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| | If a guy is dating a girl who has kids, should he help her out financially?Page 11 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) |
One guy I dated would say things like "good thing you have a rich boyfriend who will buy you cable" and it would really piss me off.
Had the same thing.. it really is quite insulting! | |
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| If a guy is dating a girl who has kids, should he help her out financially?
Posted: 7/11/2012 8:08:51 AM | | I am a single parent and have been since I was pregnant. (left my husband and then discovered I was pregant, happy days). I have raised my daughter single handed for the past fifteen years. I have a full time career, my own house/s, my own money, my own food and my own mind. No I dont want a man to come into my life and provide for us, I can do that for myself. What I do however expect is respect from him that I do this single handed, can pay for myself on a night out and otherwise................I dont want a man who thinks he can help himslef to my time, my money and my daughters upbringing. Most men I meet however tend not to have what women have these days, i.e, their own job, car, house, independence and otherwise. Sad but true ! | |
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| If a guy is dating a girl who has kids, should he help her out financially?
Posted: 7/11/2012 1:18:25 PM |
Kids are also brats in many people's eyes.....because of a lack of discipline by the parent who feels their kid(s) is an "angel". Go anywehere these days, and youll see some brats running around, doing something they shouldnt be doing, thats on the parents for their lack of discipline. Not every kid is an angel, if you think that way, you need to take a dose of reality pills.
So, address those particular children, and those particular parents. Do not walk around with a lack of respect for precious little people who have done nothing to you. Being hateful towards children because they are children, suggests that you may potentially be a danger to children. I do hope you have enough self control to not actually harm one.
To disrespect adults, buy doing things to disrespect them is not only equally as "disgusting" but also insulting. Yet, parents allow their children to do this, like my mom used to say, if you dont want it done to you, DONT do it to someone else. Pot/kettle indeed.
There is a huge difference between a hateful adult, and an innocent sweet child.
Yes, pot meet kettle. I guess the new saying shouls be "dont tell the kettle not to call the pot black:.
To place your kid(s) on a pedestal as if they're the sweetest, most innocent kid ever, is just plain delusional, and you need to seek SERIOUS pschiatric help. Also, your life is even sadder that you have to prop up your kids existance and many achievements to bolster YOUR immense ego.
Yes, being a loving Mother who cherishes the life i created, is just delusional. I should be a bitter child hater.
My kids existence is intertwined with mine. My family is my world. Which means that the existence of myself, my man, and my children's existences are all of utmost importance. Too bad you never had a family that shared the kind of love & devotion that mine does. But, thats what loving families do.
of course, it's called "having thick skin". What you're talking about DOES happen in todays society, and where is the parent to discipline the kid and tell them what they're doing is wrong/disrespectful, and disgusting? Oh thats right, at the store, buying them another useless gadget they dont need(when kids are carrying around ipods/ipds/cell phones, etc, they're doing too much, NO kid should have a cell phone, and tons of other gadgets. NO kid should be sitting on his/her ass at home playing video games, and getting fat and lazy. Thats the PARENTS job to get those kids outside and get them involved in sports and just exercising. NOT potentially living off the govt in about 20 yrs, bc they cant seem to lift anything but a fork to their mouthes
If you are completely ok with people putting down your family.....okayyyy then. I find that bizarre, but meh, not my family. Perhaps that was the norm where you were raised, and putting down the the most scared things to a persons heart was just par for the course.
What do you care if kids have cell phones or ipods or whatever little technological things that are out there? How does that hurt your life? It is entirely possible to have those things, and not sit around the house all day. (most of those things are portable, and can be slipped in ones pocket). It is not up to you to decide what children can have, and not have.
And, well, not to be rude, but you really dont appear to be the poster child for fitness, so the comment about kids not being able to do anything but lift a fork to their mouths, is a bit, incredulous.
I guarentee my children could outrun you, and take you down if you tried to attack them, with a ipod in their ear and a cell phone in their hand the whole time.
Thanks for your unkind words about everyone else NOT named you. Im glad Im not in your family, or related to YOU.
Me too. In my family and home, respect for our loved ones and others loved ones is a core value.
Its also very UNCLASSY for you to come on a message board, and try telling other people how to live their lives, or trash them b/c their beliefs are not yours.......
Tell me more.......do go on.
Alot of us werent raised that way, maybe you were in your "trashy neighborhoods", but we werent.
Yes, and it shows, when a bunch of middle aged haters come on and try to build their own lonely bitter ego's by insulting innocent little people, and the parents who love them. I suggest you do not attempt this in the "real world", because if you ever act on your hate and actually go out and hurt a child, if the parents & relatives of that child dont shred you alive fist, your cellmates in prison will. And rumor on the street is, even the most hardened criminals dont like people who hurt kids, and most people who do hurt kids dont come out of prison alive.
Keep that in kind if any of y'all child haters gets the urge to act out on the hateful urges in public, on a real live child. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 7:01:03 PM |
ave you looked @ yourself in the mirror lately honey? from the looks of YOUR avatar pic, your arms are bigger than most guys I know who work out alot, thats scary. S please dont talk to me about being overweight, ok
I never denied i was big, and am obiously not ashamed of it either, but for a very large person like yourself, you may want to work on yourself before you start ranting the obesity of the nation. (and my children are not obese)
I suggest...if you dont want to get sued for EVERY F*&^%$ DIME YOU, YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS, RELATIVES, or ANYONE ELSE you know has, you'll stop with the accusations/slander or you WILL get sued.
We will all notify our banks of this matter as soon as possible.
. What you're doing IS SLANDER, and i will be alerting the mods
U MAD BRO? Aww why u mad bro?
and CPS in your local area about you & your posts
Florida DCF is the office you will want to speak with
. You're so dumb, you'll probably continue on, giving me even more stuff to use against you in court. Hope you and your "sweet little angel" kids like sleeping in your car, or on the street, as I may decide to sue you for so much $$$, your kids, kids, kids, kids will owe me.
Ok big guy, we will go throw some mattresses in the back of our vehicles now, and let the sheriff know i am expecting papers.
ou realize you have to pay for my airline ticket and hotel for me to come to whatever trailerpark it is you live in, and wtach your kids try to beat me?
Even if you could roll out of your trailer to do so, i, nor my childrens other family members, would not allow you around my children,and certainly hope the parents in your area dont either.
You're propping up your crum crunchers as 'angels" when we all know they're not.
You know my "crum crunchers" personally?
. Ive got it, why did your man leave you/do you wrong/etc
The man I was married to & had my family with, died from kidney problems. The man I am with now, is sleeping in our bed.
Consider yourself reported to the mods.. psycho woman.
Oh please no, anything but that.
(I think U MAD BRO ;) ) | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 8:57:58 AM | I think this thread was a case of a guy trying to make himself look good by making a thread about how he's willing to pay his date. As though treating single moms like they're prostitutes makes him look more endearing.
And Terra's post on the first page confirmed a lot of the suspicions I had about him. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 4:50:55 PM |
Honey, ALL parents say their brats arent "obese", most are. Im sure yours are too.
No, they are not. My eldest actually looks like a strong wind could blow her away.
Please do...and have them write the check out to me ok?
Ok......will let the banks know to dispense funds to your lawyer for BigJeff being internet butthurt because he thinks being hateful to kids is cool.
Already have, and forwarded them your insane/delusional posts, Im sure you'll be hearing from them soon.
Well......where are they? Florida DCF has to began an abuse/neglect investigation within 24 hours of a report.
They must be lazy and dropped the ball. Might want to call them back.
No problem big woman, might need to get a new set of shocks once your done, from carting your large carcass around town so much.
If you are going to insult people for being fat, you might want to....you know, not be extremely obese yourself. Just sayin. Put down the KFC bucket and McDonalds bag yourself, and I might be able to take your fattie comments seriosuly.
oh, "Kidney problems"? More like 'I got sick of listening to/dealing with queensweetness,herugly/fat kids, and paying the bills while she sits home and stuffs her big mouth on my dime Problems"......is more like it. (just admit it and move on)
Actually, he was madly in love with me, and loved being a Husband and Father. Thats why he married me and made a family with me.
But yeah, you totally got down to the real truth. I must have seduced him with my womanly ways, hypnotised him into marrying me and making babies, then quit my job to sit at home and eat twinkies and let the kids run wild (ewww) while the poor guy decided he would make his diabetes get real bad and shut down his kidneys to get away from it all. You are such a little genius getting to the bottom of all that.
ugly/fat kids
That really proves my point that you have some sort of seeded hatred towards children, to say such a thing about ANY child, especially when it is not even true and you dont even know said children.
Precisely why i most certainly hope that anyone who knows you in person keeps their children away from you in the event that one day you act out on your hate, and pray that no child becomes a victim to you or any other person who hates children and wants to take their bitterness out on them.
Im sure you'd get off on that wouldnt you?(about the only way you could nowadays)
Ewww. No, not really, I use my boyfriend for those sorts of things. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 7:27:05 PM |
Never said all crum crunchers. You probably cant afford to feed her, b/c you're too busty shoveling stuff down.
You have stated that most children are obese brats. And yes, you are right, we starve her. We toss her in the corner with stale bread and water while the rest of the family gathers at the dining room table and dines on filet mignon and lobster.
You really should call DCF back and add that to your report.
being hateful to what kids? Not all kids, just YOUR kids...
You have made hateful comments towards kids in general, as well as parents.
Do you feel like a "man" being hateful to kids whom you have never met, know nothing about, and are innocent human beings. You are totally awesome and the epitome of cool, acting trashy to a sweet little girl and a precious little autistic boy, who are MINORS. They are a lot nicer than you are. Your morals and class shine through.
Not sure, Im sorry i dont know their schedules.
When you make a report, you recieve the office number and cell # of the district worker conducting the investigation.
You need to call and tell them they are not doing their job. They must be laying around shoveling twinkies, because they have not arrived in the time frame that they are required to. Better get on that.
You could tell all that by 1 picture could you? Im not "extremely" anything....but your arms, belly and mouth are "extremely" large, that I CAN tell from corresponding here, and your picture. Im in better shape than you are.
You appear to be a very obese man, even from one photo. if you are secretly a ripped, buff, gorgeous and fit male underwear model, please do prove me wrong and post another photo. Unlike you though, I am proud of who/what am, and make no bones about being fat, and I own it. If you owned what you are, instead of being in denial, you might like yourself more.
LOL, no "hatred" towards anything, but YOUR rug rats, as they're most likely crum crunchers and brats.
Again, why do you feel the need to be horrid to minor children, whom you know nothing of, have never met or interacted with? Be careful about doing that in the "real world" out on the streets of the general public. The internet is one thing but if you commit a hateful act out in public towards a child, if you are not shredded alive before prison, the inmates most certainly will.
Overall, I like kids, just not bratty kids, and ALOT of kids are both bratty and obese
So if you know some bratty obese children personally, perhaps be an actual adult and go talk to their parents about it, or just stay away from them if the parents are not open to addressing the problem, rather than just stew in bitterness and hatred.
A lot of adults are bratty, and these so called crum crunchers are far more mature than they are.
Im sure it makes him ill just thinking about it......kind of revolting ttytt
Yes, he is totally revolted by me. I disgust him. So much in fact, he cant stay away, and sticks around and always comes back for more opportunities to be revolted. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 12:24:59 PM | If a man wants to date a woman who happens to be a Mom for long term, he can be expected to take them on some family outings, even if it is inexpensive.
In the animal kingdom, a Mama Bear defends her cubs when they are threatened. So does a human who is a good Mother. If a man does not want to deal w/ kids, he should not date mothers & keep his antipathy to himself- IF HE IS SMART ;0P
Ladies, raise the bar for both yourselves & your children.
Society as a whole needs to raise it's bar as well, or we become worst than animals. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 2:33:41 PM | My last relationship of 7 years ended on christmas day last year. We never lived together, he lived with his parents and I lived in rented accomodation. I never asked for or expected a penny from him, when it was offered, it was refused. My children, my life, my house, my bills, my responsibility.
He would stay at weekends and come for dinner a few times a week, and for this I did expect a few pounds toward groceries, but nothing more. On nights out I would insist we went dutch, and I did not expect presents for my children or myself.
Unfortunatly my lease came to an end and I was becoming homeless, he went and bought a house, cash, for us all to live in. Then things changed, He became a monster, a control freak, and a jailer. We couldn't put a foot wrong, he assumed he owned us and would frequently tell me to 'pack my s**t up and get out', if we didn't do what he said.
So the moral of my story is, Carry on Paying for myself all the way! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 3:13:49 PM |
If a man wants to date a woman who happens to be a Mom for long term, he can be expected to take them on some family outings, even if it is inexpensive.
No problem with this premise....and I am sure his children will be included in the outing?
After all once you get to this age I am sure there are kids or children on both sides of the table....
Ladies, raise the bar for both yourselves & your children.
Agree wholeheartedly....as after all equality in the work place and equality in society insures woman are equally capable ....even if not willing to be just as financially responsible and capable of contributing towards the relationship....I have children and I have paid for them for years....and would never expect another woman to pay their expenses or costs....I just do not want to be saddled with another woman who is unable to pay her way ......and with 50% of custodial woman unwilling or unable to work full time...we need to raise the bar and avoid the money pits. ......After all the money we earn should be going to our children....not some mother who is unable to manage her own financial requirements.
Society should start expecting the same standard of accountiblity for both genders. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 6:23:11 PM | ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Society should start expecting the same standard of accountiblity for both genders.
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Agreed. Which means both the mother and the father have to stay in the child life and support the child emotionally, physically and financially.
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After all the money we earn should be going to our children
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Yes it should.. but using a little on yourself isn't something to me lambasted over as long as the kids needs are met.
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as after all equality in the work place and equality in society insures woman are equally capable
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Mostly... women still make less then men do.. but we're getting there. And yes women would be just as capable of earning an income they can achieve financial independence with IF the father sticks around and helps raise the child properly (which includes financially). It doesn't mean that a woman can't do it on her own, without the father being there, but it will be a much less bumpy road and perhaps it will keep a single mother and her child off welfare. Since the father will be there supporting the child and helping raise them and sharing the costs associated with raising them. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 12:55:45 AM | Dating? No. If you're merely dating someone with kids, while it's nice to pay if you've invited to take the whole family somewhere (especially if you know it's outside the mother's normal financial range), you're not OBLIGATED to help them out financially.
If you decided to marry a woman (or a man) with children, and you move in together, you're taking on the responsibility of these kids same as if you had born them yourself, which means yes, you should be helping out in the sense of groceries, clothing, etc.
Obviously the mother (or father) should never be relying solely on you to cover the financial burden of having kids even if you marry them, but you did make that conscious decision to be with someone knowing they have "extras", so don't be a cheapskate!
My brother's wife has three kids from her first marriage, and he has his own daughter. How would either of them feel if the other decided, oh I'm only paying for what MY kid uses. It's a ridiculous notion. | |
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