| | Gettting no where with this site?Page 2 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | I've never offered myself up to the tender mercies of the profile review forum, my need for additional pain is zero however I think I have a useful insight into the mind of mature babes.
They want to know what your dreams are, not dreams when you are sleeping, but the future stuff. I recall a date with an unusually attractive, assertive woman where in the first minute she asked outright what my dream was? I was flumoxed and stammered and I could see the already tiny spark of interest vanish from her eyes. It was humiliating but useful to me as a person.... most of my dreams were small, unattractive to women, and more consistent with career burnout and a desire to live a life of ease except for more golf.
I'm not a babe but I suspect your profile reads to women like a guy without dreams (beyond the Old Course and Dodger seats on the 3rd baseline). | |
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Posted: 8/14/2011 7:38:58 PM | I have been on here for several months and get pretty much the same thing. I have no desire to share my message here as others will surely use it and I need all the help I can get.
I KNOW I have a very unique profile as well.
One of the things I am amazed at is the level of toxic, misanthrope dregs of society kind of people that DO respond. I have had to call the police on several women for harrassment through disturbing and threatening phone calls all after I simply tell them, "I am not interested now please refrain from further contact".
Real class!
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Posted: 8/15/2011 5:48:58 PM | Okay I looked at your profile . I 'll tell you what my opinion is,
first pictures should be you having fun but should be able to see your face full frame and some angles .
I personally dont like pics of guys with other women Idk who that is and I dont want too. makes you look like a player .
Second you have allot written in your profile. Whats left to find out during the date?
I didn't bother reading it all .
Three ,Never sound negative anything posted in your profile should not be perceived as negative because thats a downer .
I havent talk to you yet i dont wanna feel bad already.
Short sweet upbeat and look sexy it may help you get your foot in the door.
Just My opinion  | |
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Posted: 8/17/2011 12:35:13 AM | hows your game/interaction with chicks on here
you focusing too much on the outter..
post a sample of your conversation on here
try making fun of 20 women a day, not insulting but joke with them, i bet you'll get diff response. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2011 12:38:26 AM | pics are important.. pick a celebrity you closely resemble and go for that. I know that sounds stupid but that's how damn superficial it is out there - the pics i got on right now don't pull anything.
Stupid doesn't quite cover it. It sounds like a major rule violation that could result in your profile being removed from the system. Please do NOT upload photos that are not of you.
its all a game
btw / this is from hours and hours of trial and error .
gotta ask yourself..
conform?
or less chicks.
when you take photos, try to look like brad pitt. sounds stupid but first thing a chick sees is your main pic, and most of the time she' sjust gonna skip it if yo don't look model worthy.
think brad pitt.
hmm I think thats it for now. btw im not model worhty as you can see, i've taken good photos in the past and noticed a HUGE difference when you try to look like any other hollywood prettty boy homo - i gues thats what cali girls want, 'pretty boys'
not my style
thats it all for now. LOL. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2011 2:51:58 PM | Golfcoast: you leave a lot to learn. What probably will scare some women are the words spoken, however, no changes are necessary since the woman will need to accept you and not try to change you. Not every woman knows psephology is Political Science. I knew because of my education. For you just saying, "I'm into politics" isn't enough. I mean that in a nice way, Golfcoast.
Activities are: sailing, travel, art, reading, movies....not too much listed at all.
A contrast: looking for long term. Long term what since the profile also states, "No relationship or commitment".
Add a few pictures as yourself. Not to sell yourself. Have one of you sailing or golfing? Add it. You need a face pic. The side is nice. You look happy, serene, in thought.
My profile leaves a lot to be critic'd. Especially photos. But I will be the one to decide what I put up soon.
OP just change your profile to positive. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2011 3:33:10 PM | | If POF was a movie, Golfcoast would be played by Clint Eastwood, he has that loner thing going on, a man who says a lot with few words. The same kind of squinty-eyed character that made Eastwood famous. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2011 7:07:51 PM | LOL Sighs ^5 I had an unusual encounter with Clint, or someone close to Clint many years ago. For me it is the source of hours of stories, for Clint I'm sure it's a snarl and lip curl long forgotten.
I'm really not in the pond these days, I've been dating a lovely Brazilian gal who accepts me probably because she has the advantage of not understanding about 90% of what I say but her English is improving and there is always a possibility I'll once again be thrown into the cold cruel dating pool again. Our communication is simple and without room for serious miscommunication since I am all guy i.e., have simple needs, and she has an uncomplicated nature that I love. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2011 4:13:49 PM |
I had an unusual encounter with Clint, or someone close to Clint many years ago.
Sorry but this begs to be asked: which was it, Clint or someone else?
Just seems that if one met such a high-profile public figure as Clint Eastwood that there would be no question as to who they actually met.
just askin'...
Kudos on your new current dating lady. She sounds lovely and a great match for you, GC.  | |
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Posted: 8/18/2011 4:25:42 PM | Didn't read any of the previous post so ...
first of all go back to your profile and take out all the negative stuff. Make your profile pleasant to read. After that it's all about the pictures
Try new primary pics often. Ask your girl friends at work which one they like. I promise you ..... with a good pic your profile could be blank and you will still get emails. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2011 4:52:35 PM | Mz it was all of the above. The details are gossipy and will be in my memoirs send $19.95 for an advance copy lol)
And thank you for the kind words (I think:). It's a strange thing, matches. We are probably socialized by movies and TV and our parents to imagine it has one and only one form. Then we watch foreign movies and see other possibilities. Then we meet other people find it easier to invent new possibilities. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2011 4:20:28 AM | Well I see many things wrong with this message...
desperate smiley for one, lol.
If your here for to get into a sexual encounter, there is a problem there...not many girls want that sort of thing and the ones that do probably have something that you can contract later and...yeah won't be pleasant.
It's gonna take longer than a month to be interested or get interested in...so be patient ...cause its a virtue...
And we can smell the desperation ...try something a little more ...well less desperate and something more you and real... | |
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Posted: 8/20/2011 12:16:51 AM |
We are probably socialized by movies and TV and our parents to imagine it has one and only one form. Then we watch foreign movies and see other possibilities. Then we meet other people find it easier to invent new possibilities.
Perhaps, allowing that some don't necessarily need to "invent" possibilities to connect with any viable person that they just plain "click" with in reality. Attraction is met on many levels, regardless of the origins of the 2 involved. The 2 main men in my post-divorce dating life were very different from both me and themselves, yet they both melded and blended deliciously with my personal background. At least they both spoke and understood my brand of English, such as it is.
And thank you for the kind words (I think:)
Honestly, accept my respects.
Why do you suspect my well wishes as other than...well wishes? | |
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Posted: 9/19/2011 9:52:16 PM | You seem like a sweet guy and all but...god this may sound harsh...like MZ said a while back, online dating should be an option...there are so many places to meet people outside of the internet, bar/club, etc. I cant even tell you how often I am approached at the bar by guys or get the same generic "Hey sexy" message from guys on here.
There is a whole world out there!! You can meet girls at the park, concerts, the beach...we live in CA! There are so many places to meet people...try getting more involved in something you are passionate about and maybe you will find someone that way.
I can usually tell if a guy is only into meeting girls online and to be honest, it's kind of a turn off....I don't want to date a guy who doesn't get out...you are an attractive guy, I'm sure you will find someone soon :) | |
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Posted: 9/22/2011 5:25:19 PM | | this site is lame and stupid. there is something very wrong when an average guy can be alone for years, and never get messaged once on this site. while an average girl can get 100 messages in a week. the pendulam has swung way over to the female side. **** that. **** the stupid girls on this site. california girls are the worst. **** POF | |
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Posted: 9/22/2011 8:13:22 PM |
There is a whole world out there!! You can meet girls at the park, concerts, the beach...we live in CA! There are so many places to meet people...try getting more involved in something you are passionate about and maybe you will find someone that way.
She's right Ya KNOW!
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Posted: 9/23/2011 2:47:35 AM | | I have been on and off this site since 2005 and nothing has changed. I hop on once in a while to see if there are any new women I'm interested in, message them to the best of my ability and move on. The entire time I've been on this site, I've probably only gotten 3 replies that actually got to a meeting in person but none went anywhere other than friendship. Really I think it's just a numbers game. There are only so many women you will be attracted to in your area and out of those women there might be a small percentage attracted to you. Once you message them all, you're out of luck. Meeting women in the real world is still number one in my opinion. So all I can say is not to take this site too seriously. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2011 2:18:44 PM | | I think that our morals and values have change dramatically here in Califonira. I'm not sure if it is how we are raised or how we teach our selves. Do we take for granted most then others, I'm not sure. However, I have seen a lot of changes over the years as I get older and I think that it's hurting our society. Because of the changes that is accuring. This could also be a reason why whe look at people differently | |
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Posted: 9/24/2011 4:43:42 PM | | The sad truth , at least my version of it, is that you can write something so good on your profile that the words would jump off the screen and rip through someone's rib cage and squeeze the breath out of their lungs. Something so painful, yet satisfying. A complete contradiction. But it won't matter. Even the few sentences in the message that took you minutes to write, won't matter. It's a numbers game, and the odds are in their favor. I've changed my profile several times to try and improve my chances to no avail. So I've left it with some nonsensical diatribe about how peanuts are denied love. Most messages I send are becoming nonsensical too. It's a miracle the human race breeds, let alone has become overpopulated. Then again, the world is full of idiots. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2011 5:11:56 PM | | I agree, no matter how how many time you try to revise your profile. It's a sad thing when there are to many picky individuals. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2011 9:17:14 AM | | Don't feel bad, there are 20x men to women ratio on this and most dating sites so women are obscenely PICKY and demanding. Even more so than in real life. Just get out and meet people that helps me a lot. If I depended on POF for dates, I would get depressed mighty quick! I use it like an option- if I meet someone cool, thats all good, if not, the forums provide entertainment. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2011 9:45:42 AM | It's a miracle the human race breeds, let alone has become overpopulated. Then again, the world is full of idiots.
Sadly I have come to the same conclusion. I see it everyday with horrible parents and the way they treat their kids. One of my favorite lines from a movie:
"You know, Mrs. Buckman, you need a license to buy a dog, to drive a car - hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they'll let any butt-reaming a$$hole be a father."
As for POF: it's just another tool to meet women, I'm mainly here now for the forums. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2011 2:54:07 PM | OP
you really should have a clear face shot (no helmet) as your main profile pic. Actually I think that's the rule
I've been dating a lovely Brazilian gal who accepts me probably because she has the advantage of not understanding about 90% of what I say but her English is improving and there is always a possibility I'll once again be thrown into the cold cruel dating pool again.
 
That's both funny and tragic ;) Hey you have one more lovely Brazilian girl then I do! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2011 9:31:39 PM | Emphasizing positives is good but you can't always put you're hobbies, intellectual pursuits, knowlege, life experience into a catch phrase hook, though it is good advice, i would take it with a grain of salt. It also has a huge potential to be abused and end up disapointing people or worse.
I rather stick with simple and honest rather then inflated bs....
The truth is, for whatever reasons it is unreasonably hard for average guys to get dates with even average girls.
To say this is the guys fault is wrong.
I think women use online dating as a place to stroke there egos and fantasy-play more then finding real dates.
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Posted: 9/25/2011 10:15:13 PM | Yes, it's hard. I've come to realize that you can't use online dating as a main way of meeting people. Just using online dating as another source, but mainly go outside and try to meet women. I've had the same issues. I've had women message me first, with basically just a "hi" or your profile seems "interesting" or something along those lines, the exact same thing women complain about men with their generic messages, yes hypocritical I know. Then you get a woman message you first, indicating that she really wants to get to know a guy in person, you try to find a connection and discuss something about her profile and suggest meeting in person to try to get to know each other better, and blam, she no longer messages you. But I'm sure it's the same with guys, you just have to weed through all that, but I don't recommend using a website as a main source for dating, because you probably won't get anywhere.
Also men and women are not that different. It's true. Some women will indicate on their profiles that they're looking for something meaningful, but it's all nonsense. Some women are not looking for a serious relationship, they only put it on their profile, because it makes a woman look bad to say she doesn't want something serious. In other words, women also lie on their profiles. Trust me, I know from personal experience, but I'm not going to discuss it here. You don't know someone, until you meet that person. Don't wait emailing back and forth for more than a week, because once you meet that person, it's completely different. You don't learn anything about anyone until you meet. | |
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