it won't get any better.
Ok there's my input. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 10:15:03 PM | Honey I don't know the kind of men , or the age of men, but a real man that is about giving of self,will do what he can to please the woman he loves. You yourself sound as though you actually resent giving oral -if he does it for you, then you will do it for him??? Maybe if he feels you are actually making love to him while down there, he will want to please you as well in the same way. It sounds as though these are just men you are seeing, by the on the couch, and in the car remarks you made, maybe respect has something to do with it. If you are with someone that cares for and about you, and you about him, men actually enjoy pleasing their woman , especially whe he knows she is giving every fiber of her being to and for him. Your dating with the wrong idea. Do not be going down on men you are just going out with, or don't let them be going down on you, keep your panties on honey until you find the man you know you are going to be with in a serious relationship!!!!!
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Posted: 7/8/2011 10:54:37 PM | I have heard similar complaints, but, personaly I have a hard time getting enough! Have always loved the taste of a woman! right out of the tub/shower is better though. If so then I like to be underneath and let her control the rythm. I pesonally thought it was common for men to like giving women pleasure orally.   | |
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Posted: 7/8/2011 11:25:28 PM | | I think that if women are willing to give head, then the men should be willing to give head back, but then again like you say that men don't like to give(or some men), will the same question can be how come if men are willing to eat a women out, how come those same women that like to get ate out hate giving head back in return, i think giving and getting head back in return is the right then, if you give you should get | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 1:38:44 AM | | I actually dont care whether or not I get head. Rather have a hand job to be perfectly honest....lol. As far as giving...its the best thing going...I love it, wanna do more of it. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 2:44:35 AM | 'As far as giving...its the best thing going...I love it, wanna do more of it.'
see? this is why really the 'double standard' thing is nonsense. As I previously stated I dont like giving oral on men as I have a high gag reflex or something, its a genuine problem lol. BUT, guys love doing it, who am I to deny them that right :) Like one of the first posters said and some others repeated its about compatibilty. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 6:28:58 AM |
Here's my question.. Now.. in my experience.. Men are ALWAYS down for recieveing oral.. in the car.. on the couch.. anywhere they can talk us into it at...
However.. these same men.. either refuse to return the favor completely.. claiming "It's disgusting" or intentinally go down for less then a minute..
Yet women are expected to completely finish the job as part of foreplay.. but men can't or won't?
I guess I just want honest opinions on the subject of expectations of oral.. both ways.. or why men are ok getting it.. but find giving it disgusting and wrong?
Thanks in advance:)
i am not one of those men. in fact, i think opposite. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 6:29:03 AM | | If a man won't do oral then he is missing out on one of the most wonderful things about foreplay! There is nothing better than having a woman have an orgasm orally. You have to take your time and make love to her orally but it is well worth the reward! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 7:38:14 AM |
(coxgirl) Here's my question.. Now.. in my experience.. Men are ALWAYS down for recieveing oral.. in the car.. on the couch.. anywhere they can talk us into it at...
However.. these same men.. either refuse to return the favor completely.. claiming "It's disgusting" or intentinally go down for less then a minute..
Yet women are expected to completely finish the job as part of foreplay.. but men can't or won't?
*shrug* You've been with the wrong men. Not braggin' or anything, but there isn't a champagne flute in my h0use that has a dirty bottom... 
Arlo... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 3:26:16 PM | theres plenty of selfish people an men out here..
YES there are men who wont go down either because thier scared or think its not thier place to "do that" or just because they dont want to or they think the fingers or just thier d ick will feel the same uh no it doesnt..an probably the same men who would blame you an say its your fault that they cheated on you or just be the emotionally dead type when it comes to love..
either way ive ran into men who have upfront said they dont or wont
these are things i try to find out early on in conversation now that im older
no its not the first thing out of my mouth but once im more comfortable with conversation an there is a mental an physical attraction between US both then i kinda fish around you have to see where somebody is at mentally an emotionally first off
i had guys in thier late 30's an even mid 40's say that they have always been scared or had 1 lil bad exsperience an never tried agian or just wont go there at all because they think it isnt the mans place to do that..but these are the same guys who will exspect you to perform for them or try the ol push ur head down trick which is funny because ive down that back to the ones who tried to do that to me an go figure they got mad o wow wonder why hypocrite..
hell i had 1 guy on here recently chatted with offline he was decent looking an seemed like he was looking for somebody to date so i casually asked how he felt about pleasing a woman in that area an he flat out said ewww hell no i leave that to the lesbians..
i said do wa? i said ur 35 an have never he said nope they stink to much i said ya probably the women uve been with had a stank but trust men can have a funk to ive came across some funky penis of men who didnt wash themselves so its not just women who can be that way...i asked i bet you like to get ur d ick sucked he said hell ya of course i do.. o whata surprise mr ewww i dont do that likes to get pleased but doesnt wanna please..to top an probably a bad lay in bed to..
then he asked if i was bisexual i said no what does that have to do with anything?,he says uh jus asking seems like everybody is nowadays i said an so what big deal i have bi an gay friends u got a problem with peoples sexuality now,anyhow i assume he thought just because i asked if he liked to please a woman that i must either be a lesbian or bi ya as if only bisexual an gay people like oral sex.what a retard..needless to say after that conversation i was done an over it.. glad i found out through conversation what kinda person he really was..
always listen to ur instint when chatting with people an ask certain questions as the conversation goes along..before having a regret of meeting or being with somebody who could turn out to be a emotionless selfish ass..in an out of the bedroom.. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 3:35:56 PM |
hell i had 1 guy on here recently chatted with offline he was decent looking an seemed like he was looking for somebody to date so i casually asked how he felt about pleasing a woman in that area an he flat out said ewww hell no i leave that to the lesbians..
i said do wa? i said ur 35 an have never he said nope they stink to much i said ya probably the women uve been with had a stank but trust men can have a funk to ive came across some funky penis of men who didnt wash themselves so its not just women who can be that way...i asked i bet you like to get ur d ick sucked he said hell ya of course i do.. o whata surprise mr ewww i dont do that likes to get pleased but doesnt wanna please..to top an probably a bad lay in bed to..
then he asked if i was bisexual i said no what does that have to do with anything?,he says uh jus asking seems like everybody is nowadays i said an so what big deal i have bi an gay friends u got a problem with peoples sexuality now,anyhow i assume he thought just because i asked if he liked to please a woman that i must either be a lesbian or bi ya as if only bisexual an gay people like oral sex.what a retard..needless to say after that conversation i was done an over it.. glad i found out through conversation what kinda person he really was..
STOP..
BLOCK..
ROLL on to someone else.
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Posted: 7/9/2011 3:55:39 PM | | For me, I'm A-O-K with returning the favor. I like to make sure the woman I'm with is recieving the same pleasure I am getting. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 4:19:33 PM | | Thats a shame. I personally love it and I will intiate it before the woman starts with me. You have to want to please your partner, have them wanting for more. It can be cultural. Many come from of a culture where women play a less role and they may believe its a womens duty to please a man. Some men are not experienced enough yet, and many just won't do it for one reason or another. Now on the other hand I have found women you want to be satisfied and have left me hanging. I am not talking about oral, but some of the more basic things, as coming to kiss me, touching etc.....like I said, you have to want to please each other. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 5:17:24 PM | | I dont understand this! I love licking a girl, couldnt think of anything better. Id do it for you any time and any place. Maybe the men you have been with are just not into it. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2011 6:34:09 PM | I love giving it until the women cums. I like rec ing also but isn't a requirement. | |
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