| | I haven't chosen POF yet.Page 5 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | I'm still deciding if I want to bother with POF.
I've had 3+ years of really, really okay success on another free site, one that I understand will get this post deleted or censored if I mention it.
So far I find POF almost impossible to use. The "Matching" is opaque, overwritten and useless. Smarter to rely on Cupid's arrows.
The huge majority of profiles are little more than "I'm down to earth, laid back and love having fun." giving no sense of the person and whether they might actually be interesting to meet--or whether they would care to meet me.
And then the filters on messages mean that fully half of the people I MIGHT consider messaging have me blocked. Because there's no differentiation between "married" and "polyamorous" to POF's filters.
Sadly, there's also no way here to hide someone. I look at a profile, see they are clearly disinterested/uninteresting, but I can't avoid seeing them over and over again in any search or random display. I have to just remember if I have looked at them before.
POF's censorship also seems very heavy handed. I've seen a word replaced with asterisks in a woman's profile because she mentioned a "cocktail dress." It read as "****tail."
That's just silly. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2011 9:10:36 AM | Oh sweet.
Before I posted my first topic, I read the rules. I stayed within them.
Just got the topic deleted with no explanation or recourse.
Censorious control freaks. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2011 9:33:14 AM | '6foot....'...Let me know what that other free site is...
The 3-week-old bread, here is getting rather dull...!!
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 10/23/2011 10:02:18 AM |
And then the filters on messages mean that fully half of the people I MIGHT consider messaging have me blocked. Because there's no differentiation between "married" and "polyamorous" to POF's filters.
Mosts woman on POF do NOT want Married Men to contact them .... duh....
Most woman prefer monogamy who are on POF
There are web site for people who want to CHEAT ... or looking for one-nighters but they cost money to join ... too cheap ????
Most of us want to find the right person for a relationship .... | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 10/23/2011 1:50:44 PM | Natgoat, I have heard that just mentioning that site here get your post deleted or censored. But it's much more OK in my book than pof. Try googling ok dating.
Hammer town, you dont know what you're talking about. I'm polyamorous, not cheating . There ARE women interested in at kind of dating, but pof offers no way to find that out. | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 10/23/2011 2:26:02 PM | It's the individuals setting their mail filters, so if you're blocked it means they don't want to meet married men, even if they and their wives are "polyamorous".
I'm slowly learning the forums aren't for what the forum users want it for. The site owners have a purpose, and if you stray far from that purpose things get deleted. Frustrating, but fair enough. It is their site, and it's free.
It's been a few years since I tried the other unmentionable free site (I guess this was when it was new), but I'll talk about it anyway. I found all the user-made quizzes cute at first but entirely useless. I saw nothing to make it worthwhile to keep using it over PoF, although I did notice more "open" relationship types looking around there. Not really my thing, but maybe that place is more suited to that.
Somewhere in your inbox here is a link to see who you've contacted if you think you might have seen someone before, but I don't know of a way to check if you've seen that person before.
Yeah, the Match feature here isn't very useful to me. I do like the "will respond" feature, though.
By the way, 6Foot3blonde, your jackhammer photo at first glance at the thumbnail looked like a guy grabbing his crotch. The jackhammer is masking your leg, and it looks like you have a yellow pant leg. Odd thumbnail photo! | |
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Posted: 10/23/2011 4:45:23 PM |
Hammer town, you dont know what you're talking about. I'm polyamorous, not cheating . There ARE women interested in at kind of dating, but pof offers no way to find that out.
The fact you are BLOCKED .. should tell you that are NOT interested in what you are looking for.
Any woman with one or more of these setting is NOT interest in what you are looking for:
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. (edit)
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be married | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 10/24/2011 8:44:01 AM | Aaah, so hammer, by extension, every woman who doesn't list "Must not be married" is happy to hear from married men, whether they're running around behind their wife's back or not?
Good to know, thanks for the tip. Handy of you to be able to speak for all women on POF too.
Also, amazing that you psychically know I'm interested in intimate encounters. You're completely wrong, by the way. But POF's limited, silly classifications make it impossible for me to actually select what I'm interested in.
Maybe you should find out what polyamory is before you go on about what poly people want. | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 10/24/2011 8:48:22 AM | ..ITS FREEE..and if its FREEE its for me!
actually not really the best site because its free it does attract every weirdo out there (not to say there aren't any on the paying sites) ... the genuine ones have a struggle on here because of that | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 10/24/2011 9:10:10 AM |
Aaah, so hammer, by extension, every woman who doesn't list "Must not be married" is happy to hear from married men, whether they're running around behind their wife's back or not?
Good to know, thanks for the tip. Handy of you to be able to speak for all women on POF too.
Also, amazing that you psychically know I'm interested in intimate encounters. You're completely wrong, by the way. But POF's limited, silly classifications make it impossible for me to actually select what I'm interested in.
Maybe you should find out what polyamory is before you go on about what poly people want.
Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 4/30/2012 3:22:24 AM | Although an old thread I’ll add my 2.5 cents worth. I’d have to agree with most of the responses that having an opportunity to message each other free is a big factor against all the “trial memberships” or “free to create a profile” but asks for your credit card to send or receive a reply when you simply want to offer a truthful compliment or strike up a conversation.
In addition, because my time is so limited right now, it simply doesn’t make a lot of sense to pay for memberships when I wouldn’t realistically have the time to give a new relationship the attention it would deserve, but am still interested in being sociable and meeting new people and beginning casual friendships as I have time. In fairness I’ll probably later create a basic profile at some of the other top sites for comparison and for research on features available that go hand-in-hand with a couple projects I’m working on – but would give them a subtle suggestion that if they really want to get to know me better or just make small talk they can do it without paying for it by meeting me here. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2012 2:05:43 PM | Since 2004, I've been a member of the following dating sites & I closed my accounts all last October 2011. However, I was on these sites various times for various years but, all in all, I began my online journey in 2004:
American Singles, Lavalife, Chemistry, Match, Eharmony, Singlesnet, Christian Mingle, Catholic Match, Zoosk, , true.com, meetup.com (groups), bigpeople.co.uk, bbwpersonals.com, etc...and I am still though, a member of many, many band forums (that's b/c concert-going & collecting records & travelling for bands is a major hobby of mine).
I could write a book on all of the money, time, energy & experiences spent on these sites. Some good, some not so good but, all in all, I've learned a great deal of myself & about dating & some personality types men have in general.
I joined POF as another "option" really, just to give it a go & see where it'll take me.
As I've learned though, some features of a personal destiny aren't meant to be. That's why I'm kind of cynical & will not open myself to expectation or anticipation b/c I've been so heartbroken (& plainly STUPID) before. Maybe I am just not meant for love & marriage b/c some patterns & designs for destiny aren't materialized in the fabric for which is appropriate for the attire... That, is exactly what I'm beginning to learn based upon all of my experiences since 2004 but, I can fully say, I've learned alot & my heart is STILL OPEN for love despite the fact of all of my past rejections & failures.
I wish though, seriously speaking, everyone great luck on this site & here's hoping you meet the person you've been waiting for.
Cheers. | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 5/2/2012 7:27:22 PM | | It seems so long ago, but initially, I chose POF because you could post music on your profile. I loved listening to people's music choices while reading their profiles. Miss that, but I have an endless curiosity for the Forums. Additionally, there are more men on this site who will at least make attempts at communication. I also like because of all the self-input questions that can match you up, but not many people in my nook of the woods use it. | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 5/2/2012 10:50:34 PM | The only reason I use PlentyOfFish is because it's free and has a very large user-base. That aside, I've not been impressed by the quality of profiles and women I've so far encountered. True, I've only been signed up for a day - in that time, I've met one girl who seems pretty cool, and quite a few who have been making me have second thoughts about online dating. This one girl kept sending me really dull and desperate messages along the lines of "hi" and "oh i guess u dont want to talk huh." I never responded to her, and now I'm starting to receive more to the extent of, " i guess i must be too good for u blah blah blah."
I blocked her, but have not encountered this level of stupid persistence on ! or other free dating sites. She wasn't a bad-looking girl, but didn't seem very bright. That also seems to be a trend I've noticed here - I hate to sound like a jerk, but many of the college-aged girls I see on here are either fairly ignorant or unattractive. There are definitely exceptions, but I find myself far more impressed by what I regularly find on ! than here.
As you can probably tell, I've only tried here and ! ! is decent, but there seem to be way more men than women in any given area, so initiating conversation can sometimes be more tricky than it seems here. If ! had more users in my area, I think I'd probably cut my relationship with PoF off pretty quickly.
---> Didn't realize this forum had censors. Whatever. I assume people can probably figure out what I was talking about, as there aren't terribly many big free dating sites. | |
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| Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 5/6/2012 6:33:27 PM | Since I've always been rather cynical about the efficacy of online dating, I certainly wasn't going to PAY for a service that might not even work...so I signed up for POF, which is free.
The other (major) sites...well, they're either run by religious cooks or huge corporations, or both. No thanks. | |
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