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you are right Cdn., I wonder if this OP is even for real, starting to smell a lot like TROLL
around here
also she says
I recently started dating a guy. We are awesome together, he is smart, he's funny and we are even that far that he said he loved me. I think I love him, too.
she "LOVES" the guy but thinks he is a "looser" and she should "dump him & get a guy who has his shit together"..
she thinks she "LOVES" him but is worried about getting bigger bags of groceries..??
WTF, does "LOVE" mean these days to some people? she loves the feeling of his Wang in her pecker-pocket? | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 8:09:16 AM |
she loves the feeling of his Wang in her pecker-pocket?
LMAO
well then OP, the next obvious question is, since he has the GOOD JOB, is there a health issue with his mother that is preventing him from getting him his own place? I still don't buy that the house is his..........
Also still don't think you have a reason to be uncomfortable with him coming to your place because I haven't seen you say(again I didn't read all the other posts) that he has ASKED or MENTIONED moving in with you. | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 11:14:43 AM |
I am afraid of making his life too comfortable. I try no to stay at his place. But recently that has just turned to having sex in the car, which I guess is worse.
Huh? WTF? Let's start with the second point first. Having sex in the car, when you both have your own place? This has trollitis written all over it. I think it's a bored teeny bopper making this up.
Afraid of making his life too comfortable? Heaven forbid if the guy should feel comfortable being with you! That would be a horrible sin. If you're totally paranoid about a guy moving in with you, there is a solution for that: DON'T ALLOW IT! If it's your place, YOU decide who lives there!
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I have done it at my place, but the he starts the speech that he would like to stay, cuddle, be with me all the time... blah blah blah...
More troll fodder. Almost all women complain that the only thing all guys want is to have sex. Women say they want to be romanced by cuddling, kissing, small talk and all that other stuff before doing the horizontal bomp. But you just want to have "mind blowing sex anytime I feel like it" (your words) without all the other stuff.
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I even talked to my ex yesterday and he said if he had the time to do it all over again, he would have moved out and gotten his own place long before he met me.....
Sounds like you're having second thoughts and thinking of what could've been with your ex. All of these guys you dated who don't have their own place makes it sound like you're only dating high school kids. That's why I'm doubting the facts as given. | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 11:35:07 AM | Do you need to be his Moma ??this is a life time problem and you need to wake up .Hes looking for a Sugar Moma is it gona be you ...Do you realy want this problem on your sholders for life or untill he finds another... Look between the lines . Its there you don't want to belive it no ones gona hurt like you , No Way. | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 11:35:51 AM | I've read all of the posts up the the last one, including yours OP and this is where I became really confused.
I just have a strong belief, that when it comes to relationships man has to be the one who comes with his own place.
If that's what you beleive, then why on earth are you currently dating a man, for whom this is not the case?
Compromising core beliefs to get a relationship is silly. Getting involved with someone in a situation you feel bad about is silly. Why did you do it?
Please don;t say you'd hope the situation would change. I'm all for not expecting a partner to turn up on our doorstep in freshly boxed tupperware just the way we want them, but this is a bit of a major area to accept a compromise on. Especially if you've always known that you don't feel right about it.
I'm afraid the fault is yours here. Being a momma's boy might be pretty lame, but it isn't a crime. You've gone into a relationship knowing his situation is not one you're cool on, and better still, you don't seem particularly happy with entertaining him at yours. You're griping at a situation you've placed yourself in. You can just as easily take yourself out of it and be done with the whole thing. Granted he's not blameless, he should work on his situ before dating really, but if you said yes to dating him, it would give him the impression you don't care about it.
PS - If he lied to you about his situation, then fair play, but if that is the case, upon finding out, why didn't you run? | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 11:42:39 AM | You know the more I read this thread from the OP the more Im starting to believe there is more dropping from a Adult bovine mammal aka bull shit than a dairy farm in Saskatchewan Canada
To the OP I say have fun, lay off the sauce for a while and never dine at KFC even if they give you a 2 for 1 coupon | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 11:49:12 AM |
Huh? WTF? Let's start with the second point first. Having sex in the car, when you both have your own place? This has trollitis written all over it. I think it's a bored teeny bopper making this up. I have to comment on this... first of all, I would like to say that my comment in no way should be taken as my validating the OP's claims...
Maleman, I've had sex in my s/o's vehicle, and I'm not talking about when I was in my early 20's either. Sometimes you're out someplace, and the urge just grabs hold of both of you so you park in a secluded area and hope like hell a passenger train doesn't go slowly by... or that you're not too close to the highway when you come out of your stupor... and we had our own place, but between getting from where we were and there, we would have to deal with 15 to 30 minutes of traffic, paying a sitter, putting the kids to bed if they weren't already and well... a quick fixer upper was called for...
Nothing wrong with vehicle sex... every car he's ever owned has been annointed by us...  | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 12:00:02 PM | | It sounds like my life before...I dumbed him. Seven years on and off...sometimes he lived with me and when I said something he didn't like he would run home. Couldn't keep a job, probably went through about 15 jobs when I was with hm. I just told him he will never get it until he doesn't have his parents anymore to run to. You need to ask him when he is getting out of his mothers house, and give him a time line or move on. My ex boyfriend was 48. I can do bad all by myself. Best of luck to you! | |
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Posted: 8/6/2011 12:09:56 PM | | It sounds like you don't trust yourself to stand up for you. Like if you invite him over you won't draw the line as far as him staying, moving in, not paying his share. These are all up to you. Gather your confidence and self respect and make the relationship you want. If he can't work with you then he is not the one. Good Luck. | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 12:15:31 PM |
I recently started dating a guy. We are awesome together, he is smart, he's funny and we are even that far that he said he loved me. I think I love him, too.
How could you fall in love with someone that you apparently don't even respect?
I have a sneakin' suspicion that you're a bit of a control freak, just like the momma... there is no other way in hell a woman would fall for a wimp that let the mother call the shots at his age. And you seem to have a history of this type of loser-man. (sorry)
I think you'll have to go find someone else that is more your *equal* if you want equality.
It may be a real challenge for you if you're not used to a real man. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2011 12:34:57 PM | It seemed promising in the beginning. When we started dating he said, that the situation with his mother is temporary. And then she was on vacation away for a few weeks, so out of the picture. He promised that he would move out soon and we even looked at some condos downtown. It was promising.
Now we seem to have bounced backward, because he says he needs a new car, so might not have enough money for down payment, his mother started nagging him since the move out talk about every little thing and I have to listen to him complain. I know the problem she has is with me, I am the evil **** who is forcing his son to move out.
I am not pushing him to do anything, I told in the begging that I am not comfortable with the situation and if he is not planning to change things I don't wanna date him. He promised he would. Swore that he would do anything for the right woman and a happy family, talked about him wanting to have more kids, etc.
Now it all went silent and all he talks about is a new BMW and when I ask him about moving out, he says he can't do it in the next few months. :( | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 1:10:15 PM | | Nothing wrong with a beemer, seems as if he might have champagne taste and a beer budget, so to speak. IMHO he should be cutting the umbilical cord for him, not if he found the right woman. That is kind of like a man saying he would get a divorce if he met the right woman when he was still married. Kind of like having your cake and eating it too. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2011 1:14:55 PM | My mother is a polio survivor. She is in a wheelchair and now in her 60's has even more diffifculty getting around. If my "father" goes first I am not going to allow my mother to live alone. She needs someone around in case she gets hurt or there is a fire, she is sick etc. So it's highly likely we will live together again eventually.
Does your guy have a job? | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 1:32:55 PM |
Now it all went silent and all he talks about is a new BMW and when I ask him about moving out, he says he can't do it in the next few months. :(
You are so gullible it's unbelievable. Stop complaining and find a MAN. | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 2:08:47 PM | yes, he needs a new BMW to pick up OTHER women in..lol and take back to Mommy's and bang them in the shower with the fan running..? (or bang them in the bimmer)
who "needs a "new BMW" while still living at Mommy's house..unless he's some kind of sales guy that 'needs' to 'impress' people?
also interesting taht OP "thinks she is in love" with this guy, but has a profile on POF, joined June 2011, says is 'single' looking for 'dating'
so committed to this 'love' relationship eh? lol | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 3:08:24 PM |
When we started dating he said, that the situation with his mother is temporary.
In a subsequent post, you said this living arrangement has been going on for a long time, so which is it? Sorry, confused.
He promised that he would move out soon and we even looked at some condos downtown. It was promising.
Sorry - confused again. Why would he move out of his OWN home?
Look. This isn't rocket science. It sounds to me as though his mother does very well for herself, from what you've written. She obviously has a good job because you've mentioned her designer clothes and vacations, so it doesn't sound like mommy needs HIS sorry ass to help her at ALL. But it sure sounds like he needs his mommy to help HIS sorry ass. This dimwit is 34 years old, lives with his mommy, can't afford to move out of HER house (and we all KNOW it's HER house) and he's freakin STUPID enough to waste money on a CAR instead of realizing he looks like a sorry fool for living with his mother and actually getting his OWN place???
What an imbecile.
No WONDER he lives with mommy. He's too fcuking stupid to be on his own. Does he wear a helmet out in public as well? Good Christ. My brain is bleeding. | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 3:34:35 PM | | Respect is a key component in a relationship for me, and it would be next to impossible to muster it up for a man like this. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2011 3:42:42 PM | | some people do live at home to take care of their sick parents.... so each case is different. as far as this goes comunication is the key here. One of my friends lived at home to take care of his mom. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2011 4:00:40 PM | Don't run just yet...
Wait until his mom is awake and sneak into the shower when he's in it, convince him you will be totaly quiet...
Then when the sex is getting hot and heavy start moaning and screaming his name out really loud... loud enough that you KNOW his mom will hear it...
Throw in a few good lines like, YES YES HARDER HARDER BABY...
give him the loudest fake orgasm ever...
then get out of the shower (make sure you put all your clothes in a bag) wrap a towel around you and walk straight out the door... make sure you pass his mom... wrapped in just the towel and dripping wet and say "Your son is such a MAN!" say it with real dirty expression... then leave... FAST
Go home, lock your door... delete his number and forget he exists...
Just my opinion on what to do...
Or you could just delete his number and ignore his calls... | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 4:01:35 PM | some people do live at home to take care of their sick parents.... so each case is different. as far as this goes comunication is the key here. One of my friends lived at home to take care of his mom.
It would really behoove you to read an ENTIRE thread before replying, because I can only assume you missed this from the OP herself:
For me it's hard to see why this woman would need support, because she wears Chanel and has a boyfriend, has a job. She seems just fine to me.
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 4:09:43 PM | Hmmm... Living at home with his mom and a BMW... You do know what they say about BMW's right? The only difference between Porcupine and a BMW is the pricks are on the inside.
Honestly that a mute point. I don't care if he is paying for all of it, he never really moved out and is very much a momma's boy. Case closed... | |
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Posted: 8/6/2011 4:11:41 PM | | Yep Maffers. Gotta love men who go out and buy expensive toys...which is why a lot DO live with Mama. How hot. I can see this guy out meeting women " Hey wanna ride in my BMW? Lets go to my house, you can meet my Mama ~ oh and I live with her ". | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 4:35:34 PM |
I am not looking for a sugar daddy or a rich guy, just someone who is independent enough and doesn't make his sex schedule based on his mom's mood and wants. see #1 below
But recently that has just turned to having sex in the car, which I guess is worse. :( see #2 below
I even talked to my ex yesterday... And he moved in with me withing 3 months into dating. see #3 below
OP - you already do know the answers to your situation:
1) Dump mama's baby boy because even if it IS his house and even if she IS there temporarily, she's running the show now, and he's letting her do it. His behavior is inappropriately immature and irresponsible for a man his age, and you won't be able to change that.
2) WTF??!! I can understand the car venue as an occasional laugh, or change of scenery, but PLEASE - find your self-respect.
3) Perhaps you need to re-examine your history to see if you are repeating a pattern of moving fast and not setting appropriate boundaries/expectations. | |
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| Man living with his mother
Posted: 8/6/2011 7:57:17 PM | | OP ...if goos sex is your majoe problem .................there's always , the back seat of his car ..! | |
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Posted: 8/6/2011 9:24:59 PM | If he is willing to continue living with his mother, and under the conditions described, where she bosses him around and interfers with his having his girlfriend over, just so he can buy a car......well, not my kind of man, that's for sure. A grown man in his 30's, choosing to live with his mom....uh uh, no way. Priorities. I would not date this guy. So, if you do stick with him, truly, you've just got no right to complain about it. You know what he's choosing to do. You know what his priority is. Either stick with him and stop complaining or move on. Or, better yet, when you two are together, be together at your place. That's the one I can't figure out. You are too lame/too weak to date a guy, have him spend nights at your house, but keep him from moving in on you. I don't get that at all. Maybe you and your boyfriend are both very immature for your ages. That may explain it all.  | |
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