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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/19/2011 7:52:58 PM | | You probably fell for her too fast and showed your cards too quickly. Instead of staying**** and funny and charming, you probably turned into an emotional ball of sappy goo and started talking about a serious relationship with someone who was on the rebound. You turned into a little girl with marriage in your eyes and you lost your "fun, mysterious vibe" and her internal red flags went up and the "friend zone" appeared. Once that goes up it's pretty much impossible to get the "erotic tension" back. The only way out is to blow her off like you did the last time and do the opposite of what your feelings tell you. If you feel like calling her 20 times a day, then call her once during the week and ask her if you left your sunglasses in her car and don't ask how she is or tell her you miss her. She is probably used to being chased so a guy that she likes that doesn't fawn all over her will keep her excited. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/19/2011 8:00:32 PM | | I think you need to move on and let this one go. You don't want to be the fall back guy every time she breaks up with someone and until she finds someone new. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 8:12:28 AM | | Did I fall to hard? It is possible. She was the first to say I like you, I miss you, I think this is going to turn into something special, and even brought up me meeting her child. She pursued me and these are the types that I usually fall for because it requires less work on my part. I definitely wasn't emotional...actually quite far from it. I think that we just met at a bad time. I think that she does really like me but she is scared that I will eventually turn out like her ex. I have been in rebound relationships before but can tell she didn't hurt me on purpose, and if I was a rebound, it wasn't her intention for me to be one. It did happen too quick and we both fell hard. Problem is I was ready and she wasn't so she slammed on the breaks. Could this work in the future? Yes. But I am no way going to wait on her. Last time we spoke, which was 6 days ago, she seemed really depressed and it concerned me. I may shoot her a text today or tomorrow just to see how she is doing. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 8:39:14 AM | Chances are she is happy with you, but it could be a case of something in her life that she's not telling about that's preventing her from having you in an ideal world.
Ask yourself the question, will this be ongoing and eventually drive you mad?
Relationships get complicated as they grow, not start out that way.
No one should tell you what you should do. You're a grown man with feeling for the dream girl, but is she really worth it?
Good luck and I hope you work it out.  | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 9:27:05 AM | | I am not sure what her "really bad relationship" included but two things, if it was a really bad experience, it's going to take time to get past it and she probably has alot of anger in her. You don't want to be the one she takes that out on. Second, if she attempted to start something with you while she was still in a relationship, that shows dis-honesty and I wouldn't be comfortable starting a relationship with someone who I already know is capable of that.... | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 11:48:10 AM | | OP, People generally use the "I'm not ready for a relationship" line when they really mean "I'm just not that into you." Hard to face, but true. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 2:15:19 PM | Run, run away!
You are an option. Everything she said is a game to keep you from hating her while she yo-yo's.
One more reason not to......................................................................................................
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 4:01:02 PM | She's screwed up! Move on! What are you wasting your time with all that crap for. If that is what its like in the begining... think now really think: What will it be like down the road!
There is an old saying: When its not broke don't fix it, but when its broke its broke, throw it out!!!!
There are "Plenty of Fish" in the sea after all! | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 5:04:29 PM | OP,
"Girl, don't go away mad...girl, just go away!"* - Motley Crue
* POF'ers, feel free to sway out "girl" for "boy" when appropriate for your own dating dilemma. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/20/2011 5:12:51 PM | She is letting you drift away a little then reeling you back. She has you by the balls and knows it. If you relish drama,keep letting her mess with you.
My advice. Block,delete and ignore. Walk Away. Keep going .Do not hold onto hope. Grow a spine and tell her to get bent, | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/21/2011 12:27:57 PM | | The age difference should of told you she is not ready for you right now, she was sending you signals but you were not thinking with the head upstairs but the one on the bottom, wake up and smell the coffee, shes just not into you, and you should let it go, I know its hard but its better for you find someone around your age group that will appreciate for you. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/21/2011 3:11:56 PM | | You can't say that she wasnt that into me,.becausr of she wasn't,.we wouldnt have had sex,.went on a few dates, etc...Ooo | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/22/2011 12:57:40 PM | she sounds a little un-stable.... she isnt ready, so she expects you to what an undetermined amount of time until she is ready? really?
take a deep breath, count your losses, and close that chapter, and move on.... | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 8/2/2011 7:12:39 AM | | Look my friend life is Very Short and love is a Numbers game. You have to be a strong man and tell her that You are NOT gonna play any mind games of bullshit AND MEAN IT ! Tell her that if she does not make a commitment that you will start to look somewhere else for a wife And Mean it !! Women admire a strong man with firm heart . That reminds her that there are also a lot of fish in the sea for you !! Alwasy have a spare tire!! Never be a one woman man Until a woman makes a commitment to you . Always have a babe on the side to keep your dong satisfied until you actualy have a Wedding date. Always be 3 steps ahead of her in your plans. Look in the mirror and say with a good strong expression "the whimp is dead!! Now you are in charge Muther !! | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 8/2/2011 10:23:21 PM | | If a woman cheats on her boyfriend to hook up with me, then I already know how she treats her man. I don't want to stand in his shoes. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 8/3/2011 6:21:23 AM |
You can't say that she wasnt that into me,.becausr of she wasn't,.we wouldnt have had sex,.went on a few dates, etc...Ooo
You don't want to know what you should do about this girl. You're not hearing a freakin' word that's being said. You want to continue on with your rose colored glasses on and then we'll see you on here next month (and that's being generous) crying about how you were played.
Stalk her OP... force her to be yours... fight the other guy... give her money... look after her kid while she goes out with her "friends"...make her dinner... clean her house... maintain the pool (ha!)... paint her toe nails... brush her hair etc., etc., etc.
You might as well start now because that's what the life of a spineless man consists of.
Oh yeah, and, good luck! | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 8/3/2011 4:41:32 PM | | OP ...let this be a lesson ,.... never , never ,never get into a relationship with someone who just broke up ......PERIOD . | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 8/3/2011 7:33:25 PM | She was flirting by text with you when she was still in a relationship. Not really trustworthy IMO.
She introduced you to her child TWO weeks in? That's disturbing.
Every time I would bring up not speaking to her for a while or dating others she kinda freaks out.
I wouldn't think she has the right to "freak out" on you about anything at this early stage. Besides, don't talk about not talking. Just don't talk.
She sounds very high maintenance. | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 8/4/2011 1:18:27 AM | OP- get her in bed...go for her sexually after she ""says'" all this bs...
if she goes for it...then she really likes you/loves you...
if she rejects you...
move on and never talk to her again.
don't try to reason with her or ""figure out"" what she says...cuz she don't even know.
her bedding you is her litmus test... | |
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| What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 8/4/2011 8:30:27 AM | boon.... he already did that ^^^^ That's why he thinks she's "into him" is because she screwed him.
When in fact.... she could just be a slvt  | |
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