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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/5/2011 10:31:58 PM | Yes I would. I'm a broke college student and sicne I don't have any money why should I judge anyone else who doesn't have money?
Money doesn't mean much to me in terms of dating. Don't get me wrong I like the benefits of having money but I would much rather earn my own than be gold digger. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/6/2011 2:30:28 AM | I agree if he was in real debt, didnt own a car or have a decent apartment then I would not be interested. I am financially independent but dont want some guy leaning on me.
As long as he could pay his way and was reasonably comfortable then that would be fine. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/11/2011 8:04:45 AM | No I would NOT for he is going to be my emotional and financial RESPONSIBILITY ..
What is he bringing on the table ??? His weak persona because of lack on energy and no life ? His penis is not enough to sustain a relationship and vice versa with a woman who has no money even they claimed that they are phuckable... This is crude statement but it is the real truth ... in other word we can not lean to someone for our sustenance ,we make our own life to live...
Money is where the life is. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesn't have money?
Posted: 9/12/2011 1:55:04 AM | OK, let me get that strait. Your are not shallow because you have a boy friend for 15 mths, he lost his job, so you stick with him regardless.
Cool so fare.
Question?
Why are you single and looking on your profile ?
Never mind.
Back to the subject.
No matter if one has more or less .The "money factor", can tell you what a person is about when dating. How they react to it.
That is what we do when dating , checking what the other person is about.
The fact that some have more then the other, is just not what is important in a relationship.
What is important, is how they both deal with it. We have people who fall in love,and according to the standards of our great society, are not meet to be together.
Yet they are happy and care less what the rest of the world think. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesn't have money?
Posted: 9/12/2011 9:31:18 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^
Okay ,dude you are so GENIUS!!!!!!!!!!& I luv yah already, but I won't date anyone with out MONEY,,,,,,,,if he is my boyfriend and he lost his job that is a different story, I'll help him because I have a moral responsibility to him for we already stablished an attachment ,forget the 15 mths. even 3 months is fine to help him and emotionaly support him.....
<div class="quote"> Question?
Why are you single and looking on your profile?
Never mind.
OKAY, NEVER MIND..... Aunt Penelope is also bugging her mind why I am still single when I have a nice pair of legs................ Well, I don't owe any body an explanation on how I roll my life ...
Vannili
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/20/2011 1:09:02 PM | I make enuff money for my non-extravagant(sp?) lifestyle, but spend every extra penny during the summer months paying for all the animals at my home based rescue/shelter. During the winter I regroup and save $.
Everytime I have talked on the phone w/ a lady, when I am honest about that, that is pretty much the end of the conversation. Never fails, 100%.
So yes, I will say it is all about looks and money...personality is an added bonus...you don't have looks or money, you are dead in the water.
I see good looking or wealthy guys, who are the Biggest A-HOLES, always with wife/gf....never see a $-humble, non-handsome guy w/ anyone, for the most part.
I am not bitter, just calling it like I see it. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/21/2011 3:17:03 AM | With me it's the opposite problem -- I'd be reluctant to date a woman who has a lot more money than I do.
I've never been rich, and don't have much in the bank now (trying to rebuild my cash cushion), but I'm comfortable and live within my means. The women who interest me are generally in the same situation, more or less. I have dated women in tougher financial straits than myself, and never gave it a thought as long as they lived within their means.
But I'm not comfortable asking out women who are in a substantially higher financial bracket for the simple reason that I think we won't fit well into each other's worlds. Yes, I know I'm probably missing out on a lot of very nice women who wouldn't care one way or the other. But it's a big mental barrier for me, and one I'd rather avoid breaching as long as I can be happy with someone close to my own income bracket. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/21/2011 1:15:17 PM | You need to overcome that. When I was making tons of money years ago, my fiance was in med school for oncology....she was going to make a fortune. I din't care about the $, I was proud of her for all she was accomplishing. Didn't intimidate me at all.
fwiw, I'll say it again...money and looks are the two biggest initial interests of women...they seem to put up w/ the biggest turds who have either of those qualities, girls will put up w/ anything. If you have those two AND a good personality, you are in like flint. and in for the long haul.
Case in point, years ago my friend was a body-builder and male stripper....very handsome guy. I watched every girl we met throw themselves at him. He was the biggest Tool I have ever met in my life...was embarresly arrogant, rude, meanly sarcastic, immature, liked to belittle people and make them feel like losers/sh*t....he was such a jerk, it was embarrasing to watch him. He treated women the same way....like sh*t and used to get a kick out of having them buy him super expensive gifts; travel, car, high-$ watches and clothes, etc, etc, etc. I had seen him many times insult ladies he was hooking up w/ to the point of them crying and leaving...week later, they were litteraly begging him to put them back in his harem.
Guy was the biggest, cruelest, meanest, sh*t stick I have ever met in my life....girls were falling all over him everyday, and he used and verbally abused all of them, and they wouldn't leave till he gave them the boot. He litterally had a stable of them at all times.
Several of his girls would tell me, "I wish he was more like you, you are awesome" ....If I was so awesome, why were they happy to be abused by him?
It was an eye opener to me...a sad eye opener.
Was talking to a lady online here for a month, she told me I was the most diverse, funny and good hearted person she had met on POF.
Finally met up at a bar. I could tell when I walked in, she was not happy with the way I looked, guess my pictures are a little better than the real thing. (She said she had average build, when I saw her, her a$$ was a mile wide...didn't bother me at all). Sat at bar w/ her...1st question: what do you drive? "Cobalt " :~/ ....2nd; where do you live? "modest home in St Charles:... :~/ 3rd: what do you do? "Fire and other jobs....spend every penny on my animal refuge all summer" :~/
She proceeded to rotate her stool w/ her back to me and never said another word. I finally got up and walked out. She never said a word.
I get a few responses, of those most say my profile is amazing....would love to be friends, just not B/F....????
imho...this is the reality of it all. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/23/2011 2:18:42 AM | I was in a long term relationship with a woman that made a lot more than I. Initially when we moved in together, the framework of understanding of the homes finances were we would split all bills 50/50. Whatever each had left was our private property to do as we pleased. This was set this way I am sure because she was always concerned about her money.
Times passes and things run smooth. The incidental stuff like groceries and repairs, I took care of that stuff. No big deal. Then one day she tells me she wont have the full 50%. I don't care, no sweat. Years pass and by the end I was paying 90% of the living expenses and she offered me even less. I should have stood up and said something. She jacked her credit cards up, bought an extravagant new car, bought her friends and family gifts regularly, lived way beyond her means, which should have been enough to cover 2 families. One day she tells me she wants all the money to go into one account and made 100% communal. She would issue me the checks for bills and anything I needed for my own personal use I will have to consult her.
That was the end of it all. I set the wheels in motion to leave that day. Some may say it is petty, not to me. But I learned that the amount of money a person earns is not nearly as important as how they manage it. I can show you people that earn a quarter million a year balls deep in debt, and people earning $25K that not only live in the black, but have a savings account. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 9/23/2011 4:38:47 PM | | Im with you ladies, I have worked way to hard, and have kept myself free of plastic debt for 20+ years. I guess if your in your twenties, or early thirties it might be different. When I want to go somewhere or do something, I plan it and do it. I want a man that has the same flexibility. No financial Ball and chain for me. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/18/2012 8:10:09 PM | I think my generation in particular is out of freakin' control regarding how clueless they are with money. Spend, spend, spend. Who cares if you're $50k in debt and will die before paying off your mortgage in full if you've got the latest iPad and a house that impresses like-minded imbeciles?
To answer the question at hand, I would absolutely not discriminate against a woman based on a meager income, so long as a) she has no substantial debts; and b) she's at least trying (i.e., not a jobless slob looking for a meal ticket).
I make a respectable salary, but I choose to live in a frugal way. No debts, a modest ranch home built in 1967, an economical car that I bought with cash. Lots of people say "pfft.. why don't you upgrade?" and I laugh at them. I'll be laughing even harder when I'm 50 and retired, and they're still paying a mortgage.
I think I allude to my hatred of materialism in one of the first lines of my profile--that probably turns away lots of women because they're looking for somebody who thinks spending $15 per tile to redo the kitchen is money well spent. But then again, that's the whole point of mentioning it. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/18/2012 9:41:07 PM |
I even saw a sexy middle-aged woman's profile here on POF that said "please, if you're one of those guys that still has your old flip phone, I'm not interested. At least keep up with technology." LOL, uh?
Wow. If you have a "flip phone" that is bought and paid for, fits right in your pocket, and still does everything you need it to do, this is something to be ashamed of? So in this day and age, the idea is not to buy things that you need and use them until they have to be replaced, it's buy things you want and use them until they're no longer cool?
See, this type of thing is a complete embarrassment to Western society. Snap the **** out of it, people.
We're doomed. The end is near. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/18/2012 9:52:25 PM | It's funny when you consider that thousands of years ago, "advanced" human civilizations did stuff like build pyramids and chart the precession of the equinoxes on stone tablets; using nothing but crude instruments, ingenuity, and generations worth of focus and effort.
In 2012, "advanced" human civilizations watch American Idol and argue over who has the more current and stylish cell phone. While they're sitting in the Wendy's drive through to order toxic food, they're tuning into YouTube to watch a bulldog ride a skateboard down a driveway.
I reiterate: we're doomed. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/19/2012 12:37:57 AM | It amazes me that in the 21st century when women have equal rights and jobs that they still expect men to foot the bill for all dating expenses. Here's an idea ladies. If you want to go out to a nice dinner, a night out on the town, etc and your guy doesn't have a lot of disposable income, you plan and pay for the date...
Now in my experience, trying to bring up a more equal financial and planning partnership in dating with women often falls on deaf ears. So I finally decided to circumvent the system. I went to websites that showed cheap and free dating alternatives. I started scouting locations where they could be held, working on planning them out, etc.. Now on a good majority of my dates I spend little to no money. I pop for a nice date every once and awhile. However, a lot of times the creative dates are appreciated for their originality. Genuine women won't care about what is in a man's wallet if he makes her feel special and appreciated. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/19/2012 6:13:59 AM | The next one has to be rich, own a horse farm, and from here on take care of me.
Heheheh. I like that. My last one ended up not working because of her cancer treatment and then could not find or keep a job after being diagnosed bipolar. So what else is new. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/19/2012 6:26:08 AM | I don't see where dating would have anything to do with finances. Who cares?
but if you were going to become more serious and have shared housing, expenses, etc. then YES, it does matter. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/19/2012 5:51:09 PM |
It’s a HUGE turn off when women say things like "if I own a house & nice car & have a well-paying career, any man that expects to have a chance with me had better at least equal my material & income status." How SHALLOW!! You never hear a man saying something like that about a woman!!!!
Well, if you read forums long enough you’ll see a lot of men say that.
She expected a guy to have an iphone or whatever!
What’s wrong with a guy having an iphone or some other kind of a smart phone? Average Joe can afford it. It will also show that a man likes to be up to date with technology which is an attractive trait.
So in this day and age, the idea is not to buy things that you need and use them until they have to be replaced, it's buy things you want and use them until they're no longer cool?
Actually, the idea is to enjoy things in life that you can afford. I don’t see much of a benefit in saving every penny and depriving yourself of items/experiences you can afford in order to die with $10M in the bank.
I went to websites that showed cheap and free dating alternatives. I started scouting locations where they could be held, working on planning them out, etc.. Now on a good majority of my dates I spend little to no money. I pop for a nice date every once and awhile. However, a lot of times the creative dates are appreciated for their originality. Genuine women won't care about what is in a man's wallet if he makes her feel special and appreciated.
That’s a really good approach.
I don't see where dating would have anything to do with finances. Who cares?
I think it’s still important even for dating since different activities have different price tags. If one person likes and can afford expensive activities, and another can’t afford those than the “rich” one would have to pay for both or look for another person to date. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/20/2012 9:14:55 AM | You describe 99% of the women I meet. Most are just out of a marriage & a majority are starting over. So it's no big deal from my experience. I think it's more looked down on by women of men though. I heard the term many times that a man shouldn't be dating if he can't afford it & the expression doesn't come from men. So it's not a very level playing field, when under similar financial restraints, a man would be passed over because of it.
I somehow lucked out after divorce. No child support since I had custody of the kids & no alimony, but even still a 2 income home on one is financially tight. I have a comfortable life from the outside looking in, but it doesn't come without sacrifice & especially on the financial side. Budgeting is a way of life for me & I can ill afford to date a woman that's not understanding of it. | |
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