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 LoginID123
Joined: 7/22/2011
Msg: 26
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Open a GoogleVoice account. You'll get a phone #. You can text from your laptop and she won't be the wiser. And if you have a smartphone, you can download the app & text her from both computer & cellphone.

That's what I usually do. Then, when they've graduated to being a 'safe' person, I give them the cellphone #. If they ask why the 2nd #, I just tell them that I don't get a signal in my office & GoogleVoice works anywhere. (which is the truth.)

My ex is a very charming sociopath, so I do have my reasons.
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 27
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/4/2011 11:31:48 AM
u gonna travel back & forth to CA. to see this broad??
 Ur1andOnly287
Joined: 7/27/2011
Msg: 28
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/4/2011 5:22:05 PM
This is what I do. I give them my Google Voice # and talk and text from that. Nowadays you can't go around just giving your personal cellphone number to people.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 29
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/4/2011 8:29:27 PM
I am feeling wary about her. SHe may be an illegal immigrant at best or a stalker or worse.....Cant you block your cell number when you call anyone??Surely there is a code for that??? You havent seen a pic yet??? You are attracted?? I dont get it.
You do sound rather naive......Why not contact other girls with less complications
or do you like a bit of intrigue and mystery.

 OctaveC
Joined: 9/28/2010
Msg: 30
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/5/2011 7:01:02 AM
How do you think she would text a pic to me if I blocked my number?

Obviously there are pictures on her profile. The point of her sending me one was to verify that her profile is real.

If I'm naive what does that say about you?
 RuthsStudent
Joined: 7/20/2011
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/5/2011 9:48:27 AM
Perhaps the two of you could use Skype, Yahoo Messenger, or MSN Messenger for voice chat. If not, use *67 when you call her so that your number is blocked. Using the number block can sometimes fail, though, as it did when I was on the phone with someone. His cell phone dropped the call for a split second and my line automatically redialed his without the block, so he got my number anyway.
 RuthsStudent
Joined: 7/20/2011
Msg: 32
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Posted: 8/5/2011 9:49:41 AM
Okay, I just saw that you don't want to block your number. Well, in that case, email and messengers are a good idea.
 johnnyj218
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 33
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/5/2011 10:29:32 AM

I just find it strange that she could be from California and her English be somewhat broken.


What! Are you serious? You obviously have never been here. We have every ethnicity in the world living in this state and english is slowly becoming the second language. Sad but true.
 Prof78
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 34
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/5/2011 12:16:17 PM
Answer to your question: NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.

I would continue chatting on POF for a week or so if you're still interested. I'd arrange to meet at a specific time and place but I would NOT give my phone number, or e-mail address or even add her on Facebook. You don't know this person. Once I gave my e-mail address to an anonymous ``person`` like in your situation and she disappeared from the dating site I was on and kept sending me publicity garbage via e-mails.

I once went out with a woman who gave me her phone number awfully fast, it happens, but I find it unsafe in most situations.

Her ``You'll have to take a chance`` answer seems fishy. She should have said ``I respect the fact you're being careful, we can always continue chatting on POF if you want``. Her answer kind of sounded childish. You don't know, this could be a twelve year old having fun in her basement.

I usually meet in person first, if my gut feeling is good during the meeting I give out my phone number.

The worst that can happen? Some nut calling you at 3 in the morning, or your personal information being used for dishonest purposes. Not to scare you, man, but there are a lot of flakes out there ...

Dan
 dreamnexus
Joined: 7/18/2011
Msg: 35
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/11/2011 5:29:50 PM
Prof78 I agree with you ... it's not safe. You can get a person's name and address for a nominal fee with a reverse phone number lookup. Can't you even locate them through GPS on the smart phones?

"You'll have to take a chance" is fishy, but it's better than the response I got when I refused to give my cell phone number out which was " what am I going to do with your cell phone number, come to your house in the middle of the night and stab you with your cell phone?"

Pretty creepy really!

Don't randomly pass out your cell phone number online. Don't give personal information out online that can be used to locate you. It's really not a safe practice! Is it worth taking a chance? Being harrassed or stalked is not gender biased either!
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 36
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/11/2011 10:04:55 PM
There are prepaid phones that can be bought and used strictly for dating sites for instance. If you find you have a stalker then they wont interfere with your main phone and you can ignore them.

I believe Google has a service of that kind??
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 37
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/11/2011 10:07:05 PM
Why does sending a pic through a phone verify she is real unless she is talking on the Iphone and in real moving time.... Even then...... you cant be sure. THe physical face to face is the only proof....and even then you dont know if she is lying or whatever.

It is all a gamble and a risk but that is life.
 r90sboxer
Joined: 9/18/2005
Msg: 38
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Posted: 8/15/2011 12:04:09 PM

I just find it strange that she could be from California and her English be somewhat broken.


Obviously never spoke to anyone from Brooklyn or Jersey.....
 nitehawkWomen
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 39
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/16/2011 12:37:11 AM
Why not? No one ever died from a phone call. And who says you have to answer a ringing phone? You can block texts and not answer them as well.
 smilineyes19
Joined: 12/27/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 8/16/2011 5:57:18 AM
now my secret is out. Use a majic jack! It has voice mail too.
I forward my MJ to my cell phone (no home phone) and never give out the cell #. (mine is blocked) Yes even guys can get the weird ones.
I have never had a problem as a result . You still get ident-i-call unless their number is blocked. Or get a through away cell phone! cheaper for MJ though. And you can change your number as required. I should note that I am a retired security specialist. Always be cautious. When the time is right, You can provide more acceptable communication.
 OpalescentCloud
Joined: 7/3/2010
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Posted: 8/17/2011 1:16:35 PM
If her hometown 'close to you' and you live in TX and she is Asian with a thick accent/broken english, Iwould run. She is scamming you. Probably a lady boy.
 OpalescentCloud
Joined: 7/3/2010
Msg: 42
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Posted: 8/17/2011 1:17:48 PM
She could send you a pic she poached from the internet. Yes you seem a bit naive.
 js38seaj
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 43
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/17/2011 4:15:54 PM
It is up to you the worst thing? Who knows? I have a simple example, should I cross the street? Well if you want to go anywhere yes, but on the down side you could get killed by a car. To me life=risk, but what do I know, lol
 1Summer__Girl
Joined: 6/15/2011
Msg: 44
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/17/2011 9:32:22 PM
you have the control it's up to you. The thing I like about that is you can text her and you decided whether to answer or text her. Yes thing can get out of control. I did that once and the boy would just not stop texting like ridiculous and I thought it was sweet at first but it got to the point where I felt unsafe. You're in control, Just switch it around say thanks for your number however, I meant...

Anyone who is trying online dating knows about wanting to get to know the person more before very personal info comes out. We would like to know if the person is a stalker before the texts start flowing in ;)
 Sammie_SF
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 45
Should I give my phone number
Posted: 8/17/2011 11:43:50 PM
For all you guys and girls out there with Iphones or Droids... Get the app called Line2,
You get 7 days free, then its about $10 a month - it puts a second line on your phone - a secondary phone number that you can use either with wifi (free) or it taps into your regular line... It is a really neat app, has text as well... The only downside to it is that as of right now? it does not support picture messaging, just regular text... hope it helps!
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